Wedding Vows & Ceremony Discussions — The Knot Community

Budget wedding venue HELP

Carpediem277 — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 00:22:29 +0000

I need a venue! I haven't been really happy with any venues I checked out because all of them have hidden fees. I really just want a backyard big enough for 130 people and a BBQ but I am not finding it. I love nature and trees (totally hippy) I have the dress, photographer, dessert, and a wonderful guy but the venue is really holding me up. I am a DIY kind of girl too!

Please kindly respond to venues only in California!

Casting Brides and Bridesmaids

KatelinCasting — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 00:23:19 +0000

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WTB ceremony arch/canopy

Desi127 — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 18:53:58 +0000

Does anyone know where I can buy an arch or canopy for an outside ceremony? If I can't buy one, any ideas of how to construct one?

question

kiermart — Mon, 11 Jun 2012 20:36:13 +0000

Hi ladies, Ok, I'm wearing a cathedral veil with a blusher for the ceremony, I was wondering do I keep the veil over my face until the officiant says you may kiss the bride or do I take it from over my face before then?

Indoor Receiving Line

sheilah2006 — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 00:58:45 +0000

My wedding is at the end of November in the evening. My receiving line will be inside. Any ideas on what I can use instead of bubbles, bird seed etc? I had though about pom poms but Im not sure this is the best idea

Catholic ceremony with non traditional music and readings?

Caitlin192 — Mon, 11 Jun 2012 00:29:44 +0000

Hi everyone,

We have a meeting with our priest coming up and I'll ask him these questions then, but I wanted to see if anyone else has done this.

A little background - my fiance and I have a daughter and are getting married in a Catholic church with a Catholic ceremony. The priest who is marrying us is a family friend of my fiancé's. He baptized our daughter and is very supportive of the marriage. So I suppose we're starting the ceremony off on a non traditional foot already.

We didn't know if there were rules about music or readings. Here's what we'd like to do:

Bridal Party Processional - What A Wonderful World (instrumental)

Bride's Processional - Somewhere Over The Rainbow (instrumental)

Recessional - Ob La Di Ob La Da (Beatles version)

Readings:

A selection from Jane Eyre

A selection from the Bible.

Has anyone done this or is it really up to the church/priest?

Excellent dress for graduation ceremony?

Shauna&Nidia — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:25:45 +0000

Graduation is a very special occasion, where you are finally through with your last grade of education and you are qualified to be what you want to. On this one of the most special days in your life, you not only want to feel the best but also look the best! So, if you are nearing your graduation ceremony and party, you need to go shopping as soon as possible to find that perfect dress for yourself. Graduation dresses for college can be preferred in various patterns such as cocktail dresses, evening gowns, formal or summer dresses, etc., depending on the theme and style of the party. The colors of these dresses however, need to be neutral since graduation ceremonies are formal, usually followed by a casual party.

Please see this link and find some excellent dresses for the ceremony.

http://www.topbridaldress.com/home.php?cat=82

formal and bridal dresses

Shauna&Nidia — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:24:53 +0000

very girl dreams and eagerly waits for her wedding day as it is one of the most memorable days of her life. Thus everything needs to be perfectly planned and organized. Every bride wishes to look her best on her wedding day. She wishes to have a bridal dress that is well designed, having delicate unique work.

Choosing a style and design of your wedding dress completely depends on you. You can prefer a simple designed dress or you can even choose for bridal gowns. Presently, wedding costume has gained so much importance that many designer stores have come up with different exclusive collections to facilitate their customers. You will be able to find dresses which will fit your choice as well as budget. They have wide collections of wedding dresses, prom dresses and many more.

Prom night is an event that every teenager looks forward to. In today's fashion conscious society, everybody wishes to look great and attractive. Every teenager wishes to have a prom dress that is stylish and unique in order to stand out in the crowd. Like wedding dresses, you will get varieties in prom dresses too. However, preference varies from person to person; some go for designer prom dresses or some may prefer simple plain wear. It's entirely an individual's choice. If you are in search of best prom dresses, then you can surf online to get information about the nearest stores dealing with the prom dress. You can even purchase these dresses from online stores; however, it very important to check the credibility of the site before purchasing in order to prevent getting conned.

