So I really hate to be all "woe is me" about my wedding, but FI is out of town and I don't really want to complain to him about this anyway. Feel free to judge, I know that many, many have worse situations than me, but I just kind of broke down today. Long story short, I have no family outside of my parents and brother who live in the same state as myself, both sides of the family are in the mid-west while we are on the west coast. I knew deep down that it would be very hard for my grandparents to fly out for the wedding, but I had hope.
Even though invites haven't gone out yet, my maternal grandparents called last week and confirmed they could not come out. It hurt but they both have poor health and can not travel all that way. Today my paternal grandmother called to chat and admitted they wouldn't be coming either. I know neither one of my paternal grandparents like to travel, and flying is expensive, so I didn't take it personally. I was in tears before we even hung up, and I really hope she couldn't tell, but it just sucks to not have any family there. Through this whole process my venue coordinator (not my wonderful DOC) and many others have said, "but FI's family will be your family now, it doesn't matter!" and suggested those "choose a seat not a side" signs (thank you, pinterest) while I just want to yell that it does matter to me and I hate those signs.
I feel so stupid and guilty for getting upset about this, so like I said, feel free to judge. FI's father passed away about 10 years ago and I know he's sad he wont have his father there, so that makes me feel even more guilty because at least my parents will be there.
End whine.