Need some help

JaniV123

As I posted in my other thread, my bff/MOH/neighbor is 2 months pregnant. They got engaged in March, and were planning to get married 2 years from now. Well with the pregnancy and all they have decided to get married at the JOP and have asked me to be their witness. 

Is there anything I should be aware of? They just told me the date and time but IDK if and how I should prepare. I feel honored but kind of weird about it. I wasn't exactly 100% comfortable with their relationship since they are 20 (her) and 21 (him) and have known each other for barely 8 months. 

At the end of the day I will always have her back and she will always be my sister and bff. And even if I feel that way it is her life and her choices. Her mind is made up and she asked me to be their witness. So is there anything I should know/do?

OliveOilsMom

It might be nice to bring a small bouquet of flowers for her to hold, if she wasn't planning on it.  It's something small she may appreciate.  And bring your camera too, so you can take some pictures of them afterwards.

pinkcow13

I've never been a witness, but a few friends have. I don't think there is anything that you need to do besides show up and sign the license. 

Hopefully someone else knows more than I do! Congrats to your sister/bff

CMGragain

Wear a nice dress and bring a camera.  All you have to do is sign the papers.

MoonlightSilver

You can also ask your BFF what she expects of you- is she planning to show up in jeans and a T shirt or does she want it to be a dressed up occasion? 

I'd also ask if she has anything planned for after the ceremony- are you going out for dinner or drinks, or will the couple just thank you and part ways?

mysticl

It's the same thing as being a maid/matron of honor, you just don't need the fancy dress. You watch them get married and sign the license.  

JCbride2015

Yep, I'd ask her what level of formality she'd like you to wear.  If she's going in jeans, you don't want to show up in a nice dress.  Offer to bring flowers if she wasn't planning on it, and definitely bring your camera.

emmyg65

mysticl said:

It's the same thing as being a maid/matron of honor, you just don't need the fancy dress. You watch them get married and sign the license.  

It is not the same. A witness just affirms that they witnessed the vows. It could be a stranger off the street or another clerk in the courthouse. Maid/matron of honor is an honorary position.

JaniV123

Thanks ladies! So all I have to do is ask her what should I wear and if we are doing anything afterwards. Also maybe figure out her favorite flower and get her some flowers, my camera and i tought about maybe getting a small cake for the evening?