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Anyone have any Bridezilla moments?

I came very close to having one the day before the wedding. My Mom and I were headed to the venue for the rehearsal and needed to pick up my brother. Being 18 and fresh out of high school he doesn't exactly try to be on time so we had to wait about 20 minutes before he was ready. As we were on our way finally his GF called. She wanted to get picked up because her ride fell through. We headed to her house. When we got there, no one was home. We called her, "Oh, I'm actually at the nail salon getting my nails done, sorry!" We drove over to the nail salon and picked her up. By this time I was seeing red and focusing on refraining from speaking. When she hopped in the car she noticed the iciness in the air and kept quiet. We finally reached the venue 30 minutes late. H must have known I was stressing out so he didn't call and text me multiple times which would have caused me to smash my phone probably. Once we got out of the car H and our wedding party all crowded around me and started jumping up and down excitedly, causing me to laugh at their silliness. 

After that everything went fine. I learned later that my Mom pulled my brother aside and told him he needs to make sure his GF stays away from me and that she needs to figure out her transportation for the wedding day and not to call either her or me.

So, did anyone else get close to losing it? I have to say I'm very proud of myself I didn't say anything I would have regretted later. She didn't mean to cause so much stress but it was bad timing on her part. I still don't know why my Mom insisted on picking her up for the rehearsal, she could've gotten a ride to the dinner afterwards.
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Re: Anyone have any Bridezilla moments?

  • Nothing yet! Great job keeping your cool though. As someone who hates lateness I feel your stress.
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  • I almost did the Thursday before and the day before, courtesy of one of our OOT drama-llama friends who thought the weekend was a vacation for she and her boyfriend and that everyone needed to be doing things on THEIR timeline and not the bride and groom's. 


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  • I'm in the clear for now. Hopefully in the next 10 months I'll stay cool, calm, and collected! 

    I do have some sad feelings about my sister/MOH. We are very close, but she lives in out of state and is a busy mother of two. Long story short, she's going through an "it's all about me" phase in her life and has shown very little interest in the wedding, which hurts my feelings a little. When she got married, I was always there for her to chat, help with DIY stuff, and plan her bachelorette and bridal shower. Hopefully things will get better as the wedding gets closer, but I'm not holding my breath! 
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  • Not yet! I almost did when we picked our venue though. We're getting married on my uncle's horse farm and my FBIL had some snarky things to say. I had to put a lot of effort into being polite about it and not go into bitch mode.
  • A week before our wedding, I told my mom I was going to flip the fuck out if she told me my in laws were "doing a lot." They offered to make the cake and we accepted. That. was. it. My mom was involved in writing out escort cards, center pieces, ceremony decs, getting ready with me, etc. She and MIL were constantly keeping score of who did what and I was pissed. My mom thought I was a bridezilla, but in all actuality, it was her drama that got me going.
  • AddieL73 said:
    I almost did the Thursday before and the day before, courtesy of one of our OOT drama-llama friends who thought the weekend was a vacation for she and her boyfriend and that everyone needed to be doing things on THEIR timeline and not the bride and groom's. 


    Agreed, I think that's what angered me the most. I only felt snappish the day before and the day of.
  • jdluvr06 said:
    Not yet! I almost did when we picked our venue though. We're getting married on my uncle's horse farm and my FBIL had some snarky things to say. I had to put a lot of effort into being polite about it and not go into bitch mode.
    Major kudos to you for keeping your cool. My H's BIL had some pretty snarky things to say when we were all visiting MIL and SFIL. My ILs have a cat, which unfortunately I am very allergic to so they keep one of the guest rooms in their house completely pet free. BIL started complaining about why we got the nice bedroom (this was before we were married) and him and his wife had to take the smaller room. Even after explaining my allergies he would still argue so I left H and MIL to deal with him.
  • I did get called a Bridezilla once. Right after H and I got engaged, when my father was still in my life, we started discussing the ideas we had for the wedding. Father made a suggestion which I declined for reasons, he jumped up and shouted, "Aha! We got a Bridezilla here! You're in for it now H!!" H was naturally horrified but my father's lack of tact was no surprise to me. Mom leaned over to father and said, "Don't use big words you don't understand." Thanks Mom!
  • I kept my cool, but I did throw out the "We're meeting with our WC tomorrow morning" after United stranded us a third time on the way to Hawaii.  We were actually meeting her, but it wasn't a huge deal.  We got put on a different airline to Hawaii.  I had no problem throwing out there that it was for my wedding to get airlines to get us to Hawaii for our vacation on time.  26 hours, 4 cities and 2 airlines before we made it (It's a 6 hour flight from our city)

  • I haven't had one yet, but I'm still 11 months out. I get told I'm too picky because I looked at 14 venues before decidingon one and have tried on 15-20 dresses and still haven't decided on one.

