Wedding Vows & Ceremony Discussions — The Knot Community

Toss Item

ElyseE25 — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 15:01:42 +0000

I wanted to have a toss item for when my FI and I walk back down the isle. It's on outdoor wedding so I needed something that wont hurt the environment if I leave it. Anyway I really would like to use lavendar buds, becuase their cheap and any left overs will smell really good. My only hesitation is the fact that they might be hard to get off of the groom and me espeically! Has anyone had something similar to this like rice and it was aweful because it got down your dress and in your eyes and mouth and hair!

Any advice would be great!

junebabymia — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 22:38:18 +0000

ok, Im stuck now and i think my wording could be better Any advice would be great!

Today, my dreams come true. Today I marry the love of my life.

I fell in love with you at 15 when I didn’t even know what love really was.

Now 7 years later we have grown up together and have the most amazing baby girl.

I feel so blessed to call you my husband and the loving father of our daughter.

Today I promise to always push you toward your dreams

To be a best friend, loving wife, and caring mother to our children.

I promise to always be honest and faithful to you

I promise to laugh with you and at you when necessary

Ceremony/Bridal Song

sassystacie15 — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 19:17:55 +0000

I hate the bridal march and want to walk down to a song that maybe more personal for my fiance and myself. . . I was thinking of recording my version of Some People by Leanne Rhymes, although I love her version of the song my finace loves to hear me sing it the way I enjoy it, I have 5 bridesmaids and I fear that the song wouldn't be long enough for all my girls to make it to the alter and still have time for me... Does anyone have any other song suggestions besides the typical ones??

having trouble finding wedding venue!

JoV0711 — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 19:00:30 +0000

I really like the wedding chapel from Disney..that would be the ideal locatin for my ceremony but they have so many rules and regulations that most of my other ideas would not fit in with their contract. Does anyone know of any other venues in the Orlando area that would resemble the atmosphere of the wedding chapel? Castle in the background not required of course.

Programs

harjess — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 17:23:00 +0000

I am lost someone help me... Do I need one if we are doing a 40 guest list? What is on the program how to do the order. Thanks so much

Help! Meeting with officiant, what questions should I ask?

rgomez27941 — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 17:03:38 +0000

So my fiance is going to have lunch with our officiant today. We are having a total traditional christian ceremony. The officiant is a pastor at a church and my fiance grew up with him. My fiance is pretty aloof to the wedding planning details though. What questions should he ask our officiant today while they are meeting? Thanks!!!

Church Exit Strategy

Rachel405 — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 17:00:25 +0000

Haha, the title of this post is ridiculous.

Having a hard time deciding how to do the exiting of the church/throwing rice or blowing bubbles or whatever/receiving line/conundrum.

Option A: As soon as we exit the sanctuary of the church, go in one of the church's rooms and "hide" until all the guests leave, then take our pictures and go straight to reception

Option B: Do receiving line after exiting the sanctuary, then do pictures, then go to reception (This will take way longer)

Option C: Exit the sanctuary, go hide in the room, have church wedding coordinator pass out bubbles and line up outside the front door of the church, leave the church in the middle of all our guests and have that photo op of us coming out and having bubbles everywhere, then take pictures outside and go to reception

Option D: ????? I can't decide how to logistically plan this...

What did you do??
My problem is: I want that picture of us holding hands leaving the church with all our guests around us, but I don't want to miss a ton of the reception, and I'm not doing a "first look". Any suggestions appreciated!!

Need a tie breaker

Dayna217 — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 15:07:56 +0000

FI and I were trying to figure out what we are going to walk out to after were offically married. For the entrance we are using 3 songs by the Vitamin String Quartet.
I wanted to use something upbeat, like a pop song, really like Forever by chris brown or Rhythm of Love by plain white T's. However FI really hates them. So we are compromising...
FI wants to stay tradional and stick with a Vitamin String Quartet song...so to apease my Darling FI (because lets face it I have decided on everything thus far)

So to my question...we lookd at some song last night and we have it narrowed down to a these few..Tell me what you guys think?

Don't Stop Believing
Any way you want it http://www.vitaminstringquartet.com/v2/ecom4/index.php/journey.html
Clocks (coldplay) http://www.vitaminstringquartet.com/v2/ecom4/index.php/coldplay.html
Your my best friend (Queen) http://www.vitaminstringquartet.com/v2/ecom4/index.php/music/wedding/gay-wedding-collection.html

Order

vlwayne — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 13:42:35 +0000

What order does everyone walk down the isle in for pro ans recessional? Also when do you cut the cake, and have the first dance?

