October 2012 Weddings — The Knot Community

Funny wedding ecard

mrshall1027 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 20:33:42 +0000

Mana, Fishin...other girls around for a long time

trawas01 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 15:22:48 +0000

Wasn't it just like last week that we we're excited the tickers were finally going to start moving off the 12 where they had been sitting for months and months??

cancellations

cbear215 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 16:21:30 +0000

So with 5 days left, people are starting to cancel. I knew this was going to happen, and I know there will be no shows the day of the wedding, but I really just want to ask them for the price per person back, lol. (I'm obviously not going to do that, but it's super frustrating). I know life happens but I just keep thinking of all that money that could have gone to other things. Oh well, I know I have to let this one go too...

The weather is being a jerk...

jsarver14 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 16:28:50 +0000

75 degrees all week until Saturday....and it's 52 degrees. How rude. BUUUUUUUUUUUUT...looks like the weather should be B-E-A-UTIFUL for our honeymoon in Jamaica next week! :)

WTF emails-- you've just got to laugh

lehc723 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 18:42:04 +0000

I just got an email from our designer/decorator. A few weeks back, I'd been approached by a woman who works with the venue to do lighting, but we'd already set that up through our decorator, so we said thanks, but no thanks.

But so just now the designer we are working with emails that THAT woman emailed her about working together and changing the lighting plan. Yes, it'd save us a little bit of money, but honestly, I told her, "Papers are signed. I don't want to change things. We have four days. Let it go."

Now, my decorator's just doing her job and approaching me, and I'm glad she did, but this other woman makes me laugh. Who approaches a couple getting married FOUR DAYS AWAY to change their reception design and set-up?

Ohhhh nooooo! WWYD?

semay23 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 13:56:59 +0000

AH! The forecast for this Saturday for my wedding location just went from sunny and warm (yesterday) to a 50% chance of rain with a cold front moving in, the lows hiting 37!!!! 37 at the beginning of Oct in KENTUCKY?! Are you kidding me?!?!?! It's the only day with rain forecast in the foreseeable future!!!!!!!!!!

UGHHHH! We were supposed to get married outside of the barn, and then have the reception immediately following in the barn. I really, really, really, REALLY don't want to have the ceremony in the barn, then have to clean up and rearrange everything for the reception while our guests stand around. It's also breaking my heart to have to find a last minute tent and pay for it.

What would you ladies do? Anyone else in a similar situation?

more checks!

catwine — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 18:10:58 +0000

it feels good checking things off!

my fiance FINALLY got our marriage license! we filled out the application at the end of August
and couldn't get to City Hall to submit it until just last week. All the GMs have their suits except the BM...my dad also got his! My mom found a prety sash for me to use as a headband and I started the seating chart!

So all thats left now is: meet with pastor, buy more lace tablecloths, make name cards, make candle holders and finish seating chart.

Readings - who's doing yours?

mrshall1027 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 14:32:36 +0000

I'm stuck on who to ask to do our readings. I have a brother and FI has a sister, but I really don't think they would be comfortable reading in front of a large crowd.

Who have you asked to do your readings?

Oct. 4/5/6/7-ers-- who's at work?

lehc723 — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 13:10:40 +0000

Who all has the whole week off, lucky ducks?

I'm here today and tomorrow, and hoping I can focus at least the slightest bit, but I'm not counting on it.

I am SO EXCITED!

Cathyl7910

halij52002 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 16:42:40 +0000

Can you add me to the wedding date post as well? 10/28 Thanks! :)

Cocktail hour without the cocktails?

violakat03 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 08:07:21 +0000

So here's the thing. Our ceremony venue and reception venue are roughly a half-block from each other. They're within walking distance. We want to give plenty of time for us to take pictures and I kind of screwed up on the invitations. Our ceremony is at 3:30, we're expecting to be done around 3:45-3:50. On the invitations, I put the reception would begin at approximately 5:00, which only gives us an hour to do all our photos (we aren't doing a first look). I was wanting to push our entrance back to 5:30, but I don't want to have an hour and a half gap for people to wander around aimlessly.

I know most people fill this with a cocktail hour ... first off, our venue doesn't allow alcohol (city-owned), and second off, we don't have the budget to fill this time in with extra drinks or food. Would it be appropriate to just open the reception hall to guests at 4:30 (or maybe earlier), have music playing, and maybe have a light snack available like popcorn or cotton candy (which would fit our amusement park theme)? And then we show up at 5:30 for our grand entrance. Or would that be too long of a gap without a real filler?

I'm really overly concerned about leaving a huge gap for people to get bored in because of a wedding I went to in April (that broke pretty much every etiquette rule there is) where there was a 3 hour gap between ceremony and reception so that the bridal party could go bar hopping and get drunk before the reception. I don't want to come across as rude and abandoning our guests, but I want time for photos!

