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The crazy what should I wear to your wedding questions...

classicalandedgy — Sun, 10 May 2015 20:05:58 +0000

I know, it' a thing I see people posting about it all the time... But I guess I thought it wouldn't happen to me, I mean we are all adults we have all been to weddings but... I guess some people do really have difficulty dressing themselves. So my FSMIL asks... "What should I wear to your wedding." Me: "What ever you are comfortable in." Her: "Well I'm not going to wear my house dress!" Then she says, "Hats, what about hats are we doing hats?" WTF is that even a thing? "No we are not doing hats, but feel free to wear one if you like." SMH over here I don't even have the words.

Alternative Wedding Dress...ADVICE PLEASE!!!

Knottie57498480 — Tue, 16 Jun 2015 02:21:26 +0000

Hi everyone!

My fiance and I are having a whimsical, colorful, casual wedding in April. I absolutely love the idea of tulle because it has that whimsical and it’s lightweight. I do NOT want to be weighed down by some heavy gown (I like to dance!). I really don’t feel comfortable spending a fortune on a gown so I’ve been looking on Etsy and preowned wedding dress sites to see if I can find something affordable yet beautiful. I’m thinking of putting together a dress, so I guess it’s a bit of a DIY project, although I will probably have a skilled seamstress do it. I found this skirt on Etsy and the top on an online boutique site. I feel that my best features are my waist and shoulders. Just some background on body shape…I am pretty curvy and I would say I’m in between pear-shaped and hourglassed shape, around 125lbs and 5’4″. Please, please, please I need some advice! Is this a good idea considering my body frame? Am I crazy for putting together a wedding dress on my own rather than buying a professinally designed gown? Thank you in advance!!

If I am not wearing a tux, should no one really be wearing a tux?

[Deleted User] — Mon, 15 Jun 2015 18:16:07 +0000

I just posted a similar question, but the wording was somewhat off, this is more clear and concise. I am not wearing a suit and groom, does that then mean that no on else should wear one? Unless they are trying to be the center of attention, which they probably are!

Who all wears a tux?

[Deleted User] — Mon, 15 Jun 2015 17:56:25 +0000

I'll try not to be too long, but there is a lot that is going on.

Straight forward - my fiances parents are extremely controlling, arrogant and pretentious. I could write a novel about everything, but I dont think anyone has the time to read something that long.

So, I chose not to wear a tux, I am going to buy a nice black suit instead. I would like my brothers (groomsmen) to wear just dress pants, shirt and tie. My fiances dad (he will not nor will he ever be my father in law, he will always be Ashley's dad) is wearing a tux, but according to him its a "western tux." so therefore its ok. To me a tux is a tux is a tux.

My two question's are:

Should he be wearing a tux is I am not?

And, is it okay for the groomsmen to wear dress pants and a shirt and tie, no jacket. (I feel that if I am wearing a suit, and they are wearing suits, there's no standing out for me.)

Thanks

Joel

Dresses for Events Surrounding the Wedding!

grantandlauren — Tue, 26 May 2015 20:13:39 +0000

Hi all!

Is anyone else having trouble deciding what to wear for the events surrounding their wedding - engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, farewell brunch?!

We are having a destination wedding so we plan on having lots of events, in addition to the BIG DAY!!

I've had the hardest time finding white and/or bride appropriate dresses. Any suggestions on where to buy or is anyone else having the same issue?

Thanks!!

Beach wedding... need shoes!

Knottie26190358 — Sun, 04 Jan 2015 03:01:21 +0000

Hi all! I'm getting married this May in the Florida Keys. The ceremony is on the beach, reception on a beachside patio. I know no one will really see my shoes anyway so wanted to do something that's comfy and won't get stuck in the sand. Any suggestions?! Thanks!

Cant pull the trigger

Knottie52923642 — Wed, 10 Jun 2015 06:33:42 +0000

I love the back of the dress but the front is stopping me from purchasing. opinions on the front of the dress yah or nay?

Has anyone used ChiChi Styles.com?

schallerre — Wed, 03 Dec 2014 20:50:41 +0000

Has anyone ordered from chichistyles.com? I was thinking of getting my bridesmaid dresses from there. Thanks!

Best Shoes for a Winter Wedding?

