https://forums.theknot.com/ Sat, 04 Apr 2026 23:44:43 +0000 en Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum — The Knot Community https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/298918/destination-wedding-guestbook Wed, 11 Apr 2012 01:03:42 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum nikkisclafani 298918@/discussions
Thanks!]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/297577/doing-away-with-most-of-the-traditions Mon, 23 Apr 2012 17:58:58 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum Ashleigh828 297577@/discussions
Should I expect to hear comments from the guests about not doing all of these things? Or do you think it will go un-noticed??]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/298379/father-daughter-song Mon, 23 Apr 2012 20:49:34 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum kari133 298379@/discussions
Here the tradition is to dance a waltz but time changes things and Im pretty sure there are a lot of good songs out there to dance.  Please help.  Thanks ]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/297209/what-reception-songs-do-i-need Sun, 22 Apr 2012 21:55:56 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum mcwigg01 297209@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/298206/gift-for-parents Mon, 23 Apr 2012 01:02:00 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum fergie1566 298206@/discussions The grooms parents are still married but mine are divoreced.  No idea as to what to get them
]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/297160/im-curious-about-this-phenomenon Mon, 16 Apr 2012 21:33:26 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum fiufiu 297160@/discussions Price is often similar...
And why American girls, so afraid to stand out and select only the dresses very large companies?]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299235/wedding-dresss-fate-after-the-wedding Thu, 05 Apr 2012 12:51:59 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum BarMyers1111 299235@/discussions For all of the brides and wives out there, what did you do with your wedding dress? For anyone who sold their dress, was the decision eventually regretted? I have other momentos saved from the wedding day and it's not my nature to save something so large that I'll never wear and wouldn't expect my hypothetical children to want to wear. Any suggestions for other uses for the dress are welcome too. Thank you!]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/300148/need-an-idea-for-something-old Sat, 21 Apr 2012 23:00:53 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum catlinst 300148@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/297994/help-father-daughter-mother-son-combo-dance-song-ideas-please Wed, 18 Apr 2012 14:57:17 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum [Deleted User] 297994@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/298919/dollar-dance-help Fri, 20 Apr 2012 05:17:09 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum beckarussell 298919@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/298800/what-to-do Sat, 21 Apr 2012 13:38:32 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum soontobmrsg83 298800@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/298737/divorced-parents-meeting Fri, 20 Apr 2012 23:38:09 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum [Deleted User] 298737@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/298104/so-whats-your-opinion-about Fri, 20 Apr 2012 14:36:02 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum capricasiks 298104@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299180/first-dance-song-ideas Fri, 20 Apr 2012 11:22:12 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum KimB1022 299180@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299818/family-dance-with-our-kids Thu, 19 Apr 2012 21:09:33 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum [Deleted User] 299818@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/297936/2-bridal-showers Mon, 09 Apr 2012 18:09:44 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum expatmrs 297936@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299366/gift-opening-invite Fri, 06 Apr 2012 16:38:28 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum MissMegs2010 299366@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/297740/guest-book-placement Tue, 17 Apr 2012 18:03:17 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum Cma1245 297740@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299334/premarital-counceling-orange-county-ca Thu, 19 Apr 2012 19:21:04 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum crystalkiverson 299334@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299775/no-guest-book-any-ideas-other-than-wish-tree Thu, 19 Apr 2012 16:16:00 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum jackiea2m 299775@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/297965/thoughts-here Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:13:29 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum brookerich 297965@/discussions I need to pick everyone's brain for a second please :)

I'm not doing a tradidional "guest book" because well, I sort of relate them to the same books people sign at funerals (or maybe that is just a southern thing) either way.....

I do, however, want something for that day to look back at and reminisce, so I thought of two different alternatives.  First I thought of a serving platter that everyone signs and then we have baked and glazed so that we will be able to use it for many years to come. 

My other idea was to have a "advice for the couple" box where everyone writes a small bit of advice to us, signs their names and slips it into a box for us to read later.  I figure I could take all of these and make a scrapbook or something out of them later.  I had a friend who did this and some of the advice she got was really sweet and some really funny!

