Wedding Recap and Withdrawal — The Knot Community

Picaboo "Madison" or "Modern" Photobook?

seventiespop — Mon, 16 May 2011 19:47:56 +0000

Hi Ladies!
Our first anniversary is fast approaching (July 3rd!) and I'm finally getting around to making a wedding album. My sister gifted me a $100 groupon to Picaboo and I'm wondering if any of you had experience with the quality of their photo albums, specifically the Madison and/or Modern style with the lay flat pages. I'd hate to spend the extra money if the quality isn't much better than their Classic style (especially since the Classic styles always have additional discounts).
Thanks in advance!

What will you do with The Dress?

mbriancesco — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 14:56:56 +0000

I just got married 1 month ago (yay!) and have made it through all of my pictures, paper, etc. I'm making scrapbooks and photo albums with all of it. The last think is my beautiful wedding gown and veil. We live in a 1BR apt in NYC, so this space is very valuable to us! I never thought I'd have the dress preserved. It just will continue to take us space and I don't really understand what I'm keeping it for (most girls don't want a hand-me-down dress). However, every time I look at pictures or at the physical dress, I'm not sure I can bear to part with it. I'm just curious what everyone else did or is planning to do with their dress?

DIY flowers

kne3003 — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 18:23:32 +0000

did any of you buy fresh bulk flowers and put them together yourself a couple days before the wedding? If so, do you regret it, or was it pretty simple and stress free?

Hotel Block Question

siouxsie7 — Thu, 31 Mar 2011 20:57:26 +0000

Based on the number of OOT households you had, what's a good percentage to plan for regarding a hotel block?

Also, did you go scope out the hotel before you contacted anyone? Or were they cold calls when blocking rooms?

Thanks!

Tradtions were not done

njaffe — Sat, 21 May 2011 03:57:17 +0000

My son was recently married and my husband and I took care of the entire wedding. Our wedding planner forgot to arrange the dances for the parents, the removal of the garter, and the tossing of the bridal bouquet ! I am so upset and do not know what to do! I can never get those memories back for my children!

Get pictures taken almost a year later?

calvinknight03 — Wed, 18 May 2011 05:35:43 +0000

I've been married 8 months. I'm still a little upset because it rained on the day of my wedding so we didn't get the outdoor photo shots that I wanted next to a bridge and waterfall as it was too muddy to go there. The pictures ended up being in front of the church on the pathway with some plants. They came out okay, just not what I wanted.

So would it be ridiculous to get some pictures taken again? Either one year photos in normal clothes with my husband and I or shots in my wedding dress at the same spot with the waterfall? I could do like a trash the dress kind of thing (though I really don't want to trash it).

What do you all think? Should I just get over it or try to take photos again? If so, in which way?

Thanks!

please send me your cake picture

chocolategirl3000 — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 13:08:42 +0000

Anybody want to share a picture of the wedding cake they had? I am looking for ideas!

How much Did you Spend?

talee1989 — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 14:27:29 +0000

My Fiance and I got engaged last year. We haven't set a date yet because we can not decide how we are going to finance it. We both have car payments, I have a student loan, and we bought a house together so we have a house payment. Neither of our parents are going to be able to help pay for anything due to their own financial situations.

Anyone have any ideas how we can pay for this or what kind of budget we should set?

Neither of us want a BIG wedding but we just want to make it the happiest day of our lives as it should be. I really want this day to come because I have been looking forward to it since the first day we met 6 years ago.

If you have already had your big day on a low budget how much did you spend and what kind of ideas do you have for us to move forward with our day?

so how was the food? diy

BRITTANY143dsl — Tue, 10 May 2011 22:51:47 +0000

I am catering my own wedding which sounds crazy I know. I learned from my sisters wedding that preporation and having a HIRED STAFF is key. its is a buffet style wedding with many different creative "stations" I think I have most of it down but I am just looking for do's/dont's tips avoid ideas that you have encountered from catering your own wedding! thank you!

Wedding bands....

Diamond1031 — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 15:07:23 +0000

Hello Ladies!
I wasn't sure where to post this question, but I am in need of help picking out a wedding band that will compliment my 3 stone e-ring (pic on my wedding page that is still in progress). I haven't seen anything that sparks my interest and thought I'd ask the question here.

Anyone out there have a 3 stone e-ring and band that they'd love to share with me. Any advice in picking one out? We go this month for my inspection so the FI and I decided we would look then to get pricing and ideas. I know trying them on is half the fun, but wanted some idea before we go.

TIA

To all those that had a candy buffet...

katelyn26 — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 21:56:00 +0000

If you had a candy buffet can you post your pics? Need ideas for containers...thanks!

butterfly release??

GREENFLOYD — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 00:34:49 +0000

Has anyone done a butterfly release? I really want to, but everthing I read cautions against. Just wondering if anyone has had a successful realease and who you used.