Apart from wedding ceremonies and prom occasions, if you are planning to attend an evening event, then you can still visit online boutique shops to find something suitable. These shops have apt collections for your evening occasions which include fabulous gowns, frill ballooned gowns and many more. These collections are generally known as formal dresses or evening gowns. You may hesitate to spend money on expensive formal evening dress; however, these days formal dresses have come up with plenty of designs, patterns and styles, which can be worn on more than one occasion. It does not necessarily need to be a wedding ceremony or a similar occasion to wear formal dresses. You can wear it on a casual evening event or even on any other formal function. If you do thorough research online, you will come across many such shops that offer different outfits. You will be able to find your desired outfit that will definitely make you look resplendent. However, make sure that you buy clothes that are not only trendy but also comfortable and long lasting. You can even search online, to get more details and information about the price tags and designs. You can also navigate through photo gallery on the various online stores and take a look at the exclusive range of outfits.

http://www.topbridaldress.com/home.php?cat=1

Do you like cocktail dresses ？

Shauna&Nidia — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:22:38 +0000

Probably the most versatile dresses which were ever created for put on on special events may be the dress wear. As the occasions that short cocktail dress are worn are often late mid-day or early evening matters which are too casual to become known as black-tie occasions, many cocktail dresses is now able to worn elsewhere, with respect to the cut and also the material from the dress and also the add-ons worn by using it.

To put on a dress wear to some more formal event, all that you should do would be to accessorize accordingly, possibly put on more fancy bits of jewellery and heavier makeup. If you want to put on something formal to work unconditionally other when compared to a skirt or pantsuit, you are able to put on a dress wear that's much less fancy and merely put on a blazer and put on sensible office footwear. Many current types of short cocktail dress are no more restricted to being party put on any longer.

Do you like this cocktail dress?

http://www.topbridaldress.com/product.php?productid=56989&cat=0&page=1

How to choose The Right Bridal Petticoat on Topbridaldresses

Shauna&Nidia — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:21:24 +0000

The use of bridal petticoat

Aside from workmanship and embellishment, petticoat also acts as an important role in wedding dress stylizing. It is used to adjust the shape of wedding dress and can hold the wedding dress out in a pleasingly domed shape and give the impression of a smaller waist. Different petticoats can be used to give dress different looking. Don’t forget, wedding dress with long train also needs a petticoat.

There are various types of petticoat available. And the most common ones are naturally shaped petticoat and petticoat with hoops.

This kind of petticoat always has two hoops or three hoops. Some of them have tulle, some of them have train. To give the wedding dress a better and natural presentation, we generally choose tulle petticoats. The number of hoops will be depended on the length of skirt as well as the silhouette of wedding dress. Petticoat with train is suitable for wedding dress with chapel or monarch train.

Ball gown/Princess Satin dress: if you choose wedding dress made with satin, you’d better not choose petticoat that doesn’t have hoops, otherwise, it will make the gown looks like A-line style. The reason for this is satin is one of the heaviest fabrics, only petticoat with hoops can hold it. If the satin is not so thick, when choosing petticoat, there are two important factors to consider. First, the petticoat needs to have hoops, and second, you’d better to choose tulle petticoat. The more layers of tulle it has, the better, which will avoid the shape of hoops reflected in the skirt.

Wedding dress with chapel train, monarch /royal train: if we use naturally shaped petticoat, it will seriously affect the shape of skirt and train. Also, the petticoat will deform under the weight of train.

Wedding dress with crinkled skirt or ruffled skirt: this kind of wedding dress is to attract people’s attention to the waist and give people the impression of slimness. Only skirts in fully domed shape can deliver the crinkled details, bringing the contracting effect.

Having a 'God's Knot' ceremony during our ceremony.

nicole91 — Fri, 07 Jan 2011 05:04:54 +0000

I just wanted some opinions of people and what they thought of this, if you were a guest and also coming from other brides.

We are considering a God's Knot ceremony replacing the unity candle lighting. I like the symbolism of unity candle lightings but to me, they are overdone and expected. We are a young couple and I want something untraditional and new and more "us" than something that has been done thousands of times before.

What it is, is my fiance will hold a gold ring with 3 ropes attached to it and I will braid it while our pastor reads a special reading telling about what it is and the meaning of it. My favorite part about this is it acknowldges God as the center of the marriage, and the verse about a cord of three strands. The reading is:

The braiding of the three stands demonstrates how [name of groom] and [name of bride] are joined by God in marriage. Each strand holds special meaning.
The Gold Strand symbolizes that the Lord Jesus has been invited by [name of groom] and [name of bride] to the position of authority in this marriage relationship.
The Purple Strand represents the groom. It illustrates the majesty of God as head over the husband. As [name of groom] submits himself to the Lord, the Lord in turn will hold the marriage together through him.
The White Strand represents the bride. It illustrates the purity of the bride of Christ. As each has received Jesus Christ as personal Savior and Lord, they are cleansed through Christ.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 reads, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend
themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

Today, [name of groom] and [name of bride] have been woven together by God as ONE in marriage.

pew clips on a chair?

leahharden — Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:35:48 +0000

any of you ladies used a pew clip on a chair before? my church doesnt have pews, and i want to do tulle or organza swags down the aisle. any suggestions on specific brands/types of clips i should use for this? thanks for your help!

