So this is my first time posting and I really need input.
fiance and I got engaged a year ago, this coming Monday, actually, and
at first things were normal--all excitement over being engaged. I
started buying some magazines and did a whole wedding Pintrest board. We
set the date as 12/13/14, something his cousin suggested, and I picked
my colors and we put a deposit down on a place. I didn't see anything
getting done, he wasn't helping, and it faded from consciousness, except
for when I had freak out moments being overwhelmed. I ended up talking
to him about doing something VERY small, mostly courthouse, then dinner
with family, drinks with friends, about a few months ago, but he would
get pissed any time I brought it up because he wanted the whole shebang.
After realizing there was no way that would ever make him happy and I
didn't even fully know what I wanted (still), I came to the conclusion
we would just have to do the full deal. Now too much time has passed,
though, and we have to wait until next May, after I graduate college,
which I am not a huge fan of.
I told him that if we were doing
this, he needs to plan it. He will need to do most/all of it, because I
already will have too much on my plate next school year. He said that
was fine, but since then, this past month he really hasn't done
anything. We settled on a date again, May 16, which will actually be our
three year anniversary, but he hasn't contacted places he likes to see
if they're available. He just doesn't seem to understand when I tell him
that's prime wedding season, and whenever I bring it up, he insists
that nothing could be done then, anyway, so we'll wait until he knows if
he's working Saturday (I can only bring it up when we're both home in
the evening when places are closed). I've already contacted one place in
the interim and they're booked. How do I get him to see that I need to see
stuff getting done and that we need to get this done as soon as
possible? I feel like I'm beating my head against the wall and it's all
going to fall back on me, anyway--just what I didn't want.