Post wedding blues.

smwagner70 — Sat, 16 Apr 2011 18:12:38 +0000

It is the weekend after my wedding and my husband is at work and I'm sitting here looking at the shower thank you notes to finish and thinking about the wedding. I'm so glad the stress is over but I miss all the family that was here and the fun. I guess I'll just have to entertain more often. At least I have a honeymoon in a month to look forward to.

does anyone know what knottie this is?

anaugustwedding — Sun, 01 May 2011 22:05:04 +0000

My sister wants to do her hair just like this for her wedding. This knottie had done a post on how she
did her hair because she got so many compliments. thanks to all.

send me your dinner buffet pictures!

BRITTANY143dsl — Wed, 11 May 2011 21:22:45 +0000

im so lost as how i should set up the dinner buffet...im catering my own...im wondering how to set it up what to decorate the table with etc! please help....idea pictures anything

First look pics - how do they work?

WEEZIE918 — Wed, 11 May 2011 03:50:06 +0000

I am trying to decide whether or not to have first look pics or wait to see FI for the first time as I walk down the aisle. I'm leaning toward first look pics for a few reasons, but before I make my final decision I'd like to hear real stories of how it was actually done. Did you walk up behind him? Or did you walk toward him with him watching you, like he would have if you were walking down the aisle, the difference being that no one else was around?

Wedding Photo brunch

Sappster — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 05:57:37 +0000

Hello Everyone,

I am planning on hosting a wedding photo brunch for my immediate family and my new immediate family where we can gather around a look at the wedding photos together after we get them back from the photographer and videographer. I was wondering if anyone has any cute ideas to have the day feel very special? I am not much for throwing parties so any advice is welcomed! Thanks in advance!

Question for those that r married- what do u wish u did?

gymchick05 — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 15:05:35 +0000

I am getting down to the last minute stuff for my wedding and I am just wondering for those of you who are married now, what was th stuff you look back on and wish you splurged on or remembered to do? Im just trying to make a list to make sure I think of everything. Thanks so much!

Thank You Card Question

MrsBiddy23 — Tue, 10 May 2011 03:00:01 +0000

I'm stumped about how to start my thank yous to the numerous middle aged couples who are friends of our parents. Should it be "Dear Mr. & Mrs _____" or "Dear First Name & First Name". I plan to do Mr. & Mrs. on the mailing envelope.

On one hand they signed their first names on the cards they gave us at our wedding, so it may seem impersonal to not address them each by name. Yet, for some of these couples, we hardly know them and I wouldn't want to come off as rude, so maybe it's safer to go the Mr. & Mrs. route...?

Thoughts and advice appreciated!

please help

jessandderrick — Tue, 10 May 2011 03:31:41 +0000

how do i delete this profile and make a new one? please help

how did/do you do favors/candy table/ and escort cards? so confused

MrsH8611 — Mon, 09 May 2011 14:23:14 +0000

Ok so the menu we have 2 entrees the guests will choose from on their invites. The venue wants us to be able to identify the most selected entree somehow so the servers know what food goes where. How do I do this? Each table is being named (not numbered).

We are doing (planning on doing) small mason jars full of honey for the guests as favors, so could that tag team as the escort "card", so should that be labeled with what table they are sitting at (with a card possibly colored pink or green attached for their type of entree.. like a pink card tells the cook chicken and pork meaning the color green?)

So like maybe a board of somewhat up listing what table each person is at then they go to that table... and the jar of honey is there for where they are sitting? I just don't want to assign ppl seats :( I have heard a lot of drama stories over this and i was told its easier to just let them sit where they please ???

If I do that, I will somehow have to do a jar for every person... 300 jars of honey is too much for us... plus about 20 ish of them are under 11. So I really don't think my aunts/uncles wouldn't be too happy haha. So how in the heck do i do this lol

What was your most memorable moment?

mikeynkrib2011 — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 20:33:25 +0000

I have a few:

1: Standing and looking into his eyes at the ceremony. I was tearing up and so was he. It felt like there was nobody else in the church. It really solidified that we are committed, and it was so special to see him so emotional.

2: Kissing at the reception when everyone rang their glasses. It felt like we had just started dating all over again!

3: Getting a gift from my mom at the reception. She presented it to the both of us right after my dad's toast...it was Jimmy John's Sub Shop Hats from the place we both worked at and first met. H and I high fived and put on our hats. Priceless!

