Wedding Recap and Withdrawal — The Knot Community

MissNowMrs.com?????

jarubass — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 14:50:44 +0000

Ok I am so confused with all these files and whatnot for changing my last name that my head is spinning. I heard about this new site missnowmrs.com. I wanted to know if anyone had used the site (it cost $30) for the full package. Was as smooth of a transitiong as the site claims? please let me know!
Thanks!

Meeting photographers on Tuesday - any do's/dont's?

futuremrsgates — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 16:44:29 +0000

My mom and I have narrowed our list of photographers down to three and will be meeting with all of them on Tuesday. Any must-ask questions, etiquette, or red flags to look for? The photography of my wedding is one of the most important aspects so I want to be smart here!

couple of things

lissa12 — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 03:56:10 +0000

so best moments ever.... 7 weeks of crazy clean up, prep, etc 4 days of amazing friends and ready making, my make up lady told me 4 times i HAD to go shower (we diy'ed it at our house - oh boy), but wow totally wonderful and several people told me they teared up (in our group that is SUPER unusual) -

I bought a dress that i did not wear (minor alterations but not worn) i know there is a classified section but how do i price this to sell and make the most of it back ????
- Please don't get me wrong it's a lovely dress with simple details and a fun kick but it simply did not make me feel like the most beautiful luckiest woman in the world. (yes i bought it, yes i felt pressured to find a dress, but i did honestly think it would be ok unitl it simply wasn't ok at all.) I started making a dress and brilliantly my mom was able to finish it for me so i was not naked and felt AMAZING!

my husband is wonderful and our friends and family leave me humbled and the party f-in rocked!!! so all is well and my world could not be sweeter then right now! - well maybe the next 50 years but now is so beautiful!

Thanks for the help on the pricing thing...

Did you spend more $ on your wedding than planned?

Knot Lili — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 15:11:47 +0000

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Did you spend more on your wedding than you originally planned?

No Video Yet! 9 months!

kristineliz81 — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 15:48:37 +0000

WEDDING STORIES RI Rhode Island Attorney Generals Office of Consumer Protection: page 49 John Cipolla dba Wedding Stories RI http://www.riag.ri.gov/documents/2011annualreport.pdf Proof this videographer doesn't deliver. Out of the 16 known couples who filed during early 2011, there are still some who never received their video. I've been in touch with at least 1 couple who was married 2 years ago and still don't have their video. Don't use this vendor! If you have used this vendor, and like many of us, still don't have your video, contact me. Kristinsimmons2011 gmail.com

EXPIRED

jaschelle — Thu, 05 Jul 2012 22:20:39 +0000

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Marriage Announcements?

FlintstonePearl — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 21:19:07 +0000

I'm considering sending marriage announcements to friends and family I was unable to invite to my small-ish out of town wedding. Miss Manners says announcements should go in the mail the day after the wedding. Has anyone else done this? Do you recommend it?

What do you remember?

amiechoate — Thu, 31 May 2012 19:23:54 +0000

For the brides that are already married...what do you remember most in terms of the actual day? Was the food important? Flowers? Did you cut your guest list to have the reception you wanted or did you compromise all of the extras to have everyone there? Thank you in advance for your responses!

I got married this on Saturday 6/16/12

Andrealsuarez — Mon, 18 Jun 2012 20:24:10 +0000

I have mixed feeling posting on this board, I remember a time when I could not wait to be postin gthis message and now that its here I am both happy and sad. Sad that all of that planning and fun/crazy times with friends is over and Happy that my new life with my wonderful husband begins.

Ok so the recap, we had the best day for an outdoor wedding there was not a cloud in the sky perfect 75 degrees I mean just a perfect day. I did eat and haha I did even eat some dessert (so yummy) everyone had a great time they all said how beautiful everything was and what a great time they had.

A few people didnt take a favor so I got left with 20 extra, I did not waste time and money on things I knew would be a waste and end up getting tossed so we not only saved a ton of money but a lot of time and agravation as well so I would suggest dont get caught up in a lot of decorations I would just have 1 big thing that will pop that everyone will remember and thats it. We borrowed things from friend and family so we didnt have to buy and everyone was so sweet to share what ever we needed.

I wish all soon to be's out there the best most happiest time.....HAPPY PLANNING!!!

best day of my life!