Unity Sand Ceremony

mrsMMFF — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 05:01:05 +0000

My FI and I have opted to do a unity sand ceremony versus the traditional candle ceremony. Should it be handled the same way that candle ceremonies are? The mothers are the ones who usually light the individual candles for this, should the mothers also start the sand ceremony, by pouring a little bit of each color sand in the vase? Or does the bride and groom just do it themselves? PLEASE HELP MY WEDDING IS IN 25 DAYS!!!! AHHHHHHH.

Sand Ceremony Kit

knjorgensen — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 19:42:41 +0000

Does anyone know where I can find a decently modern looking sand ceremony kit? All the ones I've seen look cheap or gawdy. I'm not looking for personalization/hearts... something simple, clean and modern.

Little Best Man

SBen07 — Sun, 13 May 2012 23:17:05 +0000

My Fiance has a 4 Yr old little boy from a previous relationshia, who is the center of our world. He will have just turned 6 by the date of our wedding and i am looking for a good way to include him in the actual vows. it not just me and him its a package deal with us. Any ideas?

Singing during ceremony?

babycakes2312 — Sun, 10 Jun 2012 04:42:57 +0000

Would like to have a family member sing during our ceremony, but don't have a unity candle or sand ceremony for us to do while singing. Would it be wierd to just have him sing and we stood there? I know they used to do this years ago, but not sure if it still works today. Dont want to bore people, or have them uncomfortable. Thots are appreciated!

Having Family Issue, Need Ceremony Suggestions...

Sassenach1743 — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 18:56:49 +0000

Hi Ladies, I am currently having an ongoing issue with my FI's family regarding the wedding party & ceremony. Here's the low down...

My FMIL asked my FI how many attendants we were going to have and he said we where thinking of one each (i.e. MOH & BM) -because we want a small intimate ceremony (guest list is currently at 50, cap will be about 75). Mind you, we have only been engaged a few weeks (barely a month). With that said, we have not officially decided on anything yet... Here's where the issue is. My FI's Sister made a comment to her Mother about her and her husband being in the wedding party (they want to be) and she (without regard to my FI or I, or the fact that it's too early in the game for such concerns) told her that we are only having one attendant each and that she was certain that it was neither her nor her husband. This caused a huge rift between my FI and his Sister (for which we have been apologizing profusely) and his Mother just doesn't seem to get that she started this whole thing by relaying unofficial information when she should have kept her mouth shut! We have now been robbed of the chance to select our wedding party without the guilt of knowing that his Sister is already totally hurt that we weren't rushing to ask her and her husband to be in it. I am so distraught by this, as is my FI. No matter how many times we apologize it's never enough and his parents keep bringing up. I don't know what to do.

Is there any way to incorporate them into the ceremony (but not as attendants) to try to appease them?? I am wracking my brain... We are not having a religious ceremony so I don't want a reading... This is so upsetting because even if we wanted to ask them to join the wedding party at some point (because we would have had plenty of time to do so, our wedding is next June) it is already completely tainted by all this drama. And all his Mother keeps saying is that we need to right this wrong and realize that what we did has hurt them... But we, technically, didn't have a chance to do anything yet!

Ugh... I think I just needed an objective audience to vent to. For those of you still reading, thank you! Any suggestions for including them in the ceremony somehow are greatly appreciated.

extremely frustrated...

p.s. their 3 children (all under age 5) are already in the wedding as FG and 2 RBs (which was already part of my plan for the ceremony before all this happened) and that still hasn't softened this perverbial blow. :(

Who selects the reading?

Mark&Steph — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 17:41:34 +0000

FI asked one of his close friends to be a reader in our ceremony. He and I have been looking around at various poems, prose, etc. for something for her to read, and have tentatively narrowed it down to one or two favorites. Yesterday, she contacted him with a poem that she thought would be good for the reading. I looked it up online, and it's okay, but it's not really "us" and I like both of our choices far better.

Am I out of line for telling our reader what to read (provided that FI is on the same page)? It's nice that she offered to select a reading, but now I'm not sure if she'll be offended if I nix her idea for something else. (Also, the readings that FI and I have are not religious or controversial; I would never expect someone to read something that they fundamentally disagree with.)

Can I tell her "no" on her suggestion, or does she get more input since she will be doing the actual reading?

Much needed advice for my Vintage wedding

rirvi335 — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 14:03:46 +0000

I have so many ideas as well as issues running through my head, and with so little experience with planning in general I feel like I don't know where to start. My fiance and I haven't even been able to set a date for financial reasons- which doesn't help my attempted planning in the least.

But to start out, I'm not even sure where to hold my wedding. What kind of ceremony location reflects vintage? And what if it's during the fall? Ideas of an outdoor wedding aren't so ideal. I've searched for random chapels, wedding halls, but I just can't find anything I like.

