Registry and Gift Forum — The Knot Community

What did you register for that is most useful?

CallaLily25 — Sun, 30 Dec 2012 16:53:57 +0000

My three aunts and grandparents bought me William Sonoma gift cards for our engagement gifts so that I could buy whatever we needed. I haven't used them yet, but would like to use them soon (lots of sales going on).

Any ideas of something really useful to purchase? We don't plan on using what we buy until we're married, but I'd like to pick something out that is practical, useful, etc. I know my aunts and grandparents will soon ask me what I bought with the card, and I'd like to be able to tell them we used it for something really practical.

Any favorite registry items of yours? Thank you! :)

How come I can't add my registry to The Knot?

ErinJ7583 — Mon, 10 Jan 2011 01:55:58 +0000

Hey Everyone,

I'm new to this board- my fiance and I just registered at Bed Bath and Beyond...well..not just...we did actually about 2 months ago and the registry is visible through the BBB web site but when I try to add it through The Knot it does not come up? Does anyone know why? Is it a privacy setting that I don't know I have activated?

Thanks in advance for any help!

-Erin

Question about registering for china

danielm18 — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 08:35:04 +0000

I found a pattern I love, and I think it's a fairly timeless piece that I will keep and probably display. I'm wondering, should I register for the set or for individual pieces? I honestly connot think of a reason I would need those tiny cups and saucers. Is it appropriate to register for just plates? Or should I go ahead and just register for the sets?

Is it wrong to register with no bridal shower?

ErinElizabethR — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 02:47:18 +0000

Here is my dilema, I live two hours away from my very tiny extended family and my cousin/MOH. I only have a MOH and my mom passed away in 2005, no siblings either. I don't think I'll have enough people come to a wedding shower where I live now or where my family lives to make it worth while having a party, maybe 1015 people. Is it rude to register for gifts even though nobody is throwing a party for me?

Crate and Barrel- normal?

bridalmarch — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 02:25:06 +0000

We registered for our March wedding at BBB and C&B in late October. We did the C&B online and saw something in store today we wanted to add to it. I went online to add it and almost the entire registry is no longer available online, no longer available at all, or in limited quantity. It wasn't seasonal or all sale items, either.

My shower isn't until the end of January. Should I hope for the best or try to find similar things to add to it? It's a few platters and things, but mostly kitchen linens, throws, pillows, and other decor.

How do I say cash please and not be tacky?

ahssabino — Tue, 25 Dec 2012 01:14:15 +0000

My fiancé and have all we need in regards to the house being set up and his mother is giving us our hunnymoon as her gift. What we would really like to do is set up a fund to build on to the house for a baby. How do we do that and not be tacky?

Good alternative to gift registry??

FutureMrsMortimer — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 03:39:12 +0000

My fiance and I live in the Bahamas, where he's from. I'm originally from Los Angeles, CA and our wedding will be in Napa, CA. We've been living together for two years and our house is fully set up (he's been living in it for almost 10 years), so we really don't need anything that is typically requested in a registry. We'd also like to avoid the cost and hassle of having to ship everything from CA to Nassau.

I've been thinking of registry alternatives. One thought was to request our guests to make a donation in our name to a charity of our choice. Another idea was to start a honeymoon fund. However, my fiance and I are financially stable and can afford to pay for our own honeymoon, so my question is twofold:

1)What's a good alternative to a gift registry?
2)Would it be inappropriate to ask our guests to contribute to our honeymoon fund, even though we can afford to pay for it ourselves?
Any help/suggestions are greatly appreciated! Thanks

Good Bride-to-Be Gift Website

kako14 — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 13:51:57 +0000

Hi, I used to be a knottie 5 years ago when I got married but I've forgotten most of the sites I used. My brother just got engaged and I want to get him and his fiance some fun and unique engagement gifts like the "soon to be mrs." shirts and other personalized things. Can you recommend some good sites?
Thanks in advance

3 Registries..?

vkayse137 — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 02:46:31 +0000

I'm thinking of Registering at Pottery Barn and Bed bath and beyond, and maybe Macy's. Is it okay to register at 3 different places or does it look too gift grabby? The only reason why I would be registering at Macy's is for the fine china and maybe some other nice crystal pieces. Should I just combine Macy's with BBB?

Do not register at Target!

kep2002 — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 16:22:13 +0000

Hi,

I got married 114 days ago according to theknot.com (thank you for remembering me!). This past weekend I tried to return a knife block I had gotten off my Target registry, because I received two of them.

Target would not accept the return for even store credit because it has been 90 days since it has been purchased. At their suggestion, I called Target to ask if I could return the item by mail. Customer service outsources you to India where the call center does not understand the concept of a wedding registry. They just said 'no, sorry' to everything I said and when I asked to be transferred to a manager, was hung up on.

Please do yourself a favor and register at a legitimate store like Macy's or Bed Bath and Beyond where they know how to treat registered customers. Your registry makes the company a good amount of money and you deserve to be treated better than Target treats their customers!!! Target's customer service center in India is a ploy to stonewall customers with complaints and gives the added bonus of paying their workers in rupees instead of dollars! If you're gonna go with this sleazy cheap option, might as well register at Walmart!!

Also, our registry is no longer available at Target.com for us to even look at. So if you believe in the '1 year' rule of wedding gifts to give your guests a little flexibility, there's one more reason to stay away from Target.

Wishing all you future brides a beautiful and seamless wedding experience :)

Need a creative way to ask for Home Improvement gift cards

dbockrath — Fri, 21 Dec 2012 14:37:54 +0000

Hello!
My fiancee and I are older (my first wedding, his second). We do not need alot since we just combined two households. We do need to upgrade the house though (paint, tear out the deck, water heater, etc). Is there a creative way to ask for home improvement gift cards or cash without seeming rude? Also, should I do a small gift registry as well? Any ideas and suggestions would be welcome! Thanks!

Honeymoon Registry

ashf614 — Fri, 21 Dec 2012 01:48:39 +0000

Hi everyone,

I'm sure this topic has been brought up in the past, but I'm a first time poster so please bare with me!

My fiance and I have lived together for 3 years and have owned our home for 1 year. We have a "fully stocked" home and have no need to register for items that we already have. What does everyone think about honeymoon registries? My fiance and parents both agree that it is a great idea, however my MIL was completely disgusted with me for even mentioning it. If people want to spend money on us, I'd rather see them spend money on something we actually need and can use, instead of spending money on items we already have.

What gifts did you get for your bridesmaids?

[Deleted User] — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 03:58:05 +0000

I am curious to hear what other brides have decided on giving to their maids :

Is it wrong to suggest gift cards to places?

quirkygrl16 — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:40:42 +0000

I'm putting together a wish list at Victoria's Secret for my shower...but I figured not everyone would want to get me that so I was thinking i'd suggest a gift card to bath &body works, or target, or something like that for them. Is that wrong to do???
EDIT:Apparently it IS wrong to ask for giftcards or suggest them...what are you ladies asking for then?? I'm at a loss..

Registered! But for next time...

mdupon70997 — Sat, 15 Dec 2012 06:26:20 +0000

FI and I finally registered for wedding gifts! Yay! But it was exhausting. BBB is so big that it's overwhelming. I wish we would have made an actual list of things we definitely needed and wanted before we went. But we still can because we only got through half of the store :

XP: Ninja Mega System? HiYAA!!!!

Sharpschruter22 — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 05:05:51 +0000

So...last night as I was battling insomnia due to drinking too much caffeine too late, I watched an infomercial on the Ninja Mega Kitchen System. We had already registered for the ninja blender and food processor attachment, but this infomercial was for a much more powerful version and I couldn't say no. I bought it. I figured I will start using it now to lose weight on a juice/smoothie diet. This thing makes snow out of ice! I can't wait to receive it. Who has a ninja or is registered for one? Do you love it? Do you have a different type of blender you love more?

Registry Advice!

CarlaRose24 — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 18:28:04 +0000

Hi all,

We live in an apartment in NYC and plan to store our wedding gifts at my fiance's parents' house in NJ until we move into a house. Does anyone have advice about registering for gifts for a house you don't plan on buying for 2-3 years? I just want to make sure I ask for the right gifts! I won't know how I want to decorate a room 3 years from now...

Thank you!

Carla

Registry for a Renewal? Here is our Plan!

LaurensHell — Sat, 15 Dec 2012 05:37:17 +0000

Overall, I have seen that most of The Knot's advice on having a registry for a renewal is "don't do it." In some cases, I can understand why, in others I can't. Either way, here is my husband and I's approach to Registry for a Renewal, including some background on our nuptials!

My husband and I were just married this past March, 2012! We had a beautiful and small wedding at Chapel of the Flowers in Las Vegas. With that said, we are having a renewal of vows ceremony in Vegas in 2014.

Since we did not have a registry nor did we receive any gifts, we decided that we would like to have the experience of creating one! So, we are having a registry for our renewal and then we can have the fun of getting new things!

HOWEVER. Rather than expect people to "get us stuff," WE are the ones buying things off of the registry for ourselves. Since I am in school, we have a tight budget and paid for our original wedding and our renewal, our plan is to purchase the things off of our registry a bit at a time over the next year. We are going to have the things gift wrapped and sent to us, but will not open them until March of 2014!

Should anyone that we invite to our renewal inquire about a registry, we will let them know about it, but no one will be obligated to get us anything, and we can still have the fun swag that newlyweds get to enjoy!

For couples that may have missed out on a registry but feel bad making one after the fact, this is one way to go about it when you have only you and your hubby to rely upon for such things!

Cheers!

Best Registry!

Manda2808 — Sat, 15 Dec 2012 04:14:11 +0000

I was unsure of where to register before our wedding and I decided to go with Bed Bath and Beyond because it was nice merchandise and I heard they didn't give you any problems about returns (like Target). Well, I have been pleasantly surprised multiple times by the helpfulness, understanding, listening skills, and determination to make me happy that I would't recommend registering anywhere else. I went through 4 sets of dinner plates until I found the one I was happy with, and the managers didn't even blink an eye. Also, there were many items I didn't even open or try until months after my wedding and I decided I didn't need the item and they were fine with me returning/exchanging. There was never a third-degree string of questions or a black list if I returned too many items. Please consider Bed Bath and Beyond and you won't regret it!

How to delete a registry

jbrus23 — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 02:56:21 +0000

Here's the issue: when you type my name in the "find a couple's registry," Crate and Barrell shows up because it is one of theknot.com's premium partners. However, I am also registered at two other places, which are not premium partners. I have both of them listed on my "my wedding webpage," but I am finding that some people are complaining that they can't find my other 2 registries because when they type in my name in the find a couple's registry, all they see is Crate and Barrell.

I've messed around with the website for hours trying to fix it, and there is a hide and unhide option, but even when I click hide, it still comes up. It's driving me crazy. I'd prefer to have all 3 vendors pop up when they type my name in the "find a couple's registry" field, but I suspect this is not possible since the other 2 vendors are not premium partners. Therefore, I'd just like to delete Crate and Barrell from popping up in my my registry area, and instead, just have people have to go to my theknot.com website where they will see all 3.

Anyone know how to remove a registry?

I've called theknot.com customer service twice, and the first time I sat on hold for 20 minutes with no answer, and the second time, the representative just gave me the number the 360 registry website, which is not what I want. Super frustrating...

Where else should I register?

MrsJoshuaParker4 — Sun, 09 Dec 2012 17:45:07 +0000

So far, my FI and I have only registered at Macy's.

However, a few people mentioned to me that I should probably register one other place too; such as Bed, Bath and Beyond. When I looked at their website, they sell the same stuff Macy's does (like our China, Electrics, Cookware..) and their registry benefits don't seem to be as good as Macy's.

Where else have you all registered? What did you like/not like about that place?

Any suggestions would be great. Thanks in advance :)

# of registries

mmi102581 — Sat, 08 Dec 2012 22:46:01 +0000

This may sound crazy, but I registered for 5 stores for our registries. I literally fought with myself back and forth about having just 3 or 4 max, but at the same time, we like different things at all 5 stores and they are all a variety of price ranges. The wedding is in NC in my hometown and a couple of the stores are there locally, however the other three stores and still within the state, but further away. Plus we have family and friends in other states so this way, they have a larger variety to choose from. My closest friends think this is a good option because it is certain things we like from each store and give guests the option. We truly will be blessed with any gifts given. Any thoughts?

Checks not in my name! HELP!

ccny778 — Fri, 07 Dec 2012 17:53:21 +0000

Hi All --

So my wedding is January 20th and we are currently receiving RSVPs. We received one regret with a very generous monetary gift. The check is made out to "Wife and Husband Smith" - which will be my married name, but it's not my name now! How do we deposit it? We have not set up any sort of joint account yet.

Any advice welcome!

Thanks!

Can you help me

msbdumas — Fri, 07 Dec 2012 17:05:37 +0000

locate my URL from Bed Bath and Beyond. I like to add the link to my wedding website. Do you know where I can look for it at ?

TIA

Confused about registries!

crysspears — Wed, 05 Dec 2012 04:55:28 +0000

Ive read a few things and now im confused!

1. Do we or do we not put where we are registered in our invitations? If we DONT then where do our guests findout where we are registered?

2. Wedding showers are for both the bride and groom? or the bride only? and people bring gifts from the registry to them? How far in advance do the wedding showers take place?

3. What else should I know about registries and/ or al lthe other showers/ parties??

Please help

A little bit of love for my C&B registry

cwaggoner07 — Mon, 03 Dec 2012 17:17:17 +0000

We just got a post card in the mail telling us that the stoneware we registered for will be discontinued in 2 months. Disappointing, especially since we only got married this summer, but it was nice to know. And of course they send that out to be able to sell more, but I would rather know than not. We went and ordered a few more matching dishes.

Is this acceptable?

ladylexilego — Thu, 06 Dec 2012 03:18:56 +0000

I would think it is, but I just figured I should check. Is it okay to put on our website that for some things like towels, for example we dont care about brand, price, etc.? We honestly dont care if they come from Ollies if they do the job. Also, how would you word that so its a little more polished? Thanks in advance!

Wedding Website Example

ta090607 — Fri, 09 Nov 2012 20:43:32 +0000

So, I am trying to work on my wedding website but it just ain't flowing. I need some examples to look at. Is there a place I can see others' wedding websites to see how they are doing them?
Thanks!
~Amy
Also, how in the world do I get the ticker to work? I set it all up but for some reason I can't figure out how to get it to automatically post?

Registry Question

jjeanhilton — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 22:13:56 +0000

Hi all,

Looking for some opinions here :)

My FI and I are currently living in SC and our wedding is going to be next Sept. in the Boston area. We've recently moved from up North and that's where all our family and friends are. I have asked that we not have a shower for various reasons. One, it's difficult for me to get time off from work and expensive to fly up, and I want to reserve the limited vacation time I have for the honeymoon. However, various family members have asked that I at least do a registry as they wish to purchase gifts instead of gifting money, because they feel that it is more personable. I do agree with them, but my concern is getting a lot of gifts at the wedding itself and having to ship them all to my home and the cost that is incurred. (It would be more efficient to purchase those gifts with wedding money..)

As a compromise I was thinking of creating a small registry and putting a link to it on our wedding website, and writing a small caption that states that the registry is avilable for those who wish to purchase gifts, though ask that the purchase be made online and shipped to the couples home in lieu of bringing them to the wedding. Though this seems a bit tacky to me. This might appease the few family members that wish to purchase, while not obligating anyone or giving us any added costs. Thoughts?

NWR: Christmas List help please!

dtbluv — Tue, 04 Dec 2012 07:10:50 +0000

A little background:
I have worked as a full time nanny for a family for the past two years, and we're all pretty close. I have gone on vacations with them, I stay with the baby while the parents travel, and we exchange gifts for Birthdays and Christmas.

Today my boss asked if I had an amazon wishlist (what everyone in their extended family uses) or anything like that, and when I said no (my family has always been very against gift-lists for anything except a wedding) she asked if I would consider making one, as she wants to get me something I'll love, but really just doesn't know what as I'm difficult to shop for. This is totally true and I know it, so I made up a list.

I put on about 10 items, although 2 are books that only come used as one is out of print, and the other was only printed in the U.K.(not sure if asking for used items is technically correct etiquette) and 2 cds that are all under $10 each, then a sweatshirt, slipper-boots, an amazing wallet, and a couple dvd sets that range from $20-60.
Is this an okay list? They will be pretty much the only people using this list, and my boss knows it, so I don't want to mess up anything.