    My FSIL called me a bridezilla twice, once when I told her that she couldn't post wedding stuff on FB or tell her friend any details. Her friend has tried to start fights between FSIL and me, and even tried to get FH to break up with me. The other time was when I said I won't pay for her dress, and I would probably just pick color, fabric and length, they can pick any dress.
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  • I haven't had one yet, but I'm still 11 months out. I get told I'm too picky because I looked at 14 venues before decidingon one and have tried on 15-20 dresses and still haven't decided on one. My FSIL called me a bridezilla twice, once when I told her that she couldn't post wedding stuff on FB or tell her friend any details. Her friend has tried to start fights between FSIL and me, and even tried to get FH to break up with me. The other time was when I said I won't pay for her dress, and I would probably just pick color, fabric and length, they can pick any dress.
    I guess I'm a Bridezilla then too. I let all the girls pick their own dresses so long as they were floor length and charcoal gray. Your FSIL's friend isn't invited to the wedding right? I wouldn't put up with that bullshit.
  • I fake cried and whined over the phone with FI's church's secretary so we could push our ceremony back an hour, saying our perfect wedding day depended upon it. 

    But it was to eliminate a gap, so I feel like my ridiculousness is sort of justified. 
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  • PDKH said:
    I fake cried and whined over the phone with FI's church's secretary so we could push our ceremony back an hour, saying our perfect wedding day depended upon it. 

    But it was to eliminate a gap, so I feel like my ridiculousness is sort of justified. 
    No worries you're in the clear. I admit I got pouty with the venue coordinator when we couldn't have our original date because they were already booked for a non-wedding event. The coordinator ended up giving us an extra hour free of charge which really helped on the day of and kept us on schedule so it felt justified to us.
  • I don't know if this counts but my FMIL was pushing for us to allow aunts and uncles to bring their children. She thought we had changed our minds but we hadn't, so she kept pushing as we made up the invites.

    FI and I stood up to her and put our foot down. She didn't like it and her reaction to us sticking up for ourselves MADE me feel like I was being a bridezilla. No we never gave into her, but it is a sore subject with my FI's family unfortunately.


    The only other time was when I was trying to get my sister to order her BM dress. She has never been one before, so she didn't understand that it wasn't as simple as going into the store and picking it off the rack and she was the last of the gals that needed to order her dress. (MoH and 2 BMs total in my BP). One BM her dress took just a day to arrive after ordering it. My MoH...she ordered it Fourth of July weekend and it didn't get into the store for pick up till the end of Sept. I wanted her to have enough time and I know I pissed her off a few times.

    Most of my frustration has been more because of the waiting and not being able to do anything.


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  • JordanF13 said:



    I haven't had one yet, but I'm still 11 months out. I get told I'm too picky because I looked at 14 venues before decidingon one and have tried on 15-20 dresses and still haven't decided on one.

    My FSIL called me a bridezilla twice, once when I told her that she couldn't post wedding stuff on FB or tell her friend any details. Her friend has tried to start fights between FSIL and me, and even tried to get FH to break up with me. The other time was when I said I won't pay for her dress, and I would probably just pick color, fabric and length, they can pick any dress.

    I guess I'm a Bridezilla then too. I let all the girls pick their own dresses so long as they were floor length and charcoal gray. Your FSIL's friend isn't invited to the wedding right? I wouldn't put up with that bullshit.

    Oh goodness no! FSIL moved in with FH and I recently, and her friend isn't allowed to even know our address. I have a very strict rule that no one is allowed to come in my house that is disrespectful to me, my FH, our roommates or any of the relationships between us. FH struggles with wanting to enforce it, especially since his sis doesn't have any friends by us, since she just moved here, but I told him the rule applies to all. If I have a friend who is disrespectful to our roommate, he can tell me to not have them in our home.


