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AllAboutTheBenjamin — Wed, 16 May 2012 14:31:48 +0000

Good morning, I have some Gs.

For anyone who missed it because of TK's Godforsaken glitches and the disappearing act of FFF, Mery made some extremely twatful comments about Dot that pissed me right thefuckoff. Bringing you up to speed since I cannot link it - she said she wished Dot would just "go away" and that she thinks Dot probably is the kind of person you'd not want to be in high school with because you'd always be afraid she'd bring a gun to school. I called her out on it but since Mery usually takes about 12 fucking hours to respond to something she did not get a chance to read it, I'm assuming. Obviously - I think it's a shitty thing to say about someone, but I also find it pretty curious that she'd think Dot should "go away", since Dot as far as I know posts exclusively on SB and we all know Mery doesn't post here since we are all "too stupid" for her to have hoity toity academic conversations with ("She doesn't even GO HERE"). So it's obvious she probably just lurks here and runs around TN complaining about how dumb we all are. So Fuckyou, Mery. Go away? How about you just stay on the fucking Nest since they all love licking your stuck up ass all day.

Also, this next one may make me look like an asshole, but I gotta say it. Bay, you know I love you, and I have mad respect for your courage and your attitude with everything you're going through. But I really hate hearing about your H. You post about your H all the time, and obviously since this is a wedding board we are all talking about our own husbands and SOs - it's NATURAL that you would talk about your H. But he has really put you through the ringer this past year, he is completely selfish and all I can think about every time you mention him is that he's just a dillhole with a wandering eye that does not deserve ANY of the blessed time of day that you give him. You are way too easy on this guy. If you guys are eventually able to work past all this horrible shiit and stay together I will be the first one to congratulate you but for real, it's okay to hate him right now. He has been very shitty to you and you are completely re-arranging your entire life because he sucks at his.

See? Asshole. I'M SORRY.

But I do feel better, now you.

Need to rant about my mother

Starqueg — Wed, 16 May 2012 02:14:57 +0000

It's not possible to jump through my computer and smack my mother, right? I haven't seen the woman since August of 2005, but we still talk sporadically on facebook. It's rare that seeing a message from her doesn't make me angry or sad.

Today's treat was: "Even though you ignore her, your great grandmother is in the hospital. A blood clot went to her brain."

I'm sorry my great grandmother is sick. She's 104, so it's really not unexpected for her to get sick. However, that whole side of the family has never been part of my life. Ever. I can't remember the last time I spoke to any of them on the phone, if ever. I talk to my grandmother on facebook occassionally. Same with my cousin and uncle. And by occasionally I mean maybe every 5-6 months.

My mother left the country in 2005, hasn't been back since, and has no plans to return. She changed her email address without telling me, doesn't keep me up to date on my little sister's life (she's medically fragile and not able to contact me on her own...she's 12). I don't have a phone number or address for them. My most recent message from her from before Sunday was in January. But I ignore her family. STFU mom. I'm just done.

YAY! SB is the place to vent about FMIL's

prlove — Wed, 16 May 2012 16:38:39 +0000

Okay, so I haven't really posted on here before but I am SOOO happy you found you ladies! Need to vent about FMIL... (sigh) may be long.. bear with me.

So FI and I are getting married Aug. 2013 and a strapped for cash. He owns his own home remodeling business and with the recession has been hit a little hard. I have been working about 6 months after being laid off for year with cancer. We both have bills, we both are saving money, we are both making this wedding thing happen. Period.

So, my parents are pretty strapped as well. While they have income coming in, they're money is tight and my father is laid off, mom is taking care of my 94 year old awesome grandmother. With that said, they want me to have a nice wedding and want to pay for at least half of it. My sister is contributing, and family in PR is contributing too. FI family is NOT contributing anything. I don't mind, we never asked anyone for anything. His father has been in and out of his life, his brother doesn't really bother with anyone, so that leave FMIL.

