Tuxedo - for the fathers

Mlc0914

Hello!  This might seem like a silly question but I can't really find anything about this and I wanted to get some opinions.  Are my father and my FH's father both supposed to wear the same tuxes as my FH and the groomsmen?  Or do they just get their own style? 

jenna8984

Not only do they not need the same style, they don't even need tuxes if they don't want. The fathers are free to wear whatever they chose. They are not groomsmen and therefor do not need to match.

MandyMost

I like to think of it this way: the ONLY people whose clothing you have any say in at all is the bridal party, i.e. the bridesmaids and the groomsmen. You have absolutely no say over what any of the parents wear, or any other relatives unless they're in the bridal party, or any guests. So, while people may ask you what to wear and you're free to suggest something (such as the dads wearing tuxes), you can't require anything. 

Mlc0914

Thanks, that definitely helps.  They both asked me what they should wear and I haven't thought about it so I didn't have an answer for them.

charlotteetier

They do not have too, but we decided to put our father's in black tux's (the GM are in Gray) so they were still formal, but not the same.

KatWAG

They should wear whatever they like. They are not part of the bridal party so you dont get to dictate what they wear.

princessleia22

Since they aren't standing up front, it really doesn't matter what they wear. They do not need to match.  Although, we told that to my dad and he really wants to match groomsmen (for some reason all of the people in my wedding are more concerned about everyone matching than I am).  So, he ended up getting same suit as groomsmen, even though we told him he could wear whatever he wanted. I can understand it with FOB, since he is technically part of the wedding when he walks bride down aisle. But, as long as his attire matches the formality of the event, it shouldn't have to match groomsmen.  FOG is typically just sitting with other guests, so it shouldn't matter.