Wedding Vows & Ceremony Discussions — The Knot Community

Chair covers

kelseyschlortt — Mon, 14 May 2012 21:13:42 +0000

Does anyone know where i can get reasonable priced chair covers for my ceremony?

How To Decorate These Banquet Chairs!

mrsbarbieq — Mon, 14 May 2012 20:33:14 +0000

Hi ladies! Need your help here. I'm getting these white covered banquet chairs for my outdoor ceremony, but I don't want to use the standard ribbon to decorate it. Do you have any other ideas on how I can spruce up these chairs without wrapping any tulle around it? We're having a modern wedding and would really appreciate ANY ideas! :)

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Directions Printed on Ceremony Program?

quittingtime — Thu, 10 May 2012 20:27:44 +0000

I am getting a little tired of putting together all of these little projects... would it be OK to have the directions to the reception printed on the back of the ceremony program? Or just not have a map at all since I included a directions card with my invitation?

I was considering a map with directions to be handed out with the program, but how many little pieces of paper and hand-outs do guests really want?

Take the poll or make a comment with your opinion

Thanks, Beth

Small outside/inside ceremony in September

MrsHurt0917 — Mon, 14 May 2012 14:54:53 +0000

Hi I am new to this website. A friend suggested it to help me with ideas. I am looking for some help on where to have a very small ceremony. My fiance and I do not have a lot of family or friends to really invite to have like a huge ceremony or reception. So I was wanting to do something really small where like maybe our intermediate family and a few friends could come watch us be married. I am also looking into a place that may decorate the area for the ceremony. I found a place mistyweddingvalleychapels.com but it is in Kentucky. I would prefer to be married here in Cincinnati, but that is what I am looking for if you would like to visit the site to have an idea of what I am looking for. We are not having a reception we have other plans for after the wedding. Please if you have any ideas suggest them. I am open to all help. Thanks!

Decorating Ceremony Space

shanliann — Sun, 13 May 2012 22:16:04 +0000

I am at a loss on how to decorate our Ceremony Site! I dont want anything super fancy but i feel like it is too boring without something. I found some cute ideas on pinterest for using tule in our wedding colors to wind through our chairs but that wont work with the style of the ceremony chairs!!
Anyway here is our Ceremony Site, I would appreciate any decorating tips!!!!

Thanks!!!

Officiant Questions

Bonnie27 — Wed, 09 May 2012 15:08:43 +0000

We have received a great deal of positive feedback on an officiate that could do our wedding. I've already corresponded with him via email and he seems very much like I would expect. But I'm not sure what my next step is. Do you typically meet with the officiate before you commit? Is it that important or is it enough just knowing that he comes highly recommended and so far everything has been ok? Of all the pieces in planning our wedding, I think this one I'm a bit lost on what to do. Any advice would be great! Thank You!!

Elderly grandparents.....help!

anghampton — Mon, 14 May 2012 16:13:51 +0000

Hey girls, I need some advice and especailly any BTDT pointers.

We are still in the very early planning stages (no venue chosen and date narrowed down to 2 options) and my FI doesn't want to get married in the city. We won't get married far, but about 2 hours from where we (and my family) live. My grandparents are 90 years old and their health is declining. They have been a very important part of my life and I want them to be there, but they have said that they cannot travel- probably not any farther than 20 minutes from home.

Has anyone ever had to deal with this? We are considering having an early private ceremony with just the 2 of them and our officiant. Does anyone else have any suggestions?

My FI does not want to have the wedding local, and honestly, there just aren't many options that are that close to them. HELP!?!?!?!

Ang in Houston

Help with venues

medunn — Mon, 07 May 2012 00:08:56 +0000

So my groom and I have talked about different wedding venues before we got engaged... the problem is that now that we are he has gotten his head stuck on one and it feels like he wound budge. Its not that I dont like the idea, Im just not shore it will be able to work out in a practical manner. I am just trying to figgure out how to get him to atleast connsider other ideas.
HELP!