Although I get along wonderfully with this woman she has been pissing me the f*** off lately. She is single, has a lot of money invested, owns rental properties, her own home etc. She has always said that she wants to settle down at 61 and has been alone so long and blah blah blah. She acts more like she's in her 20's or 30's. Goes out to dance, likes to dress nice, takes care of herself, travels, excercises, etc. With all of this she still hasn't found a man. She had one briefly and ran him away acting like a 16 year old. Here's the thing...

Ever since FI and I got engaged she has been on this crazy ass man hunt. Although she is financially independent she has depended on FI for EVERYTHING (cutting grass, fixing cars, towing her, etc.). She has been overly involved in EVERY aspect of his life from his finances to everything else. He let this happen because he has a daughter from a previous relationship and if anything happened to him, he wanted his mom to be able to take care of things. Now I step in the picture. She's happy, she loves me, she Blesses me, etc. BUT SHE'S JEALOUS. Jealous that I'm taking her baby boy? NO. The bitch is jealous that I am getting married before she is and has readily stated it. She continues to say that she doesn't know why FI proposed when he has no money for a wedding and doesn't understand why we dont' just do a wedding at a random church and just have some cake and punch. She also has never HAD a wedding herself although she's been married twice. She stated that when she cries at the wedding its going to be because it isn't her getting married, and would i be upset if she wore white? BITCH YES! Then she keeps saying she gave him enough money to help him in his life and refuses to help with the wedding because she has no more to give, and in the same breath keeps telling my mother and me how she is dying to take a trip to the bahamas and she has clothes and jewelry and yada yada yada and if someone asked her to go on a cruise she just has to pack because she has it like that. WTF? Again... that's her money. I'm not expecting her to pay for anything but my mother has made her aware that she doesn't have money either but she is doing what she can take make sure her daughter and FSIL have a great day because we both have been through a lot and we both deserve it. OMG.. I can go on and on about her ass. She constantly asks, "how much are the flowers?" I just say, "oh they arent' that bad." When I do tell her how much something is, she goes behind my back to FI and complains that if we can save money for a wedding, we should be using that money towards our bills and just going to JOP. Yet she asked me to help her plan her wedding because it has to be "all that" whenever she finds this man of hers. She also told my mom that she paid for my engagement ring which is totally false. FI WORKED for the ring by remodeling her house and that was the exchange instead of her giving him money for it.

Okay..... I feel a little better now. Sorry for the length.

I love my mother but... (time to vent)

futuremrsbruno — Wed, 16 May 2012 13:31:23 +0000

I love my mother and could not be more grateful to her for her generousity when it comes to planning this wedding. She and my dad have stepped in to take care of some things for us, and I'm forever grateful. However, the closer we get to the wedding, the more Momzilla she becomes!! Plus she's starting menopause so she can go from calm to crazy in about 2 seconds even when it's not about the wedding.

Here's a brief rundown of some of the things I'm talking about:
- when I did the invitations she insisted I order them and she would pay for them. Awesome. Then she insisted that they be sent to her house since she needs to know the count and I don't always get all of my mail. Okay. FI got upset because he wanted to open the RSVP's himself (don't ask). Said something to mom who went crazy and said she absolutely HAD to open them because they needed to see who was coming. (Um, you need a number, not a name).
- anytime she asks about what I've been working on wedding wise and I tell her about my newest To Do list or DIY project, she slams it. What is wrong with menu cards? "They'll eat what we picked and that's it". Okay, I know that, but don't you think it would be nice if they knew what their dinner would be?
- Seating arragements. HEAVEN forbid we attempt to put both families on the same side of the ballroom. THE HORROR!! Have not touched this in several weeks, but am preparing to do battle... and win..

The closer we get to the wedding (currently 66 days) the more I want to strangle her. in the most loving way of course. Someone PLEASE tell me this is natural and tell me she will stop before I have to go all Bridezilla on her, which I really don't want to do!

Goood Morning!

acaponi87 — Wed, 16 May 2012 11:06:40 +0000

I'm really pumped today is Wednesday! We had a late start to the week (we were up in MI doing WR stuff/golfing on Monday still) so today feels like Tuesday.

I'm getting married 1 month from today.

