Wedding Vows & Ceremony Discussions — The Knot Community

Help with program (for family member who has passed away)

karib19 — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 20:58:33 +0000

I am getting married next friday and I am working on the program right now but having a hard time. My sister, who is my matron of honor passed away a month ago. I am not quite sure how to word things in the program. I am still putting her as my matron of honor, because she always will be my best friend and sister, but do I put RIP, or in memory of her? I really dont know and I am really having a hard time with it all. I was hoping I could get some outside opinions. We are going to have the best man walk down by himself with my sisters bouquet and have a stool with her picture and flowers sitting there. What are your opinions?

Knot Tying Ceremony (Not Hand Fasting)

BBerryHappy — Sun, 04 Dec 2011 20:09:16 +0000

My FI and I are gung-ho about tying a Triple Fisherman's Knot (past, present, future) at our cermeony. I can't find any info about knot tying ceremonies, other than Celtic Hand Fasting, which we don't want to do. Does anyone have any wording or other information about knot tying ceremonies?

I have found a few things:
http://www.cheydesign.com/cheybio/faq.html
http://rosealamode.com/what-do-you-wear-to-a-may-wedding/
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/anyone-done-tying-the-knot-ceremony
My only problem with these ceremonies is that our mothers would be giving us the ropes, and my mom isn't going to be present at the wedding. My dad will be giving me away and he will be my only parent there. I would rather our officant give us the ropes and say something about us coming together and combing our past, present and future, or something similar.

Anyinformation would be helpful and largely appreciated. :)

ceremony venue clashes with wedding colors...

trent13 — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 16:46:10 +0000

The Church that we are getting married in has bright red carpet and for my summer wedding I was thinking of having bright colors but nothing to do with red. Do you think it will clash with my wedding colors? Or should I try to ignore the carpet completely?

Need Help Girls!

jesgurl99 — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 18:12:38 +0000

So originaly my fiance and I thought we would run off and get married but then my grandmother talked to me and told me that she regretted doing it to her parents. So now we aren't sure what to do because we want to get married December 21st 2012 because the best man is in the air force and is getting deployed at the first of the year. Well we don't want many people, so we want it small, and we don't really have a lot of money to put into it. We thought that we would still run off and then after wards have a reception and invite everyone. I asked my grandmother and she had no advice for me because she didn't do that. I need help! please give me some ideas, anything is good.

Ceremony Readings

JessicaBensen — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 22:42:36 +0000

My FI and I are having my MOH perform our ceremony which we are writing ourselves. My MOH thinks we should include some readings. Neither my FI nor I are religious so we do not want biblical passages. I have found some classic literary passages and poems, but nothing that I really love. Does anyone have any suggestions of passages/sayings they like?

Ceremony help!

Jennaroo24 — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 03:45:49 +0000

I am trying to put together a ceremony format because we are having a friend marry us who got ordained. I am a little confused about the intent and vows. Do you need both the "Do you take this person" and "I Do" section for intent and also to do the vows where you say "I take you to be my __." It seems to me that the vows show your intent and you don't need both but I could be wrong.

I hope I'm not coming off as an airhead but need help! My wedding is September 29th so it is crunch time!

wooden aisle runner... anyone heard of it?

mrskloop — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 01:27:25 +0000

I am having an outdoor wedding on a river. It's really pretty and is just grass, then rocks, then water. I want to wear heals, but I am concerned with my heals sinking into the grass when I walk down the aisle. I am envisioning a wooden aisle runner, kindof like a boardwalk or a pier. Has anyone seen this before and know how I can go about making or buying one to get this effect or a similar one???

I am having a nautical themed wedding, so I want something simple and pretty.

Ceremony Audio - Should we get microphones?

[Deleted User] — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 09:52:23 +0000

We are having our ceremony outside on an island at a hotel. It is a quiet area, no hotel patrons would be able to get close enough for a lot of noise/background chatter. We met our officiant and he suggested based on having 100+ that we should have microphones for him and our readers.

I asked our hotel contact and the hotel's partner will charge $1,000 for power and 2 microphones (one on the officiant and one on FI). I about fell out of my chair at that cost, which is simply not in the budget that my parents have put together.

