April 2013 Weddings — The Knot Community

RSVPs waste money!

blondii428 — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 01:09:46 +0000

Am I the only one finding out that RSVP cards are a total waste of money? Between the cards and the stamps we spent almost 100 on them. Out of 65 sent, we only got 15 back. Are people just ignorant about them or are they lazy? Ugh I don't get it! The deadline is Wednesday and we have to have our count in by Friday so I will have to reach out on Thursday. Anyone know the best way to word the message?

My Shower!

redjellybean128 — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 12:17:41 +0000

So my shower and bachelorette party was this weekend. Everything was amazing! I have the best family and friends. The country club where my mom had the shower, screwed up a few things, so my mom was freaking out, but I don't think anyone really noticed. Everyone was super generous too, half of my dining room is filled with things that need to be put away! There are some pics below of me the "hat" one of my bridesmaids made out of the bows and of our pile of gifts :) We couldn't have asked for better weather either, especially since the day before we got 6 inches of snow!

My bachelorette party was super fun too! We went out for dinner and then to a comedy show. I drank a bit too much, but we had a blast.

(seriously, i don't know why every photo i post from a phone comes out sideways...geesh!)

My one and only DIY project (pic!)

rslilly1 — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 03:56:36 +0000

I am NOT a do-it-yourselfer, but I really wanted a custom cake topper of our little family. And getting one with three cats and a dog would have cost an arm and a leg. So that became my one and only real "project". And it's finally done!

Now I just have to get it off to the baker. (and hope they don't tell me it's too big or heavy to put on the cake!)

Post wedding hair?

[Deleted User] — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 00:55:10 +0000

So, FI is working on his groomsmen gifts and I'm bored :)

My hair is currently very long (for me - about an inch or two below my armpits), mainly because I needed it longer to do an updo like I wanted. However, it's driving me NUTS. I'm already planning on my postwedding hair. Is anyone else? Here's what I'm thinking:

I'm hoping it'll work. My hair is very fine and sort of wavy like hers so I'm thinking it might be good. Mostly, I'll be excited to have it short even though I'm also nervous because it's definitely the shortest I've ever gone. I'm a brunette with a lot of red in it, though, so if I dye (which I might), I'll be doing lighter red highlights to amp that part up instead of blonde (I did blonde for about three years and the upkeep killed me).

Anyone else have any post wedding hair plans??

Shower and B Party!

adawn1981 — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:57:18 +0000

They were a success! We had the shower at my Mom's, which is what I wanted.. there was talk about it being at a park, but just as I suspected - it was a cold rainy day in PHX Saturday! That would have sucked! Wonderful food! Amazing gifts - everything from lingerie to items off of our registry to a Bridal Barbie! (She was on the Penis Cake holding a shot!) My Mom, Stepmom, Sister, 2 Brother's Girlfriends, 2 Friends, FMIL, FGIL, FSIL, and my Mom's BFF were there. We played games, drank Sangria and had a blast! It was decorated so cute as well :)

Nighttime - we started with shots and penis cake.. Then my Brother was the DD. He drove us to my favorite bar district and we went to Saddle Ranch and McFaddens - Saddle to drink, McFaddens to dance. There were just 6 girls at the B Party including me, but it was perfect! The kept ordering me "sexy shots" and I was done by 11!!! The sugary alcohol got to me and I paid the price the next morning! It was a blast though! I had a Bride Sash and Tiara with a Veil on it to wear that my Mom and Brother's GF got me. It was great!!

Mom's BFF took pics, so once she uploads them, I will post a few!

Book recs?

shanding4787 — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 17:03:47 +0000

Anyone have any good books to recommed for our honeymoon? I feel like I've read everything already ugh.

Friday CHECK!

tmw7278 — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 18:35:43 +0000

Just paid off the Photographer...man that felt good!

Only large thing to pay off now is the Limo bus but that can be paid the day of.
I can't believe how close we are getting!

Also just made the reservation at the kennel for my 2 furbabies night of wedding.

final fitting today!!

Christine9866 — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 15:56:48 +0000

I just got back from my final fitting!!! It looks great and I am super excited!!!! I tried it on with the jewlery and my veil! I can't waitttttttttt! The next time I will be in the dress will be our wedding day! I am picking my dress up the week of the wedding (April 2!)

The Shoe Game

blondii428 — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 18:28:57 +0000

I don't know if any of you have heard of this game before but basically this is how it works:

The bride and groom sit back to back and have one of each other's shoes in hand. The narrator then reads a list of questions like "Who is more likely to get sunburned?" and they each raise the shoe to who they think the answer is.

