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Macy's Dream Fund?

kamilovich — Sat, 16 Mar 2013 22:30:28 +0000

My FI and I finally got ourselves in gear, and started our Macy's registry today! Yay! While we were setting it up the registry consultant explained the Macy's Dream Fund to us. From what I understood, this is a sort of store gift card that a couple registers for, and wedding guests can put money on it for them, instead of buying a physical gift from the store or giving cash/check/gift card in a card. My FI thinks this is a fantastic idea, but I'm more than a little wary. To me, this seems very much like asking for cash outright, which is definitely tacky. I've always felt awkward about doing that, and learned it hands down from lurking here. I'd love to hear other opinions on it, as well. I've been the one in charge of making sure our wedding follows ettiquete, because he's all for a honeymoon registry and a wedding party only head table and such things. I don't want to be rude to our guests. Thus far I've been able to convince him on our other disagreements, but he seems to think that since the consultant suggested it, it would be alright. I'm not buying that, although she didn't tell me to put the inserts into our wedding invitations, so she was doing quite well. Anyway. My instincts are telling me no Dream Fund, but I'd love to hear other people's oppinions! ETA: My phone decided that instead should be autocorrected to undress. Cool, phone. Fixed.

No house yet. What to register for?

JD71114 — Wed, 27 Mar 2013 17:15:19 +0000

Hello everyone!

I am newly engaged and having my wedding in July 2014. My fiance and I have not bought a house yet and are having difficulty deciding what to register for while we don't know what kind of space we will be moving into. Any suggestions?

Macy's Dream Fund?

Ro041 — Tue, 26 Mar 2013 20:47:12 +0000

Does anyone know what it is? Will it come off as a cash grab? Our registry consultant added one onto our registry, but I want to be sure that we should keep it on there. Any help would be appreciated!

Delete my china?

nycrose2013 — Tue, 19 Mar 2013 18:45:19 +0000

My shower is in about 2 weeks. I had a great time registering but I was hung up the whole time over my china. I felt like it was a little too expensive, but I absolutely fell in love with it and couldn't find anything to compare it to. After talking with my mom and family, I realized that if people thought it was too expensive for them, they simply wouldn't buy it and that would be that. So I registered for it, and I still feel a little guilty over it.

Fast forward to now, and someone bought our set of accent plates, but not a single place setting or serving piece. I think the price might be driving people off. I am wondering if I should just delete the pattern from our registry and be happy with our everyday china? Our everyday china is simple, but it is high quality from Williams Sonoma, and I could always dress it up with table decorations and accessories when I need to. I just feel like, at this point, it seems like no one is going to buy it, and there is almost no chance of getting even close to the entire set. So I think I should just delete it, and the person who would have bought a place setting can direct their money elsewhere on the registry? We willl have to return the accent plates anyway if no one buys any of the settings.

I just dont know. l love it, but can live without it. I also think we have more necessities on there that haven't been bought yet either, so it might be a good idea to steer people towards those instead of the china by deleting the china? I have no clue. help!

How to let people buy gifts from places other than where you registered.

gihoward3 — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 13:06:05 +0000

I plan to register for online and in-store locations for gifts, however, I do not care if the gift came from that location. If they can find the gift cheaper in their area, I'm ok with them buying it there. For example, I want a cast iron skillet, but my family members may not feel comfotable buying off Amzon or may not live near a Khols or Macy's.

Is there a way to say this or setup a registery where people can mark off what they bought without buying through any of our specific registeries?

Help!! Shower gift thank you's

alison cunningham — Mon, 25 Mar 2013 04:39:20 +0000

Yesterday I had my first and only bridal shower and got quite a few gifts (as you can imagine) but there is one thing I'm not sure about.

For the thank-you cards, do I just sign my name or do I sign my fiance's name also? Does that change if the card was written to both of us?

I don't want to offend anyone but I do want to be etiquette appropriate.

PLEASE HELP!!!