Our DJ can add this to our package for $250, plus the hotel's estimated $300 power charge. We also have friends (my MOH and her DH) who have a professional audio system since they host trivia at restaurants and have graciously offered to let us use their equipment free fo charge and we would just have to pay the power charge to the hotel.

Do you even think it is necessary?

Outdoor ceremony venues

Kmac1210 — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 19:07:09 +0000

My fiancé and I have looked everywhere trying to find an outdoor wedding ceremony site. We already have a reception venue, but there isn't enough space outside. Does anyone have suggestions for ceremony venues only in Essex or Morris counties?

not sureif my vows are good/long enough

catwine — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 14:59:43 +0000

i typed my vows into a word document adn just copy and pasted from there...hence the weird font.

David: you are my one and only, my first and last, my forever and always. I still can’t believe i get to spend the rest of my life with you. I don’t understand what you saw in me but i know it was something worth fighting for. You pursued me and that’s how i know this marriage will be great...you continue to make me feel wanted and special. So on this day, exactly 4 years after our first off campus but unofficial date i make these vows to you. I vow to honour and be faithful to you for the rest of our lives. I vow to make our home a place you are sorry to leave. To put your needs above my own and fully support you in everything you do. I vow to never take you for granted and to continue saying i love you every day.

i'm not sure if these vows are special enough or long enough...i don't know if i should put funny things in like "i vow to always put your clothes away for you becuase we both know you won't".

honoring loved ones that have passed??

Ceciliaaw — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:58:11 +0000

I'm trying to figure out a way to honor our loved ones that have passed away. I have seen flowers and candles. I recently saw where someone had pictures of the family members in a chair during the ceremony. I really like that idea. But my FMIL thinks it will make people sad. So she suggested playing a song during the reception. And I understand where she is coming from about it making people sad. Especially since 2 of the people have recently passed... her sister and her brother in law from a different sister. But I would like to have a picture of my grandparents up there... does anyone have any other suggestions on what we could do? To me playing a song during the reception would be worse than a picture. Having to sit there and listen to a 34 minute song about missing someone. She says use an upbeat song. But I don't know of an upbeat song that shows we are trying to honor people who have passed away. So I'm thinking I'll have my grandparents picture up there and I will get a candle to have for their family members. And we will put it in the program.

Send off!! I need help/ideas!

heymank — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 13:24:57 +0000

I am clueless on what to do for our send off. We are not able to throw anything such as rice or confetti at the church we are having the ceremony. I know we could do bubbles but I want something different and it goes with nothing else in our wedding theme (county/rustic wedding theme.) I would love to do sparklers but it will be the middle of the day so it will not be dark enough. Any other ideas?

Thanks for the help!

Wording for Sand ceremony....

[Deleted User] — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 03:56:33 +0000

Hi ladies I am doing the sand ceremony for my wedding....I am in search of the wording I want to use. I will be using white to represent God because that is of course our foundation but I also have a daughter and my fiancee has 2 children that we want to incorporate....SoI need something that includes God as well as our children....If anyone has any ideas please share!!!! Thanks

Venues in Florida??

Briana&Erik — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 18:35:36 +0000

I'm getting married in the fall of 2013 and am in search for the perfect venue! I'd like a place that we can do the ceremony and reception. Anywhere in Florida is fine but I do NOT want a beach or a church. Any ideas? I've considered renting a vacation home but haven't found one that isn't a beach house. It also needs to accomodate about 100 people. Thanks!

<3 Briana

Ceremony songs?

xconf143usionx — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 10:34:48 +0000

I was reading on my checklist that I need to finalise my ceremony songs list. This may make me sound like an idiot, but I have no idea what I need for that list. I understand that there won't be music playing throughout the entire ceremony, but I was wondering if anyone could find/make me a list of what types of songs I need and where they should be played durring the ceremony.