I'm making a list of questions and was wondering if anyone had any fun creative questions?

Shower and Bachelorette Party today!

adawn1981 — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 15:59:47 +0000

I am excited! My phone broke last night though, so I hope the girls call the number on the RSVP if they get lost :( I don't think they will be able to get a hold of me. Perfect timing, NOT!

Advice Please

abbyizzymommy — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 16:28:57 +0000

Hi ladies!! Ok so my FMIL and I have an interesting relationship.. Lol. We get along and are always nice to each other but TBH neither of us are big fans of each other. So her 3 daughters are all in the wedding. 1 bm, 2 jr bm, and the wedding is April 13th. All the dresses have been ordered and I have literally been trying for 2 months to get her to go in so her and the girls can try on their dresses so they can start alterations, and she still hasn't gone. I feel like we're running out of time and I don't know what to do at this point.

Friday!

adawn1981 — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:55:55 +0000

Happy Friday! Plans for the weekend? What's going on with you girls?

Mine:

The Good - It's raining here today, I love that! I have my Bridal Shower and Bachelorette Party tomorrow, very excited about that!

The Bad - FI is out of town today and tomorrow. And I have a hangover - I sampled the wine that I will be drinking tomorrow... and then sampled again. And I am going to pick up the kids this weekend - it will be a two hour drive (at least) to go get them and bring them to our house.

The Ugly - FI and I are in a huge fight! Nice! Right before he left to go out of town. :/

Ugh Oh well, tomorrow will be a happy day!

Bridal shower dress?

vnmazzola — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:31:01 +0000

Good morning and Happy Friday Everyone!

I have my bridal shower in a few weeks and was wondering if you think the dress in the link below would work. I would probably wear it with a shrug. Whenever I think of a bridal shower, I think of white or floral dresses, and this one is neither!

http://www.whitehouseblackmarket.com/store/browse/product.jsp?maxRec=77&pageId=1&productId=570070486&viewAll=true&prd=Silk+ZigZag+Print+Sundress&subCatId=&color=&fromSearch=&inSeam=&posId=20&catId=cat210002&cat=&onSale=&colorFamily=&maxPg=1&size=

I bought this one too but feel like I need to be more tan to wear it!
http://www.zappos.com/jessica-simpson-sleeveless-contrast-dress-w-pleated-skirt-detritis-misty-rose

Rehearsal Dinner?

tmw7278 — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 17:13:26 +0000

I'm not sure if I should have one or not?

The Chapel we are getting married at does not allow rehearsals, which I was sad about but it is a small place and I do get a host who can tell the BM/GM when to walk.
Do I even bother with the dinner then? We would be hosting it ourselves and if we could save the $700+ I'd love that.
If I didnt do it though when would I give the gifts? Thats the only reason I'd want to have it is to be able to pass those out.

Thoughts?

I just got a weird RSVP

allychase — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 17:43:31 +0000

From my aunt and her boyfriend and her son. She listed all 3 names and next to her son wrote- "doesn't eat !!! :)" and there was no entree listed for him. I'm just thinking, wtf?? What does "doesn't eat" mean?? They're going to be travelling 3 hours for the wedding and be there for about 5, and he doesn't intend on eating that entire time?? I am so confused.

Not to mention idk how to word this to my venue. We will still need to provide a chair for him in the headcount, and our entrees are served french style tableside and I don't see how it'll play out when everyone's choosing their meals and he smells the food and gets hungry and just sits there. Also when dessert and cake come out, there's no way to keep him from going up and eating- at least this is how my venue will view it and probably still have me pay for him.

This whole situation is just strange and raises so many questions for me. I'm gonna email my venue and ask their suggestion, because I still want to accomodate him... but don't want to pay for a meal that won't get eaten at $95 a head.

White Rehearsal Dinner Dress?

mabapunta — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 02:05:24 +0000

So I bought this white eyelet dress from Express last summer. I wore it for our engagement photos in August. I almost wore it for our wedding shower but my MOH said I should wear this other dress I have that's blue, so I did. (I'm not a super stylish or fashion-savvy person so I often consult her for clothing ideas or advice.) I plan on wearing the white dress for our rehearsal dinner, thinking that it's okay for the bride to wear white two days in a row, right? You can see the dress on me in the photos in my profile.

I asked my MOH for input to find shoes to go with the dress. She responded saying that I really shouldn't wear white that day - that it would be too much - and suggested I find a new dress and shoes. I would love an awesome new wardrobe, but I really don't have the money, nor time or patience, to worry about it right now. I really just wanted input on shoes (although I have since decided to wear my bridal shoes - they're not white, just colorful flats).

