Wedding Vows & Ceremony Discussions — The Knot Community

Walking Down the Aisle and Receiving Lines

amanda1611t — Sun, 22 Jul 2012 22:14:30 +0000

Lets start with Walking down the Aisle. Can we do groomsman, best man, groom with mother, bridesmaids, maid of honor, mother with grandfather (mother is divorced) ring bearer, flower girls, and me and my dad? Or is that wrong? Wedding is at a resort

Second, reciving lines. Do we HAVE to have this? DO we walk down the aisle after being pronounced husband and wife and then wait outside for people to exit? and then they go to cocktails while we do photos?

Sand ceremony

annanoel21 — Mon, 23 Jul 2012 17:32:59 +0000

I got our engraved sand ceremony jar in today! Yay! I bought some colored sand at party city. I bought pink but it is pale so I am looking for a brighter pink sand. And I had to make the orange sand with food coloring. I wish there were more sand colors to choose from.

FIRST SONG DANCE!!

Amber408 — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 16:47:15 +0000

ok im having the hardest time picking a song. help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wood for altar?

drea+clay — Mon, 23 Jul 2012 05:06:56 +0000

Does anyone have any idea where I might find bamboo, tree limbs or salvaged wood that I can use to create an altar in the SF Bay Area?

Ceremony help - DIY ceremony order

najera36 — Sun, 22 Jul 2012 19:07:28 +0000

We had a friend get ordained for the day to perform our ceremony. I'm getting it all together for the programs and I want to make sure this sounds right. It's basically non-denominational and I want to make sure the order is ok:

Processional

Welcoming

The Giving of Marriage

Opening

Exchange of Vows

Exchange of Rings

Closing Remarks

Declaration of Marriage

Presentation of the Bride and Groom

Recessional

Also, is it necessary to have readings, because we weren't going to have any. But every site I looked up has like 3 readings. Thanks!

Non-Biblical Readings

2bAEBurbey — Fri, 20 Jul 2012 20:18:10 +0000

My fiance and I grew up going to church but aren't currently all that religious. My uncle is going to marry us.

Are you using any heartfelt readings that aren't biblical or religion related? If not, have you heard any that really touched you?

Thanks in advance!

To have or not to have a recieving line?

Pamela515 — Sun, 22 Jul 2012 19:12:29 +0000

We are having a catholic ceremony that should end around 3:00 and we have to be out of the church by 3:45 at the latest because there is mass at 4:00. I was thinking of having a quick receiving line at the end of mass then everyone blow bubbles when we walk out of the church (because I love that idea for pictures, and it is nice to thank the guests), then go back inside for pictures in front of the altar. We will probably have around 100 guest at the church. I don't know how much time to plan for pictures, but I am wondering if that would be enough time to do all that? Or do you have any advice/ suggestions on this? Thanks in advance :)

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Family ceremony with the step kids

bhandzy — Sun, 22 Jul 2012 16:12:27 +0000

My Fiance and I are planning on a destination wedding with just the 2 of us. We will be having a reception when we return with all our family and friends. Im looking for ideas for a family ceremony we can do at the reception. I have 4 step children ranging in age from 5-12.

They are a very important part of my life and would like to have spomething special for them as they will not be there for the actual wedding.

Cherry blossom wedding venue help - Michigan

Reichan1 — Fri, 20 Jul 2012 00:04:06 +0000

My fiance and I are getting married in Michigan in 2014. We want a spring wedding and flowers, cherry blossoms in particular, are a very important theme. I am having trouble finding any venues that specifically have cherry trees that would go with our theme. I realize there are other places more suited to this kind of wedding (like Washington... or Japan...) but if there are any venues out there that even have one cherry tree we could catch in bloom that would be wonderful. We live in the Detroit area but willing to use a venue 2-3 hours away. If cherry trees are an impossible find I'm willing to consider any garden venues with a lot of flowering plants that is well landscaped. Or alternatively someplace we can rent cherry trees or cherry blossom floral arrangements (real or not). Please help!