Wedding Day drama....one year later.

kelly_shaffer1 — Sun, 17 Apr 2011 06:38:24 +0000

Almost one year after the wedding I am still running into family issues associated with the wedding. Here's the situation: During the wedding planning process I had some conflicts with my FMIL. My mom and I wanted a small wedding, my FH and his mom wanted a large wedding. We tried to compromise and have something in the middle. My FH would address issues with his mom and I would address the issues with my mom during the whole planning process. We managed to come to a solution, FH's parents would incurr more of the cost of the wedding if they were able to invite more people. Thought they still paid less than half of what my parents paid, my parents would get the say on the alcohol issued discussed below. Worked out well, or so I thought.
The alcohol issues: grandparents are strict Protestants with a serious adversion to alcohol. My mother and I knew this going into the wedding, in fact it is well known that they will leave a wedding as soon as alcohol is brought out even if it is their own child's wedding (did actually happen). My FH's family really loves to drink. During the planning process I explained to the FIL this problem and everyone agreed that we would wait to serve alcohol until after the cake was cut (knowing that my grandparents would then leave and feeling ok with them leaving then since they witnessed the major milestones). Please keep in mind that the cake was cut immediately after dinner. During this process my FMIL even stated that she thought it was great I still had grandparents to share in our special day (FH's grandparents passed when he was little).
The problem arose at the rehearsal dinner. My FMIL started pushing the alcohol issue (she wanted it served earlier). She said that she was afraid that FH's uncles and aunts would really be expcting alcohol earlier. It really upset me and my mother as everyone, including FILs, had already agreed that alcohol would not be served until after the cake. She just wouldn't let it go! I stated that the issue had already been settled and we were not discussing it anymore. FH was silent (though later he stated he agreed with me, but he didn't want to get involved in the conflict, an issue we have since addressed). I am still really hurt that she kinda tried to corner my mother at the rehearsal dinner to get her way on an issue that had already been discussed to death and was agreed upon.
At the wedding, FH's family brought drinks up to the ballroom from the hotel bar downstairs (behind mine and FH's back FMIL opened a tab down there for the guests). Irked me when I found out later, but my grandparents must not have noticed (I don't know how) or realized that the alcohol was not being provided or sanctioned by my family and stayed til after the cake cutting.
First issue: It still hurts me to this day though that my MIL had such flagrant disregard for mine and my FH's wishes on our wedding day (FH was totally on board with me about the alcohol). Even more so that she went behind our back to open that other bar. I still have resentment left over from that day.
Second issue: It's been one year since the wedding but my mother still HATES my MIL because of all this. She didn't want to go to my best friend's wedding shower if my MIL was going to be there (MIL wasn't invited but I was surprised by this as my best friend is marrying my DH's best friend). I really don't know what we are going to do when we have kids and have joint birthday parties!
So...how do I get rid of my feelings of resentment and get the two families to get along?

Need opinions!!

josie2527 — Sun, 01 May 2011 19:49:10 +0000

My husband and I have only been married 43 days and i'm already thinking of how I can have a reception and on what anniversary. I thought 5 or 10 years, but my mom said I should do one. I could use the top tiers of our cake that we saved. I love this idea. The only reason I want to have this reception is because my whole wedding day was ruined with people and drama. I want to do it again with everything I want!! What should I do??

Videographer?

letsgobowlingx — Thu, 05 May 2011 20:38:16 +0000

Did you have a videographer at your wedding? Are you happy you did or if you didn't, do you wish you would have?

I'm debating with myself whether it's worth the extra money or not.
Thanks :)

Pictures Before or After?

nvelez28 — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 23:28:57 +0000

Hello new wives! While my wedding is over a year away, we are meeting with photographers next month. Right now, waiting to see my FI at the ceremony is important to me-- going without seeing each other for the entire day, will make the ceremony all the more exciting and special. I realize this means formal pictures comes during the cocktail hour. A friend said she was upset that she was "missing her wedding" while taking pictures. That doesn't sound awesome. What did you do? Would you have done the reverse? Why?

sam's club flowers

gtwin2 — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 00:31:57 +0000

did any recent bride buy your flowers from Sam's club? If so, do you have pics and were you satisfied? thanks

Hello!

~Tuck~ — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 15:37:34 +0000

Hi Everyone,

My name is ~Tuck~, and while I am not new to the knot, I am new to this board and wanted to introduce myself.

My question for all the brides out there is, in the last few weeks leading up to your wedding, did you find yourself not caring about all the little last-minute things? Lately, I am finding that I don't care about all the last minute details, I am just ready to be married! I used to worry that things would go wrong, but now I feel like who cares if things go wrong the day of the wedding, the end result is the same - I will be married to my best friend. Anytime someone asks about the wedding, I find myself not wanting to talk about it, I am tired of planning, tired of spending my hard-earned dollars, and tired of reassuring people that no, I am not nervous, no I do not have cold feet, yes, I am ready to get married. Did anyone else feel this way?

WANTED: Davids Bridal IVORY Veil Style #689

amorse0916 — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:43:17 +0000

I am interested in buying this veil. If anyone has this for sale please contact me viz personal msg. Thanks!

Did anyone have Alfred Angelo 7059 one shoulder bridesmaids gowns?

MrsPinkPeony — Thu, 05 May 2011 13:14:07 +0000

PIP please :) Looking for complimentary hairstyles for my cousins wedding...
TIA!