Today she texted me saying that I really should buy a new dress and that I deserve it, which I don't disagree with :) But I again told her I would look at different dresses, but wouldn't promise that I'd buy anything.

So then she wrote back saying that as her wedding gift to me she would BUY me a new dress and shoes from Express. Now I don't mean to sound ungrateful or anything, because that's a generous offer! But really unnecessary. I can buy my own clothes. I can afford it - I just don't want to buy anything right now. Plus my MOH is always telling me how tight she is on cash, and so my present would be on credit. I told her that I couldn't accept the gift given the situation, and that I will just see what I find. And then she texted back saying that it's brightened her day thinking about it and that she really wants to do this for me.

And I don't know what to say. Am I crazy for planning to wear white for the rehearsal dinner? What are you wearing for your RD?

Anyone else ending up disappointed with the whole wedding thing? (Pity Party for 1)

ChiGirl2013 — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 15:53:42 +0000

I don't know. It just seems like nothing is going right with this wedding and I'm just disappointed and depressed about the whole thing. My family isn't showing even the least bit of excitement or happiness for us, people backed out of the financial help they promised and we don't have the money to cover everything, FI is now working 2 jobs 7 days a week - which is making him tired and crabby, I never see him, I've had major issues with some crappy vendors, apparently my wedding isn't "important enough to have a shower", I hate my dress, my dad isn't coming and thinks he can just write me a check and "call it a day", our coordinator and officiant won't return any of my calls/emails, and I had to cut out so many things from our budget that I may as well just take everyone to McDonald's for a happy meal because that will probably be more special than what we'll be able to afford in the end.

I just want to fast forward past this disaster and never think about it again.

Some Friday cuteness

orangehills — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 16:23:48 +0000

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2289506/Mother-knows-best-Touching-snaps-host-patient-parents-bonding-boisterous-babies-animal-kingdom.html

Just because life is stressful, here is some major cuteness to offset that!

FRIDAY!

phoenix870509 — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 15:00:34 +0000

TGIF!

WR: My cousins are coming down Saturday so one can try on her BM dress and the two little ones are trying on their dresses. One is FG and the other one is going to hand out the bubbles. Then we're going to have girl time! FI and I have to work on the must have photo list, but we already have an idea of what we want which helps. I'm going to work on the escort cards (and post a pic of a finished one hopefully) and the FG baskets. Then Monday I'm going into work late so FI and I can get the marriage license!!!!!

NWR: Going to a friend's wedding on Sunday. So excited for them. Also have to go over to my old job and drop off uniform and key. Also girl day with my cousins Saturday after wedding stuff.

Bridesmaids Drama UGHH

Blondy214 — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 22:09:26 +0000

LONG story short: Two of my bridesmaids are my friends from undergrad and they are currently roommates with each other and have been for about 3 years. One of them, lets say BM1 has a boyfriend that she has been with for almost a year and a half. They are VERY serious and I think they will be engaged by the end of the year. Well, there seems to be some problem with BM2 not liking BM1's boyfriend (seriously high school crap and I can't believe that I even have to listen to this kind of drama from one of my closest friends). BM1 called me up today super mad because she got a nasty text from BM2 about the boyfriend, and BM1 has decided that she doesn't want to be friends with BM2 anymore and wants to move out (her lease is up in August, but went home today and started packing).

I think that they need to work it out, but it really isn't my business so I kind of just listened to what she had to say.

ANYway, the selfish part of me is wondering how this is going to affect me? My bachelorette party is on Saturday. We are staying in a hotel room, and there will be 8 of us total. I'm wondering how they are going to act when they are fighting like this? I really hope it doesn't ruin the party.

Also, the wedding is in 37 days. Soo... that could be another awkward situation for them.

Of course I didn't say anything to BM1 about this. Its more upsetting to me that they are fighting, and I really hope they work it out. But if they don't I hope that they can at least control themselves and not make what are supposed to be fun days crappy :(

Sorry if this makes no sense.

Throat Punch Thursday!

[Deleted User] — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 14:16:04 +0000

TP to my bridesmaids for failing to communicate about when we needed to drive to Charleston for my bachelorette this weekend. We were supposed to be on the way there right now but apparently we're not leaving till tomorrow. Awesome: 8 hr drive tomorrow, hang out for a day, and driving 8 hrs back the next day. Ughhhhh, I was hoping for one more day to just relax and hang out with my girls but oh well.