I love coffee and the nice weather today. Happy Wednesday. What's up with you?

MIL is a crackhoar and I am pissed again.

ZombieNates — Wed, 16 May 2012 01:47:31 +0000

I am so upset. I might DD later because I don't know if I want this part out there forever. And this will probably be long. You've been warned :P

When N came home, we discussed the whole issue again. We decided that we would first ask them what their plans were in Hawaii (to see what they said) and then tell them that we appreciate the trip, but we are planning on spending that time alone because it's our HM. N decided he wanted to do it over Skype (since we always talk with them that way) and he wanted me to be next to him (I thought this was a mistake, but whatever).

We get on Skype and N doesn't handle it well--he's not good in confrontational situations and he gets flustered and forgets what to say. They told us that they're no longer planning the trip and ask us why we're asking. It was a dicey situation and N responded poorly--he said that we were wondering if they were planning on meeting up with us out there (to me, this sounded almost as if we wanted them to meet up with us, which is not the case at all). after an awkward few sentences, we hung up.

BUT they didn't actually hang up, although they thought they did. MIL says "See, I told you they'd be upset. Look at how Noreen acted." First, I didn't act in any way inappropriately. Second, it was her son who brought it up, not me, so why blame me?

So we hang up and I'm like "WTF? Your mom keeps disrespecting me over and over and it's not going to stop until you handle it." N calls her and has another awkward convo, in which she totally dominates the talk, bursts out crying and tells him that he's always hated her.

I feel like I married into an insane asylum.

WR question..

Sosteadilygo — Tue, 15 May 2012 22:39:21 +0000

Hello!

I have good suspicion my photographer looks on tk, so I may DD this. I didn't really want to post on E, because from my lurking I like all of you ladies a lot more.

First of all, my photographer is from Maine (I'm in RI, and is about a 4 hour drive from where the ceremony/reception is). When we booked her, it was a fee for x amount of hours, nothing else included. I recieved an email from her today asking if we could cover the hotel costs for her and her assistant (1 hotel room) because she doesn't want to drive home with her assistant if she is shooting after 8pm.

The hotel room would cost $109. She did state in the email if I was not able to cover it she would be able to, but it would be "GREATLY appreciated".

Would you pay for the hotel room?

Thank you so much!

Who's around?

ZombieNates — Tue, 15 May 2012 21:08:07 +0000

I am killing time until N gets home. What are you up to?

Response from K. Michelle regarding glitches:

anna.oskar — Mon, 14 May 2012 22:48:54 +0000

" I know how frustrated you are. I can tell you that I’m personally just as frustrated as many of these issues were supposed to be fixed months ago. It is our top priority to address the problems you’ve been experiencing. I met with our CEO and IT team on Friday to discuss how we can move faster to improve usability and add some of the features you’ve been waiting for.

Some background: As I’m sure you’re already aware, we’ve been in the process of converting The Nest and The Bump message boards to a new format and platform. Once this conversion is complete, The Nest and The Bump boards will be on the same platform as The Knot, which is hosted by a third-party vendor. As we began making preparations to convert TN and TB boards to the new format, we noticed that posts were disappearing across all of the boards that were hosted by our vendor. Our vendor has spent the past three months researching the issue and trying to find a solution. They thought they had resolved it last week before we converted The Nest boards. Turns out that their solution didn’t hold up and that’s why The Knot members, along with members of The Nest and The Bump local boards, started to notice posts disappearing.

As of Saturday, we haven’t received any reports of missing posts and will not make any additional format changes until we know for sure that there is a permanent solution. Our IT team is also aware that our load time needs to be addressed and that the following features need to be implemented ASAP:

-Sort feature with more options, specifically the ability to filter by most recent post

-Ability for members to easily access their full list of posts and delete when necessary.

-Ability for moderators to ban via mobile

-More threads and posts listed per page

I started requesting these features 3 months ago, and I’m sure that my predecessors also asked for them. Unfortunately it has taken longer than expected due to all of the issues we’re experiencing with our vendor.

