July 2012 Weddings — The Knot Community

PSA: Things Remembered free engraved key chain for the future Mrs.

Nati05 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 16:33:45 +0000

I got an email this morning from Things Remembered about a free gift they're giving out in store to soon to be Mrs. with your new name. I'm usually really skeptical of free gifts, but this seems cool and maybe one of you would like to check it out. I was going to offer forwarding the email to anyone interested but then I found it on their website and FB page. So here are the links

http://www.thingsremembered.com/content.jsp?pageName=SpecialOffers

https://www.facebook.com/events/170074506456306/

Dress budget

mekiakoo — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 14:35:30 +0000

The nosy me is back for a bit!

How much did you budget for your dress and how much did you end up spending??

ETA: How much were the alterations?

What task did you think you could accomplish before the wedding but have since given up on?

ILoveToRobot — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 23:26:09 +0000

WR or NWR and what is the worst thing that has gone wrong so far?

Mine
Task
I'm trying to get my insurance license so I can be my clients one stop shop. The finance company that's offering the program gave us 1 1/2 months to complete the course and take the exam to be able to get it for free. I don't know what I was thinking but I haven't even cracked the book! HA!

Wrong thing
My family cut our list dramatically to try and keep costs down. FI's family was able to invite everyone they wanted because they don't have as big of a family as we do. I'm not upset about that but I'm kind of sad/dissapointed at the amount of declines. ALL of Fi's dads side has declined the invitation except for 2 people and about half of his moms side has declined. I'm dissapointed because we probably should've invited the people that we wanted to (hindsight is 20/20) and I feel sad for FI because he comes from a family where divorce runs rampant and he's always felt a little like he doesn't have a "whole" family.

Now you go!

Writing own vows?

[Deleted User] — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 02:46:41 +0000

We are most definitely writing our own vows, but everytime I work on them I get all teary and I have a feeling with all the emotionalness of the actual wedding, I won't be able to get through them. Any advice? (Not worried about make up, the girl doing my make up is awesome and already has it covered)

TOMORROW IS JULY!!!

honeybear072012 — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 11:53:59 +0000

I have 2 weeks to go and I know some of you ladies (Penny and Maggie especially!!) have even less than that! So I wanted to jump on here before wedding craziness starts for me today and say how excited I am!

Also, a big 'Thank You!' to the July '11 Brides for posting yesterday! It was great to come on here this morning and read everything and it definitely calmed me down!

Help! Rehearsal dinner budget ?

rmarrou — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 22:04:41 +0000

Please give me your advice...
My parents are paying for the entire wedding, so my F and I decided to pay for the rehearsal dinner. His parents offered to help cover some of the cost for it. My ? is do we pay for 25 people's alcohol? Or do we just pay for 2 drinks per person? Or none at all? What is the etiquette on this?
PS we are broke and the dinner is next week!

Watching Tv...

tealeyedangel — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 22:49:42 +0000

I'm watching "say yes to the dress" and Steve just looked at me and went "were you that big of a b***h" LOL far from it....My MOH and I went and looked at dresses...I picked the second one I tried on....It was the perfect style for me...Greek Goddess, flowy, minimal bling halter style. No train. no veil. just simple...

OMG everything just fell apart!

tealeyedangel — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 04:09:47 +0000

I just tried on my dress....and it doesn't fit right...looks horrible...and I have no way to get it altered in 2 weeks...I have to find a new dress ASAP!

I feel like crying!

Nati05 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 21:54:27 +0000

I'm so anxious and overwhelmed right now! FI just surprised me with the fantastic news that the amazing photographer we had originally wanted is suddenly available! The wedding on our same date just cancelled. FI called her looking for video and instead found out she's completely open! Problem is since last meeting with her, she's jacked up her prices wayyy over our budget! I've spent all afternoon quoting the cheapest, available videographers out there, without much luck (pricewise that is, it's not what I wanted.) However if we suck it up and hire her, there's absolutely no room in our budget for video. And though it's taken some convincing FI, I really want some form of video at the end of the day. I'm not so sure we can get a friend or family member to take care of it either so it's looking like hiring someone is about our only option.