Evening wedding timeline??

grasshopper026 — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 21:26:15 +0000

Hi, I'm planning an evening rooftop ceremony just before sunset (7:30 pm) immediately followed by a cocktail reception with appetizers, dessert station, champagne toast, DJ/dancing, cake. I would love help with my timeline. What time frame is too short and what is too long. We plan to have the majority of posed pics take place prior, so that the hors d'oevre reception can immediately follow the ceremony instead of holding a cocktail hour followed by dinner (do to budget). We plan to have plenty to be clear on our invites so that peoople know not to expect dinner. We will have plenty of appetizers though. Any suggestions on time line and what to do to ensure that people stay and dance and celebrate? Is 3 hours too long? to short?

Thank you!!

Small vs large HELP! (Long)

eholo4688 — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 18:07:24 +0000

My fiance and I would like a very small intimate wedding. There are several reasons. Most importantly my fiancee has a stutter, and feels extremely uncomfortable saying his vow in front of a large group. Exchanging those words is most important to me, that is what the day is for. It also seems silly to me that after years of us being together, there are people on the list that our significant other would be meeting for the first time. I don't feel that is appropriate for my wedding,and an intimate affair would better suit us. I also feel that as the list grows longer our stress and anxiety are also going to increase. For these reasons we wanted to invite just our immediate family, godparents and grandparents.

However, my parents who are paying the bill want to invite the whole family, including cousins. They have left me with an all or none decision (believe me I have tried everything to compromise). Now it stands that We have to invite everyone or no one. These are my options as I see them.

Cave in to a large ceremony and reception. This make the ceremony a meaningless show in my eyes, since we would not be exchanging vows. I hate to be the center of attention, and would be a ball of stress. I really do not even have any motivation to plan such an event and do not care about throwing a party.
Have just our immediate family (11 people) at a court house wedding and have a large party to follow. I am not even sure how to approach this situation and the ediqutte of having such a party. In addition, to being overwhelmed by the number. I am a little disappointed with having a courthouse wedding but what to do with only 11 people. However, I am willing to give up anything to have the vows.
Have a court house wedding with immediate family without a party. I like this idea, but I am afraid my family will be sorely disappointed. I think having a party just complicates things.

I never thought I would be so unexcited for my wedding. Any suggestions?

two diff worlds

serenity333lester — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 16:38:48 +0000

my hubby to be and i come from 2 diff worlds... how do i tastefully do both tradations and not leave either family out.. there is a luange barrier already...

Wedding Readings

iwish111 — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 15:54:42 +0000

I'm planning on doing one biblical reading but I'm really bookish and wanted to find little ways to incorporate that into the wedding without it being overwhelming since my fiance is not so into reading like I am..so I decided to incorporate some passages or lines from literature. I think reading a longer passage would be nice and then maybe using a shorter line on the program or something like that.

I read from all genres and started a list on my blog to see what other people thought but am looking for more suggestions...from any genre, any book..doesn't matter!

http://www.perpetualpageturner.com/2012/02/wedding-readings-from-literature.html

Song Help

ledbemk — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 03:48:22 +0000

We are having our friend's 9 year old son sing at our wedding. Any suggestions for a song?

sand ceremony....how to include our mothers???

missmayberry — Tue, 27 Mar 2012 20:16:07 +0000

i am doing a sand ceremony for my wedding, i love the idea that it can never be separated.... i really want to somehow incorporate our mothers into this part... any ideas? i know like with unity candles, the mothers light the two separate candles, and the couple then lights the unity candle, but i'm unsure of how to do this with the sand ceremony.... any suggestions? thanks!

DIY HEAVEN

Eryn&Kashif — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 16:32:36 +0000

I was online last niight FRANTICALLY looking for flower ideas that I could do myself and I stumbled upon a site that showed you how to make your own pomanders. When I tell you I wanted to scream with excitement, but then I realized must sleeping baby and husband would NOT appreciate that very much, lol... Anyway, I have decided to replicate these beauties as the aisle markers for our ceremony as well as making some for the flower girls to carry! Effective, inexpensive option to replace flowers and pretty! Pics coming soon...

http://www.thehouseofsmiths.com/2010/02/hanging-roses-i-was-browsing-blogs.html

Songs for precessional and recessional

Ginabean42712 — Sun, 01 Apr 2012 01:52:30 +0000

Hi just curious what everyone is using for their precessional and recessional.

