Bridal Shower Gong Show

loveislouder

You all may remember my friend, the bride who isn't sending thank you notes and is having her wedding in a funeral home.

Well, this weekend was her bridal shower and bachelorette. When we originally started planning, she wanted a Jack and Jill shower, and then she changed her mind. We were going to hold the shower on June 28th, and then she changed her mind and wanted it this weekend. The MOH had to contact everyone via facebook because Bride didn't have phone numbers. Out of the 35 invited, one RSVP'd yes. 

I get to the shower early to set up (even though I'm not in the party, nor hosting) and the Bride tells me she's super excited to see all her friends and family. What? It turns out 25 are coming, and they all RSVP'd to the Bride's mom, even though the invite specifically said RSVP to MOH. Needless to say, I ran out and bought more food and drinks.

Fast forward to the Bachelor and Bachelorette party in the evening, which was a potluck. We invited about 100 people between the Bride and Groom.  5 RSVP'd. 90 showed up! And most of them didn't bring food. Well, FFS. 

So after all that, I get a text from the Bride yesterday saying it was great, blah blah blah but she was sad that the men didn't come to the Bridal Shower (even though she said she didn't want that) and that her MOH sucks, and that I should have made more food for everyone. 

In all honesty, the MOH and I planned for an extra 10 people at both events, but we weren't expecting that many.  How many extras do you guys plan for?

AprilH81

loveislouder said:

You all may remember my friend, the bride who isn't sending thank you notes and is having her wedding in a funeral home.

Well, this weekend was her bridal shower and bachelorette. When we originally started planning, she wanted a Jack and Jill shower, and then she changed her mind. We were going to hold the shower on June 28th, and then she changed her mind and wanted it this weekend. The MOH had to contact everyone via facebook because Bride didn't have phone numbers. Out of the 35 invited, one RSVP'd yes. 

I get to the shower early to set up (even though I'm not in the party, nor hosting) and the Bride tells me she's super excited to see all her friends and family. What? It turns out 25 are coming, and they all RSVP'd to the Bride's mom, even though the invite specifically said RSVP to MOH. Needless to say, I ran out and bought more food and drinks.

Fast forward to the Bachelor and Bachelorette party in the evening, which was a potluck. We invited about 100 people between the Bride and Groom.  5 RSVP'd. 90 showed up! And most of them didn't bring food. Well, FFS. 

So after all that, I get a text from the Bride yesterday saying it was great, blah blah blah but she was sad that the men didn't come to the Bridal Shower (even though she said she didn't want that) and that her MOH sucks, and that I should have made more food for everyone. 

In all honesty, the MOH and I planned for an extra 10 people at both events, but we weren't expecting that many.  How many extras do you guys plan for?

I usually make extras if I'm hosting, but no amount of planning will give you a cushion for an extra 90 people.

climbingsingle

I don't remember seeing the original post. Her wedding is at a funeral home? And why is she not sending thank yous? 

loveislouder

Yep, funeral home.  No thank yous because the favours are thank yous enough apparently. 

chibiyui

I kinda want to smack those 90 people who showed without RSVP ing.

beethery

loveislouder said:

You all may remember my friend, the bride who isn't sending thank you notes and is having her wedding in a funeral home.

So after all that, I get a text from the Bride yesterday saying it was great, blah blah blah but she was sad that the men didn't come to the Bridal Shower (even though she said she didn't want that) and that her MOH sucks, and that I should have made more food for everyone.

Is this bitch for real? DAMN! I want to bold things in this but I should just bold all of it, print it out, and bring it to a church or something.

You ought to put this in her card and count it as your gift:

sarahufl

This sounds completely ridiculous. Planning for 10 over is more than sufficient, IMO. Sounds like her friends are rude and inconsiderate.

loveislouder

Okay good. So not just me thinking it was a gong show. Thanks lol

melbelleup

Holy moly!!! That is insane! I'd be so done with her.

ohannabelle

The shower stuff isn't even registering in my brain. The only thing I can think is "Funeral Home???!!!"