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  • I had one about a week ago when I was talking with stepmom about our wedding plans. She kept pushing for me to invite kids to the wedding (not gonna happen), include her daughters in my BP (also not gonna happen), and let her plan my decor (seriously not gonna happen).

    1) Most of our friends do not have children. We're not prepared to hire entertainment just for 4 kids, and the kids are too far apart in age to keep each other occupied happily. Stepmom said "oh but my girls don't need entertainment, they're old enough to sit quietly at a restaurant by themselves". I have been out to restaurants with them. They do not know how to behave, which is unsurprising considering the examples they have to follow.

    2) We're having a very small BP - 1 attendant each, that's it. My MOH is my best friend, his BM is his, and without the two of them we would never have met. Our siblings aren't in the BP, so why on earth would she think we would involve my stepsisters, especially when they can't follow a simple direction without throwing a hissy fit?

    3) Our style is completely different from hers. Every single thing I said about our decor ideas, she responded with "No, but you should do (this)!" like it was her wedding and not mine. The worst was when I said "We're not having flowers, hayfever etc", she goes "Oh no! You HAVE to have flowers! It's not a wedding without flowers! I'll do them, just leave it to me!" and I just about lost it.

    But considering the drama that happened later in the day, and the fact that my dad and stepmom aren't coming to the wedding because they're idiots, I'm confident that there won't be any more of those.
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  • I lost my shit when FI wanted the groomsmen to wear Starfleet uniforms. We're talking full on meltdown, screeching "OUR WEDDING WILL BE AWFUL!", tears, not talking to him. etc. He relented and now there are subtle nods to Star Trek (ie cake topper, Enterprise cufflinks, etc) instead of a bridal party in farkin' Klingon costumes.

     

    I don't regret it at all.

    Teehee...Okay, I may have chuckled at this because my FI has a full on trekkie outfit that he has threatened to wear (jokingly).  But nice compromise with the cufflinks etc.
  • Good job keeping your cool!  Lateness bothers me too! 

    My only bridezilla moment was on my wedding day, the limo driver got lost in between the church where he'd just dropped off my hubby and his groomsmen and my parents' house, where he was going to pick up my bridesmaids and me.  (The church and my parents' house are six blocks from each other, it's normally a 2-minute drive or a 6-7 minute walk.)  The mass was supposed to start at 4, so I'd asked that he pick us up by 3:50.  At 4:15, after four phone calls with the driver himself and the coordinator at the limo company's office, I called my father and asked him to come and get us. (The driver had clear driving instructions and a GPS so I'm not sure what the hold up was.)  I didn't cry and or yell or anything too crazy, but I remember feeling frustrated and upset, and then mad at myself for feeling that way on what was supposed to be my happiest day.  Hubby and I were happily married and went on to have a great time at the reception (and more importantly we have a terrific marriage :) but it's hard not to remember the limo issue on our wedding day when asked about a bridezilla moment! :p

  • No, not yet.  I might in the future, though.
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  • Not yet. I still have 9 months to go though. 
  • Is any bridezilla moment when you have an argument?  It's hard to pin down the definition.  I suppose if that is the case, I must have had one when FI was completely taking over the wedding and the only think that I had wanted, which was the wedding colours, he was arguing about, and he was saying that I was getting my way with everything.  He was mistaking accommodating guests with me getting what I wanted. 

  • There was one night where we were discussing budget and our savings plan and FI made some sort of passing comment about how I don't take any of his ideas so instead of arguing I opened up and asked for examples and he says "well I wanted black to be a 'wedding color" so I asked him what he wanted to be black to reflect that (like what part of the décor) and he didn't answer and so then I got a little frustrated and then asked him again and he mumbled something about bridesmaid dresses..and I FLIPPED. I told him that he got full reign of groomsmen and bridesmaid attire was for me to decide and then being spiteful and kinda rude he told me that he was putting groomsmen in pink...and well...by that point I don't even think dog's could hear my screeching .
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  • @smalfrie19 Well, full reign of groomsmen attire to some extent, right?  My FI wanted his groomsmen in medieval costumes.  Something that extravagant should be decided on together, IMO.  That also goes for pink suits. 