And yes, I realize 5 days out is kind of last minute to be thinking about this but I was trying to finalize our timeline and panicked.

Bridal Party Dance ?

JillHunt — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 14:53:18 +0000

Our wedding is quite small, only about 55 guests. We aren't really the rowdy type. I'm wondering if you all have any thoughts on scrapping the bridal party dance. We will do a newlywed dance, father/daugher dance and mother/son dance. I think a lot of the slow songs are quite cheesy and I can't see our group really getting into the fast songs to dance (the best man is almost 50 and not too much fun...FBIL).

Any insight?

AW: Just saved $150 on our HM rental car! Go Google!

violakat03 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 12:27:50 +0000

Ok, so I've been freaking out about how to pay for our rental car during our honeymoon. We're going to be in California for 7 days and will be going all over SoCal, so a rental is really the only option. I've been searching for several weeks now, and I was coming up with really consistent figures of around $300 for the rental.

I tried every discount site I could come up with ... my brother suggested rentalcarmomma, and I was kind of underwhelmed by what it had to offer. Tried Kayak, it came up with some really cheap rentals from Thrifty. I'm all about going cheap... but when every single review on Yelp and Trip Advisor about a particular rental location was negative and said they'd had to wait over an hour and a half for a car (if they were able to get one), I'd rather pay a little more and not have to deal with a headache to start off the trip.

Googled, and googled, and googled. Came across a site all about how to use the bidding process on Hotwire and Priceline, and some really good advice on how to get bids accepted. Finally took the plunge, put in a bid ... and it got rejected. It offered to let me rebid (usually you have to wait 24 hours) if I increased the price by $4/day (I originally bid $14). I did so, and it accepted it!! Yes!!

I've been pricing "standard" size cars and consistently come up with around $300 for the week - and going down in class didn't make enough of a difference to make it even worth looking at. The lowest I found was I think through Budget, at $289. The Priceline winning bid went to Avis. I had looked it up earlier, and for the same rental it was $316.

My winning bid came out to $161 for the week! I can't believe it!! $150 less than even discounted retail price. I want to run around yelling how awesome I am right now, lol. I spent probably 4 hours researching on Google this morning, but it's totally worth it right now!!

Sad/Venting

stephanieandderekswedding — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 16:42:49 +0000

I know its my second marriage and I dont get everything that someone being married for the first time gets....but I didnt have a wedding the first time around. Me and my Ex just said "lets get married today" and we did...told people about it later.....So this time i am having the wedding of my dreams....and I thought my work place would have been a little different knowing the story.

They just announced a wedding shower/food day for someone that is getting married the weekend after me. I am very happy for them...but I was not mentioned at all. Normally when there are more than one activity such as weddings, baby's, etc. they will do one big joint shower....I guess not this time...

Ok...vent over....

Anyone here hitched yet? 10/5 brides, are we first??

casyme — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 14:19:27 +0000

Wedding's on Friday, parents are here starting tomorrow night, time for EPIC FREAK OUT!!!!!

FREAK OUT FREAK OUT FREAK OUT FREAK OUT EPIC EPIC FREAK OUT

OK, now I feel better. 10/5 brides, how are you doing out there?

Please help!

goatlady12 — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 15:47:49 +0000

We're meeting the DJ today and we still can't agree on a first dance song. What are all of you ladies doing?
I know there have been a ton of posts about this, but what's one more?

Amerian Airlines

lulu4150 — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 23:12:32 +0000

FI and I are flying AA for our honeymoon in two weeks. I'm getting really nervous, tons of flights are being cancelled or delayed and in the past few days two flights had to make emergency landings due to seats coming unbolted!!! Tried to see if there were any other flights through other airlines and either a) there are none or b) they cost an arm and a leg!! Anyone else flying AA?

Dreams....Ah!

srfr8908 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 13:44:39 +0000

I had a dream last night that we were at the reception and I didn't remember anything from before (the ceremony, pictures, etc.). I had blacked out or something.

The DJ announced us for our first dance and FI was in jeans and a polo! lol, I got up there and asked him "Where's your tux!?" He said that his Aunt (who in the dream was in charge of gathering the tuxes at the end of the night to return them for everyone the next day) told him to take it off so she could take them back right then! haha, I told him "NO, you need to go put it back on! Our photographer is still taking pictures!"

Then I asked my dad what had happened, that I didn't remember anything and he said I had been going around and talking to people. I went over to a table with some of my family members and chatted with them for a bit, but then I looked around and a lot of people were missing. So I asked my dad where they were and he said they left, including my Matron of Honor (my sister) and one of my bridesmaids! lol, the reception was basically bare and it was only 8:30 p.m. I started crying and then woke up.

:-) The dreams just seem to be getting CRAZIER and more life like. I woke up and my heart was pounding and I felt so sad! haha.