IDEAS FOR A DESTINATION WEDDING WITH OLD WORLD CHARM.

mrsgermade — Sat, 12 May 2012 23:25:36 +0000

Hi does anyone have suggestions on locations that have old world charm? I really want great pictures. Like cobble stone street and stone buildings. Please help me get some location ideas :)

Interfaith Ceremony - PLEASE HELP!!

kshah05 — Fri, 11 May 2012 23:31:01 +0000

Hey everyone! I need help with my ceremony. I'm hindu and my fiance is catholic and we are trying to figure out if there is a way to combine both religions into just one ceremony. I think that there isn't because both religions are so different from each other, and he (my fiance) seems to think that there is a way to combine both. Ive searched on google for ideas but i really haven't been able to find any answers. Neither one of us is religious, and we are having this wedding for our families and are trying to please both. We really dont want to have two different ceremonies, we just want one that represents both religions. Any ideas???

Give me your advice :)

emmily429 — Mon, 07 May 2012 23:56:27 +0000

Here's the first draft of my vows...I know I have a while, but I was on a good wedding-streak and thought I could at least come up with something!

Hubby,

You are the love of my life. I could never thank the Lord enough for allowing me to find you so long ago. Through these past 8 years, I have grown to love you more and more each day. As I stand here, looking at you, I see all of the things I fell in love with. You are the man of my dreams, my best friend, and you are every breath that I take and I want to share all of my love with you. As I stand here, looking at you, it reminds me of every laugh we’ve ever shared, every hard time we’ve made it through together, and ever beautiful moment there is to come.

Hubby, as your wife, friend, and lover, I promise to love you in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple, and when it is an effort. I promise to give you the best of myself and to ask of you no more than you can give. I promise to respect you as a person with your own interests, desires, and needs, and to realize that those are sometimes different, but no less important than my own. I promise to support your dreams and endeavors, even if those dreams include the Cubs winning the World Series. And I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face change as we both change in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting. And finally, I promise to love you with all I have to give and all I feel inside in the only way I know how- completely and forever.

Describe your wedding in 3 words..

Kindachewy — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 13:21:27 +0000

It could be the colors, or a theme, or just the general style or feel.

Mine is 'Off-White Lace"

What to float in the pond behind our ceremony

tgaripoli — Wed, 09 May 2012 11:41:44 +0000

We are having a rustic, outdoor, evening, summer wedding. The ceremony is at 7pm with sunset not being until 8:30pm, so it will still be daylight during our ceremony. We are getting married next to a pond and the view of the pond will be to the right and slightly in front of the guests....so in plain view. I originally thought to have floating lights, i.e. candles of somesort in the water, but now I'm thinking this isn't necessary since it won't be dark. The recepetion will be held 100 yards away in a nearby flat area, away from the original ceremony spot.

So do I spend the $ for a hundred or so lights/candles or just have floating flowers or something in the water? IDK what to do!

Any advice would be appreciated!!! Thanks!!

Outdoor wedding aisle

melhen88 — Sat, 12 May 2012 14:55:57 +0000

We're planning on having an outodoor wedding in a GORGEOUS space that I'm absolutely in love with. I was just thinking the other day, however, that how are we going to keep heels from sinking into the grass when walking down the aisle? I saw a "pin" that had bridesmaids standing on garden stones at the front, which is a great plan, but, do we just suck it up and walk on our tiptoes until we get to the front? I wouldn't much care if they wore flats, but the 10 in height difference for me and FI means that I should really be in heels. Anyone ever run into this problem??

My wedding officiant just told me he is on vacation on my wedding day!

mojaywedding — Fri, 11 May 2012 19:07:30 +0000

We told him almost a year ago about our wedding and with 3 months to go he drops this news...

This has been my church for almost 15 years (he's been at our church for roughly 4 years). I am also a Sunday school volunteer (volunteer my help with the kids when i can)

My fiance isn't the same denomination (he's Baptist and I'm Anglican) but because I have a personal relationship with this church, and wanted be married here he didn't have a problem with having the ceremony there. To incorporate both sides His reverend and my reverend would team up and preside over the ceremony.

This week at THE END of our first counselling session, my reverend broke the news. Our wedding is in 3 months! We've met with him at least 4 times prior about our wedding to discuss other wedding details and no mention of his vacation....he actually told us that he would be on vacation before our wedding. Come to find out he was trying to find a flight back but wasn't able to.

We've made some sacrifices for our ceremony deeming the conservative nature of the church (cant say our own vows, very limited decor options, no photos during the ceremony etc.) But this news is the tipping point.