TP to myself for not being more motivated this weekend. Get it together, self!

Embarrassed

melicifant — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 13:44:02 +0000

We finally got the invitations out this week. We had to cut the list from 250 people to 150 because we just couldn't afford it.
People are posting all over facebook about getting their invitation. People are sending me messages asking if I need their address. I'm deleting the posts I have control over but some of them are on their own pages. What a mess!!!

Just saying hi! (wave)

shipsinthenight — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 22:38:51 +0000

I've been absent from this board, and all other boards, for that matter for several months. It was like Christmas hit and there went my on-line life, sacrificed for my real life. I'm sure most of our April brides have almost everything done, unlike myself, and are either very excited or freaking out at this point. I'm personally trying to do more of the excited than the freak out. We still have a few major things to nail down. Tonight we're meeting with our DJ...I know, who doesn't have their DJ booked yet? Um, me, the queen of procrastination. In fact, the only reason I popped onto TK in the first place was to track down an old post on reception music that I'm sure I posted ages ago...However I've posted so much, I can't seem to find it, and don't want to read through ALL of my old posts to find it. I thought if I could I could save myself the trouble of trying to remember the choices we made months ago about some of our song choices... Oh well. I had my first dress fitting last week, which was great. Took a half hour, put in bustles, turn the neck, easy peasy. Just what I wanted. Been working out and dieting like a crazy person. I only had about 18 lbs to lose when I finally re-started with the plan almost 4 weeks ago now. I'm down about 7 lbs, so I'm pretty well on track there. We finally booked food and furniture a couple weeks ago, so we're really down to the cake and the photog. I know, who doesn't have their photog yet?! See previous answer about DJ. Most of the stuff left to do is either small stuff I have to buy or art projects, or last minute things like getting most of the drinks. We did find at our local Ralphs (Kroger if you're not in SoCal) a bunch of sparkling juices (think Martinelli's, but these are Knudsen) on the clearance rack 3 weeks ago. We bought them all. Saved us over $75 for the reception. And I did a test run of chocolate chip cookies on Monday. We have a sign language "I love you" cookie cutter, so I had to make sure the pinkie's weren't all going to break off if I used it for 200 cookies. Came out very nicely. Getting things done. And I may just dissapear for another couple months after this. It's funny; before we really got into the planning stuff, like booking people, I talked about my plans all the time. Wanted to hear about other people's plans, get ideas...but now that we're in the middle of it, I just want to put my head down and barrel through everything. And then enjoy that day and the rest of my life. I don't feel stressed exactly...but I almost feel like time spent on TK is time I should be spending actually getting stuff done. Anyone else?

Hangover!

orangehills — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 21:18:02 +0000

http://movies.yahoo.com/blogs/movie-talk/death-lollipops-pig-masks-anything-goes-hangover-part-195648787.html

I am excited for this, I must say.

NWR vent, sorry just needed somewhere to get it out

faile556 — Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:50:11 +0000

Background:
I am one of 3 people who run a sci fi/fantasy literary convention in my town. It's not big, but it's well regarded and well attended by some of the BIG names in sci fi/fantasy literature. (Think that big HBO show everyone is all happy about, yeah that author lives here so this is his local convention). We're not like comc con with big media guests, or ridiculous amounts of people , or even much cosplay (dress up as specific characters) but our convention is pretty awesome which is why I help out. We're 100% volunteer run, no one gets anything for pouring their time and effort into this which is essentially a year long process.

On to the story:
Today the convention got an email
"I was just going purchase a Dealers booth online, but I cannot for the life of me find a shopping cart, paypal button or anything? You do realize this is Two Thousand and Thirteen. You can get a Big Cartel shopping cart for free.... with up to 3 items. A paypal button is insanely easy to set up. You have no excuses. Please get your shine-ola together. This reflects badly on your convention. You can run the whole show from a smartphone now. "

I immediately got pissed. While we were a bit behind the times for a number of years, I've made great strides in getting the co-presidents on board with HUGE changes in the last 5 years. For example, they've been so against it for the last 40 years that last year, 2012, was the first year we accepted credit cards for passes during the convention itself. I know right? Anyhow, I digress. We have a specific reason for doing what we do in regards to the dealer's room. And so I replied to him, carefully and professionally.

"I'm sorry that you do not find our way of doing things to your liking. Currently the Dealer's room for (our convention) requires a mailed in and signed contract and payment before confirmation can be obtained. This paper format is due to legal and liability restrictions in the contract, a limit to the amount of book dealers in the Dealer's room itself and our more hands on approach based on what the Dealer's we've worked with in the past have requested.

