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Snarky Brides — The Knot Community https://forums.theknot.com/ Fri, 03 Apr 2026 20:14:05 +0000 en Snarky Brides — The Knot Community I made a fake username because I need your advice.... https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/198430/i-made-a-fake-username-because-i-need-your-advice Mon, 13 Aug 2012 01:29:32 +0000 Snarky Brides secretsdontmakefriends 198430@/discussions
Here is the abridged version:

FI and I are super busy- he works crazy hours (usually gone most of the week) and I am a busy student with a part time job and tons of academic commitments. That combined with wedding planning, house searching, and multiple family issues makes for very little "intimate" time for the two of us. We haven't had sex in months (We tried once a few weeks ago and it was literally so terrible that we just stopped. That has never happened before!)

Most of the time, I understand that this is because we are exhausted, he isn't home, our schedules are opposite, etc. But when we DO have the opportunity for some alone time, he would rather watch TV or surf the internet. Our quality time consists of us sitting together on the couch with our computers in our laps. If I do try to initiate something, I usually get turned down, so I stopped trying. Now if it was just his pure exhaustion that was causing this, I would be able to tolerate it. But he seems to avoid sex even when we have a day off together. So today I'm feeling all hormonal and ugly, and start to question his faithfulness.... so I did the unthinkable and (GASP!) snooped in his facebook and e-mail. I already feel a teensy bit guilty for that. I found emails to and from an adult site that he has been paying for (for several months).

Now if it had been something he just took advantage of while we were apart, I would have no problem with it. But from what I've seen, he's been looking at porn on the SAME days that he's been turning me down! WTF?! Now I'm not suggesting that he has a creepy porn addiction or anything- it's really not all that frequent (that I know of, at least). But I'm just wondering why he would rather look at girls on a computer screen than me. He will literally look at porn an hour after turning me down. Maybe it bothers me more than it should but it seriously is tearing me up- I literally feel sick. I'm an attractive person, and I'm always willing to try new things and be fun in bed. If it was boring, vanilla all the time then I could understand too-- But the only reason our sex life is boring is because he never wants to do it!!

I'm trying not to overreact (and call me out if I am, please)... But it has literally been months! And I keep thinking, is this what marriage is going to be like?? I love my fiance, but this is not a life I am okay with. Things aren't going to get any less busy anytime soon. And I can't shake the feeling that he has been talking/flirting with someone else... maybe he just did a good job of hiding the evidence. Ugh. I just want to cry...

ETA: Spelling and grammar errors

]]> **LP11509** https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/196888/lp11509 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 03:12:59 +0000 Snarky Brides NcsuPsych 196888@/discussions Morning! https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/196933/morning Sun, 12 Aug 2012 11:40:17 +0000 Snarky Brides number55 196933@/discussions

Anyone have anything awesome planned for today? We have our regular Sunday schedule of Church, groceries and DHs baseball game. At some point I will get around to finishing the painting and unpacking houses...right?

]]> **Eagles** https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/202937/eagles Sun, 12 Aug 2012 02:14:02 +0000 Snarky Brides Blueyed228 202937@/discussions Where is everyone? https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/196665/where-is-everyone Sat, 11 Aug 2012 23:59:01 +0000 Snarky Brides azdancer8 196665@/discussions
I've been home alone all day while DH works on framing our house. I can't wait to see how much it's changed since the last time I was out there!

What are you all up to?]]> 4 year old boy dies saving girl in pool https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/210551/4-year-old-boy-dies-saving-girl-in-pool Fri, 10 Aug 2012 17:51:31 +0000 Snarky Brides chelseamb11 210551@/discussions http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2012/08/10/13217164-hero-boy-4-dies-after-saving-3-year-old-girl-in-pool?lite

This is so sad and nothing to debate, but I still felt compelled to share it.

A 3 year old girl was drowning in a pool and a 4 year old boy jumped in to save her. He went under while tryin to hold her up, and once he got too tired, he went to the bottom. He was in a coma and unable to breathe on his own, so he was on lief support all week. They're pulling him off life support.

