Wedding Vows & Ceremony Discussions — The Knot Community

Standing Room Only Ceremony

checkthedramatics — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 22:27:29 +0000

I'm looking at the Como Zoo Conservatory as a venue. It's a good mix of outdoor (what he wants) and indoor (what I want).
The only problem is that the Conservatory can only put a maximum of 10 chairs for the ceremony. We're going to keep the ceremony under 25 minutes but I feel a little "eh" about making people stand, but then again, I will be standing for the entire time, so...
Thoughts?

Music for a Catholic Church Wedding

JaxJ128 — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 01:23:27 +0000

Who else on here is having a traditional ceremony at a Catholic Church? If so, what are you all doing about your music? Are your going all traditional and playing whatever the church suggest for music or picking your own selections? (if you are allowed)....I decided to have my WP walk down to the instrumental version of "a thoundsand years" and I will walk to "cant help falling in love with you" also instrumental (actually both will be played by piano)...I have a few selections that will be sung before but I dont know what to do for the recessioanl song... I dont think I want the traditional wedding march or whatever its called.

Song with lyrics played during unity candle

jennifer21011 — Sun, 12 Aug 2012 19:52:52 +0000

(In advance, sorry for the wordy post)

I am getting married on September 22nd, and all the music we have during the ceremony (while guests are being seated, processional, recessional, etc) is recorded and will be played from the sound station at the church by my uncle. (The church my FI and I are getting married in is my family's church and my uncle volunteered to take care of the music as he runs the music during church services, etc and knows how the system works/the ins and outs of it). My question is, is it OK to have lyrics in your ceremony songs or is it tacky? There is this song that we want played during the lighting of the unity candle that holds a particular meaning to my fiancee and I. I "discovered" it before I met my fiancee/while I was still single, and have loved it since that time, I even cried the first time I heard it and prayed for a guy who would feel this way as well. After meeting my fiancee, getting to know him, falling in love with him, and talking to him he expressed that he felt the same way as I did as the lyrics in the song (and this was before I even played the song for him). Like an answer to my, rather our, prayers! This is the song.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RbNTYLfB6xQ

Thoughts?

Flower Girl vs Junior Bridesmaid

Janxo — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 20:46:54 +0000

When my cousin was born I swore that she was going to be in my flower girl one day! Well, that was many years ago, and now that I actually am planning my wedding, I’m faced with many logistical issues and need some advice.

I have two cousins and their mom is one of my bridesmaids; the older cousin will be 9 at the time of the wedding, I was going to have him be the ring boy. The other one (siblings) will be 8 and she was going to be the flower girl. My problem is that she is already really tall, and by next May, I’m sure she’ll be even taller! I’m short, and the other bridesmaids are short so I was considering making her a junior bridesmaid instead. Furthermore, she is just not well behaved AT ALL. She is spoiled and a little rude and I’m afraid she won’t be able to stand quietly during the ceremony. I promised her she would be in the wedding and I want her there, I just don’t know how to handle this situation.

What would you do?

Thanks

-Janie

Purple Ideas

cmcole4509 — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 14:41:02 +0000

Hey everyone!

My wedding isn’t for about a year and a half, but I’m trying to start getting some ideas for stuff. Our colors are going to be a bright/deep purple (not lavender, not dark-dark purple) and black. I’ve been skimming the internet for ideas, but I wanted to ask if anyone had anything they had seen. Any ideas on types of flowers to look at, favors for the bridal party, decorations for the ceremony and reception, invitations, places to find crafts and such, etc. would be much appreciated! :-)

looking for a good and inexpencive cermony/reception

[Deleted User] — Sat, 18 Aug 2012 05:05:55 +0000

looking for country style places around fort worth area. also possibly anyone have any ideas with a place with out door stairs that i walk down its just a idea lol for now.

unique/different ceremony music?

jkrok5955 — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 21:51:53 +0000

Anybody have suggestions for some unique/different songs for the BMs and myself to walk down the aisle to?

Something for the Ring Bearer to hold the rings in?

sierraberry32 — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 02:58:19 +0000

My nephew is my ring bearer and he is more than excited to do this for us! I want to have a Romantic Southern wedding theme, so can anyone give me some cool ideas on how he can carry the rings down the isle... I really dislike the idea of tying the rings to a pillow, so any other suggestions? I was thinking a wooden box or something, I just can't find anything on the internet that looks nice....

beer ceremony

pink61718 — Sat, 11 Aug 2012 23:15:47 +0000

we love and brew our own beer at home. We want to have a beer ceremony instead of wine, using our own brews. Has anyone done or have any ideas for this? We can only fine readings for wine, and not sure how to start.

Feeback on vows

smilesavy — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 14:29:33 +0000

I would love your feedback ladies-

Rick- 13 years 1 month and 1 day ago the world chose to introduce two people who became the best of friends. That decision was made for us, but today I make the decision to chose you for life. You are my constant rock and one true love. I am honored to wake up next to you, fall asleep next to you and take every step holding your hand for the rest of our lives. I promise to be your best friend, faithful partner and biggest fan. I vow to encourage you and grow with you even when the weather is rough. I will be next to you until forever ends even if that means moving somewhere colder. I promise to always 456839682229.