[Deleted User] — Wed, 10 Jun 2015 15:08:35 +0000

Snow is likely. What would you suggest?

Blush wedding dress for a winter wedding

singalleluia — Tue, 09 Jun 2015 19:16:25 +0000

Hi everyone!

I just ordered my wedding dress this past weekend. I had been absolutely obsessing over a gown from the Wtoo Fall 2015 collection and I was able to try it on at a salon that I had to travel pretty far to get to. I love the dress- I think it's gorgeous and princess-like and after trying on dresses at two other places I realized that is the silhouette and feeling that I'm going for. The dress is blush and though it doesn't look super pink in pictures it did on the rack. Once I put it on it looked great with my skin tone (I think) and I felt beautiful. I ordered it and I'm so excited! I keep looking at pictures of myself in my dress on my phone.

However, I've been going over the decision in my mind. Everyone in my family has been so nice, all my bridesmaids say they love it, and my fiance said that he has no problem with a blush dress and he can't wait to see it. I guess I'm having pangs of concern (not really regret) that it will look strange to wear a blush dress at a winter wedding (our date is January 2), maybe it's too over the top, what will guests think.

I'm just looking for a little reassurance. Here is a link to the gown: http://www.loveblushbridal.com/wtoo-wedding-dress-audrey/

Second question: originally I wanted my bridesmaids in purple but now I'm thinking gray might be better. Will purple or gray work? Thanks so much for any input

Galia Lahav Rental?

irvineboy — Tue, 09 Dec 2014 06:38:34 +0000

My fiance fell in love with the La Dolce collection by Galia Lahav but these are out of our price range. Can you rent them?

Real dress or Chinese knock off?

kvruns — Tue, 09 Jun 2015 19:31:21 +0000

Can we play a game of real dress or Chinese knock off dress? I saw this posted on my local fb wedding board and I can't help but think it has to be a knockoff dress gone wrong. It is listed as "brand new, never worn custom made dress". What do you think?

Disclaimer: apologies if this is your dress and it isn't a Chinese knock off

Groom in blue evening sport coat but what should groomsman wear

shastin1 — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 02:22:37 +0000

Hello Everyone! Looking for some help figuring out what the groomsman should wear. My finance will be wearing the attached evening sport coat, but he wants the groomsman to wear something a little more casual (maybe no coat). Any suggestions? The bridesmaids are wearing simple black dresses.

Corset, Buttons or Zipper?

romanticoz — Mon, 08 Jun 2015 05:40:15 +0000

I keep trying on wedding dresses and I love all three aspects. I love the idea of all three but finding a dress with all 3 is almost as rare as finding one with pockets. I have found a dress I dearly love at Davids Bridal. It surprised me because I was leaning towards ball gown and one of my bridesmaids found this dress (in Champagne) and I fell in love. (I will probably get some nice slip underneath to poof it more so). Anyways. I have not purchased it yet because I can't decide of I want to invest in changing the back or just to keep shopping.

It comes in zipper form which is easiest to put on and I know there are way to just simply add buttons and not make them functional or required to be buttoned. Buttons are so sophisticated and sexy at the same time. I know my fiance loves my butt and figure. Also I love the feel of the corset. I know it will suck me in, give me good shape and also secure everything. But its complicated to tie and I'd have to have this dress altered to add it.

I would love to hear your feedback on the matter though ladies.....

Silk Taffeta Nightmares

spglsp — Mon, 08 Jun 2015 15:34:17 +0000

I'm having dress issues. My dress is a silk taffeta ballgown with a short train. I wanted to hem it up a bit because it seems to be just barely touching the floor constantly but the tailor said that's how it's supposed to look. I'm not sure about that but it's really the least of my problems. The main issue is the material, specifically the wrinkles. Up until this point I've assumed I could have it steamed at the tailor, drive it to the venue, use my hand steamer to get out the last of the wrinkles from the trip, and be set. Today my tailor told me that she has been steaming it but it gets wrinkled again by the time I see it because of the garment bag. She says I have to have it professionally pressed (>$100) and that even then, putting it back in the bag would bring all the wrinkles back. Since I have to get it out of town to the venue, she recommends pressing it when I'm there (of course I'm only going to be there the day before the wedding). I asked about hand steaming it and was told that wouldn't do anything and the internet seems to be warning me about water spots on taffeta. I don't know what to do here and I'm really regretting getting this dress at all. Does anyone have any suggestions about dealing with wrinkles on taffeta for an out of town wedding?