FI is leaning towards hiring the photographer because her pictures are amaaaazing! And our current photographer sucks major butthole!! I'm freaking out over budgets, freaking out over making decisions we might regret, freaking out over whether to pick amazing photos or pick videographer! I'm trying my best to breathe and let things work themselves out but I'm having a really hard time succeeding! I thought maybe if I vented it would help a little..!! Ahhh!!

Colleenm and Bridetobe

BmoreBride311 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 13:09:36 +0000

Okay, these are somewhat related questions, so I just put in one post - hope ya don't mind!

Colleen - What is the latest with your BM that you found out was pregnant super late in her pregnancy? I know you said she had the baby, but is she still all set to be in your wedding? Have you met the baby? Is she bringing it to the wedding?

Bridetobe - Did you ever update us on your FI's friend who got a girl pregnant? Are the two dating / geting married? Have you met the girl yet? Is she coming to the wedding? Has the baby come yet?

Sorry, I'm being nosey!

Yayyy...Your time is finally here!!!

msbdumas — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 18:15:34 +0000

Hey girls ! I've missed you...Finally July is here for you girls ! I have not been MIA as I have been a regular on other boards. I have lurked on you girls to check your progress, final things to do, and other things that has been going with you girls !! I'm so excited that your time has come to be a MRS. I enjoyed my run with you girls ! I wish all of you a blessed and happy Wedding Day as they come ! I hope your day is all that you hoped it would be and that your Marriages is filled with happiness, love and joy !!!

Hi Everyone

tealeyedangel — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 22:00:33 +0000

Following the suggestion I recieved from another board member....Here is my Intro!

I'm Krystine, go by Krystie for short, I'm 27 years old and on the 14th of July marrying my best friend, Steve who is a Staff Sergent in the US Army, he has been in for 10 years and is going Career. I am a full time student working towards my BA is psychology as well as work full time animal rescue and rehabilitation, with my primary focus on large breed dogs. I have been working rescue for 10 years and it is honestly my passion, I will attach a photo of my baby Bella to this post, she is 15 months old, was rescued from less than desireable conditions and I fell madly in love with her, she is a mommy's girl, cries when i leave the house and stares out the door or windows untill I come back.

traditional friday random chat thread

butterflyjumper1 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 17:28:10 +0000

someone told me today that I look like a female version of Clark Kent. totally baffling.

what are you all up to this afternoon???? Colleen I hope you aren't simultaneously starting one of these threads right now!

Rings....kind of dumb question....

bells24412 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 15:12:36 +0000

How does this work, do you give his to your MOH and yours to his BM or does the BM take both rings?

Just a few questions! (Long)

PokeMom — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 03:57:43 +0000

So my wedding is in 5 days... (4 if you count it past midnight!)... And I STILL do not have everything figured out!

One thing I'm really struggling with is the programs. When listing the Wedding Party, I've gotten everything except for how to present his parents. His mother passed away this past April. This is where I'm stuck: She's still his mother, even though she is no longer with us. Do I place her under the 'Parents of the Groom' still? I would think I still should, but then shouldn't I change the wording?

Another thing is the ceremony itself. We only just confirmed it with the pastor this month (he was a real pain to contact) and while we made it known that we wanted a unity candle and a lighting of a memorial candle at the beginning, he didn't tell us what else to expect. We're having a religious ceremony in a Baptist church with traditional vows, not writing any ourselves. What else should we expect? I've tried calling/emailing him, but I can't get ahold of him and the church doesn't have a receptionist. I can't do the Ceremony part of our program until I figure this out either. Can anyone give me an idea of what to expect so I can at least have the template made up to print off when it's finalized? I don't want to rush around to do everything the night before we get married (and our rehearsal is the day before)...

And lastly, is anyone doing a song for the unity candle? I think I remember the Brother saying something about it but I'm not sure.

TIA and sorry for the length! Nerves are getting to me :)

Stopping by on my day off

LADY324 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 19:18:59 +0000

The beach was fantastic and I freshened up my tan for the family wedding we have tonight :). I love the July 2011 threads and can't wait to read them on Monday at work!! 1 more day of June love you ladies I will post pics of the wedding tonight on Monday :)

wedding packet and timeline?