Standing Ceremony

ekislos1 — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 16:52:51 +0000

We visited a venue last week and absolutely fell in love - it's a winery overlooking one of the Finger Lakes in NY. The ceremony is held down by the vines. One thing that gave me pause, though, was the coordinator said that they provide three rows of four chairs each to create an "aisle" and so that elderly people and guests of honor can be seated. The rest of the guests stand.

Our ceremony will be at 6pm in late June so it shouldn't be blazingly hot, and we planned to keep our ceremony short. However, I'm not sure how much I'd like attending a wedding where I had to stand on a lawn during the ceremony.

Has anyone attended/held a wedding where most people stand? Is this considered rude? Or will most people not really mind? We have about 120 guests and they are all very close family and friends.

Wedding cost at St. Anne's Catholic Church Houston TX

olenka1 — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 14:34:08 +0000

Hello ladies does anyone know how much it costs to get married at St. Anne's in Houston TX. I cannot find any prices online.

Stone Ceremony

EABennett89 — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 00:28:17 +0000

We chose to do a Stone ceremony since neither of us are very religous, but heres my issue. How are the stones collected from everyone? Without making it a long drawn out process? And who collects them? Any one have any experience with this?

Thanks!

Unity Sand Forever Frame Opinions

Starlite2613 — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 16:43:22 +0000

Has anyone purchased or used a Forever Frame for their unity sand ceremony? If so, what was your experience/opinion?

Final draft of vows..Thoughts?!

longstrethvetrano — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 02:36:50 +0000

Landon, today I stand before you full of joy and overwhelming love for you.

When I look into your sweet eyes I see honesty, compassion and a selfless man that I respect so much. You have touched my heart unlike anyone else, and have shown me how to love without holding back. At time I feel as if my heart will burst from the joy you bring to me.

There’s never been anything that I’ve been so sure of as my desire to spend the rest of my life with you by my side. I give you my past, present, and most importantly my future.

You are my best friend, my soul mate, my better half. At my worst, you are there, at my best, you are there.

As we take this next step together with the unwavering support of our family and friends, I promise you the following things:

I vow, now and forever, to love you passionately in all of your forms. I promise to love you for who you are, but more than that, I promise to love you for who God has in mind for you to become and to spend my life encouraging you to get there. I vow to keep no record of wrongs, and to put you before myself in all we do. I vow to be your shelter in times of struggle, and promise that you will never face your worries alone, always remaining your partner in every moment of joy or heartache. I promise, no matter what challenges may drive us apart, to always set my sights on finding my way back to you, here.

Above all else, I will remain your best friend and confidant, weaving your dreams into my own and cherishing your hopes as my own, always listening to your thoughts, and emotions without judgment. I will always believe in you, respect you, and maintain the promise of our love together. May our love always revolve around passionate devotion and undying laughter. May our love grow and last always.

On a lighter note, I promise to love what you love-even if that means I must learn everything I ever wanted to know about motorcycles and baseball. I promise to delight in the simple moments, like bike rides to new destinations and getting lost in your smile. I promise to always chase you, and never run away (at least not further than the next room). I promise to always try and understand you, even when I do not agree with you. I promise to always wear sunscreen and my seatbelt even when you aren’t there to remind me. I promise to renew our love each day, and to always remind you that I’m crazy about you. I promise to maintain my love for the Lord, so that I can be a Godly wife for you. I will never give up, never take you for granted, and I will always be inspired by our love, never forgetting that our love is once-in-a-lifetime. I vow to spend the rest of my life knowing that ours is the greatest love story ever told.

Landon, from the bottom of my heart, I promise you ME. Forever.

Aircraft Carrier Decor???

CowgirlBride88 — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 05:02:08 +0000

Hello all! So, my fiance and I have decided to wed on the flight deck of the USS Hornet Museum. Any ideas on how to decorate without breaking the bank? Wind *is* a factor, as it does get quite breezy up there.

sunset ceremony??

jennylee813 — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 02:55:27 +0000

I've always dreamed of having a sunset ceremony, surrounded by candles and white lights. Our venue is a lakefront cottage, and we are planning to be married on the lawn overlooking the lake. But I can't figure out how to make everything work if we were to have the ceremony in the evening.

The lake location is approximately 30 minutes from town, so we will be providing transportation for guests, so they don't have to worry about finding DDs or getting cabs, but we would still like to have a dinner and dance. I fear that a sunset wedding is too late to do all of these things, especially since my sweetheart is a traditional guy and doesn't want to see me before I walk down the aisle.

Has anyone had a sunset sedding? How did it work out?

Thanks!

Getting Ordained?

Penguin8412 — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 10:34:19 +0000

My fiance and I are trying to decide if we want to find a someone who already performs weddings to do our wedding or if we want to have a relative get ordained.

I've been looking into it but I haven't really found much information.

