Not sure how unique this problem is, but I need opinions. Despite our sometimes difficult relationship, I love my mother dearly. She has been wonderful during the planning process and (much to my surprise) has let a lot of choices go that I thought she would have issue with.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
My mother loves her iPhone and has been on it constantly since she got it three years ago. While she needs it for her work, which often isn’t a 9-5 arrangement, it has become a major distraction for her. When I come home for holidays, she spends almost the entirety of our family dinners texting, answering emails, Facebooking. She spent most of our last family vacation (the last before I get married and can’t go on as many) on her phone. She texted through my master’s degree graduation, dress shopping, and a joint pedicure last time I was home that she begged me to do so we could “spend time together.” She even is on her phone during dinners and events with people outside of my family; I was truly embarrassed when my future mother-in-law came to visit my hometown for the first time and saw this behavior. It’s like she’s 16!
While I don’t think I will ever be able to change her overall behavior, I am very worried about my wedding day. I am afraid she is going to miss important moments because she is on her phone. I am her oldest child and the first to get married and we have grown closer during this process -- this is a big day that I want her to be completely present for. I am especially worried about her texting, Facebooking, and doing other things on it during the church ceremony. Besides the embarrassment of a 50-something woman being on her phone during her daughter’s wedding ceremony, I also don’t want the first pictures of my wedding to be taken from the pew and posted on Facebook. I am well aware that I cannot control another person’s behavior, but I want to make an attempt to bring this up with her, despite the fact that I know she will get defensive. What would you all suggest?