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Fi's birthday: I'm eye-rolling his family so hard

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Fi is turning 29 next Friday 5/16.  I had already organized a get-together on Tuesday night 5/12 with friends and his siblings/cousins for a Yankees game outing.  I asked Fi who I should invite, sent out the link via Facebook and email, called people to follow up.  All was well with the world, we will be watching baseball and drinking beer.  Yay!

Last week I was hanging out with some of Fi's female family members for a girls night.  Fi's cousin's cousin starts fishing for an invite when Fi's cousin brings up the game.  The cousin's cousin then proceeds to tell a story about her cousin's cousin not inviting her somewhere and how she was really hurt.  Awwwwkward.

Now we can't go to Mother's Day celebrations because they moved it to Brooklyn, and I have to work.  I texted FMIL and invited her and FPIL over to our house for dinner on Monday instead so we can have belated Mother's Day.  After some back and forth on scheduling (now involving FSIL), they ask why don't they come over on Friday, Fi's bday, instead?  I know Fi wanted a date night and I've been planning one, so I told them Friday is not the best.

Now Fi is like, "But if they come over on Friday, I get CAKE."  And he still can't decide whether he wants them to come.  I want Fi's birthday to be great and be whatever he wants, but really?  Why does it have to be this complicated?  And yes I know most of this is really nbd.

Somebody please just tell me, as long as there is cake and beer, it will be OK.

Edited to clarify dates.
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Re: Fi's birthday: I'm eye-rolling his family so hard

  • This sounds like my FI's family.  Try to do something nice and simple and it turns into a major project.  Good luck!

    Keep the fridge filled with cake, beer, wine, tequila etc at all times.
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  • mm I would take some cake right now over our date Saturday night. But only if its cake from our wedding baker....
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  • CAKE:

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    And BEER:

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    And yes, as long as there is cake and beer, everything will be OK. But yes, the cousin's cousin is being a fuckwit about this. You don't always get invited to every party, and that's life.

    As for FI...it's effing Wednesday. He needs to make up his mind, because Friday is in two days. And he can have cake on Friday AND on Monday if he wants the damn cake that much.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
  • As for FI...it's effing Wednesday. He needs to make up his mind, because Friday is in two days. And he can have cake on Friday AND on Monday if he wants the damn cake that much.
    Oh good point, I need to clarify.  We're talking about next week.  Mother's Day 5/11, Yankees game is 5/12, his bday is 5/16.
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    Ugh. In-laws :x It sounds like your FI is indecisive at this point. If you really want Friday night to be a date night, why not insist on Monday night w/ your FILs, stating that the whole original point of the Monday gathering was to celebrate Mother's Day, and if they come Friday that will be outshined by FI's birthday, which they're celebrating on Tuesday. Your FMIL might appreciate her own gathering, if you explain it t
  • ei34ei34 member
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    Ugh. In-laws :x
    It sounds like your FI is indecisive at this point. If you really want Friday night to be a date night, why not insist on Monday night w/ your FILs, stating that the whole original point of the Monday gathering was to celebrate Mother's Day, and if they come Friday that will be outshined by FI's birthday, which they're celebrating on Tuesday. Your FMIL might appreciate her own gathering, if you explain it that way.
    Good job on side-stepping the cousin's cousin...awkward is right! And can't help myself but letsgomets ;D
  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    eileenrob said:
    Ugh. In-laws :x It sounds like your FI is indecisive at this point. If you really want Friday night to be a date night, why not insist on Monday night w/ your FILs, stating that the whole original point of the Monday gathering was to celebrate Mother's Day, and if they come Friday that will be outshined by FI's birthday, which they're celebrating on Tuesday. Your FMIL might appreciate her own gathering, if you explain it t
    Yeah I tried this-- I said it was really about FMIL and I didn't want her to have to share the day with Fi's bday.  (ETA her reasoning is she doesn't want to have to work the next day, so it has to be a weekend)

    Fi just decided we can have date night on 5/15, the night before his bday, then have the family over on his actual bday.  Still waiting to hear back from FILs but hopefully that will work.

    Somebody get me a beer, stat!  Or better yet, a beerita!
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  • eileenrob said:
    Ugh. In-laws :x It sounds like your FI is indecisive at this point. If you really want Friday night to be a date night, why not insist on Monday night w/ your FILs, stating that the whole original point of the Monday gathering was to celebrate Mother's Day, and if they come Friday that will be outshined by FI's birthday, which they're celebrating on Tuesday. Your FMIL might appreciate her own gathering, if you explain it that way. Good job on side-stepping the cousin's cousin...awkward is right! And can't help myself but letsgomets ;D
    Props for actually knowing Tuesday is Subway Series!  My poor dad is a Mets fan, too.  Good for you though-- I'm terrible luck for the Yankees.  They almost always lose when I watch!
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    ^ then I'm glad you'll be on hand to watch! Jk..sort of...we need every win we can get :}
  • I'm going to the game on Tuesday night, too!!
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  • pinkcow13 said:

    I'm going to the game on Tuesday night, too!!

    Yay! We'll have to say hi!! That is too funny.

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  • I'm going to the game on Tuesday night, too!!
    Yay! We'll have to say hi!! That is too funny. Yes def!
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  • arrippaarrippa member
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    eileenrob said:
    Ugh. In-laws :x It sounds like your FI is indecisive at this point. If you really want Friday night to be a date night, why not insist on Monday night w/ your FILs, stating that the whole original point of the Monday gathering was to celebrate Mother's Day, and if they come Friday that will be outshined by FI's birthday, which they're celebrating on Tuesday. Your FMIL might appreciate her own gathering, if you explain it that way. Good job on side-stepping the cousin's cousin...awkward is right! And can't help myself but letsgomets ;D
    Props for actually knowing Tuesday is Subway Series!  My poor dad is a Mets fan, too.  Good for you though-- I'm terrible luck for the Yankees.  They almost always lose when I watch!L
    Let me know the next time they play the Red Sox and I will buy you tickets.
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