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Honeymoon Registry

ashley82488 — Thu, 12 Sep 2013 18:30:09 +0000

Hello. I know that the Honeymoon Registries are the new thing. I like it especially because my fiance and I already live together and we already have everything that you would put on a Registry. Besides, I don't have the room in my tiny apartment to store the gifts. My question is, do you think it is tacky to ask for someone to put toward the Honeymoon on a Honeymood Registry?

Thanks!

When to register and dishes...

bribri21 — Sat, 07 Sep 2013 17:41:32 +0000

When would we need to register? Our wedding is Oct. 18, 2014 so we have awhile yet. It is super exciting to go to the store and look at things we would want in the future. I love kitchen stuff haha

Also, I was talking with my stepmom and wondering if there is a need to register for Fine China. She said many of her friends still have their Fine China in the same box from 20 years ago. I bought a really nice set of dishes at a church rummage sale for $5. Dinner and salad plates, bowls, cup and saucer 8 place settings. It would be like our everyday dishes. I like the design for the most part and would hate to get rid of it, it was such a deal!!! Just wondering other's thoughts

Home package delivery of gifts - ideas on how to increase security?

[Deleted User] — Sat, 07 Sep 2013 19:00:58 +0000

So this week was mine and my fiance's birthdays so his mother sent us a gift package with some cash, a couple small gifts, but more importantly, a photo album that she had spent a good amount of time putting together for us and had a few irreplaceable photographs in it. I was out of town and my fiance was at work, and while his mother specified that a signature was required upon delivery, somebody made off with the package after it was delivered mid-day. This was the first time something like this had ever happened to us, but now I'm very worried. With our wedding coming up in November and more people choosing to ship wedding gifts rather than bringing to the wedding, I'm concerned that security of our deliveries is compromised and I'm wondering if anybody has any ideas on how to address this issue. We don't live in a terrible neighborhood, but it isn't exactly a gated community either, so I suppose these things can happen time-to-time. I was thinking a sign directing the delivery person to bring to the backyard, but then wouldn't that just be giving directions to potential thieves as well? Might there be a tactful way of spreading the word that packages should be shipped to my office?

Thoughts on Groom's gift

koryn21 — Wed, 10 Jul 2013 17:33:55 +0000

For my soon to be husband I wanted to present him with a little something prior to the wedding. I was think of a handkerchief with

"Thank you for entrusting me with your forever.

Love always, koryn21

August 10, 2013"

Embroidered on it. I'm walking down the aisle to "Forever" by Ben Harper

Any thoughts?

New Website for Bed, Bath & Beyond!

AprilH81 — Tue, 20 Aug 2013 19:51:05 +0000

This website is much easier to use so far. I've hated their website forever. I still wish they had more ways to refine search terms (color, size, etc.) but this is a vast improvement.

Gift Ideas for Mother/Father of the Bride? :)

JMalettas — Tue, 30 Jul 2013 12:25:28 +0000

Good morning ladies!

Does anyone have a couple of nice ideas for sentimental gifts for the Mother & Father of the bride? Or is there anything that's sort of standard as far as gifts go? I'm kinda stuck with what to purchase! A variety of ideas would be great!

Thanks!

On the verge.....

ladifreakingda — Sat, 07 Sep 2013 01:39:21 +0000

My fiance and I are on a very tight budget and also the only ones funding our wedding. As life happens (mostly unlucky) we've are getting to the point of just eloping instead. We know with eloping many items you would have in a wedding (invitations, reception, etc.) but my fiance brought up a good question, do we still send out a gift registry?

What are your thoughts on "Hatch My House"

ponteje — Sun, 19 Aug 2012 04:50:33 +0000

Hi! I recently came across a wedding registry site that allows guests to contribute to the couple's first home. Now this is something that would work really well for my fiance and I because we have been living together for a few years now and don't really need "stuff". I wanted to see what you all thought about this...good idea? tacky?

Thanks!

Gift For A Travelling Bride

perfectisboring — Sun, 01 Sep 2013 16:13:17 +0000

Hi there,

I know there are lots of articles about wedding gift giving, but I feel like my situation is pretty unique. So, I thought I'd ask here.

A friend of mine is getting married in Iceland next week, and I'm meeting up with her before she leaves London. I really want to get her something thoughtful, but I can't really get her anything fragile like a bottle of wine or a photo frame (because it could break in their luggage), electrical (she won't be able to use it when she's goes back Canada) or for her home (they already live together).

I'm at a bit of a loss. Do you have any ideas?

Thanks!

Small wedding - small registry?

sarahtrg — Wed, 28 Aug 2013 14:55:15 +0000

I'm having a small wedding of approximately 50 people and I don't know how and if that should affect how much and what I register for. HELP!

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artroyoc — Sun, 25 Aug 2013 23:56:47 +0000

Deposit A Gift - Review!

uncomlygd2 — Sun, 06 May 2012 18:54:14 +0000

First let me start by saying I am not asking if I should ask for money or not, I already know how many feel about it. I am only asking if the site is legitimate? I have aleady spoken with many of my frineds and family and they think it is a great idea. If you don't that is your opinion and Im really not interested in hearing it. I'm not trying to be rude but I will do what I think is best for me and my groom and I just need to know if anyone has used the site and if it is in fact legitimate.

