Etiquette for shower "after party" invites?

ladyamanuet

I am hosting a shower for a friend in July.  The shower will be mid afternoon - it's foodie themed, so apps and desserts and finger foods, etc.  There is a baseball game that night that a few of us are attending. This is not part of the shower - just an after shower event.  How can I extend invitations to shower guests without being the "host" for the baseball game? Because while I think the bride and groom would like as many people as want to be there at the game, I certainly cannot afford to pay for everyone to go to a baseball game after hosting a shower. Is this possible within etiquette?

Thanks!

OliveOilsMom

Would you be able to walk up to the game and buy tickets in person?  Or would you need to buy tickets in advance? 

If it's a walk up purchase.  I think sending an email out saying "B&G will be attending the Looky Lous Baseball game after their shower on x date.  If you are interested in joining us, the game starts at Y time and tickets cost about $Z."

If it needs to be more organized and you are willing to be the point person.  Send an email saying "B&G will be attending the Looky Lous Baseball game after their shower on x date.  Tickets needs to be purchased in advance for this game.  Please let me know if you are interested so we can arrange payment for the tickets.  Each ticket is $Z.  Deadline to purchase the tickets is A date."  From there, I would not purchase any tickets until you have everyone's money, so that you aren't stuck with people saying they are attending and not showing up/paying up.

chibiyui

Are you going to be able to get tickets near the bride and groom? I wouldn't like to be told of an event and then not be able to be near the "guests of honor" so to speak. So, if the B&G already have their tickets, I'd figure out how feasible it is to still get tickets near them first.

ladyamanuet

We've not gotten tickets yet, for that reason. We wanted to be able to do it in a group if other people wanted to join. But I didn't know how to say "hey you are invited to this thing on the same day as the shower, but I am not paying for that thing, just the shower."

sofakingmad

I really think this should come from the bride.

ladyamanuet

Going to the game was technically my idea.  She was the one who said we should invite everyone who went to the shower and see if we could get a larger group

sofakingmad

ladyamanuet said:

Going to the game was technically my idea.  She was the one who said we should invite everyone who went to the shower and see if we could get a larger group

Yeah, but it might be easier if it comes from the bride.  I'd rather have her invite everyone at their own expense, than you.

But if you are comfortable sending out an email or evite saying, "We are going to the game after and if you are interested, it will be $X."

ladyamanuet

I am fine doing it, I just didn't know if it was proper etiquette to invite folks to an after event that involves them paying is all

sofakingmad

ladyamanuet said:

I am fine doing it, I just didn't know if it was proper etiquette to invite folks to an after event that involves them paying is all

It's not a gift giving event, so I think you are in the clear.

I also think that you need to keep the idea of it casual.  No actual invites and just be clear about the fact that it's at their own expense.

kgd7357

Shoot out a casual email with the wording suggested by several PP. Don't make it a formal invite and you're in the clear.