It just brings out the worst, ya know.

theexactlee

Has anyone else lost a friend over their wedding? I know that sounds like a funny question but I remember when I was planning my wedding with my ex-fiance who I ended up cancelling the wedding with (we were like 21 and it was just not going to work out so I pulled the plug and now he is a successful lawyer and happy so don't judge me ya'll) my best friend at the time ended our friendship. I couldn't understand why but then someone told me she was really jealous and didn't know how to handle those feelings. Apparently it happens a lot. Now with my vow renewal my sister has gone livid hateful and we haven't talked in over a month. Anyone else dealing with this type of situation?

offensivekitten2

Yep, I lost a 'friend' over our weddings.  Our weddings were a month apart (mine after hers), and she treated me like shit for months until I figured out that she was enraged over it.  I'm not friends with her anymore, because who needs that kind of a crappy person in their lives?

Also?  My wedding was WAY better than hers.  Bitch should have been on TK.

theexactlee

^^ Word

LadyMillil

My relationship with my sister was completely destroyed by her wedding. It brought out the worst in her, she kicked me out of the WP and she made it very clear that her "perfect wedding vision" was more important than having me stand up with her. It sucks. I hope things get better with your sister.

mysticl

theexactlee said:

Has anyone else lost a friend over their wedding? I know that sounds like a funny question but I remember when I was planning my wedding with my ex-fiance who I ended up cancelling the wedding with (we were like 21 and it was just not going to work out so I pulled the plug and now he is a successful lawyer and happy so don't judge me ya'll) my best friend at the time ended our friendship. I couldn't understand why but then someone told me she was really jealous and didn't know how to handle those feelings. Apparently it happens a lot. Now with my vow renewal my sister has gone livid hateful and we haven't talked in over a month. Anyone else dealing with this type of situation?

I think if you know it's not going to work you should pull the plug.  That was absolutely the right move.  

JCbride2015

I lost a friend, a few months after becoming engaged, but she just ghosted out of my life so I have no idea if it had anything to do with the wedding or not.  I wasn't even talking about the wedding at that time because there was nothing to talk about yet.

Our lives were kind of going in opposite directions anyway.  I don't know if it was the engagement or just life factors, but I think all the changes in both our lives were a lot for her to handle.

AddieCake

My cousin lost another friend AND me, but it was because of how she treated us, not because any of us were jealous of her. 

climbingsingle

I pulled back from a friend after being in her wedding because of how she treated me.

Peaseblossom55

I haven't lost any friends over wedding planning and I've never ended a friendship either over wedding planning.  Although I have two friends I've essentially know since elementary school they aren't coming to the wedding.  I don't see them often but I've attended all of their weddings( except for one who's date was the same as FSIL) and baby/bridal showers, I'm kind of hurt they aren't coming and didn't come to my shower.  Of course I don't know even know why they can't go it may be legit reasons I just don't know about.

FiancB

I'm a little worried about one friend. We grew up together and were super close but we drifted when she went to study abroad in France and i moved to another state. I've tried to reach out and she often blew me off, which is fine. But this weekend I had an opportunity to go see her and I turned it down because we've been really busy.

 I'm just kinda worried that we'll both end up feeling like the other doesn't make us a priority, I guess. She is also much younger so that's part of it too- I'm getting married and probably having kids soon while she's about to go into grad school and isn't anywhere near that point in life. She is coming to the wedding, after some begging and me paying most of her expenses. 

My parents have been pretty awful to deal with so I'm more concerned I might not want much to do with them when it's all said and done. 

erollis

I lost 3 friends because of two different weddings (not my weddings). I don't need friends who can't except me for me. Plus I hated being a brideslave.

MuppetOverlord

My husband invited 2 friends and their wives to our wedding. They didn't send in an official RSVP, he had to ask them if they were coming and they said "yes". A few days before the wedding, both of them independently told my husband they had "car trouble". We thought that was odd since they each have a second car but it was too late to do anything about it. When we were looking at FB well wishes and photos the night of our wedding, we saw that both people were in a photo posted that night playing D&D. Yeah uhm, we do not talk to them anymore. If they didn't want to come, they could've told us early enough to avoid wasting $200 on their meals. Also, my MIL lost a friend in part over our wedding. We invited her life-long best friend and husband as a courtesy to her (only). We do not like this woman at all. Her friend told MIL she can't go if her daughter isn't invited and MIL told her that she wasn't. The friend could've easily changed visitation nights with the father (as she has in the past for other events) but chose not to and declined. Apparently she was highly offended by it and it started a fight between them a few months later. I don't feel bad. Also, MIL went crazier than she already is and it has further affected my relationship with her. ETA: tried to add extra spaces so paragraphs appear, I cant tell why they arent

AlexisA01

MuppetOverlord said:

My husband invited 2 friends and their wives to our wedding. They didn't send in an official RSVP, he had to ask them if they were coming and they said "yes". A few days before the wedding, both of them independently told my husband they had "car trouble". We thought that was odd since they each have a second car but it was too late to do anything about it. When we were looking at FB well wishes and photos the night of our wedding, we saw that both people were in a photo posted that night playing D&D. Yeah uhm, we do not talk to them anymore. If they didn't want to come, they could've told us early enough to avoid wasting $200 on their meals. Also, my MIL lost a friend in part over our wedding. We invited her life-long best friend and husband as a courtesy to her (only). We do not like this woman at all. Her friend told MIL she can't go if her daughter isn't invited and MIL told her that she wasn't. The friend could've easily changed visitation nights with the father (as she has in the past for other events) but chose not to and declined. Apparently she was highly offended by it and it started a fight between them a few months later. I don't feel bad. Also, MIL went crazier than she already is and it has further affected my relationship with her. ETA: tried to add extra spaces so paragraphs appear, I cant tell why they arent

The part about the D&D sounds like what happened to my step-sister's best friend. My sister's best friend and another bridesmaid opt to host a shower for my step sister and when it all came down to a few days before, the girl cancelled. The shower was on a Saturday evening. It was local and the shower was being co-hosted. The girl cancelled because there was a D&D tournament that night and certain things happened if she was absent to her character. So the other bridesmaid scrambled to put together the shower and the girl who cancelled lied saying a family emergency came up. At the end of the shower, the MOH look online and saw the bridesmaid with her D&D group members having a blast. My step sister was pissed and in tears. That was her best friend and former roommate and she chose to go to a D&D tournament last minuet and lied to my sister. My sister stopped speaking to her after she came back from the honeymoon. The friend didn't understand why it was a bad thing because she won her tournament. 

KytchynWitche

It happens more often than it should. It's sad, but it seems funerals bring people together and weddings drive them apart. I'm actually writing a book based on what happened between me and a friend around her wedding. We didn't speak for a year after her wedding because of how we'd both behaved.

EverAfer

Lost a friend over her wedding.

It was quite unnecessary, I don't know why she behaved badly, but it was a friendship ending move.

jenna8984

Yea kind of. This girl had been my best friend for over 10 years. She got engaged after a year of dating and I thought it was a little soon so I just mentioned "Are you really sure?" I know it sounds like a shitty thing to say, but she was like a sister to me and we were always honest with each other so I was doing what I thought was helpful, not hurtful. She took it the wrong way and said I was "negative and unsupportive and she didn't need to be around that in such a happy time" and she cut me out of her life.

I reached out to her more times than I can count. Call, texts, I mailed her a hand written 3 page letter apologizing and saying how happy I was for her and how much I wanted our relationship to be where it once was. She ignored all of it- basically treating me like I had slept with her husband or something outrageous! I get that my original words hurt her but I tried so frigen hard to mend that relationship and she refused to let me so I really think she's the dumb bitch not me lol.

 

One of my close friends did EVERYTHING for her bridezilla sister. Spent thousands of dollars on the sister's "vision" between designer dress and extravagant shower/ bachelorette. 3 years later my friend gets engaged and asks sister to be MOH and the sister siad to her "God Steph, I have two babies now. Do you know how much babies are? I don't have time for your nonsense little wedding".

FiancB

jenna8984 said:

Yea kind of. This girl had been my best friend for over 10 years. She got engaged after a year of dating and I thought it was a little soon so I just mentioned "Are you really sure?" I know it sounds like a shitty thing to say, but she was like a sister to me and we were always honest with each other so I was doing what I thought was helpful, not hurtful. She took it the wrong way and said I was "negative and unsupportive and she didn't need to be around that in such a happy time" and she cut me out of her life.

I reached out to her more times than I can count. Call, texts, I mailed her a hand written 3 page letter apologizing and saying how happy I was for her and how much I wanted our relationship to be where it once was. She ignored all of it- basically treating me like I had slept with her husband or something outrageous! I get that my original words hurt her but I tried so frigen hard to mend that relationship and she refused to let me so I really think she's the dumb bitch not me lol.

 

One of my close friends did EVERYTHING for her bridezilla sister. Spent thousands of dollars on the sister's "vision" between designer dress and extravagant shower/ bachelorette. 3 years later my friend gets engaged and asks sister to be MOH and the sister siad to her "God Steph, I have two babies now. Do you know how much babies are? I don't have time for your nonsense little wedding".

That's awful! My sister has 5 kids and is still happy to be in my wedding. The D&D stories are making me eye buggy as well. A lot of my weekends are filled with horse shows and missing out on points can be a huge deal but I would miss the biggest show of the year for a close friend's wedding. 

I forgot that FI had a friendship probably end over a wedding, but isn't sure, because the guy just won't talk to him. They were really close in college. Dude got engaged, FI was asked for his address to send an invite, which FI sent. FI never received it and never heard anything else about it, so he didn't attend this guy's wedding. 

It's been years and the guy has refused to talk to FI since, but kept him around on facebook. Any attempt to contact him goes ignored. He posted on fb he was in town (we live 4 hours away from where they're originally from) so FI contacted him to be like, awesome, want to hang out? No answer. He sent another message that said he doesn't know what the deal is but whatever it is, he's sorry and would like to hang out and be friends again. No answer. I think FI finally defriended him and is pretty bummed about not inviting him to our wedding. 

Only theory we've got is maybe some miscommunication happened where the guy is pissed that FI didn't go to his wedding even though FI was never officially invited, or maybe his wife is crazypants and turned him against his friends. It's really weird. If you hate someone so much you refuse to speak to them, why would you keep them around on facebook??