While we are aware of the year we are in, and the ease that some things are set up and available to us, unfortunately in this particular regard we are not in agreement with you regarding the automation of the Dealer's room process."

Figuring that would put an end to it, I was quite surprised to find this response 5 minutes later...

"Anyone at this very moment can purchase plane tickets and fly to another country with just their cellphone. You have no excuses. If I can access all the money in my account electronically.... your convention has no excuses. Fire your web designer, and evolve. You have had 40+ years to embrace technology. It's embarrassing. "

It just made me so ANGRY. First and foremost, who is he to get all bent out of shape about the way we run our convention? Secondly, if he has such strong opinions on how it should be run, why isn't he volunteering his time? Thirdly, embarrassing to him? How so? He has never participated in , nor purchased a dealer's space in the past, how can he possibly be embarrased by how we have things set up?

At this point I chose not to reply and sent it on to the co-presidents advising that if he still choses to send in a contract and payment they'd be returned as my choice to exercise our right to refuse service to anyone.

I'm all about constructive feedback, he could have very easily worded this more appropriately to be heard and considered in the best light. Heck we might have even asked him to help us out if he felt so strongly about it. But condecension and outright insults aren't going to endear me to anyone.

Of course I'm at my regular job while this is happening and it's just making me angry, thankfully the first person to call me after this exchange of emails doesn't really care how I answer my phone because he just laughed at me and asked, "Ok who did what?"

My poor Fi :

RickandSteph13 — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 00:35:05 +0000

So, we are a month and two weeks from our wedding dayApril 20th and so far Fi's dad and step mom are the only people coming from his family AND friends. There are a few that won't know til later because of work schedules but those are his close friends. One of his brother's might come, one just hasn't even given us any kind if response about the wedding and his sister just refuses to come. She's just a bit ridiculous tho and told us when we started planning that she wouldn't come unless we had it on her turfTexas. Anyways, we haven't heard crap from his bio mother or step father and it wouldn't be a big deal if it wasn't a destination type wedding. Everyone will have to travel at least a couple hours. We understand if people aren't able to come but for our parents we gave them over a year to plan because non of them live near us so we knew they would have to travel. Why havent they saved up or made plans?? I feel like they've had plenty of time and I just feel so terrible for my Fi.

AW sweet FI

adawn1981 — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 02:18:38 +0000

Fi is so sweet. He knew I had a rough day and have been stressed lately so he brought me home flowers and a little stuffed monkey : he is the best!

What do I do????

ChiGirl2013 — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 22:06:03 +0000

I have a good friend that is married and has 4 children. When she heard we were doing a destination wedding, she told me not to bother sending an invite because she'd never be able to afford the trip for 6 people. She's happy for us, she just can't afford to go. She has been very helpful though - listening to me, offering advice, helping me with my DIY stuff. She says she is sad that she can't be there for the wedding, so she wants to help in other ways. She has been WAY more supportive than my MoH and probably would have been my MoH if we had gotten married at home and she were able to attend.

Anyway, we're just under 6 weeks from the wedding and she asked about my shower. I told her I wasn't having one and she decided to throw me one. That's very nice of her, but sort of awkward since she's not even invited to the wedding. I kept telling her no, since I know her financial situation isn't the greatest with 4 children and them being a 1 income family. I didn't want that add financial burden on her. She swears she's fine money-wise. I tried many times in many ways to tell her no, but she insists I deserve a shower. I thought I had held her off but today she called and was adamant, saying she already started shopping for my shower and to give her a guest list. I told her there wasn't enough time to get invites out, so she posted on my facebook wall that she's throwing a shower for me and if anyone wants to come, they should message her.

Yeah. Insert jaw drop here.

I feel bad because this is SO wrong, especially since my family was adamant that I not have a shower since we've lived together for so long, etc. Now my friend is inviting everyone on my facebook page. She already bought supplies and some of the food - so what do I do?

Writing vows?

jakigaudet — Mon, 04 Mar 2013 22:28:17 +0000

I just started working on my vows. At first we didn't think we were going to do this, but we later decided that we should really put the work into this special writing assignment.

Anyone else doing this? How is it going for you?

Pics!! Wedding Hair and Makeup Trial... Thoughts?

Lechillura — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 19:16:52 +0000

We had something totally different with the hair but I wasn't loving it.

I wanted more of a vintage vibe. I feel like my mom from the early 60s and am totally digging it.

Yah Or Neh??