What an amazing kid.

I'm however confused as to how there were no adults around. But the story wasn't very detailed, so I'm sure there's probably an explanation.]]> Thoughts and prayers please-got attacked by a dog...kinda long-pics https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/209680/thoughts-and-prayers-please-got-attacked-by-a-dog-kinda-long-pics Sat, 11 Aug 2012 15:53:27 +0000 Snarky Brides jujub423 209680@/discussions
So, friday I was at work, just a normal day, was going to take 2 dogs back in the kennel to be boarded. I took one dog from the owner and brought him back, then came for the other dog. Only a few dogs actually like going back to the kennel, and he wasn't one of them. He wasn't growling, or giving me the "whale eye", wasn't tense either. He was actually standing behind his owner and wagging his tail. I knelt down on his level as we are trained to do so the dog won't see you as a threat. He came towards me like every other dogs does, I went to put the leash on and BAM. It was like getting hit in the face by a rock with teeth. I was knocked backwards, and immediately knew that something was very wrong.

I ran in the back of the clinic screaming and holding my face. There was huge drops of blood all over the place so my coworker took me to the med center (my boss wasn't at the clinic yet). On the way there I was holding a towel to my face and crying, my coworker looked at me and said, "well, whatever you do, don't look in the mirror", so of course I looked in the mirror...and should have just listened to her. My right nostril was split in 2, and the side closest to my face was just flapping away everytime I breathed.

So, Super long story short- the med center sent me to the emergency room after cleaning me up a bit. Because I was bit in my face, they wanted me to see a plastic surgeon and have him stitch my wounds up. So he comes in and tells me the good news is he can fix my face pretty easily, the bad news is 1) My wounds are full of dirt and bacteria and crap, so they have to be scrubbed and cleaned, and 2) Since I ate this morning, all they can do is give me local anesthesia. So, I got 5 injections of lidocaine in my face, 2 of which were in my nose-one in the actual nostril and one in the hard catrilage that separates your nostrils. I wanted to frickin kill someone, it hurt so bad.

So now I have to go back to the plastic surgeon on tuesday to have my sutures out and my face evaluated. Because of the nature of my nose laceration, my nose might not look the same after it heals. I guess the scar tissue is really thick when it's on thick skin such as your nose, so the scar tissue might actually pull my nostril up and back as it heals, kind of like a pig. So, I may have to have actual plastic surgery in 3-6 months if it doesn't heal right.
After the med center, onthe way to the emergency room

After the plastic surgeon stitched me up

Bright side is, it happened after the wedding!

ETA: I was reading through some threads this morning and holy hannah's I can't believe all that ish with the banning. I'm sure you guys are sick of talking about it, but wow. And Nebb, congrats on the new car!
]]> Name Changing https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/196175/name-changing Sat, 11 Aug 2012 19:19:29 +0000 Snarky Brides mrsdinger 196175@/discussions ]]> Wwyd - selling vehicle https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/204488/wwyd-selling-vehicle Fri, 10 Aug 2012 21:45:42 +0000 Snarky Brides katiewhompus 204488@/discussions
We are selling H's motorcycle to (hopefully) a private buyer (listing on CL and in the paper). However, we still owe on the vehicle. We are going to borrow money from his sister to pay it off in full, so that he owes the vehicle and has the title to sell it.

Here is where we diverge in thoughts. My thought is to get the money asap, on the understanding that we pay sil the monthly payment until we have a buyer. That way we have the title and when a potential buyer comes through we can speed through the transfer.

H is wanting to wait until he has a solid buyer to borrow the money, assuming that the title transfer will be done in 7 days, and the buyer will be ok just waiting until it's done.