Has anyone used Bari Jay Style #1466 for their bridesmaid dresses?

amuhl10 — Fri, 05 Jun 2015 20:25:15 +0000

How did they look? Im thinking of getting them in misty blue. My mom thinks they look like nightgowns but I really think I like them.

HELP! Men's Attire Question for Woodsy Wedding

geminimama16 — Fri, 05 Jun 2015 13:08:29 +0000

Hello everyone! Wedding is 8-22-15 and we have decided that in lieu of suits for our guys (this is a VERY casual, simple wedding) to go with western snap shirts and dark wash jeans (not black). Problem is this: My dress is Ivory and Champagne. Our wedding colors are sage green and navy blue. Everything else has been ordered or purchased except for their shirts so I can't change colors now.

I've been scouring the internets for this style shirt in Ivory or Champagne type color for my groom and in either a light green or navy blue for his BM and my son, our RB. I can only seem to find either A) Bright white or Natural/Beige for my groom and either a darker green, royal blue, or denim for our attendants.

So, it appears that I'm stuck.. now what would you do? Which color(s) would you go with? I've included two photos below, one to show the general style of shirt and one to show the denim color.

Everyone hates my dress!

switSwoo00 — Tue, 26 May 2015 22:55:09 +0000

After a while searching for 'the dress', and going shopping with a few different friends, I realised that I was trying to unify a lot of diverse opinions. I was becoming more and more confused! In the end I went dress shopping with my FMIL and bought a dress there and then. That is very unlike me as I am usually very indecisive, especially about clothes! I felt so happy in it, it's the first time I have felt genuinely relaxed and 'myself' in a wedding dress since I started looking. Its not a traditional bridal gown and I suppose it's a bit more informal than I first intended to look for. Anyway I was so excited that I had finally decided on a dress that I showed some of the friends that I had originally shopped with and the reception has been cool to say the least! A couple said they sort of 'like' maybe the back of the dress and a couple said they weren't so keen on it at all. I know it sounds like compliment fishing but I didn't intend to come across like that, these are close friends who have been really enthusiastic about dress shopping and were super keen for me to show them the dress I chose. I suppose I just feel a bit bummed out by the response as I don't have a lot of confidence about clothes and my appearance. I know there are lots of opinions (as many as there are people)! ,I'm also really kicking myself for showing them as it has made me feel less excited about the dress, even though of course it is not the most important thing. I guess I should have kept it to myself but I was really excited. Sorry for the offloading...

Who makes this- lace off shoulder dress

Knottie1429441426 — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 11:05:54 +0000

Hi, I found this on eBay, it might be the one! But I want the real deal, not the knock off. Anyone know the designer? Thanks!

Help me find my shoes!

Knottie92548810 — Fri, 05 Jun 2015 18:42:29 +0000

I have been searching for shoes like these for months now! I found some, but they were from last season and didn't have my size. I looked on ebay and amazon and just cant seem to find them. I'm looking for a size 8 and I would really like flats due to me and my fiance being about the same height.

TIA!

Help me find this necklace

Lulawife — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 19:43:33 +0000

I consider myself pretty good at google searching but I've been searching for what seems like forever for a necklace similar to the one shown with many of the Alfred Sung bridesmaid dresses on their website (picture below) and I can't find anything remotely similar. I think this necklace is beautiful and it would match a couple of my go-to cocktail/event dresses so if anyone has any suggestions, I'd really appreciate it!

Jewelry advice/question for bridesmaid dress color

Knottie7278388 — Thu, 04 Jun 2015 18:07:12 +0000

Hi all! I am getting married at a vineyard in Sonoma in September. My bridesmaids are all choosing their own dress style, but the color is Mahogany by Alfred Angelo. The groomsmen are wearing grey Vera Wang vests/pants, white shirt and mahogany tie. I plan to purchase the jewelry as part of their bridesmaid gift but have been struggling...what color/type of jewelry would be best? Silver? Pearls? Rhinestones? Thanks!

How would you accessorise this dress?

mrsptobeinvegas — Mon, 01 Jun 2015 18:33:14 +0000

Hi all,

My dress is below - it is Marta from David Tutera for Mon Cheri.

