My Mom's boyfriend broke up with her recently.Iwas very sad as i thought they would get married Mom was never married to my Dad and after they seperated, she did dedicate all her time to us children. We always wanted her to settle down. She had promised herself that she wouldnt date till we both(sis and I) were teenagers and eventually she had a serious boyfriend when my sister and I were in our late teens It didnt work out as he couldnt really cope up with the fact that Mom's time was divided between him and us.
Now, we have moved out of our mom's house and are happily married. But, My mom has been really unlucky with her love life. She has always wanted to get Married but has had a string of bad relationships. ( This must be her 4th boyfriend in the last 10 years). When My Mom gave me the news about her breakup, I offered to have a girls night out and give her company so she doesnt feel lonely. But, the whole time we were out, she was criticizing my DH and men in general, saying that we girls dont deserve men like them!I can see she is still hurt by her ex bf's actions and I feel sorry for her. But, every time we meet/visit each other I can see her have this extreme views about men/relationships.Obviously, i dont want her to date for sometime as she isnt ready. But, she is beginning to annoy me as she has created some issues for me. DH doesnt like my mom (he thinks she is self-centred). He doesnt like her coming to our house as he believes she spreads negative vibes.
With time, i dont get to see her often(My sister doesnt really have a relationship with our mother). She recently accused me of being self centred and rigid.She thinks that we girls were the reason she couldnt find a right man and is single! I was really angry and stopped talking to her. But, she apologised and I decided to forgive her. She was never there for me when she was in a relationship(her ex boyfriends were always important). Iam really tempted to ask her to stay out of my life as my DH and kids hate her and I am beginning to agree she might not be a nice person at all! I dont really see her getting married/engaged in the near future which means she wont stop interfering in our life!How do i go about this? Do you have an irresponsible parent or been in a similar situation?