Thoughts? Any other options I don't know about?]]> FMIL rant -- advice/nice thoughts needed https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/201519/fmil-rant-advice-nice-thoughts-needed Fri, 10 Aug 2012 04:57:09 +0000 Snarky Brides traybay88 201519@/discussions there is 37 days until the wedding and guess what --> the flowers aren't finalized because my FMIL is concerned about the cost... now, she's paying for them because she was APPALLED that i even considered hand making all of our flowers for the wedding out of paper & said she would pay for them.... we still don't have a limo booked because, you guessed it FMIL hasn't done it yet... cause 7 months ago when I went to book it, the limo company wanted $1700 and thats not in our budget, so she offered to pay for it, and said she would take care of it.. *** these are the only two things she is paying for because we took care of everything else since** okay she is also paying for the Reh dinner because she HAD to have one. my FI and i hadn't planned on having one because we were going to pay for the wedding ourselves, and well a Reh dinner wasn't in our budget.
i guess i wouldn't be so upset about FMIL complain about the cost of the flowers except that they are rich. she was an executive for IMB for almost 5 years, and worked for them for almost 30 years. they live in a 2 million dollar house, that is only 10 years old, & she is having all the carpets replaced in the house for the wedding because family will be staying there, and changing the back splash in the kitchen, again because family members are staying there instead of at a hotel...which costs $10,000 to do!! do not complain to me that you have no money when you are spending $10,000 on replacing carpet that doesn't freaking need to be replaced!!! when the flowers cost $1300!!! AND THE WEDDING ISN'T AT YOUR FREAKING HOUSE!!!!
]]> Oh hey guys, guess what we just bought! https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/206749/oh-hey-guys-guess-what-we-just-bought Fri, 10 Aug 2012 22:22:58 +0000 Snarky Brides Nebb 206749@/discussions

Adams piece of shite car can getfucked!]]> Thank you https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/205593/thank-you Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:39:59 +0000 Snarky Brides traybay88 205593@/discussions

Your all absoluetly right, I was being a bit of a judger myself about my FMIL, i was also being completely crazy.

I can't control things that other's said they would do, and just because FMIL isn't doing them at the speed at which I want them, one, doesn't mean she won't do it, and also doesn't give me ample reason to be a crazy head. so vow to myself, no more ranting at two in the morning about ANYTHING because really everything seems so much worse at 2 am. Also, no more ranting about FMIL because really, like you all said, I wouldn't be having a limo, or nice flowers without her. plus a really nice RH dinner either.

so again, thank you for letting me see the light of my crazyness.

PS - i will post this in chit chat because i do want to say thank you.

]]> Yesterday.... https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/209074/yesterday Fri, 10 Aug 2012 12:19:33 +0000 Snarky Brides semay23 209074@/discussions Morning https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/210798/morning Fri, 10 Aug 2012 13:06:21 +0000 Snarky Brides KateJ10 210798@/discussions

Got a car appt this morning, and then heading to the libary- I finally get to read Insurgent.

]]> Wedding Regrets https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/205386/wedding-regrets Fri, 10 Aug 2012 05:05:45 +0000 Snarky Brides emeejeeayen 205386@/discussions

What, if anything, do you regret about your wedding? (Hopefully you don't regret the marriage!)

Do you wish you'd cared more during the planning process? Cared less? Wish you'd spent less? Wish you'd known or thought of something beforehand? Trivial to important, let's hear it.

Or maybe you had the ~most perfectly perfect day evar. I hope you did, but I'm sure there's something that still irks you a bit ;)

Bonus points for comedy.

]]> *mara* https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/207236/mara Thu, 09 Aug 2012 21:43:54 +0000 Snarky Brides chelseamb11 207236@/discussions ]]> Brilliby! https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/199339/brilliby Thu, 09 Aug 2012 19:49:53 +0000 Snarky Brides chelseamb11 199339@/discussions How was your interview?]]> *Lurkers* https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/199916/lurkers Thu, 09 Aug 2012 20:13:25 +0000 Snarky Brides cheeseandrice 199916@/discussions

So anyway. Reveal yourselves. Tell us things about you.

Name.

Summarize your wedding in 3 words

Are you absolutelyfuckingpyscho? Will you ban us all if ever given mod powers?

