Ever since we have been engaged the plan for things is that my parents would pay for the wedding and reception and his parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner and our honeymoon.
Since my FMIL has been planning the rehearsal dinner it has been getting WAY out of hand. I have opted to not say too much about it since she is paying for it. I was ok with the fact that she didn't want to use our wedding colors, have a theme, have cake, invite over 50 people, and hire a saxophonist to serenade people.…my fiancé and I have been able to talk her out of favors but, trying to talk to her about any of this isn't working.…nothing we can say to her is working. These things are not things you see at rehearsal dinners where we are getting married. Both my fiancé and I feel like this rehearsal dinner is taking away from the focus of the day….the focus of why we are really there.
I was learning to be ok with all of this up until this past Sunday when her "ideas" started to invade the reception…what my parents are paying for. Sunday while gathering addresses for our save the dates she mentioned that she thought we needed to have free "signature drinks at the reception in addition to the free beer and wine that my parents are paying for. She said that they would pay for it. Here's the kicker….she said this will make the reception classy. WHAT THE HECK? How is what we (my parents have let my FI and I have a HUGE say in what is happening at the ceremony and reception) are doing at the reception not classy? Sure, not all of our centerpieces match….but that is the trend.
So now my mother has said that if they (the future inlaws) want to pay for the signature drinks, then they can pay for the whole bar tab (beer and wine). My FI and I can see this starting a "war" between the two families….not what we want. If my FI talking to his mom doesn't work, then my mother has said that if they have dinner together to discuss this, it isn't the only thing that she'll bring up. She'll bring up the rehearsal dinner and how the focus isn't on my fiancé and I.
The whole point of this post is that planning this wedding isn't fun anymore. My FI and I aren't having fun at all because of ALL of this. Do you guys have suggestions on how we can start having fun again?