Swindella — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 16:36:29 +0000

Wow we just got married on saturday and it was so amazing! The food was spectacular, the ceremony was beautiful,and the dance floor was packed all night! Everything was so beautiful, it could not have been a more perfect day =) We just had so much fun! I'm definitely going to miss my dress but the photographer said we could dress up again to take more pictures! My hubby will be getting a free tux from men's warehouse so we could do it! I'm very happy but I will definitely miss the great time we had.

Feeling the Post-Wedding Blues

mhaas412 — Tue, 29 May 2012 14:33:36 +0000

Don't get me wrong, I am happy to be married and I love my husband. We have been together for six years. We have been married two days.

Once people started to leave brunch, I could feel the depressed whatever coming on. We spent so much time planning this event. It happened so quickly and now its over.

I am sure other people feel this way as well. Any suggestions to not stress, worry, or be moody about the weekend ending?

Thank you card to vendors??

juandcol2012 — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 21:48:23 +0000

I am writing all of my thank yous and am wondering if I should make some up for my vendors? Officiant, florist, venue, etc. any thoughts are appreciated!

Wedding Snafus?

anitragordy — Thu, 31 May 2012 20:20:57 +0000

Just got married a few weeks ago. It was an outside wedding and the weather was perfect! This is what I stressed over for months before the wedding. I should've been stressed out about how my venue and it's vendors would screw up my wedding.

1. The cake was orange instead of purple. How does that happen?? And the decorations were not what i expected either. They also didn't put the cake on a silver cake stand, as I was told they would do.

2. The caterer gave me ham instead of the turkey i ordered. Tasty, but I should've been told about the change.

3. The DJ forgot to bring one of the most important songs that i asked him to play.

I was able to get over all of the above. After all, it's my wedding day, right?

4. This is the big one. The people for the evening wedding arrived during my wedding (at last 2 hours early) and started unloading their stuff. The venue said nothing to them. I was livid as this totally inappropriate, not to mention cutting into the time that I paid for. Also, because they were in the way, I ended up forgetting a bag with my phone, camera, and Kindle in it. So instead of spending time with my new husband, I had to try to track down the venue (they don't like to answer the phone and it's 40 minutes from my house) to make sure they had the items, and then make a trek back up there the next day when I should've been on my honeymoon.

I know, worse things could have happened, but this wasn't the day that I planned. And people wonder why I am so type A and do everything myself!

Thank you for allowing me to vent.

How to deal w/ hurt feeling after wedding

RNMOMTO3 — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 16:06:10 +0000

How do you respond to people close to you that didn't show up at the wedding. My two half-sisters and one of my DH's sisters didn't show up to our wedding as well as several "close friends". They "just have other things to do that day." None of my 5 wo-workers that swore they were coming didn't show up either and no real excuse was given. What do you say to people that didn't show up then keep saying "Im so sorry I wasn't there" or "I wished I had been there" or the ones that just don't bother to apologize?

My very sweet cousin chaged me $200 for our wedding and groom's cakes but they were ugly and tasted horrible. I have had her cakes before that were delicious and beautiful but ours were just ugly and weren't good. She cried and apologized but I wanted to ask "What the h*ll happened today?". I have made many cakes and would never have charged someone full price for a cake that looked that bad and tasted terrible. I guess I have to let that go but I really feel like she should have only charged me half price when it looked so bad.

How do you handle those hurt feelings?

Disappointed in friends

annk85 — Tue, 26 Jun 2012 04:17:56 +0000

Let me start off by saying that I had a beautiful wedding and am blessed with a wonderful husband, friends and family. However, there are three 'good' friends that really disappointed me.

Friend 1 - She moved a few hours away right before we got engaged. Prior to that, she was always bugging me about when I was getting engaged and once it happened, she was constantly asking me questions about planning. Once the shower invite went out, I never heard from her again. When we sent out wedding invites, I tried calling/emailing/texting to see if she was coming our not. What's even more strange is that we were planning a weekend where I drove out to her place this summer. So I guess I'm not doing that anymore...

Friend 2 - Same sort of thing. We talked up until shower invites went out and nothing after that. She was also planning a wedding but told me it's only close family (specifically parents/brothers/sisters). Then I see on facebook that she actually had a really big wedding. I understand that she wasn't inviting every single person to her wedding but I feel like she flat out lied to me about it. It wouldn't bother me if she wouldn't have pointed out that it would only be close family.

