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Way more single male guests than female...

Not sure if this is the right place to be asking this, but I'm hoping for some opinions. I just sent out invites yesterday, and I realized after that there are an awful lot of single guys coming, and only about 2 single girls. Should I have (or should I still) invited more females to compensate, or is that just stupid? I'm obviously not setting up my wedding reception as a hook-up site for all the singles, and I don't plan on sitting them all at one table, but just thinking about dancing and socializing, things are going to be uneven. Most of our friends are married or in very serious relationships and already bringing their SO's. Any advice or opinions would be nice :) Thanks!

Re: Way more single male guests than female...

  • I am in the same boat. I am just sticking to inviting who we are close to and extending plus ones. Our single males almost all know one another and are close, so I think they'll do fine.
  • The groom (jokingly) suggested I needed to add more single bridesmaids (one of mine is married, another in a perfectly happy relationship). Nope, sorry. I'm not choosing friends to stand with me based on whether his buddies will be interested!
  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's
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    Not sure if this is the right place to be asking this, but I'm hoping for some opinions. I just sent out invites yesterday, and I realized after that there are an awful lot of single guys coming, and only about 2 single girls. Should I have (or should I still) invited more females to compensate, or is that just stupid? I'm obviously not setting up my wedding reception as a hook-up site for all the singles, and I don't plan on sitting them all at one table, but just thinking about dancing and socializing, things are going to be uneven. Most of our friends are married or in very serious relationships and already bringing their SO's. Any advice or opinions would be nice :) Thanks!
    Yes that is stupid.

    My H and his guy friends are capable of hanging out together, socialize, drink and dance without an equal amount of females in attendance.

    Do these single guys know each other?  Do these single guys know other couples at the wedding? I have a few single guy friends who go to weddings alone but are friends with a lot of the couples.  What happens is that the girls end up on the dance floor doing the wobble while the guys hang out at the table or buy the bar talking.

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  • Not sure if this is the right place to be asking this, but I'm hoping for some opinions. I just sent out invites yesterday, and I realized after that there are an awful lot of single guys coming, and only about 2 single girls. Should I have (or should I still) invited more females to compensate, or is that just stupid? I'm obviously not setting up my wedding reception as a hook-up site for all the singles, and I don't plan on sitting them all at one table, but just thinking about dancing and socializing, things are going to be uneven. Most of our friends are married or in very serious relationships and already bringing their SO's. Any advice or opinions would be nice :) Thanks!
    Yes that is stupid.

    My H and his guy friends are capable of hanging out together, socialize, drink and dance without an equal amount of females in attendance.

    Do these single guys know each other?  Do these single guys know other couples at the wedding? I have a few single guy friends who go to weddings alone but are friends with a lot of the couples.  What happens is that the girls end up on the dance floor doing the wobble while the guys hang out at the table or buy the bar talking.

    Yeah, they all know each other, and basically grew up together, so I figured it wouldn't be a big deal. It was only after a few of my guy friends questioned if they'd have anyone to dance with that I started over-thinking it. I know I don't have to invite more females just to please them, and I did invite most of the female friends of mine that I wanted to attend, but there are a few friends I could have added. Only, I sent my invites yesterday, so if they find out they got theirs later they might have hurt feelings. I'm pretty sure it's just me being silly and the boys thinking this is going to turn out like Wedding Crashers or something. I flat out told them I wasn't going to invite single girls just for them to feel like they have a chance at going home with someone lol.
  • Why in the hell would you need to have equal number of single females to single males?  Like, why does that even matter? Your wedding isn't speed dating. 
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  • climbingwifeclimbingwife NYC 'burbs
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    Wha???? I'm sorry, but yes, that is a stupid thing to worry about. 

  •  QueerFemme said:

    Why in the hell would you need to have equal number of single females to single males?  Like, why does that even matter? Your wedding isn't speed dating. 
    I didn't say I needed equal numbers. I also mentioned that I wasn't trying to hook people up at my wedding, so please don't put words in my mouth that were never said.
  • KatWAGKatWAG Chicago
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    I think you should hire escorts for your sinlge male friends. That should even out the room a bit.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall
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    Well, at least this was a new worry. Points for originality! 
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  • You may give the singles +1...that way if they are concerned about having someone to dance with, they may bring a date.  And honestly, how many slow dances ARE there at a reception?  6?  I think they can manage 18 minutes ;)
  • The best dancers at my daughter's wedding were a lovely gay couple.  What are you worried about?
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  • Why is anatomy such a big deal lately? We had that bride who thought only those people possessing a penis could be ushers, and now we have a bride worried that too many penises will apparently invalidate her marriage.

    Penises aren't that interesting, people!! They're just appendages. 
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  • doeydodoeydo Southwestern Ontario
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    I asked my FI his opinion on weddings that have way more single males than females and he said "You don't go to a wedding to pick up; that'd be the last thing on my mind".
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  • chibiyuichibiyui The Boring Part of MD
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    I think your problem will be solved if you play "It's Raining Men" once an hour.
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  • I personally don't think you should really worry about your guy to female ratio. I understand you want everyone to have a good time and if it is a really big deal to you then you definitely could extend +1s to the guys. I'm sure everyone will have a great time regardless of what you decide. Just try not to stress out over something that really isn't that important anyways. :)
  • Of all the things there are in the world to worry about, this is not one of them. 

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