I have a list of other functionality and design requests that have been submitted and that will also need to be addressed quickly. Your post count and badges will start displaying accurately once all boards have been converted to the new format. Again, we will not convert any more boards until our vendor is confident that they can support our community and we’ve added the features you've requested.

While we work on fixing these issues, I need you to continue letting me know any time you experience a problem. You can report it here, or send me an e-mail directly. Again, this has been raised as top priority by our CEO and CTO. I’ll start giving you daily updates regarding these fixes and changes and please feel free to e-mail me at any time with questions. I'm also happy to answer any questions that members on the boards you moderate have for me.

I’m so sorry this is taking so long. Both our community and IT teams are incredibly frustrated that our vendor has not found a solution yet. I’m sure that from the outside it looks like we’re not taking these issues seriously, but I promise you that we are and that we’re pushing our vendor to move as fast as possible."

Learn something new

Bkseller13 — Tue, 15 May 2012 18:47:33 +0000

A girlfriend sent me this LINK. Some of it I knew, some I didn't. Some cool/funny shiit here.

I sure didn't know about the plague rolling through. And, my new favorite line: "And this is the sea. I'd recommend bathing in it, because you people smell like the inside of my asshole."

~CEW~

Blueyed228 — Tue, 15 May 2012 18:57:07 +0000

Today is dragging

ErinG93 — Tue, 15 May 2012 18:28:55 +0000

I haven't had a day this slow in a while. WFL? WFD? What are your plans this evening? How is the weather? Anything else?

Meal Planning

brandichamberlain — Tue, 15 May 2012 18:30:04 +0000

The coconut water thread got me thinking about what I wanted to cook for the next week.

Here is what I came up with:

Homemade chicken nuggets and french fries

Spaghetti

Sloppy Joes w/ fresh corn on the cob

Tacos w/ spanish rice

Grilled chicken with a vegetable medley and rice

Hamburgers with roasted potatoes.

Everything I make is boring. What is everyone else making? Any suggestions to improve what I have? Please note: I typically can't put cheese on anything I'm going to eat, so it has to be something he can add later if it is on the recipe.

Coconut water - with recipes?

AllAboutTheBenjamin — Tue, 15 May 2012 17:40:00 +0000

I bought two bottles of coconut water on Sunday. My mom and sisters were going to try it and encouraged me to do it too since it's so good for you. Long story short, I had one bottle yesterday and basically forced myself to drink it. It was nasty.

I have one bottle left but since it was so expensive I hate to throw it out. Is there anything else I can do with it? If I can't find something to make with it I will probably just drink it because I don't want to waste it but frick, it was awful. If I can avoid drinking that shiit again that would be fantastic!

Woah. Apparently the new change really did affect TK

cheeseandrice — Tue, 15 May 2012 14:57:11 +0000

Grabbed this from the TN 'new' boards.

http://www.dailyfinance.com/2012/05/14/buy-sell-hold-xo-group/

40% decrease in daily views.

Tuesday morning?

cheeseandrice — Tue, 15 May 2012 11:38:11 +0000

Is TK going to work this morning? My thread better not disppear.

I need to brag. I got the best night of sleep last night. I think it's the first time in months that I slept basically through the night. I feel way better after this weekend of crappy sleep. The only reason I woke up as early as I did (4:30) is the damn woodpecker on/in our house.

Now I just need to go grocery shopping so H and I can stop eating junk food (i.e. whatever is left in the house.)

I am livid.

ZombieNates — Tue, 15 May 2012 03:30:57 +0000

I know it's late, but I just found out and I need to vent somewhere or I will find a kitten to punch.

So we're taking our belated HM in July and we're going to Hawaii. MIL and SFIL know this because they very graciously offered to pay for the trip. Everything is booked and we're set to go. Fast forward to tonight when H reveals that MIL planned a trip for their family to Hawaii during the time we'll be there. They're going to Maui as well, and will be there almost the entire time we will be (planned after we picked our dates, so it wasn't a coincidence).

WTF?! I'm so angry. I feel like MIL planned this trip as a "family" thing, so they will get a chance to see us since we can't make it out to IN until way later in the year.

