So my FI and I have been together for 7 years and have been engaged for 5 of those years. We are getting married (finally) in August. Well we've decided that we want to start a family right away. It is something we have discussed in great detail and it is what we really want. The thing is we (well really it is me) will have a hard time conceiving. So we have been thinking about starting the adoption process just in case and we were thinking about adopting a child anyway at some point. Well my FI, who is horrible at keeping things to himself, told his mom that this is something we are talking about. His mom then proceeded to tell my mom. So I get a call this morning from both of them (the downside to them getting along so well). They think we should go ahead and start the process now (like before we get married now) because it can sometimes take years and this will give us a jump start. Now of course we won't be doing that. There are legal things to think about and it will just be easier to do once we are legally married you know? I'm just a little amazed because I didn't think we would get the parental you should have kids pressure until after the wedding.