Engagement Season

500days

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 I just saw that on my facebook and have been laughing & in tears for quite a bit. Have you found this to be true in your circle? Have you heard of this? I mean I get seeing the posts on FB, but that has never really bothered me. This photo is just weird and over the top. The girl on the bottom left of the photo is spot on. She gets high fives all day.

Blackbird230

I have never heard of taking a photo like that. All the girls seem young though. Or maybe it's just a lack of my ability to tell age.

[Deleted User]

I've seen something like the featured picture before, with the exception of the girl in the bottom left corner. When I was in college there were several of my classmates who were in sorority together who became engaged around the same time.  They took a picture of their left hands in a circle to show off their rings.  The picture featured six girls.

I think maybe two or three of those actually made it to the altar. 

CLoGreenEyes

Eh. I think the holidays are just a time of the year where you can either fall into the trap of discontentment or choose to be grateful for where you are in life. I think that part of this is reflected in the engagement season (which I do see in my circle of friends to an extent), but it's certainly seen in other ways too. For example, I have friends in relationships who are getting antsy about getting engaged, and inside all I'm thinking is, "GIRL. At least you HAVE A BOYFRIEND." Fill this in with just about anything somebody else has that you don't, and that's what you get.

I can totally understand this girl's reaction to her friends' engagements; I just personally would have tried to keep it to myself. As for the girl on the bottom right...slow your roll, honey. Slow it alllllllll the way down.

[Deleted User]

This seems like a thing that's going on with people I know right now. Part of it is probably because it's the end of many people's senior year of college so all of the people who have been together since high school/beginning of college were probably waiting until graduation to pop the question.

My cousin, who just got proposed to, goes to a small private religious college and said that all of the girls there have a "ring by spring" thing going on. Apparently, those who want proposals make it very clear, give their guys until over the Holiday season to do it or dump them in the Spring if they don't. I don't know how much of that is real or a joke, but I've heard of a few Christian colleges where this is very much a thing.

With all of the people around me getting engaged (or know they're coming soon), it's hard not to get wedding fever, especially if they're talking about their bridesmaids already and stuff. When I get caught up thinking about my own timeline, I just think about what all of these other people's engagements mean for me: invites to open bars for the next couple summers!

FoxandBunny

My cousin, who just got proposed to, goes to a small private religious college and said that all of the girls there have a "ring by spring" thing going on. Apparently, those who want proposals make it very clear, give their guys until over the Holiday season to do it or dump them in the Spring if they don't. I don't know how much of that is real or a joke, but I've heard of a few Christian colleges where this is very much a thing.

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Stuck in the box. Ugh.

Anyway, I go to a small Christian college in the South, and let me tell you, the "Ring by Spring" is very prevalent here. However, from what I've heard, it's not being proposed to over the holidays, just before graduation. At least here anyway. Many people expect it here and I know of girls who have basically forced an engagement through this method. Also, now that I'm almost to my senior year, just about every weekend I have a couple of engagements float across my Facebook feed. It's annoying, but I'm happy for my friends that do get engaged. I only get angry when people assume I'm going by the Ring by Spring mentality as well. 

KeptInStitches

I'm ignoring Engagement Season. La la la can't affect me if I don't know it's happening ...

And I don't care how immature that is.

Oh, and I'd be the lovely person in the back flipping off the camera. What a stupid photo.

Vintagelove4

It does seem to happen every year around this time. We used to get a ton of BSC girls through here October- January complaining about their BFs not proposing.
Personally though, most of my friends seem to get engaged in the late spring to early fall time. H and I have two weddings to go to the weekend after this one.

blabla89

It's engagement season, also known as "consume an entire bottle of wine before logging onto Facebook." season.

I think it probably started when jewelers started advertising it. And is it just me or does anyone else want to vom when that Kay Jewelers Christmas commercial comes on hulu?? You can't even skip it. Ugh.

I kind of wished that BF would propose at the holidays so that I could go home to my family and tell them in person, but I'm kind of glad it won't be at the same time as everyone else.

blabla89

double post.

Swazzle

I think that picture is hysterical. 

Don't believe in engagement season? Take a look at the sudden onslaught of new posters on this board. I'm not saying they're all totally BSC and badgering their SO to propose right.this.instant., but it sure makes you wonder. 

buddysmom80

All I have to say is that I love that picture and only because of the woman on the bottom left. That's how I feel sometimes. Just a full disclosure moment there for ya.

Dignity100

Look at all the jewelry commercials this time of year, and let's face it there are also black friday specials for that bargain BF - lol.

The girl on the bottom left of the photo pretty much sums up the photo!

labro

BF and I saw that photo on Reddit the other day and thought it was hysterical! I think in a similar situation I'd feel the exact same as her. Like PPs I think there is an engagement season. The plethora of holidays plus the onslaught of Kay/Jared/whatever jeweler commercials just forces it down everyone's collective throats and there's no escaping it.

Hummingbird125

I'm with you @LivLeighton - There have been SO MANY engagements plastered over my newsfeed within the past two weeks, it is ridiculous. And I am sure there are several more on the way. The other day, BF was sitting next to me as I scrolled through FB and he said "It seems like you know someone getting engaged every single week." 

Yes, yes it does.

