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Need help/suggetions for properly registering

kap04 — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 16:46:56 +0000

This is the first marriage for my fiance and my second marriage. We have lived together for three years. We just bought a new home a year ago and are fairly established in that home. I am having trouble deciding whether or not to register and if we do what to register for. Any help/suggestions/input will be greatly appreciated!

Kitchenware

amnolen — Wed, 21 Sep 2011 13:33:47 +0000

I really don't know a whole lot about registering, so I asked my mom if it was a good idea to register for kitchenware. She said no b/c FI and I already live together and that we are expected to already have kitchen stuff. However, all of our stuff is either super cheap, mismatched or are hand-me-downs from college. Is it wrong to register for upgraded kitchen items?

Bridal shower & bachlorette party gifts idea

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Second Wedding Registry

sarahmack36 — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 18:16:51 +0000

Hello-

I am a little bit unsure how to handle this. This is my second wedding. I am 34 and he is 43. We are combining two households so we already have all the items that a store registry would offer. I looked into a honeymoon registry and like the idea however we are also remodeling his home (100 year old home that has lived through college kids renting it out over time-now needs a lil TLC) so we decided to go with Deposit a Gift which offers everything from home remodel to honeymoon on one registry. My question is...is this registry tacky? Alot of friends and family expressed that they would like to purchase us something we can use. I only have the registry information on my wedding website on here. I am not putting the information in invites or anything like that...

If you do feel this is tacky, what is your opinion...should we do nothing at all?

Thank you for your time-
Sarah :)

Done With Macys

sammiebree85 — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 15:25:16 +0000

Registering has sucked for me. I spent 5 separate times in Macys trying to get my registry together, and everytime I came home half of it was discontinued so I had to start over. I finally put together a registry of about 10 items before my bridal shower. Well, I guess in the meantime, half of them sold out. So my guests had a total of 5 items to choose from. Most of them chose the stockpot, and since Macys never updated my registry, I now have 3 of them to return. Suffice to say, I'm closing the registry after I get my money back.

I've heard that BB&B and Target are both bad as well. Which ones are you all having luck with?

Did you peek at what people bought you?

futuremrsmann — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 04:47:23 +0000

My shower is this weekend and I totally peeked and know one present I'm getting. I feel bad, I want to be surprised at my shower! Did you guys peek?

Did you use technology to plan?

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Registry for homeowner bride

amve2012 — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 16:43:02 +0000

My fiance and I are looking at what to do for registries. We are both gainfully employed as engineers. I will have been a homeowner for 4.5 years by the time we get married, so my house is pretty well stocked already and I've upgraded all the pots & pans and other odds & ends at least once since I've been a homeowner.

What's left to put on a registry? Is it ok to register for a handful of items from a dozen stores?

Where to get good quality pashminas?

rachaelgettingmarried — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 15:25:40 +0000

Hi Ladies,

So I am having a winter wedding in February in NH. It will definitely be cold and I wanted to get my girls pashminas for the reception...I have learned from you knotties their actual gift should be something personal for each girl so I am working on doing that for their actual gift, but I don't want them to pay for more than the dress so the pashminas are on me.

I was just curious, do any of you know of a good place to get pashminas? I have looked at the pashmina store, and they were a little expensive IMO 49.99 for a shawl. Does anyone know of a good place to go?

What does one do with crystal anyways?

jewels621 — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 14:18:44 +0000

We are a more modern funky couple - bright colors, bold patterns are more our style. What in the world does one do with a crystal vase or bowl? I have no "china cabinet" or place to display it...I appreciate receiving it, since I'm sure it was not cheap, but I feel so bad sticking it in the back of a cupboard! Is this one of those gifts I'll use in like 40 years when entertaining our grandkids? Am I the only one who feels this way?

photo albums as christmas presents...

jewels621 — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 14:09:32 +0000

I'm a graphic designer and want to design personalized parent's albums for my parents and his parents as Christmas gifts/thank you wedding gifts. These will take considerable time and money to create. Problem is I can already see MIL wanting to see/buy her own pictures right away (we got married Friday and will get the proofs back in 2 weeks...but I'll need the time before Xmas to edit, design, print & assemble these albums). I don't want to keep the pictures from her or anyone, but at the same time, I want things to be a surprise at Christmas. Any ideas??? Thank you!

Wedding is past but gifts still on registry...

jewels621 — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 14:04:24 +0000

Our wedding was on Friday, we had a gift-opening on Saturday and there are still gifts marked "bought" on both registries that we haven't seen yet. I could understand one or two random things but there's a handful of things on each registry. Any ideas what's up with that? Thanks!

Good (outside registry) wedding gift in Hawaii (Oahu) if you are out of time!

mrevnak — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 12:54:21 +0000

If you want to find something a little more out of the box, fun and authenitcly hawaiian most people down the shopping strip on Waikiki. I would recommend the International Market Place in Waikiki. This is like a little bazaar of local hawaiian shops. Lots of high-quality low-costs gifts can be foud here. Some good ideas are koa wood products (like large bowls and cuttng boards) etc.