We can have the ceremony at the reception venue (which my fiance now wants) which logistically may work out but I'm still a bit hurt by what the reverend has done. I understand things happen but why not be transparent and tell us the situation earlier? Now we have to have someone who I am not familiar with perform our wedding....i just feel if that didnt matter, then we should have just eloped and gone somewhere else!

So now I'm at an impasse and not sure what to do!!! Should I stay at the church or have the ceremony at the venue???

How to ask FSIL to do a reading at our wedding?

Belle0720 — Thu, 10 May 2012 23:37:35 +0000

My Fiance and I want to have his sister do a bible reading at our wedding and also have her baby be either a ring bearer or flower girl (due this summer but we don't know the baby's gender)

I've been trying to think of some creative ideas to ask them to be a part of our wedding. I've seen puzzles and cards and cute things for ring bearers & flower girls but nothing for asking someone to do a reading.

All I've come up with is maybe buying a nice bible and getting a card w/a personal message inside.

I'd love some input!

To Early to Buy my Dress

Opp+Boss — Wed, 09 May 2012 05:30:41 +0000

My fiancee and me have only been engaged since may 1st. But I see that the dress that I want is going on sale. Is it to early to buy my dress since my wedding is in almost a year and a half. who knows what could happen in that time. But I don't want to miss out on a good deal on my dress. But what if I gain weight or something happens? Is it to early to buy my dress? Or is it ever to early to buy a dress?

Ceremony help! Multi faith!

josgirl — Fri, 11 May 2012 01:42:44 +0000

How does this work?? I'm converting to Jadaism but I won't be "converted" in time for a wedding? What can I do? Should we have a non-denominational officiant but still do the Jewish traditions?like stomping on the glass? I feel bad skipping the traditions completely because it would dishonor his religious family members?

Sand Ceremony

ErinEllen — Fri, 11 May 2012 17:12:32 +0000

A while back, I saw the cutest idea. Two chefs did a sand ceremony but instead of two colors of sand they combined two spices together. It was so cute and so personal. What are some other things that could be combined together?

foot washing

aellehcim — Wed, 09 May 2012 05:50:39 +0000

I've decided to do a foot washing ceremony at my wedding. Where can I find tips on how to do this well? Can you suggest any blog posts or websites to give me ideas? Thank you!

trying to find a unique unity ceremony and honoring the parents

veassie — Wed, 09 May 2012 08:13:48 +0000

as far as teh unity ceremony goes, i like the candle but the venue is outside and am really worried about the candle going out.. and not a fan of the sand as it doesnt really fit in with the wedding at all, so ive been researching alternatives. I came across an idea where you use the padlocks engraved with messages and stuff, and attach them to a tree (id probably have my sculptor mom make a neato tree out of metal like she does) where both sets of parents attach locks to the roots of the tree to symbolize our roots and their support raising us and all that. then my man and i take another one and attach it to the top of the trunk to show us joined togheter, and then the branches symbolize all that is to come in our future life together. i think its a cute idea and would go well with our venue and wedding really well (its in a funky modern warehouse, a little more offbeat sort of feeling not traditional at all). honest opinions please!

for honoring the parents, my officiant suggested doing the thing where we give roses to our moms at some point as a thank you. i like the idea behind it but of course i want to change it up.. haha. she had an idea that a previous bride did - she took little strips of paper and wrote little messages of thanks and love and appreciation on them, and folded them into little origami things (i dont know what she did, but id maybe do the cranes or the cute little stars) and fill a mason jar with them. you then give the jar to them at teh ceremony and they are to open the jar every year on this day and read a note to remember how much we love and care for them. i like this idea cause it wont die like a rose and be with them longer! thoughts?

thanks so much!

Escort for MOB Dilemma!!

Cma1245 — Wed, 09 May 2012 20:58:41 +0000

So my parents are divorced, and my father is walking me down the aisle. We have no ushers, and we are already definitely short one groomsman, and will most likely be short 2 because one is expecting a baby right before our wedding. So we have 7 BMs and (probably) 5 GM. WHO should escort my mom down the aisle?!?! The venue coordinator mentioned having one of the GMs double back - escort my mom and then come back for a BM but I feel like that is kind of weird. Thanks!!

civil ceremony

nektariaf — Wed, 09 May 2012 04:13:22 +0000

Has anyone done a civil ceremony? What can I expect? Did you feel upset/regret you weren't having a big wedding? Did you have your families attend ? What did you do after the ceremony to celebrate (if family was present or what you two did alone?) Afterwards we would like to have a romantic evening at a nice hotel where we will have dinner, champagne and soak in the tub!