Do you have to have a unity candle/sand/handfasting/etc?

charbakes — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 00:55:19 +0000

We're having a secular wedding and therefore don't have a lot of religious traditions to lean on for the ceremony. I know a lot of secular weddings do unity sand or candle ceremonies, or handfasting. We're not going to have an altar, and a sand or candle ceremony just isn't our style. A handfasting isn't either. We can't think of many other ceremony traditions like this, and are contemplating just going straight from the vows to the rings and kiss, and skip some sort of symbolic ceremony. Is that a faux pas? Do you think people will miss that in the ceremony? Or does it not really matter? WWYD?

Anyone know of any officiants in kalamazoo, michigan area?!?!

mxmax860 — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 22:55:25 +0000

I'm having the hardest time finding somone in the area. i have looked every where onlin, and the only things i can find are ppl that are 1 hour away or MORE!! I've called a few churches, and they arn't able to help me out :( wondering if anyone knew of officient, minister, pastor...anything! thanks for all the help :D

Question about flower girl

brandypugh — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 01:05:47 +0000

So this may be a silly question but does the flower girl have to carry one of those little baskets and throw out petals on the floor or can she just walk down the aisle with a mini bouquet or something else maybe? This is my second marriage and I didn't have a flower girl with my first but my youngest will be 5 when we get married and I want her to participate. I'm not fond of the petals on the floor thing.
So what are some suggestions? Thanks!

So many ceremony questions! Not very familiar with "flow"

thale0924 — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 21:57:24 +0000

My step grandpa is a minister and he will be marrying my FI and I. He has performed MANY ceremonies. He came to me and asked what I wanted the ceremony to look like, and I have no idea! I just want something quick, no extra songs or readings (other than what he is doing) and I want us to write our own vows.

From that he said that he wants to read our vows and have us repeat them. I haven't been to many ceremonies, but I always envisioned just reading them to each other. He said we could combine the tradition "repeat after me" with our own vows. I A.) don't know if that would flow very well and B.) I don't want it to be too long!

Does any one have any ideas? What did you do/are planning on doing for your ceremony?

Critique My Vows XP Month Board

mbatzlaff — Sun, 29 Jul 2012 01:41:40 +0000

(FI's Name), I am here today because I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you as my husband. Your sense of humor continues to make me laugh and smile each and every day. Your carefree attitude helps me to let go of the small stresses of life. You are kind and compassionate. When you are not near me I miss you immensely. You are my best friend and my love.

As we have grown together over the past 11 years I have come to see that my favorite times are are not the things we have planned, but the things that happen spontaneously on their own. I cherish the journeys we've taken and I look forward to many more adventures to come. To me marriage is a lifelong commitment made out of love. It is the promise to remain loyal, faithful, and devoted to one another. I look forward to our future together wherever that may lead.

I promise to love you and honor you. I promise to be faithful to you. I promise to support you and encourage you. I promise to be honest and forgiving. I promise to be patient and kind. I promise to turn to you when things get tough and I promise to care for you when you are in need. I promise to grow together with you through whatever life brings our way. I make this commitment today in front of all of our friends and family that I want to love you for the rest of my life.

Ceremony Venue in Newport, RI- not a Church???

heatherben3321 — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:43:48 +0000

I'm trying to find a venue to hold our summer (July) wedding ceremony in Newport that is not a Church??? We're planning to have our reception at the Newport Yachting Center, but want to have the ceremony somewhere off-site. Unfortunately, I'm having a lot of trouble finding a place that will just hold a ceremony. Any ideas???

Cute Title Name?

xovkatevox — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 01:00:19 +0000

So along with having a flower girl and ring bearer, I am also having two of my little cousins (both littler girls) carry down a sign that says "Here Comes The Bride". Does anyone have any ideas about what I could title these girls as for in my program? Thanks in advance for any suggestions!

Couthouse wedding; flower bouquet??

Adam is my hunny — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 17:03:36 +0000

My fiance and I are having a small civil ceremony with immediate family and then all going to dinner together afterwards. Next year after I graduate and he is back from deployent we are going to have the religious church ceremony and large fancy reception with all our family and friends.