Friend 3 - Probably the one that I'm hurt by the most. Again, never responded to the shower invite. She did say she was coming to the wedding when I borrowed her slip but then never showed up. I've tried calling/texting a couple times to see how she is doing (never mentioned the wedding) and she still hasn't responded.

I guess I'm just hurt that three people who I thought were good friends completely blew me off. It's not even that they didn't come to the wedding but just that they don't even respond. I know people get busy but in six months they can't respond to a text? My husband says things like that just happen with friends but it still really bothers me.

Married 2-11-12 Recap and some BIG BUMMERS

TallyKyle — Sun, 01 Jul 2012 08:27:08 +0000

I know my wedding was almost 5 months ago, but there were some issues that still upset me.
#1 the flowers- I met with a private florist a few times to discuss all of the floral arrangements. While I didn't know what I wanted when I first went in, I was able to tell them what I wanted using pictures. When the flowers arrived, they were beautiful, but not what I asked for. We had settled on blue and white hydrageas, white carnations, blue freesia, and white anenomies. It was supposed to be quite full, but with some texture. The flowers were ALL hydrangeas and carnations with GREEN accents. AND all of the mens boutonnierres and the mom's corsages were wilting. They consisted of mini roses which I specifically asked for them NOT to have. All of the roses were wilted. The bouquets did not make it through the reception. I was hoping ti save some of my flowers, but I was unable to. When I called the florist, they would only re-emburse the men's flowers. However, I have still not recieved the refund.
#2 The photographers- This team seemed nice and attentive on my wedding day, but they did not offer any suggestions for poses or photo opportunities. They never contacted me with what kind of pictures I wanted. I had several ideas that I wanted, but I did not have a chance to have them taken. They were contantly taking pictures of OTHER PEOPLE. They were very rude during the reception. During our first dance, one of the photographers kept snapping at H and I trying to get our attention. I'm sorry, but I'm dancing with my husband and I will pose for you AFTER the song. Upon reviewing the photos, they were very basic- almost prom-like. A lot of unnatural, stiff poses. There were no photos that showed the goofy relationships we have with our wedding party. I see all these amazing pictures of other peoples' weddings, and I can't help but feel sad and jealous.
#3 Family-I am not a materialistic person, but I was disappointed in some of our family memebers. Many of them did not give a card, let alone a gift. I personally feel that if someone is going to pay for your dinner, you should at least say thank you. I am not upset about the gifts, but the lack of courtesy. We recieved almost NO thanks from my H's cousins. On a related note, BM (H brother) said that he was not giving us a gift because he spent so much on the bachelor party. They took a brewerey tour on the west side of the state. None of my H's friends were there, they were al BM's friends. H would have been happy with a night at the bar. Once again, there was no for of thanks from the BM.

What I need help with is getting over the disappointment. I can't go back and fix it, but I still wish I could redo certain things. Any suggestions?

Gift and card matchup issue

Spunkykitty78 — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 02:05:54 +0000

Have any other couples out there had a hard time figuring out which card went to a gift because the card fell off ? What did you do? It makes it very hard to write thank you cards!

For everyone who chose to see eachother before the ceremony

kdaniels29 — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 02:16:21 +0000

Hi All-
My FI and I are trying to decide if we want to do the traditional thing and not see eachother before the ceremony or if we want to do a pre-ceremony reveal. I've read tons of stuff online from photographers who rant and rave about how well this goes and some stuff from brides who are PLANNING to do this at their wedding. However, I haven't found any recaps or reflections from brides who actually did this and what they thought of it. SO, if you chose to see your FI before the ceremony, what did you think? What were the pros and cons? If you could go back, would you change it? THANK YOU!

DoC or no DoC??

adfoster77 — Fri, 22 Jun 2012 17:12:14 +0000

Of all of you that have been wed already, did you have a Day of Coordinator or not, and how did it turn out?

What would you recommend from your experiences?

Thanks a bunch, in advance.

XP: The truth about spray tanning

KBSK12 — Mon, 25 Jun 2012 18:46:43 +0000

Does it rub off on your dress? I asked the beauty salons, they deny that it comes off. Then I asked my bridal shop and they swear up and down that it ruins dresses. Has anyone had experience with this?