Its a great place to shop around. One shop there does hawaiian music boxes and they do custom photograph boxes as well (think wedding photos). I have these as a party favor to family during my sons reception dinner.

http://www.hawaiianmusicboxes.com

Help please!!

ljl3469 — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 00:53:04 +0000

I am in search of a multi picture holding frame.. 5 slots specifically. For a gift for our only surviving grandparent, we would like to get a picture of her and her husband, the grooms parents are their wedding, and his sisters and their husbands at their weddings and then of course a picture of us at our own to put in a multi frame collage. I am hoping to get it engraved with the name of the individuals and the wedding date under each photo. Has anyone looked into doing this? I am having trouble locating a site that will design this for me.

Thanks!

Registering

jhnkins — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 18:53:53 +0000

My fiance has told me that he doesn't want to go with me to register. He said that he has no desier to do so. I know it sounds silly, but I keep thinking that it's something that we should do together. But, is it ok if we don't. He said that I should go with my maid of honor.

Does anyone know of a groom that didn't go register?

Gift for parents - engraved frame? what do i engrave and where?

853george — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 17:21:12 +0000

Hello - perhaps this is a silly question but I want to buy both sets of parents a nice picture frame as a thank you. Do i just put the date at the bottom? I was going to put in pictures of our whole family in them once we get the pics back. So is it just the date I should engrave? Also any suggestions on where to get nice frames? I went to Tiffany but they are about $500 and up and I dont want to spend that much but dont want something cheap looking either...

Thank you gift for parents

jessicahousley — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 03:21:57 +0000

I have a dilemma. My fiance and I are paying for most of the wedding and my mom has helped so much with our wedding planning, that I have gotten a special gift for her. My mother-in-law hasn't done much at all, but I have gotten her a small thing to thank her for her "help".

I was planning on giving my bridesmaids and my mom and mother-in-law their gifts at the rehearsal dinner, but am worried that the mother-in-law will take it really personally. She has no clue about weddings and how much work goes into them, so she has no prior knowledge to go by when getting a "thank you" gift.

Should I give them the gifts at a separate time?

If Parents Pay, Who Gets the Gifts?

dlotrifbi — Sat, 17 Sep 2011 16:57:18 +0000

My FI's parents are willing to pay a lot for our wedding because they want to have 300-400 people. My FI keeps saying that it's not a big deal, that we'll get a lot of the money back in gifts (checks). First of all, I don't think we can/should expect to get the money back, as not everyone gives monetary gifts, and people don't always cover the full cost of their plate (plus other wedding costs).

Second of all, is it appropriate to give some or all of that money back to his parents if they are the ones laying out a ton of money for the wedding?

Do I add more?

mistydawn123 — Sat, 17 Sep 2011 11:51:39 +0000

Our wedding is two weeks away. I just realized we have gotten about 50% of what we wanted off our registry. Do I add more or just leave it?

Bed, Bath, and Beyond...

LoisLane007 — Sat, 17 Sep 2011 02:34:22 +0000

When I checked our registry, I saw things on there that said purchased 1 and requested 0. Ummm, FI and never registered for these items. Did people buy these things and then they got put on our registry at checkout? One of the items (I've never even heard of!) is a "strawberry hauler" that I know we definitely did not register for! I wouldn't even know what to do with one at this point anyway.

Where to register?

morenachica110 — Sat, 17 Sep 2011 00:09:04 +0000

FI and I won't be registering for anothe rfew months, but we were talking about it and realized that we don't know where to register. We already decided on bed Bath and Beyond since there's one near all of our guests and they have a great selction of things we like and decent prices, but we want to add another store for a little variety. But where? Suggestions? (Not Target. I've heard enough bad stuff to stay away from them.)

How many people at a bridal shower?

Belle0000 — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 18:04:57 +0000

My MOH has asked me what I'd like for a shower, and a couple of my aunts have mentioned a shower too. I'd really like to just have one shower for both family and friends; however, I have a really large family, and I'm close to everyone (aunts, cousins, etc). I just put together a preliminary shower guest list to give my MOH an idea, and I have over 50 people. Only 7 people on the list are non-relatives/non-bridal party. FI has a really small family and probably only 2 of his relatives may be attending, if any, so most of it is my family.

Would 50-55 people be too much for one shower? My parents are divorced, but everyone is friendly and there wouldn't be any problems having everyone together. I guess the most logical alternative would be to have one for my mom's side, and one for my dad's side, and invite my friends to one of those. But I'd really prefer to have one.

How do you register for a bed??

FutureMrsMiller25 — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 23:37:05 +0000

So, one of the MAIN things my future husband and I will need is a bed. I only own a double bed which isn't very comfortable with both of us in it and he only owns a single bed. He is unusually tall and his single bed is a very nice bed he needed to buy after he required back surgery when he was in college. We will need a really nice bed if only to be long enough for him and be okay for his back - which won't be cheap! I don't know if I want to go out and find this bed now and figure out how one registers for it?? I mean ONE person can't buy us a bed - we need like a registry to go towards the buying of the bed.I don't want to post on the website we want a bed so give us money towards it - thoughts?