Like any other bride, I'm looking for low-cost, but don't want any of my wedding to seem cheap. Anyone have any advice they'd like to give?

Choosing The Right Bridal Petticoat - How?

Shauna&Nidia — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 08:10:05 +0000

A petticoat can make a dress more full and it can help the dress have a good shap. As we all know each girl want to have a wonderful wedding day. Wedding day is a most important day in each girl's life. In the big day, the girl marries the man she loves deeply. Every girl wants the big day to be a marvelous romantic memory.A beautiful wedding dress will bring magic happiness to the bride, bridegroom and all the guests.
Can you tell me some tips to choose my the petticoat for my wedding dress?

http://www.topbridaldress.com/home.php?cat=193

"Thank you to parents" Divorced parents of the bride... Probably more complicated than it

jessicaleigh615 — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 19:42:04 +0000

I am trying to write an all inclusive thank you to both sets of parents for our ceremony programs. The only issue is that all the examples I have read say things like 'your example has allowed me to see how marriage works' or 'how to love your spouse' well that is perfect for his parents- they have been married for 30+ years but my parents have been divorced since I was 3 and dad was married once more and divorced, mom was married twice more and divorced from both. I need to try and make it more about their love and support for me rather than eachother. Or maybe I should just think along the lines that love is love and even if it didn't work between them it was an example of why two people should not be together :/

Any thoughts?

AW - Venue Decided!

Kindachewy — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 02:34:04 +0000

I am feeling SO excited to say we just booked our venue, and it is the most gorgeous place I have ever seen. We had looked at almost 20 places, and when we pulled up to the venue, my fiance kissed me and said 'this is it' :) - One Happy Girl

Invitation - Proof Read Please

ccarrion77 — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 19:58:38 +0000

Any see anything that needs changing? TIA

Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents

and

Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents

invite you to celebrate with them

at the marriage uniting their children

Bride

Groom

on Friday, the fifth of October

two thousand twelve

at half past five in the evening

Location name
City, State (directions with full address provided on an insert)

Reception to follow

Decorating church altar - alternative to flowers

calibrican — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 20:59:58 +0000

I'm getting married in a not-very-ornate church. So far, all my decorating ideas for the reception have not included flowers, and I'm wondering how far I can take that... I'm not anti-flower or anything :-) just trying to be different. I am thinking about doing gem-studded ribbons for the pews. Does anyone have any ideas that could be an alternative to flowers to decorate the altar? It's a morning reception so extra candles doesn't really seem like the right way to go either.

Thanks!!!

Kids Cowboy boots

Naumann2 — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 19:18:41 +0000

I want to do kids cowboy boots as my centerpieces with flowers in them but having trouble finding cute ones. I live in an area that there aren't garage sales and need help finding them

ring bearer age

button6004 — Tue, 15 May 2012 18:42:36 +0000

If you are having a ring bearer, how old is he/she? My FI isnt quite sure how old a ring bearer should be, and he is worried about choosing my little cousin, who will be almost 3 when we get married. Thanks!

sermon/message worries!

lrlarmore — Sun, 27 May 2012 19:05:30 +0000

I've been to several weddings recently where the officiant either drones on or dicusses how hard marraige is and the possiblity of divorce... umm... what!?!?!?

I don't think the wedding day is the day to counsel me on how often people are divorced or to demand that I obey everything my hubby says to keep him happy (I heard that one last year).

I just want something inspirational, fun, and lighthearted that focuses on the love involved and the commitment that we are making. I like our officiant.. but I feel like after I've seen so many disasters that I should give him some guidance on what I prefer.... does anyone know of a great message out there that I can give him to show what i mean???

cocktail hour and introduction

kaos16 — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 15:01:09 +0000

I just thought of something. We are doing a First Look so that we can enjoy the cocktail hour with our guests and mingle/thank everyone. Is it weird to then have a grand entrance when we go inside for the reception where we are introduced as husband and wife?

I feel like a lot of the weddings i've been to, we never saw the bride and groom at cocktail hour, and the first time we saw them was at the reception.

He said she said story

harjess — Thu, 07 Jun 2012 21:21:16 +0000

Ok I have an idea but no craftyness... :) I want to do a he said she said story because his side of the story on how we met is sooo not the same as mine. HAHA so I really and looking for some cute ideas on how to maybe incorporate this into maybe our tables, or something? Thanks all

1st draft of vows- please critique

rikkidawn28 — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 03:16:42 +0000

These vows will be said after the more traditional vows (which we will repeat after the officiate)

May our marriage embody the characericstics of honesty, fidelity and soul. May we experience new beginnings together now and in the future. May our love revlove around passionate devotion and undying laughter. Last but not least, may our love grow and last always.