Someone talk me down or validate me.

Yikes This is going to be a disaster(vent)

Stormz — Tue, 15 May 2012 08:47:03 +0000

So I have agreed to assist in a wedding this weekend. Boy was that a mistake.

I do wedding planning on the side mostly for friends and family so when the couple asked me to help, I figured I would have it covered and wow I could not be more wrong about anything in my life.

They are planning a church wedding for about 250 people. Not a big wedding nor a small wedding by anymeans. The hall is located about 15-20 minutes away. Still not a big deal.

The problems...

The groom is cooking all of the food for the wedding on Friday. He is only giving himself the evening. They are planning a buffet style with crock pots for 250 people. They are doing a pasta bar and salad bar and having veggie trays for "cocktail hour." The groom is not completely cooking the food, instead he is going to leave it half cooked and hope the crock pots finish cooking the food. The hall is an older hall, we are unsure of the wiring situation in the hall to know if it will accomadate the crockpots PLUS the dj and other activities going on that require electricity.

The bar opens at 2p.

There is no transportation for anyone from the hotel to the reception site with many people unsure of how they are going to get back and forth.

They are paying a single girl to run the whole buffet line, cut the 4 tiered wedding cake, run the bar, clean the tables, and tear down tables after dinner for a dance floor. (There is also no kitchen on site at the reception hall)

They are getting married at 1p but they are not planning on serving dinner until 4-5p. They have not nailed down the details yet.

I was asked by the groom to help because he knows it is not going to work out, but I cannot do anything because the bride wants total control. That is fine, it isnt my wedding but she has recruited my bf, a mutual friend, and me to fix this mess and help with the buffet.

To make matters worse...

My aunt who also does weddings with me offered to cater the wedding for FREE. They just had to buy the food and we would make the rest work out. We were told she doesnt want too many people working the wedding because it looks tacky. My aunt has a kitchen in a trailer and all the necissary equipment to make a wedding work without a kitchen onsite.

I opened my whole arsenal of wedding decor to her complete disposal and was told it was also tacky. I offered upgraded linens, chair covers, bows, the works whatever I had that she wanted she could use for FREE.

I really feel bad about the situation because I do not see this working out well. Any suggestions how to approach the situation? I do not want to see the power to go out and ruin their nite nor the food being terrible. I do not want to get blame when the day does not go as planned and at this point I cannot walk away or I would offend my long time friend the groom.

I am so fustrated and been banging my head off the wall since I was recruited.... Tuesday. I have until Saturday to make a gameplan.

Good Evening!

anna.oskar — Tue, 15 May 2012 00:06:14 +0000

What's up people?

My H and I just got home from the driving range where I managed to pull off a pretty consistent drive in the 200 range. So I'm feeling pretty good about myself. I may not have mad skills but at least I won't have to wear a shirt warning all other players to beware of my slice. Well.. there was one intense divot situation in which I think the divot went farther than the ball. Oops!

So now I'm chilling in the a/c and looking for good things to watch on tv so I can enjoy tonight to the fullest before summer classes begin tomorrow.

JCG--Butterfly House Review

ZombieNates — Sun, 13 May 2012 22:05:09 +0000

We went to Hudson Valley Nursery today and had such a good time! The butterfly house was small, but only $3 pp, so definitely a good deal. There were so many beautiful butterflies--I took almost 100 pictures. The place also has a free BBQ on Saturdays and Sundays, so you can just get some free food there (we didn't, because we had plans to go out to eat, but it smelled so good).

All in all, it's a decent hike for a half hour thing, so plan something else to do, but it was really cute and we had a great time. We're going to try the one in Camden another time (it's by the aquarium).

Happy Mother's Day!

LP11509 — Sun, 13 May 2012 12:16:06 +0000

Good morning! Happy Mother's Day to all the mommas and mommas-to-be! There are so many of you now, I love it!

I have lots of cooking on the agenda today. I'm making brunch and dinner for my mom. Hopefully she likes everything.