I was thinking of walking down to "Come Away With Me" by Nora Jones

And we were thinking of walking back down to "holiday Road" by Lindsey Buckinghan

all in one dj photography videography service

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how to word this for my guests?

missmayberry — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 19:06:55 +0000

instead of a traditional guest book, my fiance and i have decided to cut squares of quilting fabric and have our guests write us notes or sign their names on those, then my mother and i are going to make it into a quilt for a keepsake for us. my dilemma is this: i don't know how to word the little sign on the "guest quilt" table so that they know what to do.... i keep hitting dead ends.... any suggestions? TIA for any ideas!

XP: Questions on ring exchange vows during ceremony

Ginabean42712 — Sun, 01 Apr 2012 01:43:52 +0000

We just recieved the lay out of our ceremony from our officiant, and I have a question.

My fiance has had problems with studdering his whole life. He controls it pretty well now, but when he's nervous it comes out and he can't control it. We know this will be a problem when we are standing up in front of everyone saying our ring exchange vows, because he will be nervous and knows he will start studdering. I was just wondering if anyones knows of another alternative to saying these ring vows. Maybe we can just skip them? Or maybe have our officiant say something as we are putting the rings on each other? I am also going to email my officiant about this, but wanted to see if anyone on here had any suggestions about this.

Thanks!

Update: How to Not Cry

ceh789 — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 16:42:52 +0000

So I had been thinking a lot about the thread we had on here a few weeks ago about crying and I think I've found a reasonably good conditioning technique.

I picked my processional and recessional songs last week and this week... all week - I've had them on my ipod on repeat ... just those 2 songs. I can now successfully listen to both without full-on crying. I'm still all glee-filled and a little teary when I think about listening to them in the context of the ceremony but I'm not crying any more :D

In other news - my office thinks I'm a little bit crazy now... although that might not be new ;)

Upbeat Recessional

cwill6212 — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 19:11:42 +0000

I am in search of a fun, upbeat recessional. Our wedding is outdoors and most of the music we have picked is classy, elegant and intimate. After the "I Do" I want to cut loose and let people know the celebration is starting! Would prefer newer music over old school but open to any suggestions!

Thanks :)

program template for catholic wedding

ngentile86 — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 20:42:57 +0000

Hey girls ive been looking for hours trying to find a template, can anyone send me one or know where I can get one?? Thanks girls
ngentile86@ hotmail.com

Purple and Gray paired with burlap and naturals?

[Deleted User] — Sun, 25 Mar 2012 02:15:16 +0000

My fiance and I have been struggling to decide on wedding colors. I think we finally decided on purple and gray...but we are also very interested in using burlap/naturals for decorations. Would this combination work?

Roles for kids in ceremony??

mdr619 — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 22:11:40 +0000

Help! I'm a nanny to three little girls (9, 6, 4) and of course they all want to be the flower girl. I think 3 flower girls might be extreme! I've promised them they will all be involved in the wedding somehow .... But now I'm tryin to figure out what roles I can give them. Any ideas??

Wedding Planner and Event Specialists

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Recessional

shanding4787 — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 19:47:06 +0000

We want to leave the church to an upbeat and fun song... any suggestions?

Ceremony timing

melnkl — Fri, 23 Mar 2012 00:30:02 +0000

I was just wondering what a normal time is for the ceremony to start. We're probably going to have a non-denominational ceremony with pictures after and then dinner and reception. What are typical start times for the ceremony? Thanks!

Opinions on our plans

fasteddie911 — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 21:40:17 +0000

Hi,
I was wondering if I could get some of your opinions on our plans. We haven't been to many weddings and aren't familiar with the rules and etiquette. We plan on having the official ceremony with immediate family a few weeks before the reception. The reception will be about 80 people, with cocktails, buffet and dancing.

1. We're inviting a lot of family/friends from far away, would it be a waste to have them only attend a reception?
2. Should we be surprised if people don't offer gifts for a reception-invite only?
3. We don't like attention, but would we regret not having a ceremony with reception? (the ceremony seems to "complete" the day)
4. For guests, does the ceremony really matter, or do most people look forward to the reception? (for me, the ceremony seemed kinda awkward or eventless, but it did seem to "complete" the whole day)
5. Should we have a photographer at the ceremony? On one hand it'll document the event, but we're iffy about the intimacy of the event with the photographer there as well as the distraction from the constant clicking.

What do you folks think?

Morning wedding timeline help

amottl13 — Tue, 27 Mar 2012 14:56:21 +0000

My FI and want to have a morning wedding with a cake reception to follow. We will be having a BBQ later in the afternoon for family and friends for some relaxation and hangout time (probably starting the grills up around 3). We were also thinking of having pictures before the wedding so we can mingle with our guests right away at the reception. What would be a good timeline? We were originally going to have a 10:30 ceremony but that would be putting the cake around lunchtime when everyone would be wanting something more. Any thoughts would be appreciated.