What should the guys wear?!

Rikki_5

I'm sure there is probably a thread about this already, but I can't seem to find one.  Anyways, any input will be greatly appreciated.  We are getting married late June in Michigan at 5 o'clock in the p.m.  Both the groom and myself really like the black tux look...however, the ceremony will be outside in a garden setting.  The reception will be indoors at a Yacht Club.  I'm going for kind of a Twilight/Breaking Dawn/Vintage/Midsummer Night Theme....would black tuxes be appropriate?  Or should I do suits?  Would black during June be too heavy?  I really don't like the suits!  Think Edward Cullen in Breaking Dawn...:) 

doeydo

I always like tuxes, so I don't think it would be too much for a June wedding with an outdoor ceremony.  

hikebikebemerry

I haven't seen any of the Twilight movies.. so I can't speak to those.  I'm always a fan of tuxes; I know that *technically* they shouldn't be worn to events that start before 6 p.m., but that's one of the things that I don't care about because it really doesn't impact anyone.  

You could try to give it a softer feel by having a white tie (like the pic below)?  I also picked this pic so that you can kind of get an idea of how a tux might look in a garden setting.

Maggie0829

I would go with what your groom wants to wear and if he wants to wear a tux then that is what he should wear.

ETA: my H and all his groomsmen wore black tuxes in our July wedding. Tuxes are classic no matter what time of year they are worn.

erinlin25

edit: it is not showing the picture I included, but it was of Edward and Bella's wedding...he is wearing a black tux.

Black tuxes are always appropriate for evening weddings, and especially if the reception is indoors at a yaht club that seems formal to me.  Look, even Edward wore a black tux

BUT you need to ask your FI want he wants to wear!

J9lawrence

I agree with previous posters, let your FI wear what he wants to.  My husband really wanted to wear a tux for our wedding because he figured it was the only time in his life when he could!

huskypuppy14

I'm also getting married in June outside at 5:30, and then the reception is inside in the ballroom. My FI and the groomsman are wearing black tuxes (our colors are black and white). Even when the wedding is earlier in the day (like 2 or 3) I've seen the groom in a tux. A yacht club is a "fancy" venue, therefore I think a tux is appropriate. If you're FI likes the black tux look, go for it. 

CMGragain

laurynm84 said:

I'm also getting married in June outside at 5:30, and then the reception is inside in the ballroom. My FI and the groomsman are wearing black tuxes (our colors are black and white). Even when the wedding is earlier in the day (like 2 or 3) I've seen the groom in a tux. A yacht club is a "fancy" venue, therefore I think a tux is appropriate. If you're FI likes the black tux look, go for it.

A tuxedo is permissible for a 5:00PM ceremony when it is followed by a reception, but earlier in the day -- no.  Just because you see someone else do something doesn't mean that it is the correct thing to do.  Tuxedos are evening wear, and they should ALWAYS be black!

theartistformerlyknownas

The whole uproar over what time tuxedos can/should be worn is ridiculous to me. Talk about a victimless crime, plus if we're splitting hairs on attire rules, I don't think anyone wants to start debating whether most of us "should be" wearing white to our weddings... times change. Most people don't take those things so seriously anymore. It's far from the biggest problem in the world.

CMGragain

Lolo8383 said:

The whole uproar over what time tuxedos can/should be worn is ridiculous to me. Talk about a victimless crime, plus if we're splitting hairs on attire rules, I don't think anyone wants to start debating whether most of us "should be" wearing white to our weddings... times change. Most people don't take those things so seriously anymore. It's far from the biggest problem in the world.

Wearing white to your wedding has nothing whatever to do with proper mens attire.  Men should wear tuxedos to formal evening occasions.  Formal evening dress should not be worn in the daytime.  This is not a wedding rule.  It is simply dress custom.  You should not wear a bathing suit to a wedding either.  This is also dress custom.

Rikki_5

Thanks for all the replies ladies!! It seems as though the concensus is that it would be appropriate for the groom to wear a black tux to the outdoor ceremony.  I have to say, I'm excited about seeing him all tuxed out!  I agree that it's not a real big problem..I was just curious cuz I didn't want the guys to be too hot and/or uncomforatable..but I guess since the reception will be air conditioned indoors that will be ok...even so, I guess rules were made to be broken.  Cheers~!~

Maggie0829

So CMGragain do you roll your eyes when you watch the Oscars or Golden Globes and all the men are wearing tuxes at 3pm in the afternoon while walking the red carpet?

theartistformerlyknownas

CMGragain said:

Lolo8383 said:

The whole uproar over what time tuxedos can/should be worn is ridiculous to me. Talk about a victimless crime, plus if we're splitting hairs on attire rules, I don't think anyone wants to start debating whether most of us "should be" wearing white to our weddings... times change. Most people don't take those things so seriously anymore. It's far from the biggest problem in the world.

Wearing white to your wedding has nothing whatever to do with proper mens attire.  Men should wear tuxedos to formal evening occasions.  Formal evening dress should not be worn in the daytime.  This is not a wedding rule.  It is simply dress custom.  You should not wear a bathing suit to a wedding either.  This is also dress custom.

It has everything to do with picking and choosing which traditions and rules to cling to, while letting others go. I think it's a silly and unnecessary thing to insist upon.

CMGragain

Maggie0829 said:

So CMGragain do you roll your eyes when you watch the Oscars or Golden Globes and all the men are wearing tuxes at 3pm in the afternoon while walking the red carpet?

Yes.  But, at least they aren't wearing matching pastel colored vests and bow ties, or light gray "tuxedos"!  In theater you will often see clothing that would be inappropriate for other occasions.  They had sequin spangled red tuxedos in a floor show I recently watched.  That doesn't mean it is correct to wear for real life events.
Men do not have special clothes that they wear only for weddings, unlike the brides.  Since the 1930's, brides have been wearing long white wedding dresses, which they will never wear at any other time. Men simply wear what they should normally wear to the event. 
There is confusion, especially with people who do not often attend formal parties.  Most Americans only see tuxedos and Prom or at a wedding.  I lived in Washington DC, where there are many formal events.  Believe me, people who live that life, DO know the rules, and you would look foolish if you went to an event and were not properly dressed.  (People would still be nice to you, but you would feel uncomfortable and out of place.)
When brides post on the Knot and ask questions, they want the correct answer, not just someone's unsubstantiated opinion.  The rules for proper men's clothing have not changed, except that Tuxedos are now acceptable formalwear, where white tie and tails used to be required.  Formal daytime wear for men is a cutaway coat, striped trousers and ascot tie.  These look very sharp on guys!