Best planning guide/organizer?

carolinastar — Fri, 20 Jul 2012 16:10:07 +0000

Hey ladies, my fiance and I got engaged last week and are planning a long engagement to accomodate our schooling schedules, but I want to start compiling ideas to make the planning smoother later.

A few months ago, I went to a Barnes and Noble and saw several binders and guides with space for logging ideas or saving ads or photos. Great idea, but I'm wondering if any of you have found a resource that you found indispensable. Since I'm still new at this, I really don't know what features to look for or what will actually be helpful.

Any recommendations or tips?

Fiance's cousin passed away on wedding date 1 year before

joklein7 — Fri, 20 Jul 2012 00:11:07 +0000

The one year anniversary of my FI's cousin's death is our wedding day next year. Is there an appropriate way to honor this? Of course I would check with his mother before we do anything but I just wanted to get other opinions. We are getting married in the same venue as the reception (hotel ballroom with a short ceremony.)

Inter-religious wedding ceremony

schneik — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 21:17:03 +0000

I'm looking for ideas for a Jewish/Christian wedding. My fiance is Jewish and I have not yet converted..this will take place in the future. He claims we cannot get married by a rabbi, but I would like to include some of his wedding traditions in with our ceremony. Overall, I do not want a quick 5 min ceremony in a courthouse. I want it more formal and to feel special. So we decided to have it on a Friday afternoon, small with close family members and friends. Any ideas for intimate/scenic locations in Columbus? And who can marry us and what type of ceremony to have?Thank you all in advance for your suggestions:)

Proof read my Vows please

nickimanny — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 19:39:59 +0000

My wedding is next weekend and I haven't showed my vows to anybody but would really like somebody to proof read them. Thanks in advance!

Today is the day, it has been a long time coming but I am so happy that we are here today. You are the thought that starts each morning and the conclusion to each day. You are the smile on my face and the warmth in my heart. You are my silly, mature, caring, thoughtful, bright, and honest guy. The one that holds me tightly when I need to cry. You always try to understand even if I don’t make sense. After all these years I still feel butterflies in my chest. I promise to give you the best of myself and to bring the best out of youI promise to grow along with you, to be faithful to you and honest with youI promise to be patient and understanding even if I don’t agreeI promise to love you in good times and bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple and when it is complex. You are all I’ve wanted and all that I’ll ever need. Completely and forever

Including children in the ceremony

mrshall1027 — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 21:40:51 +0000

Since a friend of ours is officiating the wedding, I am writing up the entire ceremony on my own with the help of google :)

Unfortunately, I haven't really been able to find much on including the children from a previous marriage into the ceremony. I found where you say vows to each other, but I think they are too shy for that and they would be too uncomfortable which would make it really awkward.

Ideally, I would like to just add something onto the end of my vows to FI and then work a way of presenting them both with their own rings or necklace. I just can't figure out the wording.

We will both be saying the same vows to eachother, but I am going to add this to the end of mine:

"I not only stand here and promise to be a loving and faithful Wife, I promise to be a patient, loving and caring Mother to Ava and Isla. I accept them as my own and promise to always be there for them, to listen to them, advise them, and love them until the end of our days."

Should I say something about presenting them with the ring/necklace or should I have the officiant say something and ask them to come up so that I can give it to them? At what point should I do it - after I am done saying that part in the vows or when FI and I present our rings to eachother?

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wedding party help

lizziegold — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 21:26:54 +0000

My fiance's oldest sister has down syndrome and it is really important to us that we include her in a very special way. Any ideas on rolls she could do in a way that doesn't degrade her..ie flower girl? Thanks!

NY Ceremony/cocktail hour Ideas

colorgarden — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 15:55:05 +0000

Hi!

I'm just starting my wedding planning and we want to combine our two cultures into our wedding day (he's Jewish and I'm Chinese). I came up with the idea of having an "American" ceremony with cocktail hour (I was hoping for a waterview) and then dinner reception at a chinese banquet hall with a tea ceremony.

I was wondering if you guys have any suggestions for a place for ceremony with cocktail hour (I have a caterer in mind but I don't know of location). I'm hoping not to spend too much money on this portion of the wedding.