No registry

ginagina48 — Mon, 18 Mar 2013 23:12:06 +0000

My fiance and I are not a young first time married couple. We have basically everything we need in terms of items on a gift registry. We do not actually want to have a registry and would rather have monetary gifts in lieu of toasters, towels, and tableware. Is this an inappropriate request and if not how do you word such a request?

XP: Registry Completion?

[Deleted User] — Thu, 14 Mar 2013 23:24:52 +0000

So, I got my first "shower" gift today--a gift card to one of the stores I'm registered at.

I'm going to get the thank you card out right away, and I know normally, we say "thanks for the gift card! I'm going to use it to buy ____ for ____."

HOWEVER, I sort of want to wait until after the date, because of registry completion discounts. What should I say?

ALSO, SIDE NOTE: What IS Kohl's Completion Discount? Here is the link, but it's a little confusing.

Also, Target's? Macy's? Those are my other two. Just wondered if any of you guys used them and used the discounts successfully. Like. Do I have to wait until after the wedding?

Cookware suggestions?

jsurmacy — Tue, 19 Mar 2013 17:00:36 +0000

Fiance is the cook and he prefers stainless pots and nonstick pans. I am thinking we should register for a set of stainless cookware and then put a couple individual nonstick pans on the regisry. Any suggestions/reccomendations on what to register for or what to stay away from? We do not want something extremely expensive, our guests will appalled if we register for 500 dollar cookware.. but I do not want something that I will have to replace in 6 months either. We are registered at Macys and are considering Target and Bed, Bath and Beyond too.

Thanks in advance!

Timeframe on not adding anymore items to registry

teachmegs1 — Wed, 20 Mar 2013 17:08:48 +0000

We registered at the end of January for my March 30th shower. (Shower is earlier than usual due to traveling BMs from OOT for Easter weekend) We didn't find a decent china pattern we liked when we originally registered, but the other day I found a nice Lenox set. I added some place settings and a few serving items to the registry. I wasn't really thinking about the possibility of that not being okay until after I got done at the store and walked out thinking; "Was that proper of me to do?"

Did any of you ladies find yourself adding gifts to your registry either before or after the shower?

I don't plan on going hectic here and every time I go to the store saying, "Oh, let's add that to the registry!" Just more curious as to if I'm feeling guilty for no reason. =/ Thanks!

When to register?

bopple321 — Tue, 19 Mar 2013 22:23:38 +0000

When are you supposed to register? I haven't decided if I actually WILL register yet, but if I will, when should I do it? Honestly, I don't even know if I'm having a shower or anything so this might be a non-issue... just curious.

Bye, dishes! :(

JennaMichelle88 — Tue, 19 Mar 2013 14:33:58 +0000

The dishes we registered for at Crate & Barrel are being marked down so I'm thinking they're going out of stock in the near future (we knew that was a possibility with C&B so I've been keeping an eye on them). Really wish there was a non-tacky way to let people know.

Oh well. They're just simple, plain white dishes. I'm sure there will be something similar coming in soon.

First presents - from long-married couples :)

TheBaysideBride — Mon, 18 Mar 2013 19:51:26 +0000

we came home after a long, long flight (three, to be exact) to find two big boxes for us - our first wedding presents! interestingly, they came from two older couples, who are still very much in love. I thought it was really sweet that they were excited enough when they got the save the dates (which just went out last week) that they took the time to visit our wedding website, look at the registries and send gifts already. Wine glasses and a paella dish -- with very cute notes about how we'll enjoy them together.

I hope in 30 years FI and I are doing the same for some younger couples!!

Groom's gift-cufflinks

[Deleted User] — Sun, 17 Mar 2013 04:45:05 +0000

Where can I find a nice pair of cufflinks for my groom-to-be as a wedding gift?

In a Registering Funk...

fperez7542 — Mon, 18 Mar 2013 14:03:04 +0000

I created two registries, one at Target and one at Macy's. The target one has one item and Macy's probably about ten. I keep saying I have to go in and register for more things but I either don't have time or I just don't like or need anything else. We have lived together for 6 years, lived in our condo and late last year purchased our home. So we have a lot of stuff already.