In all honesty I'm always super happy when it's someone I'm friends with (IRL), but when it's someone I hardly know/have lost touch with, my gut reaction is "ANOTHER ONE? Are you KIDDING me?" 

bethsmiles

Most of my friends don't get engaged during the Holidays. I don't think a single one has popped up on my news feed in the last couple of months. But I can still tell their is an engagement season from being on the boards. Usually it really doesn't bother me to see that so many other people are getting engaged, this year I'll admit that I can feel a twinge of the BSC when someone else gets engaged, only because the only reason we are waiting to get engaged is for BF to get a job...which really sucks.

[Deleted User]

The concept of "ring by spring" really irks me.  It makes me think they just want to gush about their rings over mimosas at Sunday brunch and forget the reason the ring is on their finger in the first place.

Becoming engaged shouldn't become a competition or an opportunity to be the center of attention.  Ugh.

CASK85

That photo is ridiculous. 

I got engaged in December, but I can't name another friend of mine who also did. I can think of one June engagement, one October, and one September. Most of my IRL friends are NEY or single. 

Dignity100

Oh man - I'm starting to feel guilty! Not that I need to explain myself  but I know my ring is on it's way, our families have already been told and we've got it down to a 3 week period depending on when the venue is opened.  The timing for us is just by coincidence - we saved up for the ring and had to order it and then the order took a wee bit longer thanks to my 'special needs' (yay allergies!).  Now I'm wondering what others are going to think as we tell them though - oh well FI & I need to explain nothing to them!!

suzie211

I got engaged last December, but am the minority out of my married/engaged friends.  Most everyone else was engaged during the spring or summer.  It's just what worked for us.  H wasn't ready to take a look at rings until October.  Once we did, it created the rest of the timeline H went by.  

The jewelry industry goes into hyperdrive with the advertisements this time of year.  It makes it easy to tie the two things together. I think it can make any girl a little more crazy than usual.  In general it can be hard to watch others get something you want.  I had green eye monster moments while waiting for my engagement.  This board and a couple close girlfriends were always there to keep me in check.

smalfrie19

I was driving with FI the other day and a radio add came on for a local jeweler and it was stating things like "every woman dreams of a Xmas proposal" and I was like NOPE! I for one am glad my FI proposed right smack dab in the middle of July...unexpected and surprising!

Pepperally

BF already said he won't do it on a holiday or birthday...wants it to be our own day.  I do think he might be going to take advantage of the Xmas sales, though, but as for when he actually proposes, who knows. 

We had an in-depth discussion about what we want to do about actually getting married with his parents this past weekend, so it's definitely more on his mind.

500days

Sorry to abandon the post here. I agree with many folks. I'm happy that I got engaged the last weekend of August....Back to School season!! The most romantic time of the year lol

HisGirlFriday13

DH and I got engaged Dec. 21, but it had nothing to do with the holidays, unless you count the Mayan end-of-the-world prediction.

Hummingbird125

You know what - I had been daydreaming about a Christmas Eve or Christmas Day proposal for the past few months. Within the past couple of weeks I've realized that this is definitely NOT happening, and I was a little bit bummed out about it. However just yesterday I was thinking about getting engaged and I was excited and happy at the thought that it will probably happen on a random day when I least expect it. I love love love surprises, and I thanks in part to this thread, I've been thinking about how great it must be to be surprised with something so exciting on an otherwise boring, uneventful day.

That said, screw all you happy people on my newsfeed. 

j/k.

raw1299

Majority of the people I know got engaged November-February, including me. She's really that pissed about it? Get over it. 

bethsmiles

raw1299 said:

Majority of the people I know got engaged November-February, including me. She's really that pissed about it? Get over it. 

That was a really angry response. I don't think anyone here meant this thread to be something negative against people who get engaged around the holidays.

Swazzle

raw1299 said:

Majority of the people I know got engaged November-February, including me. She's really that pissed about it? Get over it. 

No sense of humor: party of 1. 

SarahA519

Hummingbird125 said:

You know what - I had been daydreaming about a Christmas Eve or Christmas Day proposal for the past few months. Within the past couple of weeks I've realized that this is definitely NOT happening, and I was a little bit bummed out about it. However just yesterday I was thinking about getting engaged and I was excited and happy at the thought that it will probably happen on a random day when I least expect it. I love love love surprises, and I thanks in part to this thread, I've been thinking about how great it must be to be surprised with something so exciting on an otherwise boring, uneventful day.

That said, screw all you happy people on my newsfeed. 

j/k.

I think this is such a great way to think about it.  It also allows you to really be surprised and not have that stress over the holidays. 

All those announcements can get really old though.  I think we all can tell when someone is posting to brag and make a huge fuss, and those who are just sharing in a nice way.  I can't really explain what the difference is between the two, but I know it when I see it!

Pepper6

I'd be that girl in the photo too.  And not because I'm jealous, but because that photo idea is just plain dumb and annoying.  Also, is it just me or do they look way super young?

When H I and were discussing getting engaged, we specifically talked about NOT getting engaged on any holiday, birthday or anniversary because it's so predictable.  Since we went ring shopping together and had talked at length about the fact that we would be getting married, H wanted at least the when/where/how to be a surprise.  

shaivana

Oh man I felt guilty when I first saw this photo,that's definitely how I feel. But I have to check myself and try to be happy for them because I want people to be excited for me when I get engaged, no matter what time of year! I can't stand the people that are just getting engaged because everyone else is doing it, or they've gotta get that "ring by Spring."