For the chinese portion I know most of the banquet halls in NY so I think i'm set with that...

Thanks!

registry question

soontobespitzer — Wed, 18 Jul 2012 21:48:18 +0000

How do you tell people where you are registered? Ours is a little more complicated so it takes some explaining, do I really need to talk to each individual person to give them the info?

Unity Candle

Elaina1012 — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 01:06:38 +0000

I also posted this on the October board. But wanted to say something here as well. I am getting married Catholic style. The priest that is marrying us is telling us the unity candle is not traditionally in the catholic ceremony. Im a bit confused by this statement. Reason for this both mine and my FI's brother got married in a catholic church and had the unity candle. We are getting married the he same church my brother did. So Im wondering if anyone else has come across this? Is this something new?

40 minute ceremony - Can we sit down?

FlintstonePearl — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 16:17:32 +0000

I'm having a Methodist ceremony that will run about 40 minutes. It seems like a long time to stand in my dress and heels. I'm considering having chairs for me and my FI to sit in during portions of the ceremony that don't directly involve us (reading, solo, congregational prayer, etc.)

Any thoughts on this idea?

What are your favorite ceremony readings?

KBSK12 — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 14:48:47 +0000

I'm starting to choose readings for our ceremony, but am kind of clueless on where to start. What are your favorites? From the Bible or otherwise.

Ways to remember a loved one at the ceremony?

Jngibson84 — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 12:07:48 +0000

I will be getting married around the beginning of May of 2013 to an amazing man. We both 28 years old and he has taken on something many cannot do emotionally. My 10 yr old daughter passed away suddenly in 2010 and, despite not actually ever meeting her as we met in 2011, he stays by my side through the all of my up and downs. I know that she would love him and I am so grateful for his kindness, compassion, and support.

At our ceremony I want to do something special in rememberance of my little girl. I will be adding a photo charm of her to my bouquet; however, I want to do more. I have heard of lighting a candle but I still do not feel that is enough. I would greatly appreciate any ideas or advice. Thank you.

need advice 1st draft

rayna7679 — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 15:37:36 +0000

Wedding vows:

I love you for all that you are

All that you have been

And all that you are yet to be.

From this day forward,

You shall not walk alone.

My heart will be your shelter,

And my arms will be your home.

These I Can Promise with pride.

I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;

I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold;

I cannot promise you an easy pathway

That leads away from change or growing old.

But I can promise all my heart's devotion;

A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow;

A love that's ever true and ever growing;

A hand to hold in yours, through each tomorrow.

Yes, I'll Marry You.

Friday morning wedding?

Colormyworld619 — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 21:17:18 +0000

my fiance and i want to get married on a certain day (the anniversary of our first date) but its on a friday? is it terrible to have a morning wedding on a week day? i dont want a large wedding but have one of those families thats huge and if i dont invite everyone there will be world war 3! i figure this way i can still invite everyone and most people just wont be able to come. what do you think?

Where should I hold my ceremony?

KBSK12 — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 15:11:51 +0000

Both photos are from my venue. The setting of the first one has a built in arch/altar. The second one is under a giant oak tree. I love the tree, but do you think it would be odd to use that space and have the "altar" empty? Any input is welcome!

Marriage License

mellow08 — Wed, 18 Jul 2012 19:02:08 +0000

Does anyone know anything about marriage licenses in Indiana or Illinois?

Mothers Lighting the Unity Candle Song

amyjo700 — Wed, 18 Jul 2012 20:50:36 +0000

Do you have a song for the mothers when they walk down the isle and light the unity candles?

Thanks

we don't need an ordained officiant

chqtabnana14 — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 22:22:29 +0000

we're a military couple and were legally married before his deployment, so we don't need to find an officiant who can legally marry us. any suggestions for officiants who are not necessarily family members but could do a good job with a non-religious ceremony?

guest list

mrsosborn13 — Wed, 18 Jul 2012 18:19:44 +0000

Ok I work in a small auto repair shop a matter of like 12 employees and the two owners who i work with DAILY i know im inviting my two bosses we have close relationships but what about coworkers? in such a small shop is it common courtesy to invite coworkers?