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So I've been totally MIA...

but I've been lurking I promise! 

Congrats to the newly engaged ladies! Try not to let the planning process drive you too crazy :)

I've been MIA for a few reasons- my new job has been keeping me super busy, wedding planning is getting hectic and most importantly my father has been ill. He was diagnosed with throat cancer the week of Thanksgiving, and 2 weeks ago we found out it has spread to his liver, so his prognosis isn't great. He just started chemo last Thursday, and we're all hopeful that it goes well. With good results in treatment the Dr's think they can get him about 6-12 months. Its scary to think that he might only have a year left, but as I'm learning so many people are able to far out live what the Dr's initially think, so we are all trying to remain hopeful.

My FI and I have come up with a back up plan for the wedding. I'm doing all my dress fittings now, he's getting a snazzy new suit, we're ordering our rings, notified our photographer and our friend who is going to do the ceremony is at the ready, so if we have to push up the ceremony we will. It will be a smaller affair, just family and our very close friends with a lunch or a nice dinner after, then in Sept we will have a reception. No redo, no vow renewal, no PPD, just a party. But we're all praying that we won't need Plan B. 

So if you have any vibes/prayers/good thoughts to spare for my Dad, and for Plan B not being needed I would appreciate them!!!

And I promise to try to be around more :)





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  • I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. We went through something similar with my mom so I really do feel for you and will pray for you.
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  • @lennonkdc My thoughts and prayers are with you and your dad and your family. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. Good for you for thinking so positively about your dad's prognosis. It is true though about patients often living much longer than the doctor's original estimate. My grandmother outlived the expected lifetime of her disease (from diagnosis onward) by about three years. She was a stubborn woman and while it was hard for her to be positive all the time, she had the constant love and support of her family around her just like your dad does.



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    Thanks @lalalaurita. I've met so many people who have been touched by cancer, and I've been so moved by how supportive they've been. I'm sorry you had to go through something like this, its horrible and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Thank you for keeping me in your prayers. PS- I love your avatar- I LOVE owls :)



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  • @lennonkdc- I'm so sorry to hear about your father. It sounds like y'all are remaining very positive which is amazing! Praying for you and your family.
  • @lennonkdc - Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Praying that Plan B isn't needed and your dad responds well to treatment. Loving you!

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  • Sorry to hear about your father. You are in my thoughts.
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  • lennonkdc said:
    Thanks @lalalaurita. I've met so many people who have been touched by cancer, and I've been so moved by how supportive they've been. I'm sorry you had to go through something like this, its horrible and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Thank you for keeping me in your prayers. PS- I love your avatar- I LOVE owls :)
    D'aww thanks! And yes, after you've been through cancer, it hurts to watch anyone else go through the same thing and you just want to support them any way you can. From the time my mom was first diagnosed with cancer through the year after she passed, I've seen God's faithfulness and provision like never before - especially through the wonderful, supportive people who came into our lives. Praying that for you and your family.




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  • @southernpeach89, Its been a long few weeks, and I have my moments, its day by day. FI has been amazing, esp when I just randomly burst out in tears...

    It helps that my Dad is a naturally positive, upbeat person, the eternal optimist, and a fighter. He's not ready to go yet, and if he's not ready to give up then we won't give up. 



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  • I'm so sorry to hear this @lennonkdc. I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts for sure. Keep up the positivity.
  • @lennonkdc - It sounds like you are handling the whole thing admirably. It's not easy to deal with an illness in the family like that. I know that your NOT the PPD type of gal, but I still think it's awesome that you're so relaxed about your Plan B. It's an emotional event even without the other curcumstances, so I applaud you for keeping your cool and focusing on what is truly important.

    Best wishes to your dad and your family as you all face this. He couldn't be more blessed to have such a loving and supportive family to help him through it all!

  • I'm so sorry @lennonkdc. Your dad is in my prayers. <3 Hopefully Plan B won't be needed!

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  • Aww, Lennon - you're just the coolest. I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this, but honestly, it sounds like you are all facing it in the most positive way and leaning on each other as much as possible. Lots of hugs and vibes for your dad's treatment and your planning! <3
  • I'm sorry to hear this, lennon. Your family is in my thoughts and I really hope you don't need Plan B.
  • *hugs* I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you don't need Plan B.


  • I'm so sorry to hear about your father.  I really hope you don't need Plan B.
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