I never knew PPD's were considered a horrendous thing, and it seems in most cases vow renewals are too.
That said, since joining and seeing peoples real thoughts on certain aspects of them, I am getting really annoyed that family/friends keep calling our vow renewal a wedding!! Especially when it's on FB and the random comment shows up, "but I thought she was already marked." I get to butt in and correct them and tell them to knock it off again.
I've had more than one person ask about bachelorette/bachelor parties, registries and showers and they always get offended when I tell them no, we aren't having them, don't need anything from them.
That said, aside from the lying that tends to happen with PPD's or not being properly hosted, causes you to side eye these events? I mean the way I see it, we're celebrating a small milestone (5 years) but it's following a miscarriage and a separation that came very close to divorce. I wasn't on the boards before we started planning so I made 2 "bad decisions", I bought a wedding dress, and we're having a bridal party. The bridal party came about when our sister and brother and closest friends that went through hell and back with us told us they were offended we hadn't asked them to stand with us. Other than that it will be a very quick ceremony, no gaps, lots of food, cake, drinks, alcohol and dancing.
I guess my real question in that last paragraph would be, why do people get upset or side eye a party that is a free meal, drinks and a night out?