Should I match My Bridesmaid's dress style?

mpmottlry

Hello! This here is my dress.

I'm trying to set some style guidelines for by bridesmaids, but let them choose what they like. My sister and my best friend MOH are both fair skinned with dark hair. I have two junior bridesmaids who are simply going to wear TuTus (The wedding is not extremely formal) as well as my two flower girls (the four girls are sisters). The groom and groomsmen are not wearing a full tux, but only shirt pants and tie. Mu hubby to be will be wearing a white shirt. The wedding colors are fall colors, mostly maroon, chocolate, and burnt orange. We plan on making each of the maids and groomsmen in a different fall color, but symmetrically (IE, Best man and MOH in brown, First maid and man in red, second in orange, last in gold).

So, two questions:

1. Should we just let all of the wedding party wear red? (Both the MOH and Bridesmaid want to wear red).

2. Since I have a tulle ballgown, and the junior bridesmaids and flower girls will be in tulle tutus, should the bridesmaids also have tulle dresses? Is a Short Tulle dress too juvenile for 20-somethings? (something like this)

Blergbot

I can't see your gown, but I would recommend just doing one color, like red. You're initial idea sounds cool, but it's kind of overly complicated, imo. No, you do not need to have the jbms, flower girls and bms all match. I would just add a red sash to the tutus so that it ties in with the bm dresses. I wouldn't put your entire female bridal party in tulle.

AddieCake

The bridesmaids' dress fabric does not need to match yours or the flower girls', no. 

doeydo

I don't like the term 'junior bridesmaids' as they don't do anything different that the other BMs and young people generally dislike being called junior or anything like that.  How old are the younger BMs?  I ask because I can't imagine feeling comfortable in a tutu at 10 years of age as I think tutus are generally reserved for little girls and ballerinas.  As for having all of the wedding party wear red or not, I guess that is up to you.  Below are some examples to help you envision the different looks.
Wedding party members in all red:




MOH and best man in different colour than the rest of the wedding party:



The mix of colours:

hyechica81

i would skip the tutus and get a nice dress instead tu tu's remind me of a dance recitile a play or halloween costume

mpmottlry

doeydo said:

I don't like the term 'junior bridesmaids' as they don't do anything different that the other BMs and young people generally dislike being called junior or anything like that.  How old are the younger BMs?  I ask because I can't imagine feeling comfortable in a tutu at 10 years of age as I think tutus are generally reserved for little girls and ballerinas.  As for having all of the wedding party wear red or not, I guess that is up to you.  Below are some examples to help you envision the different looks.

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The JBMs are actually 7 and 8, The flower girls 3 and 4. The Idea for the TuTus was that we are on a  budget and they can be homemade with an elastic waist so the girls won't grow out of them so fast.

Thanks for your input!

KGold80

I think it will be too busy if everyone is wearing a different color. Is there a "main" color? I'd think the red would be the most universally flattering, but I guess that depends on your maids.

If I was going to have junior bridesmaids of 7 and 8 years old, I would have them wear bridesmaid dresses as opposed to a tutu like the flower girls. Otherwise, why make them bridesmaids instead of flower girls? You can get a reasonably priced bridesmaid dress ordered and delivered quickly enough to not worry about them growing out of it that quickly. I'm dealing with this now with my 12 year old soon to be stepdaughter. She was kind of in between sizes so we ordered her a size up and it is pretty close to perfect now.

Blergbot

Ok, now I see the dress. I think the tutus are fine, as long as you make them a little longer for the older girls--more like a skirt, less like a piece of dancewear. Also, my flower girls are going to both be 12. I was a little hesitant of calling them that, but they both seemed to be fine with it. They were also just flower girls in FSIL's wedding. Anyway, my point is, no matter what you call them, as long as the tutus are age appopriate and they're ok with wearing them, I don't see a problem with it. As for your previous question of putting your BMs in tulle, I think that would just be too much tulle.

lookame3639

The tulle dress for the bridesmaids you posted reminds me of prom or a formal, not a nice wedding. I would skip that. Also I think at ages 7 and 8 and being bridesmaids I would go with a cheaper nice dress rather than tulle tutus. The tutus for the flower girls are fine but for the actual wedding party i feel like they'll stand out like a sore thumb and make them look more juvenile than they really are.

As for the colors I really like the mix of colors as long as you stick with a main theme (the picture posted above with the mix and then one silver dress makes that girl really stand out like she doesn't really belong).

doeydo

The dress you posted looks really short and is not something I would want to wear.

hyechica81

i love your dress but i think you should get a different material for the bridesmades so you are not all in tule it would be overload.

my dress is taffeta and i am putting my maids all in the same dress long one strap dress in chiffon and the color is sea glass