Is anyone else having crazy dreams?

wow... The groomsmen and their women are making my life hell

jeffsgirl100612 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 12:26:19 +0000

I told the photographer last night that she may get a photo of the bride punching someone!
I guess people from this town have never been in a real wedding.. because they are acting lik I am asking them for the world ... wow.. snide comments and vague comments on facebook about me.. gotta love it.

Skinny arm tricks?

lehc723 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 14:21:38 +0000

I'm getting a spray tan tonight and hope that helps my arms look thin, and I already plan on doing the hands-on-hip pose as much as I can possibly get away with it.

Any other tips or tricks for making my flabby arms look skinny?

Tipping second photographer?

Ali092011 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 13:07:10 +0000

I am getting my tips ready for Thursday (eeeek!) and I'm not sure how to tip the photographers. My photographer is the only "employee" in his business and he doesn't have an official partner. However, we chose a package with him that includes two photographers. The way he works is he just chooses one of his professional friends to work with and lets the bride and groom know a month before the wedding who that person will be. I now know the name of our second photographer and have seen lots of her work, and I'm really excited to see how our pictures will turn out.

Anyway, I am not sure how to do the tipping. Do we tip each photographer the same amount? Or do I tip the guy we actually "hired" more, since he's the one who attended two meetings with us, did our engagement pics, and has answered all of my questions for the past ten months?

I was thinking about putting a large tip in one envelope and handing it to him, then letting him determine how the tip will be divided. I trust him to share it as he sees fit, but I do want to make sure the second photographer gets something.

WDYT? Anyone else in that situation, and what are you doing?

Thank you notes for lingerie?

geieran — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 12:49:56 +0000

I was given an awesome lingerie shower this past weekend. It was so much fun. Now, though, I wasn't sure if I should send thank you notes. It seems a little weird lol. I also have never received one when giving a gift to a bride.

I thought maybe I would just send a thank you note to the ones who hosted the shower. What do y'all think?

Got our handmade guestbook (PIP)

pennylg — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 14:35:00 +0000

We ordered a guestbook from someone on Etsy and just got it in the mail today. And we love it. It's custom made with little gnomes all through it (FI loves gnomes and I tried to have them here and there as a nod to him). Each page is different and has little gnome couples throughout the book and it's in all my wedding colors! So excited for my guests to see it in 4 days!

Tasty Tuesday

minionlover — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 13:55:59 +0000

What's everyone got on their plates this week...dinner plates that is. :)

Wedding Bug Photography

rlr02 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 13:58:20 +0000

Has anyone ever heard of this? Or used them? Or know someone that has used them?

The reviews are few and far between. But my local person seems to have decent comments. The company has received awards from Wedding Wire, The Knot, and Brides.com.

(I am still looking for a photographer! since mine is MIA!!)

no shower for me

JennluvsPaul — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 05:23:29 +0000

I'm disappointed with my MOH. Not because I expected her to plan a shower. Because she promised me she would, and that it will most likely be a surprise shower because she loves throwing surprise showers. So I stopped inquiring about it months ago. Until I realized last week that "gee, isn't it cutting it a little close". I still didn't say anything because I didn't know what to say. Then today "Oh, we need to figure out your shower and bachelorette. We should co-plan it so you can get exactly what you want."

I explained to her that it's probably too late to do anything now, and while she can ask my opinion on things, I'm not supposed to plan my own shower. Her exact words were "I'm sorry, I'm not a very good planner and I don't know anything about weddings I wish you nagged me more". I told her I accept her apology, and I am sorry for not saying something sooner, only because I didn't want to come off as a bridezilla. I told her I hoped she didn't feel pressured to plan something she didn;t want to plan, but then she said "i wanted to plan it, i just put it off, I'm so sorry". We made up. I moved on.

Now I find out she has contacted my FMIL for help. That is fine, but I really don't know if this should be happening at all. I don't want to refuse it because I would love to have a shower, but I also know that people won't appreciate the last minute notice, and not that many people will me able to make it. I don't want to ruffle any feathers or make things worse.

October Siggy

mana8503 — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 19:46:39 +0000

Are we keeping the previews or changing to favorite picture of FI and you?

Hair & Make-up Trial: Advice? (XP: Wedding Beauty)

PJSPJS — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 04:21:54 +0000

I'm having my hair and make-up trial in three days. Any advice/suggestions? Obviously, I'll bring photos of hairstyles I'm considering. Anything else? Thanks!

Workin on my vows...

SyAmaya — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 05:41:00 +0000

I'm not really sure how long they should be, or how long is too long.... I can't seem to get mine under 2 minutes though. How long are yours?

DIY coupons

trawas01 — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 13:30:17 +0000

http://www.southernsavers.com/2012/10/craft-store-printable-coupons-hobby-lobby-ac-moore-and-michaels/

Hobby Lobby, AC Moore and Michaels.... in case anyone has any last minute DIY projects.