Hey guys. I posted a long time ago about an issue with my step mother trying to grab the reigns and control my wedding/bridal showers/etc. The general consensus was to tell her how I felt politely etc. which I did and which she obviously did not take lightly nor did my dad who brought up some off topic things. Not sure if any one remembers the post but my dad the next day texted me and told me he wanted nothing to do with the wedding and blah blah blah. (Stemming from my foster father walking me down the aisle and not him). If need be, I can link this to it if you need the background.
Well, my dad and I have still not spoken since then (June). And I've spoken to her off and on. I decided to send them (the household) a STD to take the higher road. Along with the STD recipients received the login information for our wedding website. Now, if you can remember the previous post, some of the issues I had to address with her was their assumption I was inviting my dads family from Wisconsin of which ice met once. I received a Facebook message from my dads sister saying she looked at the wedding website. So my wonderful step mother gave his family the information so now they know all the details of the wedding. I just told her thank you. I did not contact my step mom and address it with her because I do not want to let her know it got under my skin.
Then during the month of thanksgiving, I begin posting "I'm thankful for..." Statuses. Each day was different. It was the 13th day. She texted me and said, "it's kind of funny how you talk about (insert foster family's name) all the time on Facebook and never mention your dad. He's been there for everything and bought you things". I again did not respond because its just not worth it. My dad has not been there ever. I met him in 11th grade. It's been 8 years since. I get a phone call on my birthday and sometimes on holidays. He missed my high school and college graduation. He knows nothing about me. I doubt he can even tell me where I graduated from. I thought it was particularly funny she threw in the comment about buying things as if things were to gain his affection. I talked to my sister who I do have a relationship with who lives with them and asked what had been said about everything. I then found out that my step mom talks badly about me to her friends and mocks me. I never responded. Yesterday I realized I have not seen anything from her on Facebook for a few days. Turns out she and my father deleted me as friends on Facebook.
I understand Facebook is a petty social tool but I just feel like after all this, there is no effort or want in their part to fix the relationship. I'm tired of their immature behavior. So my question is would you still invite them? I can see them causing a dramatic scene at the wedding and I'd like to avoid it. My dad already said he doesn't want anything to do with the wedding and his actions back it up. I'm already at a loss as to where to sit him because after what he said about my foster family, I cannot sit them together. It's been such an awful experience and stressful.
My MOH said I can still invite them to show them that despite all this I still want them there. But the thing is I don't. But at the same time, he is my dad. I just don't have a relationship with him. What would you do?