Our March Wedding

scooterpie7 — Mon, 25 Jun 2012 07:47:05 +0000

Our wedding was back in March but I never got round to posting it!

We had the most wonderful day and the weather luckily held off so we had the ceremony outside.

Pictures at: http://tinyurl.com/wedding240312

Best of luck to all brides to be. xx

set up and clean up???

pickels09 — Sat, 05 May 2012 07:04:20 +0000

We're planning to have our wedding at a venue that doesn't provide set up and clean up, I told my mom that our wedding party and close family can help us do all the set up and clean up but she insist that no one should have to or will want to do that. is this something that the wedding party shouldn't have to do? should we hire someone to do all that for us? please any advice will help, thank you!

We Are Married!!!

kiki1978 — Mon, 25 Jun 2012 11:45:05 +0000

We got married yesterday! It was a wonderful day for both of us. Like any wedding, there were a few snafus. The main one was it was 95 degrees out and we had an entirely outdoor event. The reception was in a tent with fans, but it was still SO hot. Most people left right after the food and cake, but that was ok. We wrapped up our reception early because of the heat. I forgot to put the favor cards out. I also forgot to put my wedding jewelry on including my grandma's brooch and my H mom's necklace. We still had a fabulous day. I'm so glad to be married to my sweetie!

I wanted to share some great vendors from my wedding

HyersBassler — Tue, 26 Jun 2012 17:38:06 +0000

If you are looking for an outdoor wedding Morris Arboretum is a beautiful place to be married. The rose garden is the perfect backdrop for your wedding. The caterer to chose is Company's Coming. Andrea will make sure your day is perfect. If you are looking for a florist. check out Phil at Blakes Florists in Huntingdon Valley, PA. My flowers were gorgeous and all I had to do it get him a photo of an idea I had and he took it from there. Check out Jimmy and Co. for hair. Megan is awesome. If you are looking for a Photographer that takes pictures but never bothers you to pose. check out 32countiesphotography. I'm waiting for my proofs but they sent 2 as a sneak peak and they are GORGEOUS!!!!!!!! If you want to see pictures or would like to contact any of the vendors I mentioned let me know. I would be glad to elaborate. I had a perfect day and I think it was because the vendors I was surrounded by were so passionate about what they did, it almost felt like it was someone close to them was getting married

Looking for a Trustworthy Dry Cleaner

McCulloughWalker — Wed, 16 May 2012 18:21:05 +0000

Hi,

I just got married and after the whirlwind day, when I took my gown off I noticed how much dirt and filth got all over the bottom of it! I expected it to be dirty, but I am looking for a trustworthy dry cleaner in the Pittsburgh area. It seems that the only PA wedding gown cleaning/preservation specialists are in Central or Eastern PA and I don't think I'm willing to go quite that far for this. Any suggestions?

Thanks!!

What were your unexpected costs?

stephie25 — Sat, 19 May 2012 13:07:36 +0000

I've been working a second job for the last year to make sure we had enough money to pay for everything we wanted for the wedding. At this point we have more than enough saved for everything we've budgeted for, and I'm thinking about quitting the second job so I can enjoy the last few months of our engagement. I'm nervous about last minute expensenses though. What kinds of things popped up that you all were not anticipating, budgetwise? TIA!

Television Opportunity

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Post Wedding Sadness...

KBabe076 — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 13:54:06 +0000

Hey everyone - my wedding day was June 2nd and the day was perfect! It was absolutely gorgeous! Today is my first day back at work and I'm depressed to be back after the wedding and honeymoon in Jamaica. I feel like I'm being thrown back into normal life and it sucks! Our engagement was 18 months so we had wedding on the brain for so long that it's weird that it's over.

Is anyone else feeling this? And how are you coping? I'm trying to think about our next steps as a couple (buying a house/job searching) but it's really tough.

Anyone use an ipod/pandora for DJ?

dianecherie — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 14:44:53 +0000

Hi All,
I wondered if anyone used an ipod or streaming music of any sort instead of a DJ. All the DJ websites say that using your own music doesn't help determine the "mood" of the crowd. Any advice? Regrets?

approx cost for alterations?

lgabbott — Mon, 04 Jun 2012 20:50:34 +0000

I know it depends on the seamstress and what you have done but I was just wondering what the possible cost is for bustle, taken in on the sides, and a layer of crinolin taken out?