What jewellery would you wear with this dress? I have already bought a pair of crystal studs which I liked but am obsessing a bit over whether I should go all crystal, all pearl or a mixture of both? Even a pearl necklace but keep the crystal studs I have?

The dress is a little shimmery and has a crystal belt as you can see. I am actually leaning towards no necklace, crystal studs and a pearl and crystal comb - I fancy having a side hair do with a comb.

Or do you think a drop crystal necklace like the model has below, my crystal studs and then a pearl and crystal comb? I think I am worrying/obsessing so much over everything matching. I was leaning towards pearls as I thought it was classic bride and I have a lace dress! But then didn't want to wear a all pearl necklace with crystal earrings! I may get another pair or earrings and buy everything mentioned above, try it all on with my dress and then take back what I don't like...crazy bride much??

What are you wearing on your day?

Thanks all x

Does Wedding Dress Dictate Style for Wedding Party?

[Deleted User] — Thu, 26 Mar 2015 16:19:57 +0000

Hello Knotties!

I have chosen a simple, strapless, A-line lace dress with a chapel train. My concern is that it might be too formal for the romantic, yet whimsical, wedding I had in mind (groom in somewhat informal taupe suit with wooden buttons and plaid bow tie, ring bearers in button-down shirts and khaki pants). If I keep my dress bustled, could I have other members of the bridal party dress more casually?

Ball gown or A-line w/Corset? Dress poll!

Knottie38213341 — Tue, 21 Apr 2015 21:19:11 +0000

Bridesmaids Dresses (for winter)

[Deleted User] — Wed, 20 May 2015 02:07:29 +0000

We're having a January 2016 wedding. I have a vision of my bridesmaids wearing shorter dresses, vintage tights, cute booties, and potentially a faux wrap of some kind. Think: vintage-winter-storybook.

So, the thing is -- I LOVE lace. But my wedding dress doesn't totally reflect that. Will my bridesmaids look out of place if I go with a lace bridesmaid dress? There is one I like at David's that has lace on top with a flowy bottom.

I guess my question is: How much does the bridesmaid dress need to "match" my wedding dress?

Groomsmen wear?

Knottie64496517 — Mon, 01 Jun 2015 16:46:24 +0000

So we ordered our groomsmen tuxes through mens wearhouse because we have groomsmen all over the country. I just called to verify the reservation and they said it had been cancelled. Whatever. Anyway, they were a little pricey to begin with and some of our groomsmen had complained about the price. What other alternatives are there for groomsmen wear for groomsmen all over the country other than mens wearhouse? Thanks! We are looking to do tan/khaki pants and vests for the groomsmen with chocolate shoes and belt and the same for my fiancee but with a jacket. We are having bowties speciality made as a gift.

To bustle or not to bustle..help my decide

soontobemrshamilton — Fri, 29 May 2015 17:48:26 +0000

I went in for my 1st fitting yesterday and luckily my dress just needed to be hemmed and the bustle put in, but I'm not sure I need it.

We are having a very small wedding. It will be the ceremony and then dinner after, no dancing. The train isn't short, but it's not very long either. I know if I don't have the bustle, I will have to watch for guests stepping on it and hold it up some, but we aren't going to be doing a lot of walking around.

What do you all think?

Bustles??

Denise40 — Fri, 29 May 2015 23:32:31 +0000

I've heard there are different types of bustles. How do you determine which one to choose? Does anyone have pictures? TIA

Brand New - Never Worn - David's Bridal Dresses for Sale

KWebb84 — Mon, 01 Jun 2015 18:04:38 +0000

Hi Ladies,

This weekend, I found my perfect wedding dress. Prior to this weekend, I'd already bought TWO dresses from David's Bridal. They don't allow returns, so I'm looking to sell them to a bride looking for HER perfect wedding dress.

They are both David's Bridal.
They've never been worn.
They've never been altered.
They come with white garment bags
They still have the retail tags.

I'm selling them for $100 less than they retail. You can purchase them through Tradesy.

Dress #1

https://www.tradesy.com/weddings/wedding-dresses/david-s-bridal-wedding-dress-3217174/

Dress #2

https://www.tradesy.com/weddings/wedding-dresses/david-s-bridal-wedding-dress-3216466/

I hope some lucky bride finds her dress!