  • I had some bridezilla thoughts and realized internally I was being ridiculous.  

    Younger FBIL recently got engaged to his GF whom I love and I'm so excited she's joining the family.  But when they announced they'll only be having a 7 month engagement and are getting married before us, both Fi and I had to do a gut-check.  We are the oldest siblings in our families and our younger siblings have told us we are role models for them, so we both had feelings that we "deserve" to get married first.  I know that this is not rational!  Fi talked to me about it (he's very into being the Responsible Older Brother about everything), but of course we would never say anything to the rest of the family about it.  I'm genuinely happy for FBIL and his Fi, now my FSIL.

    I just tell myself that FSIL will now get to take the brunt of FMIL's wedding obsessions.  FSIL is really good at saying "No" and standing up for herself, so by the time it's my turn, FMIL will be used to hearing "No!"
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  • kerbohl said:
    @smalfrie19 Well, full reign of groomsmen attire to some extent, right?  My FI wanted his groomsmen in medieval costumes.  Something that extravagant should be decided on together, IMO.  That also goes for pink suits. 
    Well they DEFINITELY aren't going to be pink..I just don't want to stress over picking out the style or organizing fittings and what have you..so I just..really don't care..My FI thankfully isn't that "creative" to want to do something like that...
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  • Not so much a bridezilla moment, but a reaction to the stress of weddings. 

    I was shopping for my bachlorette dress the weekend before my wedding, and got the email from my venue saying they could no longer hold my wedding because they were hit by a mudslide. I full on burst into tears while talking on the phone with DHs aunt, standing outside of a store. It was such a "middle school boyfriend broke up with me scene". LOL! 
  • I had one the day before our wedding when DH's brother called him and said, "You wanted the RBs in suits, right? We're at the store and we're buying him a suit."

    No, we wanted the RBs in khaki pants and white Oxfords because they were ages 2.5 and 9 at the time of our wedding and we didn't want to make their parents buy them suits they'd only wear once when they could re-wear these dress clothes for other events AND we had bought them matching ties and suspenders.

    I. Flipped. Out. I told DH to tell his brother, "Buy the damn pants and shirt, or nephew isn't going to be an RB." Then I told DH, 'Your brother had TWO FREAKING THINGS to do for this wedding and he's effed them both up, JFC!' (Brother had also balked at buying a suit for himself to wear as a GM -- when at least his suit he won't outgrow, unlike the nephew's suit).

    DH and my mother talked me down, but it was ugly.
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  • I had one the day before our wedding when DH's brother called him and said, "You wanted the RBs in suits, right? We're at the store and we're buying him a suit."

    No, we wanted the RBs in khaki pants and white Oxfords because they were ages 2.5 and 9 at the time of our wedding and we didn't want to make their parents buy them suits they'd only wear once when they could re-wear these dress clothes for other events AND we had bought them matching ties and suspenders.

    I. Flipped. Out. I told DH to tell his brother, "Buy the damn pants and shirt, or nephew isn't going to be an RB." Then I told DH, 'Your brother had TWO FREAKING THINGS to do for this wedding and he's effed them both up, JFC!' (Brother had also balked at buying a suit for himself to wear as a GM -- when at least his suit he won't outgrow, unlike the nephew's suit).

    DH and my mother talked me down, but it was ugly.

    and the cake vendor not being around...
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  • I had one the day before our wedding when DH's brother called him and said, "You wanted the RBs in suits, right? We're at the store and we're buying him a suit."

    No, we wanted the RBs in khaki pants and white Oxfords because they were ages 2.5 and 9 at the time of our wedding and we didn't want to make their parents buy them suits they'd only wear once when they could re-wear these dress clothes for other events AND we had bought them matching ties and suspenders.

    I. Flipped. Out. I told DH to tell his brother, "Buy the damn pants and shirt, or nephew isn't going to be an RB." Then I told DH, 'Your brother had TWO FREAKING THINGS to do for this wedding and he's effed them both up, JFC!' (Brother had also balked at buying a suit for himself to wear as a GM -- when at least his suit he won't outgrow, unlike the nephew's suit).

    DH and my mother talked me down, but it was ugly.

    and the cake vendor not being around...
    Yeah, and that. I'd forgotten about that part of it. And DH's dumb-ass father.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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