Chit Chat

Gifts for shower hostesses?

edited June 2014 in Chit Chat
My family and future family has generously offered to throw me two showers. One is hosted by my two sisters (who kicked my mom out of the planning process, long story). The other I was told would be hosted by my FMIL with help from one FSIL (FMIL is the one who offered and coordinated the guest list; it's at her house) but the invitation arrived listing all 3 FSILs as the hostesses. (Well, FI's sister, FI's brother's wife, and FI's other brother's long-time girlfriend.) My gut feeling is FMIL still abides by the "parents can't throw showers" rule and listed the other girls to be old-school-etiquette-friendly and inclusive of the two girls I know haven't been all that involved. Fine, whatever. Not really the issue.

My problem is... what the heck do I give all these people to thank them? "Shop like it's her birthday" is great for my sisters, and even for FMIL who I know better (actually already bought her a votive holder that goes really nicely with the new light fixtures she just put up in her new house). But I don't know the FSILs all that well - we have next to nothing in common. I don't want to be super generic, but I also don't want to try to go super personal and miss the mark (or worse, be spot on for one and miss the others, and look like I care more about one than another).

I hate the generic "every chick loves shower gel" types of gifts. One FSIL is a professor in WI, has 2 little girls, and dresses in all Lululemon and Birkenstocks. One lives in NYC and likes crazy acrylic nail art, gold high tops and luxury handbags. One is a Muslim immigrant from Asia who works in finance and travels a lot. The only thing I know they all like is yoga pants and Starbucks but that sounds like a terrible thank you for hosting a shower. I don't know if any of them like massages.

HELP!

This is what I bought for FMIL (thanks, Mikasa sale).
image

image
image

Re: Gifts for shower hostesses?

  • That's really pretty!

    My aunt's throwing mine. She's coming into town and hosting it at a local restaurant. My plan was to send a card and a ridiculous floral arrangement to her house that will arrive the day she gets back. I would have no idea what to buy her beyond that as she buys herself whatever she wants.

    Thoughtful always works- what about gift cards to restaurants near their homes? It's thoughtful but still not too risky.
    Daisypath Anniversary tickers
  • edited June 2014
    I could do gift cards... I think I remember the few places the WI one rattled off when we were deciding where to eat last time we visited. They don't go out very often because of the kids. It would take some serious sleuthing to find out what's near the other two. I know the NYC one's address, obvs, but I don't think she hangs out close to home. I don't have the other one's address because she's invited on her boyfriend's invitation, and he still lives with the parents. (ETA she lives in a different state than he does, so can't just pick close to his house)

    image
    image
  • @wandajune6 I like the flower idea. @lolo883 Do you think they would each like to receive flowers?


    Daisypath Anniversary tickers



  • @wandajune6 I like the flower idea. @lolo883 Do you think they would each like to receive flowers?
    I think so? But then I'd worry about them leaving thinking I only gave FMIL a gift and not them. And I'm not sure when they'll be here vs home because their cousin is getting married the following weekend; some might just stay in town.

    image
    image
  • For the one who lives in NYC and likes crazy acrylic nail art-- you could get her a gift card to Studio L on 38th St.  They are insane artists.  https://www.facebook.com/studiolnail  It depends on your budget though, it gets expensive.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    image

    "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

  • Are you comfortable telling me the WI sister's city? I might have ideas for you depending on the area.

    And frankly, if I were to receive yoga pants (or a gift certificate to buy them) I'd be delighted. Workout wear is maybe my favorite thing to buy.
    image
    This baby knows exactly how I feel
  • edited June 2014
    Are you comfortable telling me the WI sister's city? I might have ideas for you depending on the area.

    And frankly, if I were to receive yoga pants (or a gift certificate to buy them) I'd be delighted. Workout wear is maybe my favorite thing to buy.
    One is near Madison and one is in Milwaukee.

    image
    image
  • If the Madison one is sporty, maybe a gift card to Fontana sports. If she enjoys theater/music, maybe tickets to the Overture Center.

    There are also good shows to be seen in MKE--tickets to a play at the Pabst theater could be really fun. Or my own personal favorite would be Brewers tickets, if she enjoys baseball at all. 
    image
    This baby knows exactly how I feel
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards