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Bridesmaid gift - robes

TheSlowskys — Thu, 31 May 2012 15:43:35 +0000

I really love the Doie robes, but even with the discount they are a bit too expensive for me (http://www.doielounge.com/products/category/bridesmaids/).

Can anyone recommend a similar type for under $75 each? I'd like a soft jersey material, kimono style, and knee length. I can't find anything similar on etsy. I may look into AuppleAupple (http://www.etsy.com/shop/auppleaupple?ref=seller_info) or UnderWrapz (http://www.etsy.com/shop/UnderWrapzRobes?ref=seller_info) but I'm wondering how soft the fabric is. Anyone use these sellers?

I do not want monogramming, thick terry robes, or silk robes.

getting gifts before shower - can I open?

jmloretto — Mon, 04 Jun 2012 16:30:33 +0000

If you recieve a gift before the shower because someone cannot attend - is it ok to open it right away and then send the thank you card before the shower? Thank you!

Drawing a blank on WP gift - HELP!

Tina3104 — Sun, 03 Jun 2012 16:31:14 +0000

Hi All,

I have kind of a weird problem. My father passed away 20+ years ago and my brother in law is going to walk me down the aisle. I need to find a gift for him as a thank you and have no idea what to get. He is a pilot but I'd like to stay away from airplane type things. The obvious answer would be to ask my sister what to get - but therein lies the problem. They are 'on the verge' of splitting up. (Both are coming to the wedding and will behave.) If I ask her what to get - I'll get some kind of snarky answer. Example? She is coming here and is making our wedding cake. When I asked her if he helps her make it or what will he do while she's baking it (we live in the country so its not like there is really much to entertain yourself!) she said - I have no idea what he'll do if anything. That helps.

I really like him and we get along really well which is why I asked him if he'd walk me down the aisle. I'd like to give him a special gift for doing it and putting up with my sister but I'm drawing a complete blank here.

What did you all get/give for the person walking you down the aisle?

Need some gifts advice!

jennxrocks — Sun, 03 Jun 2012 17:51:29 +0000

Ok. So my boss (and friend) of mine is marrying my FI and I. Would a gift card to like a restaurant be ok? If so, how much? I have no concept of what to do for gifts for people. Also, would it be ok for my parents' gifts: finding really pretty frames for them and telling them I will get a one of our wedding photos of their choice for the frame. Is that ok? So lost! :)

Thanks!

UPDATE: "A stranger spent $170+ buying gifts from our registry?"

megan8290 — Sun, 03 Jun 2012 04:23:52 +0000

Solved! It turned out to be a family friend who used her credit card with her Maiden name on it. She also has a weird Chiense legal name that no one knows about so that's why it didn't register. My mom texted me and told me that the subject came up while she was over the house. She vaguley remembered that I asked about someone with a last name "Ho".

I'm just happy to know that it's a gift meant for us and we won't have to return it.

For those who thinks snooping around your registry before your present gets there is a sin: Good for you! If I don't check my registry then I won't know when a gift has been mailed to my moms (she doesn't update me) therefore people won't be getting their thank you letters on time.

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Wedding shower across the country

KimbyK — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 23:55:08 +0000

My mom is throwing me a wedding shower - however, I live in Ohio, and she lives in Arizona. How do I register for gifts? Especially knowing that I would have to ship gifts back to Ohio.

Would it be tacky in this situation to ask for gift cards?

Macy's Duplicate Gift

dawnp917 — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 20:29:41 +0000

I'm a little perplexed by Macy's. We set up our registry months ago so we could slowly add items to it. Back in January I received an engagement gift from my Aunt & Uncle off the registry. Yesterday I received the same item. The item was listed as fulfilled back in January I'm a little confused as to how this happened. Is this common?

Cruise Honeymoon Registry?

tim&ashleyb — Thu, 31 May 2012 21:38:08 +0000

My FI and I have been talking about a registry lately. We have plenty of stuff in our home and don't really need anything extra. We have planned a nice cruise honeymoon, about a week long. I noticed on Royal and Carnival that you can register for excursions onshore.

We would request, for example, 2 $20 gifts for..scuba diving, or something along those lines. It can be used for speciality foods and drinks onboard, also.

What do you think of this idea? Is it too strange, or possibly rude?

A stranger spent $170+ buying gifts from our registry?

megan8290 — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 04:38:42 +0000

Hey girls,

This is really really strange. I'm registered at Macys. Today while I was updating RSVPs and my registry I noticed that someone by the name of "CHIEH C HO" bought three different gifts for us. I have no idea who this person is. We didn't invite anyone with the last name HO or CHO. We don't know anyone's name starting or ending with CHIEH. I've asked my fiance, my mom, my FMIL...etc. Everyone I can think of and have no clue who this person is.

They spent about $170 on all three gifts. Has this every happened to anyone? I'm planning on waiting to see when the gift arrives then try to figure out who it is. Who knew writing a thank you note was going to be a Mafia game?

On the side note, I've been having a really rough time lately with moving and financial problems so maybe it's a way that god's telling me he hasn't forgotten about me ;).

how would i go about registering for gift certificates ?

soontobehasrouni — Thu, 31 May 2012 21:25:17 +0000

Id like to register for gift certificates at the Flamingo in Las Vegas, where our wedding will be? We would like to use them for room service, dinners, etc

Registry and moving??

Gen5ring — Wed, 30 May 2012 17:28:25 +0000

Aloha everyone,
my FI and I are planning on moving to the mainland (we live on the BI of Hawaii right now) shortly after the wedding. We want to make a small registry for gifts, but know whatever tangible items we receive we will have to move with us (extra cost of shipping/moving). Is it rude to request they keep this in mind, get smaller items, gift cards or checks in place of actual gifts? We will be living in a smaller apartment while house hunting, and won't have a lot of space either, so something of this nature we could hang on to and spend appropriately when it is time.
We just don't want to come across impersonal or rude with this request. Has anyone done this before? Should we just "suck it up" so to speak, and bite the bill for the extra moving items? We're trying to pan down as of right now, and not really looking to add to our items just yet.
Thanks for any ideas/suggestions!
Mahalo!

registering and having destination wedding

soontobehasrouni — Thu, 31 May 2012 20:57:35 +0000

We are going to vegas for our wedding but do not want to have a bridal shower because we live together and dont need an entire house full of new stuff. We want to register for things at our honeymoon resort that people can buy. How would we go about notifying people of the honeymoon registery and a wedding gift registry?

I am sending save the dates soon, invatations to follow, but I cant put registry information on the invite, can i? or can I have an insert card with the invatation with registry information, as im sure most people we invite wont be able to come.

Or should be just have the shower anyway, knowing that people who wont be able to come will probably want to buy us a gift?

Bridesmaid gift - Robes

TheSlowskys — Thu, 31 May 2012 19:38:51 +0000

Ok... I posted this a couple hours ago but I am not seeing my post anywhere but it is linked in my profile. So sorry if this is a duplicate but I'm not seeing the original post. Anyways:

I really love the Doie robes, but even with the discount they are a bit too expensive for me (http://www.doielounge.com/products/category/bridesmaids/).

Can anyone recommend a similar type for under $75 each? I'd like a soft jersey material, kimono style, and knee length. I can't find anything similar on etsy. I may look into AuppleAupple (http://www.etsy.com/shop/auppleaupple?ref=seller_info) or UnderWrapz (http://www.etsy.com/shop/UnderWrapzRobes?ref=seller_info) but I'm wondering how soft the fabric is. Anyone use these sellers?

I do not want monogramming, thick terry robes, or silk robes.

Wedding Registry

CecileT — Wed, 30 May 2012 23:31:34 +0000

Hello Ladies
I need your advise please. I updated my wedding website today and i added where i am registered. I was hesitant to do it is just my fiance told some of our friends are asking if im registerd...
Is it proper to add my wedding registry ( site) or i should delete it and let my maide of honor mention it to friends and family.

Thank You

Cecile

Second wedding and not really wanting gifts

Nperis — Tue, 29 May 2012 20:13:51 +0000

It is a second wedding for both of us and we are well established. We are having a very big wedding but absolutly dont want presents. We thought about suggesting a donation to a charity in place of a gift but weren't sure about the idea. So the other idea we came up with is including a label in the invite and ask everyone to write a personal message (in place of a card) on it and place it on their favorite bottle of wine. Then for the "favor" we will do the same and give them our favorite bottle to take home with a message from us on it.

Thank You's for gifts before the shower?

Scheff725 — Wed, 30 May 2012 16:48:28 +0000

We received our first gift in the mail yesterday from FI aunt who I am assuming wont make the shower. The shower is not until July 1st, should we send a thank you right away or wait until after the shower? Thanks!

Low-priced items, but will they buy individual pieces?

wowand135 — Wed, 30 May 2012 15:28:24 +0000

I know we need to have lowere priced items on the list, though it's tough as we have everything we need and really are just upgrading. We registered for some things in separates as opposed to sets to make it easier for people to buy things at a lower price.

For example, FI wanted really strong silverware, so we got the really expensive stuff (I couldn't believe it - $45 for a one-person set and that wasn't nearly the highest price!) Rather than scan a $200 set, we scanned 12 of these $45 sets. Another example is crystal wine glasses. You can buy one for $30, but will people feel weird or not want to buy a single wine glass? Same thing with the china/dinnerware.

Is it rude/greedy to do it this way? I think even though there are single items at lower prices, it is still obvious that we scanned really expensive things. Thoughts?

Where can I find button down shirts for gifts??

manda264 — Wed, 30 May 2012 17:33:52 +0000

I'm looking to give my bridesmaids white button down shirts that I can also monogram their initial but I don't want them to be too oversized. I'd like them to be More fitted. Everytime I do a search they're way too big.

Amazon Registry

brideofnicky — Mon, 28 May 2012 20:55:05 +0000

I'm thinking of doing an Amazon Registry. For those of you who've done one, what did you like/dislike about it and what items did you register for?

where to purchase nice jewelry

lizcarreiro — Wed, 23 May 2012 01:07:01 +0000

i need ideas or websites to get my jewelry from as well as bridesmaids!

Lingerie for Bridal Shower?

StephR08 — Tue, 29 May 2012 13:51:37 +0000

I heard of people having lingerie bridal showers but I'm being thrown a tea party bridal shower. Now I'm going to register for a few household items and what not, but I kinda want to suggest lingerie as gifts as well... how do I do that without sounding tacky or rude?

No Card/Gift from MOH?

mbeunit4 — Tue, 29 May 2012 16:03:11 +0000

I need to vent and realize I may seem selfsh/greedy throughout this post... I apologize! We got married this past weekend and everything went well. We paid for most of the wedding ourselves and it was held at Smith and Wollensky's, a steak house. My MOH and best friend since I was 7 did not get me a card and I am deeply hurt. I totally get that she was busy helping, she went in on a bridal shower present (my mom paid for the shower), paid for the bachelorette party etc. I honestly found that the guests that were the least financially stable were much more generous. Part of the reason I feel slightly upset over this is that she is constantly bragging about how much better she does financially than her friends. She has no large bills and paid off her rent for the summer. I don't even care about the fact that she did not get us a gift- it is more so the fact that she did not even bother to purchase or write a card.. and I know she isn't following the 1 year rule because she said the day after the wedding, "do you mind if I didn't get you a card?".. Of course I played it off like I wasn't hurt. WWYD.. thoughts?

XP: Registry Items

i2012do — Tue, 29 May 2012 17:28:28 +0000

My shower is a week from Satuday.

My entire Macy's registry is gone, from this weekened minus 2 towels and one platter

But my williams sonoma registry is still intact minus 3 gifts.

Should I shift things from W+S to Macys? Like our bakeware etc.
I am not sure why Macys was more popular. I think because there is only one W+S store around us..besides the outlet. And I am still hoping to get some gift cards to there.

We love to cook and I like the quality of their items- and their selection.
But I guess Macys has been more popular- probably also because of the coupons and sales and its more well known with my older guests.

Should I just keep the registries as they are?? I mean if someone waits until next week to get a gift and Macy's is sold out-- then its not really my fault they waited and now have to travel to W+S right?!

Gifts

matt&brit — Tue, 29 May 2012 16:39:49 +0000

I need to know who all I need to buy gifts for! I know the bridal party and ring bearer and flower girl. I have two candle lighters do I get them something? ALso who else??

Best dishes?

AurorasEnvy — Mon, 28 May 2012 19:40:55 +0000

So we registered for a nice set of everyday china at BB&B...but somehow through 2 showers and the wedding we didn't receive a single place setting. At first I thought it might have been because it was too pricey, but we received plenty of other items that were more expensive.

Anyways, I suppose that's really neither here nor there since either way dishes are something that are an absolute need for us at this point. I still love the everyday china, but I don't know that we want to go drop $1000 to go out and buy enough sets at this point. We're still considering just getting it, but I was curious if anyone else had any thoughts/suggestions about other brands/types of dishes that might not be as expensive but still nice quality. Or should we just splurge for the everyday china?

Any suggestions? Thanks in advance!

Walmart and discount

amhill87 — Sat, 26 May 2012 02:36:24 +0000

Does anyone know if walmart offers an after event discount on items not purchased? We registered at both Target and Walmart and would like to get some items left, but for the life of me can not find any information anywhere. Please help.

International Registry

aphrael — Tue, 22 May 2012 14:58:06 +0000

Hello all! I've been lurking the last few days, but I've got a question I'm hoping ya'll can give me some advice on. I moved to France last year to start my new life with my fiance, we're in the middle of renovating a house for us to live in, and we're having the Catholic ceremony this October back in Illinois where I'm from and most of my family still is.

From having been here a year, I've learned one very important thing, shipping costs are insane. I'm pretty sure most of my family will choose to give cash (unasked for of course) but a few will want to buy physical gifts. As tradition states that they are generally shipped to the couple in advance, I would like to do all I can to help them avoid these insane shipping charges.

My thought was to create a registry on Amazon.fr (easily translatable with Google) so that they could purchase things online and they be shipped from warehouses here. That would also avoid any problems with appliances not working, or trying to pack china safely for the plane ride back. What do you guys think? I was hoping Pottery Barn or Crate & Barrel would have international stores, but alas, they do not.

Thoughts, suggestions? Thanks in advance!

Wedding party gifts?

JessicaPop — Mon, 21 May 2012 06:19:07 +0000

Is it really necessary to give gifts to the bridal party? My fiance and I have never heard of this and neither have our families. We are from different cultures though, He's Romanian and I'm Cuban and I guess we just don't do that. But my bridesmaids are American.... would they be expecting bridal party gifts? I guess I'm just a little confused about the whole thing.... Is this a cultural thing or is it more of a new thing in weddings? Our families have also never heard of gifts for the parents... You should see the look I got from my parents when I mentioned all these gifts for everyone... they think the whole giving gifts to everyone is so weird. Are you giving gifts to your parents and bridal party? Is it the norm or just a little extra something for them? If you didn't give the gifts, did anyone notice?

Need coupon code!

KplusE2012 — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 04:31:32 +0000

So I am trying to order stuff tonight for BMs and there is 20% off $100 but I can't find the code to put in anywhere! I think I'm blind tonight! Can someone tell me what the coupon code is for this deal? I have looked all over, and when I click on the offer, it just brings me to a new page. Thanks for the help!