Favorite thread (today doesn't count):

fav/least fav posters

any random questions you have for us dinosaurs?

]]> KNOT LILLI https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/192948/knot-lilli Thu, 09 Aug 2012 18:58:00 +0000 Snarky Brides Blueyed228 192948@/discussions
This is getting wicked annoying that this broad is getting to dictate everything that is allowed to be said on TK and if you guys are not going to explain it, then a whole bunch of us are going to peace out of here. THis is beyond ridiculous.

You have deleted Stefs page on CC, 2 AYG's, and other threads. All because of Lucy.

If this broad is that damn sensitive, then maybe its time to retire from the interwebs.]]> AYG.. part deux https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/204443/ayg-part-deux Thu, 09 Aug 2012 18:55:57 +0000 Snarky Brides Matty143 204443@/discussions And Duds is missing.

What is going on at TK headquarters today?!]]> Difficult Guests https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/208772/difficult-guests Thu, 09 Aug 2012 18:16:28 +0000 Snarky Brides KelsieMarcus24 208772@/discussions
The RSVP cards are due back in 4 days, which leaves me just enough time to make placecards and call guests who haven't RSVPed yet. This week, I received TWO cards from friends who say they are definitely bringing a guest, but they don't know who the guest will be. I told them both that they need to make a decision by the 13th (when the cards are due), but they both have voiced that they aren't sure who they will be dating at the time of the wedding (which is 4 weeks away). How should I respond to them? What should I do when they won't give me a name? The venue requires name tags because of the different food choices. ]]> Well. Let's play a game now? https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/207407/well-lets-play-a-game-now Thu, 09 Aug 2012 14:11:31 +0000 Snarky Brides cheeseandrice 207407@/discussions
And don't be dumb and don't get butthurt.]]> What do you think? https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/207055/what-do-you-think Thu, 09 Aug 2012 16:07:46 +0000 Snarky Brides Brandi0714 207055@/discussions
Some examples:
1. Bigamy (Polyandry, Polygyny)
2. Relatives (ex: cousins)
3. Parental consent given for a minor to marry an adult (how young is too young?)
4. Arranged marriage

It may not be the most controversial topic, but it's not hair and makeup :)]]> *Edie* (or whoever is the true crazypants) https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/208678/edie-or-whoever-is-the-true-crazypants Thu, 09 Aug 2012 13:26:55 +0000 Snarky Brides maratea 208678@/discussions *Steph+J* https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/204751/steph-j Thu, 09 Aug 2012 13:33:40 +0000 Snarky Brides Knot Lili 204751@/discussions Morning and WTF https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/207651/morning-and-wtf Thu, 09 Aug 2012 11:08:44 +0000 Snarky Brides Steph0871 207651@/discussions

Anna- Lucy has been meeeaaaaaannnnn to me on SB, can you ban her too now please? I'm too sensitive to deal with her shiate.

]]> Evening thread https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/208837/evening-thread Thu, 09 Aug 2012 01:28:32 +0000 Snarky Brides sweetredhead 208837@/discussions Tell me your weirdest dreams https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/208438/tell-me-your-weirdest-dreams Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:40:20 +0000 Snarky Brides ZombieNates 208438@/discussions
When I was in grammar school, I had a dream about that movie The Leprechaun. He was terrorizing everyone and I had to kill him. I FINALLY was able to grab him and started to strangle him, only to look down and see a tiny black kitten. I was killing the kitten instead. It was the single most disturbing dream I've ever had and I woke up crying. I actually dreamed it a second time, as an adult.

What are yours?]]> Bug off! https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/208805/bug-off Wed, 08 Aug 2012 02:43:06 +0000 Snarky Brides azdancer8 208805@/discussions
So I'm curious. What home remedy do you use for mosquito bites? And why?]]> ~Mehgank~ https://forums.theknot.com/discussion/198061/mehgank Tue, 07 Aug 2012 23:17:17 +0000 Snarky Brides kd.joseph 198061@/discussions

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