He is wearing his dress blues and I bought a pale gold short dress (I have a real wedding dress for next year already!). We are both having one best friend stand up there with us in front of the judge. DO I CARRY A BOUQUET?? Yes I have my friend there to take it while Fiance and I hold hands but in a courthouse wedding DO I WALK DOWN THE ISLE? I don't think so. I wasnt planning on having my dad walk me down (those special details are for next year). So do Fiance and I walk down the isle togehter after all my family is seated in the room? Or are we all just mingling in the room and take our respective positions once the judge says we are starting; meaning Fiance and I are already up front holding hands?

Indoor ceremony only thats not a church in the Cleveland area.

MrsBaker001 — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 01:33:30 +0000

My fiance and I already have our wedding reception booked but are having trouble finding a venue that is indoor and ceremony only that is not a church. Can anyone help?

Ring pillow

mckinnonliz — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 22:07:13 +0000

My grandma passed away a few years ago and my aunts followed her wishes and turned her wedding dress into small lap pillows for all the girls in the family, and I want to incorporate it in the wedding as the ring bearer pillow, but the thing is I really want to actually put the rings on the pillow when he walks, keep in mind he's only 5 1/2 granted he's pretty smart for a 5 year old but you never know. My MOH thinks its a dumb idea cause the rings could fall off and all that, but it's really important to me, I feel if I put the fake rings on there would be no point of using the pillow. What should I do?

Help with program wording?

maribeth721 — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 20:41:57 +0000

I would like to mention something regarding my late mother at the bottom of our programs. Just something short and sweet, but I am not sure how to word that. Any suggestions?

Ceremony Decorations in a Hotel

bakunmixer2879 — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 19:39:53 +0000

Hello!

We decided we wanted to have the ceremony and reception in the same place (at a hotel), which leaves us in a conference room type area for the ceremony. I want to spruce it up without spending a lot of extra money - they include chairs (normal blue and gold conference chairs) a stage, and some white backdrop - that's it. Any suggestions? Specifically for things that are easy to put up and take down as they may re-book the room after my ceremony (we'll move to the big ballroom for the reception). Thank you!

Outdoor wedding/reception at a private residence

DanitaSwain — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 17:28:26 +0000

I am having an outdoor wedding in four days...my fiance says we should set the tables with plates and silverware. I'm not so sure since we are having a buffet style meal. He's worried that the tables will look plain without place settings. What do you think?

Uneven BP??

PeanutThomas — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 05:12:36 +0000

With so few days remaining, I probably should have figured this our weeks ago. Shame on me, etc. :)
I'm having 4 BMs and FI is having 7 (yes, SEVEN) GMs! So, how do all those people walk down the aisle without it being weird? I'm not sure I want to pair up two GMs with one BM, because our aisle might not be wide enough. I don't mind BMs walking alone, but then what do the GM do? Just sort of show up at the altar/arch?
Any help with this would be much appreciated. I've never been to a traditional wedding, so I haven't a clue about any of this!

The Ceremonial Kiss~

JoJoDahling — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 22:22:46 +0000

Aw, the kiss after your beautiful "I Do`s," It is ending the ceremony and showing the world your couple identity! Plus it is an amazing start to how every kiss will yearn to live up to that kiss for years to come.

/endsappyloveharps-

My fiance' and I have been going back and forth with the idea of our ceremony kiss, and yes it is a big deal to us.

I want a passionate, unique to us kind of kiss without it being cheesy.

Several of my married friends all did....the....the...DIP! I cringe everytime I see those pictures where there is some huge, dramatic dip.

WE GET IT! YOU'VE SEEN ONE TOO MANY DISNEY MOVIES! (I always shout to myself when I see those pics)

I was thinking we could do the Morticia and Adam Gomez kiss where my fiance' will kiss up my arm and I'll play coy (sp?) I thought that would give a great laugh to everyone, especially since they only ever kissed but once in the movies I was thinking once he reaches up my arm we would actually kiss.

However, my fiance' says that is cheesy, yet he has no ideas as to what he wants to do either other then, "Why don't we just kiss like we normally do?" boo~

So I am curious, what have you ladies done or are thinking of doing for your wedding kisses? Or if you have heard any funny stories of wedding kisses that you'd like to share. I just need to get some ideas going!