Background
I'm going to have a civil ceremony in July. We simply can't afford a big wedding or even a smallish one for that matter. It is time sensitive that we get married this summer, as I am on a student visa, and we would like for me to be able to work and start my life here in the U.S. Originally, we were planning a bigger wedding. I even got my beautiful wedding dress. Unfortunately, some financial issues came up in the last few months and we have had to change our plans. I just feel a loss from the idea of not getting to wear my big fancy dress... Is it appropriate to wear for a civil ceremony? Did you wear a less formal dress? Did you have another big wedding later?
Also, how did you deal with the family ?

My family seems to be more understanding that we have to have a civil ceremony. His family is offering to pay for the wedding , but a simple one , under one condition: if we have it where they live. My mother isn't able to afford a plane ticket to get to where they live, and also that wedding would probably not be my style. I could pay for her plane ticket , but then I'm sure none of my friends would travel that far for a wedding that is supposed to take place is 2 months! ahhh I'm overwhelmed I feel like I keep going in circles. Part of me wants to have a civil ceremony to get it out of the way (I know, it sounds bad, but my fiance feels the same way!) and the other part is intrigued by his family's offer.

XP: For those who care about programs

meg65 — Wed, 09 May 2012 18:08:59 +0000

Would you prefer a program with names of people (BP, parents, Rev) or with the ceremony breakdown, if it was just a regular ceremony with no readings or prayers or anything? Is there a way to combine them?
The programs we want are one-sided (well, monogram/date on one side, info on the other) and while I know most people don't really care about programs, I wanted to get some feedback anyway. We aren't having a complicated ceremony by any means, but do people want to know the names of songs or the names of people?

What songs are you using for your ceremony?

rkw0717 — Wed, 09 May 2012 14:11:34 +0000

I'm still trying to get some ideas and would love to hear what all you are planning on having played at your weddings. I've been tossing around the idea of having my wedding party and myself walk out to "Marry Me" by Train and leaving to "You Make My Dreams Come Treu" by Hall & Oates.

What songs will you be using?

need to decide !!!!! help for ceremony site

shinsso — Tue, 08 May 2012 21:40:58 +0000

i booked the site thanks~ :)

Blue Orchids (cost?)

beautifulvice — Mon, 07 May 2012 16:35:26 +0000

I think I've finally found 'the' flower that's completely won me over: blue orchids. I was curious if anyone had any general idea of how much they ran in bouquets (our colors are kelly green/navy blue and I figured some sort of white flower and a greenish flower would tie everything in and give that extra special splash of purple). Does anyone know if I'm looking at a flower that's on the ridiculously high end of the spectrum? Something in between?

I'm a bit far out from our wedding date, so I'm not officially working with a florist yet (otherwise I'd just ask them for a quote). I just don't want to fall head over heels for a flower that's impossible to get/super expensive.

plastic wine bottle

harjess — Tue, 08 May 2012 13:54:17 +0000

I am trying to come up with an idea for a plastic wine bottle for my son to carry with fake rings. That will be in place of a pillow. Any ideas where I can find one or make one? I will prob post in DIY board too. Thought i would ask here too. :)

Need Help with Wedding Schedule

klboas — Wed, 09 May 2012 00:10:44 +0000

I need help determining how much time to allow for everything on the day of the wedding. I also have no idea when to start the wedding! I'm looking for either timeline samples or an estimate one how much time I should allow for everything we have planned.

Here are the details of what I need to fit in:
-5 bridesmaids, myself, both moms hair syling (2 stylsts done at my mom's house 3 2 miles from the church)
-pictures before the wedding (FI and I will be seeing each other before the wedding)
-ceremony should be about 30 min long
-receiving line
-photos on the way to the reception at a park (reception is 20 min away and we will have cocktail hour while we take photos -- I don't want to spend a ton of time on this, but want to allow enough time)
-dinner and speeches (4 speeches tops)
-dancing

We have the hall until midnight and we will probably start wrapping up around 11:30. I have no clue - I am always over or under estimating these things! Thanks!!

Marching song for my bridal party

shaunastirling — Mon, 07 May 2012 19:50:13 +0000

I'm having a garden wedding and cant decide on a song for my bridal party. Any recommendations?