In advance Thanks to anyone who responds to this who has used the site and gives me useful info instead of insults and criticism.

Is there a polite way to say...

SP29 — Thu, 22 Aug 2013 01:19:41 +0000

My FI and I have created a registry with BBB.

At first we weren't so much into it, but was advised to go with a registry as there are guests who will bring a gift anyway, so best to get something that would be used (and who doesn't like completion discounts!). We do have friends who have openly said (regarding other friend's weddings) that they do not like to give cash, always gift.

No mention of the registry was made on/ with the invitation, but it is on our wedding website (under a separate tab).

The "issue" stems from the fact that my FI and I live away from our hometown, and we are having the wedding in our hometown, which requires us to fly. As I'm sure you know, there is no room for anything extra on a plane, so we cannot bring gifts back with us, should we get any.

What is good about BBB, is if gifts are ordered in store, shipping is free, but if ordered online, there will be a shipping fee.

Now, this really isn't about getting the gifts- I do not expect guests to give a gift, but knowing that some will, what I do care about is people having to spend extra money to ship us a gift.

I would like to politely word on our wedding website that if guests would like to give a gift, seeing that we cannot bring gifts on the plane, that they can get free shipping ordering through the store.

Is this appropriate to say?

What do you think of this bridesmaid gift idea?

acj928 — Wed, 28 Aug 2013 17:16:08 +0000

I've never been a bridesmaid so I don't really have what to compare for ideas for gifts for my 6 bridesmaids. My wedding is in NYC so things are pretty expensive. I am paying for the girls to have their hair and makeup done. I've picked out some necklaces I like that I would want them to wear with their bridesmaid dresses (they are pretty neutral and could go with anything, I'm sure they would wear it again). The necklaces I've found are about $65 each. I also found bracelets I like with an infinity symbol and I would customize for each girl's initial and birthstone to be a charm. It would be about $32 for each bracelet. That's close to $600 total (plus the cost of hair and makeup). In my opinion, that's really what I would like to spend. Would you be happy with these gifts?

Am I Being a Jerk?

TeriBeri06 — Mon, 26 Aug 2013 15:49:04 +0000

My FH and I had an engaement party in July, and we got a few gifts even though we didn't ask for them. They were very thoughtful and much appreciated especially since we didn't prompt them you know...But anyway my FH's cousin bought us a plaque that says "Keep Calm and Say I Do" its cute but I won't get much use out of it. My FH loves it and even called it art and I think I might have hurt his feelings when I said I wouldn't hang that in my livingroom..in fact I may have said the only place I would hang was a bathroom ...All of this came up because we where trying to decide what to get a friend of ours who just got marriedand he wanted to buy them something unique and I wanted to do practical (and unique) but more practical anything. Honestly...what am I ever gonna do with this plaque? And he suggested that we give one to the newlyweds...And like I said his cousin didn't have to get us anything so I appreciate the gesture and it is cute, but it is by far my least favorite gift. We got several beautiful picture frames that we'll be able to use for years, but what are we gonna do with this plaque...Did I mention he called it art work?....Am I being a jerk about this?

Caution with Kohls

HLH&PAM — Thu, 08 Aug 2013 17:12:31 +0000

We have items (including a large patio umbrella) that show up as purchased on our wedding gift registry. After multiple calls to Kohls, we have given the gift up as lost. They have no way of tracking who bought items from our registry. So we have no idea, until someone actually asks about the gifts, who bought them. They could have been stolen, never delivered, returned, who knows. Kohls can not and will not do anything else for us.

Be cautious before choosing them as a registry option.

Can't decide on place settings... want Knottie input!

kyleandamanda426 — Wed, 28 Aug 2013 02:57:22 +0000

I'm having such a hard time picking our place settings. We already have plain white dishes, but I really want something with color. I don't really like Fiestaware, so I figure these are my choices.

Wrapping Suggestions?

spoiled1801 — Thu, 29 Aug 2013 22:30:07 +0000

As a gift for my bridesmaids I am treating them to a spa day. Does anyone have a creative way I can "wrap it up" to give as a gift to them at the rehearsal dinner? Any suggestions would be great as I can't come up with anything! Thanks in advance!!