I ran these two ideas by my FI and he was like "why can't we do both?" so now I'm confused, and not sure what to do.  We are having a destination wedding which means anything we ship there we will have to ship back.

Should I just pick one, nix both ideas and don't do either or go with the FI and do both?  What do you guys think? 

Thanks in advance]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/297940/10th-wedding-anniversy-vow-renewal Wed, 18 Apr 2012 15:59:05 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum 71cudagirl 297940@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/298566/new-bride-here Wed, 18 Apr 2012 02:30:22 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum jenuine86 298566@/discussions Just wanted to introduce myself! ;) My name is Jen. My HUSBAND and I are were married this last January 5th (our 4 year anniversary) at the Seattle Municipal Courthouse. It was very intimate, just my father and two close friends.. we asked our photographer to photograph the ceremony (instead of doing engagement photos) and my cousin video taped the ceremony as well, which we will be playing during our September "wedding". We are really excited to celebrate with 60 of our nearest and dearest! We didn't get to say our personal vows in the courthouse, so we'll be reciting them at our September wedding. We thought it would be great to have them scripted onto a nice paper in which we'll sign (it will resemble a certificate) to frame or put in our memory book later. Time's running up, I get my dress back next week and I'm so excited!
How is everyone else doing?





]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299831/no-father-daughter-mother-son-dance-and-no-garter-bouquet-toss Thu, 05 Apr 2012 19:18:10 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum jCoakley 299831@/discussions After talking it over with my FI we decided not to do the father/daughter mother/son dance (his mom is not involved, my dad and I are not mushy) AND not to do the garter/bouquet toss (I think the garter toss is horrid, embarrassing and inappropriate to do in front of my whole family). Is this going to mess with the 'flow' of the wedding? I'm worried that the wedding guests will get bored or the reception won't flow right without both traditions.]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/297701/is-this-tacky-or-what Mon, 16 Apr 2012 20:20:11 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum Steve A Reno 297701@/discussions      In the wedding program under parents of the groom, my exwife has my name and then Tim & Nancy (Lastname).
   Tim is my sons step father but Nancy and Tim have been divorced for several years. Nancy has been living at Tim's house for the last couple of years after living apart for five years since their divorce.
  I think just the two biological parents should be listed in this situation.What do you think? 
  Question two: My ex says that she and Tim walk down the isle and that I walk behind them by myself, while my sweetheart of six years sits "IN HER Place".
  What is proper here?
Thanks, Steve ]]> https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/300253/chinese-red-envelopes Mon, 16 Apr 2012 04:33:29 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum lilshortgal 300253@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299791/welcome-basket-help Fri, 13 Apr 2012 22:42:19 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum LauraLarry 299791@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299797/skip-tradition Sun, 15 Apr 2012 21:21:52 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum [Deleted User] 299797@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299676/maid-of-honor Sat, 14 Apr 2012 19:05:24 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum balletluvr7 299676@/discussions https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/299500/last-name-situation Sat, 14 Apr 2012 21:54:53 +0000 Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum becky659 299500@/discussions I love his last name and don't particularly love my last name, but the independent lady in me is having a hard time taking his name because:
a) I hate that it's a possessive, paternal tradition
b) Our last name ends with my generation- my sister is planning on taking her future husband's name, my cousin took her husband's name and my other cousin (the only guy in the family) isn't planning on adopting children with his partner.

My first idea was to hyphenate both of our names, but then I remembered...

My FI's middle name is the same as my last name.
So he would be (names changed) Tucker Mitchell Mitchell-Park and I would be Becky Louise Mitchell-Park.
Or maybe he could just drop his middle name and just be Tucker Mitchell-Park?  I know he wouldn't be excited about losing his middle name, though.

OR, maybe we could just smash the two names together and do McPark? (which works out a little nicer without fake internet names ).

I don't want to have different last names because of legal, offspring, and family cohesion factors.

And, if anybody has done anything crazy with their names, how did you tell your family?  Everybody is assuming I'm taking his name, and his traditional family would be absolutely miffed (maybe offended too?) as to why we decided to do something different.]]>