How small is too small? I don't want people to think wrong that its so small, but in reality there isn't much we need. We want to do some home improvements but even that is just a few things.

How many to have

GardenMaven — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 07:47:55 +0000

FI and I have narrowed down the locations where we would like to register. However, the dishes we like are not widely available from many places. They have them at Macy's and BBB, but we did not want to registry with Macy's. The issue with BBB is that they don't have all the choices online. We haven't gone into the store to talk to anyone, but I would assume if I can't see it on the website, then it is not available to add to a registry.

Another option would be to do the dishes directly from the manufacturer. They have a registry feature on their site. My mom is convinced that if we do that then we have to get rid of one of our other choices for registries. Right now it is Target, BBB and Amazon. I am not sure if 4 would be too many or not. I guess I figured it would be ok since one is dishes only. Most weddings I have gone too only have three.

I am also trying to figure out how many items to register for. Or at least what the minimum should be. Two showers are planned and we have a guest list of 178 for the wedding. (77 families, couples and singles that get their own invite.) I am not sure why this is proving so difficult for me, but it is! Thoughts appreciated!

Too early for a bridal shower?

Lilshell812 — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 16:46:51 +0000

Hi all,

I'm getting married in September 2013 so I was planning on sending my STDs this month (6 months prior). My sister just told me the invites for the bridal shower will be going out by late March/early April, which makes me thing the shower is in May.

I figured the shower would be in July/August but I know early summer is a busy time for her at work. Is May generally too early to have a shower for a Sept wedding? I don't want to complain to her about this if it's a non-issue...so I figured I'd ask.

It just feels strange to me that the STDs and bridal shower invites would go out so closely together. Thoughts?

vieuxtemps in charleston, sc- gift registry location

NICOLEMCLYNN — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 15:09:34 +0000

I wanted to give you all a forewarning about Vieuxtemps in charleston, SC just in case you are registering there. My wedding was over 5 months ago and I still haven't received my china. Had the stores manager set my expectations that it would take over half a year to receive my order, I wouldn't have been so upset. The worst part is that I received wrapped cards that said what I had been gifted and by who. There were absolutely no instructions that I had to call into the store and then select which items I wanted. Shipping wasn't included so it turns out Iwont even get all of the items I was gifted by my wedding guests, if I do ever receive them at all!!! I feel like the owner was trying to let this slip through the cracks as if I wouldn't notice that I never received the thousands of dollars worth of gifts I was supposed to get. I have sent literally 27 emails, numerous phone calls and would not recommend anyone go through this store for their finer wedding items. you are probably safe if they have the items in stock at their charleston store, otherwise beware!!

Help me decide!

Sierra524 — Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:23:24 +0000

Help me decide between two casual dinnerware sets. I love them both.
Click on the name for the link

Rachel Ray paisley

Rachel Ray curly q

These will be used for everyday dining.

ETA: Thanks for the opinions! We are going with the paisley ones.

Another acceptable gift post

footballwife77 — Tue, 12 Mar 2013 20:31:29 +0000

I'm friends with this guy on fb that I grew up with way back when. After I moved out of the neighborhood we lost touch. He found me on fb we're buddies and his fiance friended me. I haven't talked to this guy in maybe 20-25 years. I'm assuming they didn't send out regular invitations to their wedding, I received an "event" invitation on fb. They have 3 kids together and 1 on the way. They're having a small ceremony at courthouse and then reception at their apt. They're not registered anywhere. I'm planning on showing up for maybe 15 minutes to give my congratulations. What would be a respectable gift? I don't want to seem cheap, but I barely know these people. Would $20 in a card be okay?

wedding shower ideas for family/friends from out of town

jena23az — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:34:22 +0000

My fiance and I live in AZ, most of family/friends are in Chicago area. His sisters want to throw us a shower in Chicago, to make it easier and people dont have to travel twice within months of the wedding. That gets really costly with airfare now-a-days. One problem with going there is how to get the gifts home? Shipping would cost an arm and a leg! So I am looking for ideas on how to do a shower from a far. Has anyone heard of online wedding showers? Or any other ideas???? Thanks!!

thoughts?

triciaholden1987 — Fri, 15 Mar 2013 14:38:02 +0000

http://www.today.com/style/registries-gone-wild-couples-ask-cars-toilets-1C8886083

Unable to link my registry

Knottie_22383884 — Wed, 13 Mar 2013 00:54:57 +0000

For some reason I was able to link my Macy's registry to the knot and giftregistry360 but I am not able to link my target registry to the list. Please advise!

