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Addressing Invitations

jachurchill4jachurchill4 member
edited March 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
While addressing invitations, are you supposed to put the person you know's name and guest or is it best to include both names? Even if they are not married?


Re: Addressing Invitations

  • You should always include both names unless the person doesn't have a significant other and you are extending him or her a plus one and do not know who he or she is bringing.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
  • phiraphira member
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    If Sue is in a relationship with Ellen:

    Sue Smith and Ellen Jones
    (Sue's address)

    Or (if you want to be traditional and only put them on the same line if they're married):

    Sue Smith
    Ellen Jones
    (Sue's address)

    Either is correct.

    If Sue is not in a relationship, and you want her to know that she can bring a guest:

    Sue Smith and Guest
    (Sue's address)
    now with ~* INCREASED SASSINESS *~
  • SP29SP29 member
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    If you are inviting someone with a significant other (significant other is anyone who deems them self to be in a relationship- if you do not know, then ask), always put the significant other's name on the invite. If you don't know their name- simply ask.

    The biggest issue with putting, "John and Guest", besides being disrespectful to John's SO, is that "and Guest" implies the invitee can bring whom ever they wish. Thus John is free to bring is girlfriend Sally, his mom, or his best bud Jeff. If this is not what you want, by directly addressing John Doe and Sally Smith, if Sally cannot come, then John would only RSVP for himself, if he still plans to attend. 
  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited March 2014
    Married:  Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
                  Ms.Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe
                   Mr. John Doe and Mr. James Smith

    Not Married:  Ms. Jane Jones
                        Mr. John Doe

    Include both names whenever possible.  Ladies are listed first, except for the Mr. and Mrs. format.
  • If you know both names, include both names.  If you don't, try to find out the other person's name.

    If you don't care or can't find out in time who the invited-by-name guest brings, use Name and Guest.
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