So I have encountered some family drama on this last
vacation I went on and really do not know how to handle it. Let me just go
ahead and explain this(sorry this is kind of long)...
I went on a vacation to Mexico (all inclusive resort) with my FI and his family. When I say family I am talking his parents, brother, sister, nana, papaw, aunt, uncle, cousin, and cousin's boyfriend. We were sleeping 4 to each room to save money so My FI and I got roomed up with his brother(19) and sister(16). We had no problem with this after talking about it. We decided to give one of the keys to my FI and one to his brother so that none of the girls would have to walk up to the rooms by themselves (yes it was a gated resort but still wanted to be safe).
So the week started off great other than his mom. She made some rude remarks to me but I was told to just ignore them. Apparently she is that way with everyone which I quickly learned as well. So I just brushed it off and ignored it. She apparently did not like any one in the family drinking however she never told us this the entire time down there. Even when booking she looked for a place that had all inclusive alcohol and a pool bar. Not that much drama happened the first couple of days down there. She did try to use her daughter as a messager to deliver some of these nasty comments which I thought was awful but her daughter did do it. My FI and I spent the majority of our time with the family. Anytime we were at the pool or on the beach we were with the family. We did have moments that we wanted to be alone. This is why we opted out of going on the shopping trip that most of the family went on. Plus we really just wanted to relax around the resort. Everything else other than that was going amazing that week...and then the last night came.
The last night we were there I was not feeling well at all. Something I ate for dinner upset my stomach so I was sick the entire rest of the night. My FI and I ended up going back up to the room early that night and passing out. Apparently my FBIL and FSIL had forgotten their room key which is where this started. His family apprently came and knocked on the door but since by the time they came up ( we came up around 9 and they came up around midnight) we were both out to the world. So I woke up to him and his dad yelling. They were trying to say that it was our fault that they left their key. Thankfully we actually were in the room and not down by the pool bar with the other guests. His sister then was being hateful with me because I had to get up to throw up again while they were packing stuff up in the bathroom.
We flash forward to the next morning when we were leaving. We quickly realized we were being ignored by his mom, dad, and sister. I even tried asking what we did and I got eyes rolled at me and ignored. To make this even worse we took my FI grandparents home on the way back (separate from his parents, brother, and sister). We fell behind them because we all stopped to eat and ended up getting home about an hour after they did. I came to find out that they literally had left mine and my FI open in their drive way for the whole world to see. Thankfully nothing was stolen out of mine nor his. His family is not talking to either of us (minus his brother because he is). They are being just immature and hateful. I have asked mulitple times what we did and they will literally just ignore us. I asked his other family members if they have heard why and they are just as confused as the rest of us. I literally feel like I am dealing with children in this case. I have never seen a 45 year old woman act like this and I use to praise his sister on acting so much older than her age until now. His dad just follows his mom as always.
We flash forward to my current problem. My MOH is trying to plan a bridesmaids day since one of my bridesmaids will be leaving in Sept for an internship. Of course she heard about all of this and does not know what to do about my FSIL. She is one of the bridesmaids but does not want to invite her if she is going to be rude/nasty to me or ignore me. She does not want to start any more drama either. I also do not know how to handle this with his family. Other family members are telling us to let it blow over but I sadly do not see that happenning. They will not even talk to him and he still lives with them (yes we both still live with our parents to save money for now). How do you talk to someone or apologize for something that you do not know what is? I have tried apologizing but of course they continue to ignore it and do not say anything back. I guess it is just irritating me.