Registering locally but living abroad

tonksandlupin — Thu, 14 Mar 2013 19:46:34 +0000

Hi ladies. I have a pretty unusual situation that makes registering complicated. My wedding will be in my native state of Alabama, but my FI and I will be living in Italy (he's Italian). I wasn't going to register because of the hassle of shipping stuff to Italy, but a lot of folks kind of pushed it so I did a local registry at a big box store for stuff that can be easily shipped and then an online registry with only items that the seller ships to Italy for a reasonable cost.

There still isn't much in either the registry though, because the household items we really need are too heavy/expensive to ship.

Honestly cash would be the best option, but I feel it's super rude to ask for cash or gift cards, so there's no way I'm doing that. My family will be gently explaining the situation when people ask what to get us, so hopefully that will lead some guests in the right direction.

I was wondering what to put on my wedding website to hint that, while we absolutely appreciate anything we're given, big bulky items just won't make it back to Italy. Any suggestions? Do you think people will see the small registry and get the hint that we really just need cash?

Gift etiquette

Knottie_22382251 — Thu, 14 Mar 2013 06:12:29 +0000

This is more out of curiosity than anything else...but I've been reading a lot of posts on here where people think it is rude to ask for money or contributions to honeymoon. I'm not sure i understand how it is any different than registering? If you are registering you are asking for particular gifts, just as someone who is requesting money. I decided not to register or indicate to people i wanted money because I just didn't feel comfortable with the idea of suggesting to people what they should gift us. Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to call everyone who registers rude I appreciate registries when I'm shopping for someone's gift but can someone explain why suggesting, say, a particular cookset as a gift is acceptable, but suggesting cash or a gift card is, hands down, a big nono. I know a couple of our guests were frustrated we didnt register, but i just couldn't wrap my head around the idea of suggesting gifts for people to buy me, cash or otherwise. Just trying to understand don't hate :

Help with Honeymoon registry wording

laurabean812 — Wed, 13 Mar 2013 21:44:40 +0000

I no longer need help. NOT doing this. Thanks.

Other couple had gift cards listed in the registry section of their website...

hgminor — Tue, 12 Mar 2013 19:21:47 +0000

Is this rude?

Nowhere on invitations or save the dates did it name registries (which I've already read is quite the faux pas), but on their website it has the links to stores they are registered for, as well as a list of other stores' gift cards that they would appreciate...

Is this an equal infraction?

Best bridal party gifts

nicolep113 — Wed, 13 Mar 2013 03:40:03 +0000

Gift from the MOB to the Groom

momofems — Tue, 12 Mar 2013 21:07:47 +0000

I see alot about the MOG giving a gift to the bride, but does the MOB give a gift to the groom also? I think I would like to but I'm having trouble coming up with any good ideas. Whether it's from me or my husband and I, it would be a nice way to say "welcome to the family" officially.

Also, any ideas on a gift that the MOB can give to the MOG? Just to say thanks for raising your son to be the man of my daughter's dreams?

What to register for?!?

mlurness — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 20:34:59 +0000

My hubby to be and I are late 20's/early 30's and have what we need for our house (that we bought two years ago), anything that we dont' have, we buy. I wish we could say that we should upgrade our things, but our furniture is newer, we own a dyson, brand new stainless applicance... We originally thought we would do the Honeymoon registry thing, but after reading many comments on the boards, I guess it's not the greatest idea. Soooo what do we register for?