Registry Coma

CookieD86 — Mon, 26 Aug 2013 03:41:31 +0000

Anyone else worn out after registering? It's totally fun don't get me wrong, but truly there's so many choices out there! for everything! My fiancé and I have gone together for a lot of stuff, and I've also been adding things here and there, so I have about 75% done. It's comical how much I all of a sudden care about what my everyday sugar bowl is going to look like! LOL

invitation wording for registries and gifts

FurtureMrsMJG — Tue, 20 Aug 2013 20:02:26 +0000

Hi All,

I am in the process of doing the wording for my invitations, RSVP's, accommodation cards, so on and so forth and I am struggling with what to do for the registry/gift wording. I know usually you put something along the lines of "the bride and groom are registered at ..." My fiancé and I have a very small registry at bed bath and beyond for upgrades for things that we already have. We have been together for 6 years and live together for 5 of that six. He owns our house, and I promise I am not trying to sound cocky when I say this but, we have everything that we want/need for the most part. We are the type of people that go on random shopping trips and purchase items we have been wanting or needing after saving up some money. We honestly would like do improvements to our 7 year old house rather than receive gifts that we aren't sure where to store We have been talking about finishing remodeling our kitchen with new counter tops, fixtures, and appliances, and also putting in hard wood floor in our living room/hallway/stairway. I am looking for a way to put this in words. Please in no way think that I am unappreciative for a thoughtful gift from a family member or friend but this is what we would really like as a new couple, is to upgrade the home we planning on living in for years to come.

Any tips or thoughts?

Thanks,

Meaghan

Gift for Engagement Party?

stokesm21 — Wed, 21 Aug 2013 16:26:45 +0000

My cousin is having an engagement party in about 2 weeks, 1 year before her wedding. I was a little put off to find gift registry cards in the invite. I have never heard of anyone actually implying to give gifts at an Engagement Party. Anyone know the etiquette on this sort of thing? :S

BB&B Registry note cards?

heidirs731 — Mon, 12 Aug 2013 16:09:42 +0000

I recently registered at BB&B, and today I got these little cards in the mail that have a line to put the registrants' names and another line for the number of the registry. There's instructions at the bottom on how to purchase a gift.

I did not order these. They just showed up in the mail. What are they and what am I supposed to do with them?

Password protect our website?

junctionmeg — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 23:54:02 +0000

Hi everyone,

What is the consensus/etiquette around password protecting your wedding website? On the one hand I don't want to broadcast the details for anyone with an internet connection, but on the other hand I worry about it seeming pretentious, etc to think I'm that big a deal :D

Would love people's thoughts...

Best gift (unexpected or off your registry)?

dem068 — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 19:37:34 +0000

What was the best/most useful/most interesting thing you have gotten as a gift? Either something off your registry or a gift you didn't ask for? I am trying to spark my creativity and think about some more things to add to our registry that are not the usual things (we registered for those also)

Writing thank you notes for gifts that came from the wrong registry

NavyWife777 — Tue, 20 Aug 2013 22:20:02 +0000

The giver looked up my FH's name and proceeded to not check the rest of the information (like my name, the city and the state), and therefore she chose the wrong registry and since no one wanted to tell her she screwed up we had a bunch of stuff that had to go back (I also have to figure out a way to get it back on the other bride's registry but that's another bitch session). Any suggestions on how to word the thank you note for this epic fail? Every way that I put onto paper screams "Hey your gifts suck but I can't tell you that."

Pottery Barn - Schott Zwiesel

emeejeeayen — Sun, 23 Jun 2013 13:52:17 +0000

Has anyone used the schott zwiesel stemware sold at Pottery Barn? Wondering if it's worthwhile or if I should use the similar stemware that gets great reviews on Williams-Sonoma.com since PB has no reviews.

Thanks!

Registry Help

mfarfan2126 — Tue, 13 Aug 2013 23:55:53 +0000

Sooo our wedding started out at 80 people. I went and registered at BB and B, Macys and did a honeymoon registry. The invite list is now 140. Do i need to add to the registry? My fiance wanted me to put less things on the registry so we can get more cash gifts. I told him people are gonna give whatever theyre gonna give. I dont have 140 things listed at all. i may have 70 if that. About how many things should I have. And i'm not even sure what i would add. Halp!!!!

Bed Bath and Beyond registry completion

[Deleted User] — Wed, 24 Jul 2013 19:26:08 +0000

We have the 10% completion certificate from Bed Bath and Beyond, which we plan on using soon. Since the wedding, I have received three Bed Bath and Bayond coupns in the mail for 20%. The coupons say limit one coupon per item. Would I be able to use these along with the 10% completion? I plan on asking when we go, but I figured I could see if any other brides tried first.

This might be a stupid question...

dancinxqueen324 — Thu, 08 Aug 2013 23:42:16 +0000

If you give your parents an album as a thank you gift, when do you give it to them? The rehearsal dinner seems like the logical time, but do you give them an empty album and let them know you plan to fill it? Do you take it and give it back after you get the photos printed? Do you just give them a card explaining they're getting an album later? I feel like the answer will be a huge "duh" moment, but for some reason it's not clicking for me. Thanks! :-)

This Is Ridiculous!

kahaywa — Fri, 09 Aug 2013 08:59:07 +0000

We're about 11 months out and already have a lot of people asking us where we're registered! First of all, I feel very awkward with the whole "this is a list of stuff we want" thing (I'm the kind of person who doesn't even celebrate my birthday), and second it seems waaayyyyyy too early. On top of all that, we have been told by several people that when setting up the registry, aim for 2-3 things per person attending so gift-givers will have more options to choose from. With the way our families work, we are expecting 300+ guests, so unless we list individual towels I have no idea how that is even reasonable. Any ideas on how to make this more manageable?