Most Frustrating Part of the Wedding for you?

benzwm02

Just curious to see what you think is the most frustrating part of the wedding?

Also, are you using any software or apps to help these problems and if not, what would you like to see out there to help you?

I know I have some ideas, just looking to see what other people are thinking! 

CLI242009

Most frustrating for me has been the guest list. 

I've been using theknot Guest List to keep track of everything and it has helped out great. It's only been frustrating because everyone has their opinion of who we SHOULD and SHOULDN'T invite. 

thejucheidea

Guests not RSVPing. It was awful. At the RSVP date, we were still missing half of our RSVPs.

CLI242009

thejucheidea said:

Guests not RSVPing. It was awful. At the RSVP date, we were still missing half of our RSVPs.

That would suck. Although with my family, I think I'm kind of expecting it -___- My family is filled with procrastinators or those who do not know etiquette/understand deadlines. 

Well my invites are all sent and done!! Now just the waiting game. I hope you heard from your guests? When was your RSVP, when was your deadline due? 

thejucheidea

My mother in law had to call 26 people on their side to get answers. We also didn't hear from most of the people on my dad's and husband's lists. On RSVP date, we had like 60 outstanding from our invite list of 136. We didn't have any deadline because my mom was the caterer and our only vendor was the photographer.

CLI242009

Not sure if that's a lot or not, but to me that seems like a LOT of calling to do. I mean I know I have read on here some get a lot back when they first have gone out, then it slows down & then it's like your mailbox exploded because everybody else decided to wait till the week of to mail their RSVP in. 

Well from your pic it still looks like it was a beautiful day! ^_~ Everything turned out great, right? 

Tchavon1984

It started off with the guest list which grew from wanting 50 ppl to having 150.... then the Venue became the biggest headache. now that I have my venue... the biggest headache is the fact that I have nothing to do because I'm ahead of schedule lol

thejucheidea

CLI242009 said:

Well from your pic it still looks like it was a beautiful day! ^_~ Everything turned out great, right? 

Oh yeah, it was beautiful, and everyone loved the ceremony, but I think it was mostly because it was a learning experience for a lot of them, as it taught the tenets of our religion, Buddhism. I think his family and friends just forgot or... something? All of my friends RSVPed, so I don't really have anyone close to ask, lol.

CLI242009

thejucheidea said:

CLI242009 said:

Well from your pic it still looks like it was a beautiful day! ^_~ Everything turned out great, right? 

Oh yeah, it was beautiful, and everyone loved the ceremony, but I think it was mostly because it was a learning experience for a lot of them, as it taught the tenets of our religion, Buddhism. I think his family and friends just forgot or... something? All of my friends RSVPed, so I don't really have anyone close to ask, lol.

That isn't surprising. I'm expecting that from my side of the guest list (family specifically lol) I have read some horror stories of how even the Bridal Party forgot >.> 

Not uncommon at all but I'm happy to hear everything was wonderful ^_^ 

futuremalyuta

The seating chart! It has been so stressful for me, because FIs family doesn't understand the assigned seating. They think it is weird to tell anyone where to sit. ...however, making it has been made much easier with the Apple iPad app myBanquet. It keeps track of who is coming, their meal choice, and let's you seat people and tables wherever you want.

mcgarci2

For me, it's also been the being so far ahead of schedule.  Almost all of my vendors have said, "As it gets closer..." to me. Sad day.  I'm not trying to wait until the few weeks before so I can stress out.  I want it all done way ahead of time, but no. I also have an issue with the guest list.  We are both part of Greek organizations and we have a lot of people that are just acquaintance friends and though we know we aren't inviting them it is continuously awkward when these people assume their invited and constantly ask about when invitations go out.  We will have a 25 month engagement so it's been many, many months of questioning.

TypingTornado

The best man.  Still hasn't been fit for the tuxedo.  (Wedding is a little over two weeks away.)  Still hasn't booked his flights.  Grrrrr.

I have all kinds of back-up plans in place, but he really is upsetting me.

CLI242009

futuremalyuta said:

The seating chart! It has been so stressful for me, because FIs family doesn't understand the assigned seating. They think it is weird to tell anyone where to sit. ...however, making it has been made much easier with the Apple iPad app myBanquet. It keeps track of who is coming, their meal choice, and let's you seat people and tables wherever you want.

I am dreading this >.> FI's family is so close everyone wants to sit with one another!! Haven't even gotten the RSVPs back yet and I have some of his family making requests about who they will and will not be sitting with!!! 

dodger911

The most frustrating part has been all of the input. I am only two months into my engagement and  I was honestly not expecting so many different opinions from my family. It's also frustrating to learn that every one of them have different priorities and deal breakers that do not match up with mine and my fiancé's. My dad insists on steak and top shelf liquor, my mother is focused on stringing the ceremony space with lights and lanterns, my mother-in-law is on the hunt for inexpensive suits for the groomsman, and my father-in-law is contacting venders for lighting and drapery that I didn't even ask for. 

I appreciate their help and excitement, but it is difficult to navigate and make our own decisions. I am blessed to have such a supportive family but the constant chatter over details that I haven't even considered yet is driving me bonkers 0__o   

kerbohl

The venue, hands down, which is crazy because my caterer randomly ditched us and we had to find a new one in a scramble.  We are getting married in my FI's church, and they have been fighting us on every little thing, despite the fact that hey, this is one of their members and you would think they would cut him some slack.  It's just been a lot of back and forth, like "you can't have alcohol - oh wait, now that you've made arrangements for a dry wedding, you can" and "your pastor can't be involved for anything - oh wait, now he can, oh wait, now he can't for that part but he can for this part".  Major headache.  And having his pastor do the pre-marriage counseling might not have been the best idea after all of this.
No apps would have solved this, just some good old common sense, which I apparently didn't have.