Has anyone had a wedding or been to a wedding where a family member or close friend performed the wedding? If so, do you know how they went about getting ordained?

Thank-you ladies!

No bridal party - what to do with my bouquet during ceremony?

nancyschmancey — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 01:42:01 +0000

Hi Ladies. So, my fiance and I are having a small (<40) destination wedding and plan not to have a bridal party - just us there at the altar. But typically, brides hand off their bouquet to the maid of honor to hold during the ceremony, espeically for the vows and ring exchange. So I was considering having my mom or best friend just come up and grab them, or having a small table behind the officiant that I can just put them on... I don't know.

Anyone chosen to have a ceremony with no bridal party? What did you do with your flowers?

Thanks!

Specific Wedding Venue in Colorado

amandastegmanhughes17 — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 03:23:16 +0000

Hi! Hubby and I are planning on doing a private vow renewal ceremony in our favorite place (Colorado) this March. I am looking for a specific kind of venue... Like the one below, lots of huge windows overlooking the mountains. I have searched with no luck so far. Could someone help me out? Thanks!

Outdor ceremony by the Blue Goose in Loomis

kellyoneal — Sun, 23 May 2010 02:23:39 +0000

Ok so we really like the Blue Goose in Loomis but they do not have any outdoor place for the ceremony. We have been searching but unsuccessfully. Has anyone been to a wedding there that had an outdoor ceremony? Or does anyone have any ideas; we would like it to be close within 10-15 min. The only ideas we have right now are the Capital Rose Garden in Sacramento but its a 30-45 min drive. Any Ideas Please help!!!

Who has that reading for ring exchange when no wedding band is used?

ginadog — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 19:27:59 +0000

There was a nice write up on here about how the engagement ring represnted a promise and now the promise is being fulfilled through wedding vows. It was for those who use the engagement ring in the ceremony and opt for no wedding band.

winter wedding ceremony

oxalexiaxo22 — Sat, 11 Aug 2012 00:20:31 +0000

Hello,

I just started planning my wedding and I know that my wedding will be taking place in the winter sometime. I won't be able to have an outdoor ceremony since it will be winter. I am wondering if anyone had any ideas about where I could have the ceremony if I want to have a non-denominational wedding (so no church).

Thanks,

Alexia

Do I really need programs??

kariskm — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 00:26:41 +0000

I know it's expected to hand out wedding programs before the ceremony, but since I designed and printed all the wedding paper goods by myself we have already spent a good bit on printing everything. Do I really need to print programs for 100 people? People know what's going on. I mean it's a wedding..

Procession Song

polkaspotties — Sun, 12 Aug 2012 21:08:26 +0000

I was thinking about walking to "Under Your Spell" by Desire, it's from the movie Drive. Would that be too weird?

Please Help: Hilton as a Ceremony/Reception Venue

lindsaywoods — Sun, 12 Aug 2012 17:21:19 +0000

Has anyone attended or had a ceremony/reception at the Hilton. My ceremony is scheduled at the Hilton Lemoyne Ballroom and the reception on the Skyview Terrace Rooftop. I am looking for ideas/inspirations for color palletes which work in for these areas. Please Help

ways to include moms?

jenlynn426 — Sun, 12 Aug 2012 05:25:10 +0000

My mom is my very very best friend and i am trying to find a way for her to be involved in the ceremony, as well as my FMIL. I think my mom is kinda bummed deep down that there is not set aside role for mothers... she often mentions grooms fathers being the best man, and my dad gets to give me away. I told her I would love her to be my matron of honor, but she didn't really go for that. and I really would have loved both of my parents to walk me down the aisle, but she doesn't want to steal my dad's thunder since he has been looking forward to this since i was born. We are going to do a knot tying ceremony instead of unity sand/candle and I had thought that maybe I could have her and my FMIL stand to bring us the ropes, but i wasn't sure if that would be silly. She definitely isn't offended to not have a part, it would just mean alot for me to have my mom involved in my special day too. any thoughts?? thanks y'all!!

Infant Ring Bearer and Flower Girl

aaatoaad — Sat, 11 Aug 2012 02:44:05 +0000

I have a 4 week old son and a 6 week old niece who will be our ring bearer and flower girl. When we get married in April they will not be old enough to walk yet. How do I get them down the aisle? Do I have someone carry each of them or should we get a little cart to wheel them in? If I do go with the cart idea, where would I get one?

How to include brother's fiance?

gottadance64 — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 04:24:11 +0000

My brother got engaged a month before me - I'm not super close with his fiance but I really think she's great and am hoping we grow closer. My brother will be an usher at the wedding - I'd like to have his fiance participate somehow as a sort of gesture of inclusion and growing friendship...but not sure how. Any ideas? She's 40, so I don't want to give her something cheesy to do. Right now I have two nieces (teens) as program attendants, one niece as guest book attendant and another as gift table attendant (also teens).

bilingual wedding

meredity11 — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 20:35:21 +0000

We are trying to figure out how to say Ring Bearer Flower Girl Usher and maybe more... does anyone have a bilingual or all spanish wedding program? Thanks!