Nati05 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 13:28:30 +0000

Anyone have one those wedding packet timeline things completed? I'm talking about the ones you hand in to the WP, vendors and anyone else involved so everyone is informed and on the same page. I'm having the hardest time creating a cohesive timeline. All of my vendors are so laidback and all "go with the flow" type....which is cool, I'm kind of like that too. But most people here are sooo disorganized because they just go with it. I want to avoid unecessary wait times and confusions that tend to happen at big events. Trying to combine ceremony, photog, catering and DJ schedules has become the most difficult task for me! Even more than seating charts!! And it's because none of them are cooperating!! Ughh ok rant over. Back to my question, anyone with awesome organizational skills have a wedding timeline packet for WP and vendors completed? That you'd like to share with me pretty please?? You can't see it but I'm batting my eyelashes at you...

WWYD?

Carla1019 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 13:43:18 +0000

The wedding "coordinator" at my church called yesterday to tell me that they are having a program called Christmas in July. The stage will be covered in X-mas decorations and her solution for me is to put up a large black curtain to separate the decorations from my guests.

My question is why wasn't I told about this when I first booked my wedding? I have no choice my wedding is 8 days away but if I would have known a little sooner I could have made more arrangements with my florist to make sure I decorated accordingly. Now I feel like this big black curtain will over shadow my minimal flower arrangement. SMH!

TGIF!!!!! & Happy Wedding Weekend to our July 1st Brides!!

littlemoments324 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 12:38:59 +0000

Our July 1st Brides:

penny12986
Maggieaha

Happy Wedding weekend to you both!!!!! Cannot wait to hear how it went!!! I can't believe we're 2 days from the 1st!!!!

What is everyone's weekend plans?? WR? NWR??

Happy Friday Knotties!!

Too funny...

rachael7183 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 18:06:35 +0000

Was just complaining about work but then they called me into the conference room...since they are all going away next week they threw me a "surprise" congratulations on getting married "party"...champagne and a gift. Very nice of them....

Unhappy with Ceremony

BrightFirefly — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 00:12:31 +0000

Background: We had a difficult time finding a ceremony venue/officiant and eventually ended up booking the two seperately. Our officiant is a reverend, but I was straight-forward with her about wanting a non-religious ceremony. When we met with her, She told me she did all kinds of ceremonies, including non-religious ones..

Now: I just received our ceremony via email - and I'm not happy with it at all...

She mentions god or the holy spirit MULTIPLE times throughout the ceremony..

In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, amen.

To grow as individuals and grow closer as a couple and closer to God.

Let us pray.

Heavenly Father, ::insert entire freakin' prayer::

I'm no bridezilla, but the ceremony is IMPORTANT and to have mentions of god, the holy spirit, and a prayer totally cheapens and ruins the entire thing for me.

Do I email her back and ask her to remove them? I mean..she is a reverend..maybe this was her idea of non religious????

Seriously....

rachael7183 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 17:07:13 +0000

Why is it that all week long the attorneys I work for have no work to give me until Friday...that's when everyone has a rush; a CBA to get out; some bullshizzy. I wish I had Fridays off in the summer :)

What deodorant are you using now, is it strong enough for the wedding day?

glory0504 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 14:36:49 +0000

Getting warmer out there...

Is anyone else...

BeachLover2885 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 10:42:37 +0000

having trouble sleeping??? I had one decent night's sleep all week. I don't know if it's anxiety or what, but I can't seem to fall asleep or stay asleep. I think I might need to buy Advil PM or something!

Please talk me off a ledge....

pillsburyaj — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 13:42:20 +0000

I know that I was talking to some of you yesterday about my day-of timeline and how rushed I felt it was. I talked to my mom who agreed that adding an hour would help things not to feel so rushed (and she would pay for the additional fee). I felt much better about everything UNTIL...I e-mailed the venue coordinator this a.m. asking what we needed to do to add an hour. She replied saying that per their terms and conditions they do not permit changes less than 30 days before an event, but she will "try and make an exception this time." She won't be able to let me know until Monday as she has to check with staff, etc. AGHHH!

Could use some postive vibes today!