I know people use websites for their honeymoons where people "buy" you breakfast and bed but essentially it just collects the money for you. Can you do that for other things? The biggest negative of that though is the website takes a percentage.

Registries on wedding website

AbeandCarrie — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 16:55:16 +0000

Hi everyone,

I am thinking of including links to our registries on our wedding website. Is this ok to do? Also, I used weebly to create our site. Is there a way to put the link on the page with out it being so long?

TIA!
Carrie

EDIT: The registry info would be on its own page of the website, not on the main page.

Small registry only?

slytherina — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 15:36:09 +0000

Hi. Long-time lurker ... first time poster!

FI and I are having a small wedding (65 or 70 guests) this December and weren't planning on registering. Lately, though, we've started receiving questions about gifts and haven't known how to reply.

We didn't intend to register because we don't need a lot of house-type things -- we were each living on our own for a good while and since moving in together, we're lucky enough to not want for housewares. We're saving to buy a house in the next year or two, so like many of the posts I've read here, it would be lovely to receive monetary gifts at our wedding, but of course we'd never ask for money.

FI has suggested maybe a honeymoon registry. I am not comfortable with that idea and would really rather not register at all than do that.

I've read other posts on this site where girls have suggested making a small registry only, where the idea is that when the registry items have been bought, people who want to bring a gift will generally bring money. This seems like a good idea, as FI and I had been planning to buy some good wineglasses and serving dishes at Boxing Day sales this year anyway (we entertain a lot!). My question is, does anyone have experience with doing this? Did it work as you'd hoped?

We just want people to come and enjoy themselves at our wedding! But the gift question keeps coming up and we're at a loss for what to do. Thanks!

Wedding Party Gifts

Allycat11 — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 18:38:28 +0000

I know to shop for my WP like it's their birthday, however for some people I struggle for bday gifts too.

Any suggestions for a 17 year old guy?
A little info. about him: Obsessed with sports, already has season tickets for his favorite college football team, any other tickets would be tough to buy for him due to his work schedule. Graduates highschool this spring but will still be living at home. Really gets everything he wants from his parents. Every year for his bday and Christmas I am totally stumped for ideas.

I also know FI should be figuring this out, but he's just as stumped as I am. Any suggestions?

BEWARE

tigger945 — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 15:24:06 +0000

I just went to a wedding show in Michigan and there was a company there called simplicity gourmet. They said they were a company that sold kitchen gadgets and you could register to win a cooking lesson and also a 3 course gourmet meal. They also said that you could win a free honeymoon, too. Well, I signed up and got a call that I was the lucky grand prize winner of a 3 day 2 night honeymoon to an all inclusive resort in Mexico, Dominican Republic or Costa Rica. They said that I had to come down to a hotel where they would be giving our free cooking lesson and gourmet meal. They also said we had to sit through a 90min presentation about their company and that they would be answering everyones questions about the honeymoon during that presentation. WELL....it just didn't sit well with me and I did a google search and found out this company is a SCAM! They take advantage of brides to be and their families by encouraging you to register for your gifts through them. They make you purchace 50.00 worth of product in order to recieve your "honeymoon" and not only do you not see your honeymoon, but you never receive your product that you bought either. I'm so glad I researched them BEFORE going to this event.

Long story short....BEWARE of free gifts won at bridal shows and do your homework before giving the company any of your info! This company has been calling me NON STOP trying to get me to come back to one of their events. If you see them at a bridal show near you ( THIS IS A NATIONAL SCAM!) keep on walking!!!

Non-kitchen/bath ideas!

WildMagelet — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 14:39:51 +0000

Im trying to think of things we can ask for besides dishes, linens & towels. We just bought a new house and are replacing all of those things to match our new decor less than 2 yrs before our wedding. We're also upgrading our small appliances with xmas gifts/money. So far I have tools (pcs he's missing out of sets) & yard decor for ideas. I'd consider putting a new sewing machine on but I think that's too expensive. What about yard games? Board games? Would you side-eye that? Just stick with tools & lawn/garden deco? Other ideas? As long as it would benefit the household/family as opposed to one member its ok?

Are you doing hostess gifts?

futuremrsmann — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 03:07:57 +0000

My MOH (sister) is throwing my shower at my mom's house. I am already getting them both gifts as part of the WP so I'm not sure about the hostess gift for the shower. I was thinking of offering to help my mom clean her house just to be nice but is that enough? What did you ladies do? TIA

Debating on whether to register or not...

GApeachOH — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 00:29:28 +0000

We live in an extremely expensive area and are not moving out. We are living in the apartment in FI's parent's house. Downstairs and separate. Although, with that said, we have everything we need. Either collected or have already been given to us.

We are debating on whether we want to register for odds and ends, like new sheets and pillow cases OR is we should wait and have an "after the wedding, house warming" registry when we move out.

Any advice?

EDITED:

Talked to FI again and we decided to full out register and hope for the best. We have a storage unit so we will store what we can. We're also working towards cutting one car bill in half, so that will help get us moving. :)

Thanks for helping!