For some reason my posts are centering when I type in the box. Weird.

Irrational irritations

AllAboutTheBenjamin — Mon, 14 May 2012 15:50:15 +0000

Can we do one of these? I dunno if we had one recently but I have some things I'd like to bitch about.

My mom just called and told me she spent all this time on Friday hand washing her car and now she's upset because a couple days later the car is full of dust and bug guts. Um, hello? It's springtime and you live on a farm. DUH. It's still annoying when you get the car machine washed and that happens but you know it's gonna happen. She never hand washes her car so I have no idea why she'd do that in the first place especially if all that effort would go to hell after a couple of days anyway.

And here is a completely irrational irritation - when I'm at a restaraunt and I'm drinking water and the waitress comes around with a pitcher of water and wants to refill my glass, I get instantly pissed that she wants to fill up the glass when I've only drank maybe 25% of the water. Omg. I have all this water left, I'm not out of water, I don't need more water. And I only drink one glass of water with lunch anyway, if you keep filling up my glass, I'm not going to be able to drink it all and then it just gets wasted. Whenever they come around I always take my glass and guard it, like.... NO. I have all the water I need.

See? Completely irrational.

fast approaching

megpfad36 — Mon, 14 May 2012 14:31:14 +0000

less than a month

Monday, sigh

celticmyss — Mon, 14 May 2012 12:20:26 +0000

I must be to work early if there isn't even a morning thread yet!

This week should be decent at work but I still wish i could have stayed home and relaxed today. We had a great time on our trip but it was tiring. I really hope the next few days go by quickly.

Thursday my father is coming into town for our food tasting! I am super excited about both parts of that. FH also arranged to get him a surprise behind the scenes tour at his favorite brewery/restaurant.

How was everyone else's weekend? Any exciting plans this week?

'ello?

cheeseandrice — Sun, 13 May 2012 22:55:56 +0000

Anyone around?

H and I got back from WI at like 5, after picking up the dogs from the boarding place. They are such spazzballs, and they smelled. So the first thing I did (while H unpacked the car) was hose them off. Literally. Leashed them to the tree in the back yard and gave them a bath. They smell so much better, but they both keep giving me sketchy eyes. ha

What's up? Anyone do anything fun today?

Talk to me about deeds and such

bakekiwi — Sun, 13 May 2012 22:22:39 +0000

A question for you lovely ladies. I’ve got an opinion, and I’m wondering if I’m off-base. This is a cart before house scenario. H doesn’t see the need for me to be on deeds and such for his family’s properties in the future. I don’t operate that way. What’s mine is yours, plain and simple (in my mind). I want him to be on a house deed, and I want to be on his. My wanting to be on the deeds isn’t about money; it’s about our shared responsibility.

So, my backstory spawns questions. Are both of you going/are on the deed of your house? How about car? Is this something that is important to you?

XP: Rec your Android apps.

J&K10910 — Sat, 12 May 2012 16:53:44 +0000

I just got a new phone and have downloaded all my standbys (Pandora, ATK, Angry Birds, Goodreads, etc) but need to know what you can't live without.

Also, does anyone recommend ATK vs Advanced Task Manager? I've only ever had ATM, but I've heard ATK is better.

Blue!

Mrs.B6302007 — Sat, 12 May 2012 13:54:41 +0000

I haven't been around much at all the last few weeks and I just saw your ticker. CONGRATULATIONS! I know you are over the moon.

Books

musicxstore — Sat, 12 May 2012 14:08:57 +0000

Hey, everyone.

I know when I asked for book recommendations a while back someone suggested "The Devil in the White City" by Eric Larson. It's on my "to read" list, but I was just wondering who has read it and if you could share any thoughts or opinions? My next book is either that or "The Hunger Games" and I have to be kinda picky because I don't have much time to read. /: TIA and have a great day.

Morning!

kushie77 — Sat, 12 May 2012 13:02:00 +0000

I hope it's safe to post and TK is ful and isn't eating messages.

FI let me sleep in, going to find something for breakfast and run some errands. Hope you ladies have a great day.