July '11- ASK US ANYTHING!

Leah&JP — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 15:18:27 +0000

Hey girls!! July '11 here!! Below you will see an advice post from us but we also wanna be able to answer your questions!!

This time last year we were all where you are right now- anxious, excited, and full of questions. Please feel free to ask us anything and we will do our best to answer them for you. It can be wedding, honeymoon, marriage related or totally random! We don't really have anything off limits on our board and will be completely open and honest with you.....

So ask away!!!!

Flower Girl Vent-Sorry, kinda long

owengirl996 — Thu, 28 Jun 2012 16:51:39 +0000

Really, it's more about her mother! I asked her if her daughter would want to be a FG or a JBM a while ago...probably October or so. She'd talked to her and said she'd love to be a FG. (FG is a distant cousin, but her mom is no longer married to her dad, which is the blood relative. I used to babysit her from age 0-6 so I was really close with her. She's 10 now.)

I have a second FG (FI's Goddaughter), and the original dress I'd found was close to $200. The second FG's mom was totally fine with it, and I threw it out there for first FG's mom, but she said it was too much. Totally understandable, so we found one for more like $60. Both were good with that, but it required ordering online.

First FG's mom sent me a message on Facebook May 14th asking when the wedding was again :/ (she had a STD!) So I told her, and she said ok, she will order the dress now. I haven't heard a peep since!!! The only phone number I have is disconnected, so I have no other way to reach out to her other than FB. I sent a message June 14th asking if all was good with the dress, and asking if she wants to have FG's hair done with everyone else. No response. So I messaged her again Monday to mention I didn't have an RSVP yet and to find out who of her family of 4 is coming. No response as of last night. So I messaged her one last time (no more after this), to find out if FG is still able to be in the wedding, and I understand if not, I just need to know asap.

Still no response this morning. I was trying to give her an "out" with that last email. I REALLLLLLY would like to know if she's going to be there or not! I won't be mad if not, but I'd like to save myself $40 on her pomander if she's not going to be there, and see if I can still remove her from the program. I already have gifts and such for her, but that's no big deal, other than her personalized tote, I can give some to the other FG lol

What would you do? At what point should I write it off that she's not going to be there? The day of the rehearsal I guess? I feel bad sending so many messages, but I just really need to know if she'll show or not. I realize she may still respond to my last message, but I am starting to feel a little stress from this. More like...why won't she respond to me?? She still posts on FB, so surely she is seeing my messages??

Thanks for listening :)

RSVPs - not a rant!

KatieK501 — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 14:11:07 +0000

FI and I went to dinner last night with 3 other couples - to celebrate one couple's 1 year anniversary. Since 2 of the couples are newley married (within the last year a half), and the other couple is recently engaged, we talked a lot about wedding plans and marital advice. The discussion turned to me telling the other engaged couple about how hard it is to make the guest list and the troubles of RSVPs, when I mentioned that someone FI's mother wanted to invite is bringing 3 extra guests - the grandmother, their son that is FI's age, and his FI. FI had been out of town for two weeks, so wasn't here when his mom okayed the situation with me. He was completely shocked. He said he hadn't talked to the son since FI moved to AR, which was when he was in middle school. I think FI will enjoy seeing him, but is completely shocked that he would want to come to the wedding. It was kind of fun to see FI so surprised about something.

Did anyone else have a surprise guest like that, or someone you were really surprised/excited when you got their "will be attending" RSVP?

butterfly and bridetobe

LADY324 — Thu, 28 Jun 2012 19:48:45 +0000

are you guys on pinterset? If so I want to follow you how do I search for you?

Single digits!

ramisenh — Thu, 28 Jun 2012 15:23:45 +0000

For all of the July 7 brides, we are now officially in the 10 day weather forecast. How is the weather looking for you? For me it's partly sunny and 80ish.

I also had my first bridal meltdown yesterday after the hotel we booked a block of rooms at lied to us and I found out (I called them, they never said a word) that we were going to have to pay over $200 for our suite that we reserved. I was having a crappy day at work and apparently that just pushed me over the edge. Luckily my wonderful co-workers stepped in and calmed me down and we got the hotel issue figured out.