Another speshul snowflake in the making...

gladyscf

How about she learns the word no. You'll be doing her a huge favor.

http://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/she-wanted-be-flower-girl-she-needed-wedding-n155631

mysticl

Or maybe it teaches her how to set a goal and achieve it.  It's not like the convinced someone to have a wedding just so their daughter could be a flower girl.

The only thing that bugs me is the quote from the mom where she said it was just like a real wedding.  That would be because it was a real wedding.  

hellosweetie1015

Honestly, that doesn't say "speshul snowfwake" to me. I don't see anything in there that says "speshul" - I see a little girl who wished for something impossible, then found something possible rather than waste the wish, and then she - with some help, yes - went out and got it. 

- Rather than going postal over not being able to get a real pet unicorn, she found something she did want - to be a flower girl. 

- She got dressed up and picked out some nice flowers in case the couple she asked didn't have any.

- She asked the people at City Hall if they wanted a flower girl. One couple (at least) said no, but she kept at it and another said yes. 

- She went and got a cupcake afterward.

I don't see "speshul" anywhere in there. I see a little bit of patience, a good dose of tenacity, and a love of cake. If that's "speshul" then I hope my future daughter grows up to be "speshul" too.

ETA: This --->(clicky)<--- on the other hand... Ho. Ly. God. 

manateehugger

This doesn't really bother me. 

It's kind of strange, but it's not like they moved heaven and earth for her (or bought her a pony with a fake horn attached). They sat at the courthouse with her for an afternoon and made her do some work to get her wish. 

Yes, they could have made it a lesson about how you wont always get the things you wish in life, and that's ok. But it's not like they spoon-fed her and told her she was the most specialist girl in the world.

I'd hope if I had been a bride at the courthouse that day, I would have been thrilled to help a little girl get her wish of being a flower girl.  

jdluvr06

I think that is really cute.

climbingsingle

I also think this is pretty cute. 

theartistformerlyknownas

I think that's frickin' adorable. The only potential snowflake is if the bride who didn't want to be identified did so because she was having a PPD and didn't want the world to know. :-p

sarahufl

I think it is precious. I totally would have taken her up on the offer.

She seems sweet- she wanted something, so she went out and did it.

jenna8984

Eh I don't think it's cute. By middle school all of my friends had gone to weddings and I hadn't. My aunt & uncle got married in my living room and I was sad that it was adults only and I was sent to the neighbor's house. But not so sad that I didn't get over it in 15 minutes. I'm on the Team "you don't always get what you want so suck it up".

gladyscf

It won't be cute when she grows up and wants to be a professional bridesmaid though.

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/comment/7311984#Comment_7311984

mysticl

msstaticfancypants said:

It won't be cute when she grows up and wants to be a professional bridesmaid though.

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/comment/7311984#Comment_7311984

Well, that's a huge leap. When I was a kid I wanted to be an astronaut. I grew up to be a Social Worker.  What someone wants to do when they are 4 is not indicative of what they will be like in 20 years.  

mysticl

jenna8984 said:

Eh I don't think it's cute. By middle school all of my friends had gone to weddings and I hadn't. My aunt & uncle got married in my living room and I was sad that it was adults only and I was sent to the neighbor's house. But not so sad that I didn't get over it in 15 minutes. I'm on the Team "you don't always get what you want so suck it up".

I think it's sad that you were kicked out of your own home so someone could get married there. The fact that a child lives there should be an exception to any "adults only" rule.  No one would ever kick my child out of my home. That's not me treating him as a special snowflake it's quite simply that this is his home and he has the right to be here. If someone doesn't like the fact that he is here they don't need to enter my home.  

JCbride2015

I am not normally a sappy person but I actually think this was quite cute.

The professional bridesmaid thing.... I still prefer to believe it is satire.  Nobody could really be serious about that.  I hope?

jenna8984

mysticl said:

jenna8984 said:

Eh I don't think it's cute. By middle school all of my friends had gone to weddings and I hadn't. My aunt & uncle got married in my living room and I was sad that it was adults only and I was sent to the neighbor's house. But not so sad that I didn't get over it in 15 minutes. I'm on the Team "you don't always get what you want so suck it up".

I think it's sad that you were kicked out of your own home so someone could get married there. The fact that a child lives there should be an exception to any "adults only" rule.  No one would ever kick my child out of my home. That's not me treating him as a special snowflake it's quite simply that this is his home and he has the right to be here. If someone doesn't like the fact that he is here they don't need to enter my home.  

To be fair they only did the 5 minute ceremony there then all went to a restaurant, so I would have needed to go to the neighbor's while they went to the reception anyways. Even as an adult, I don't find it disrespectful. 

amakayeb

jenna8984 said:

Eh I don't think it's cute. By middle school all of my friends had gone to weddings and I hadn't. My aunt & uncle got married in my living room and I was sad that it was adults only and I was sent to the neighbor's house. But not so sad that I didn't get over it in 15 minutes. I'm on the Team "you don't always get what you want so suck it up".

I get that often kids need to learn that they don't always get what they want, but they also need to learn that sometimes it takes a little hard work to make something you want possible. I thought before clicking on it that they were going to set up a PPD or something so she could be a flower girl. But I think this is a good example of thinking of a creative approach to a 'problem' (I know it's not really a problem, but to a four-year-old it really could be).

hellosweetie1015

msstaticfancypants said:

It won't be cute when she grows up and wants to be a professional bridesmaid though.

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/comment/7311984#Comment_7311984

Seriously though, I think that's a major leap. No offense but I just don't see speshul snowflake here, not now or in the future, at least not because of this. Now, affluence in NYC may have an effect, and it seems that she enjoys at least some level of that if her mom is able to take her to City Hall instead of working and buy a dozen roses for a stranger (roses aren't cheap, y'all). But that depends very much on how much she is given versus how much she has to work for, and it seems rather like Mom is making her work as much is reasonable for a girl her age for what she wants.

mysticl

CaitTDid23 said:

msstaticfancypants said:

It won't be cute when she grows up and wants to be a professional bridesmaid though.

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/comment/7311984#Comment_7311984

Seriously though, I think that's a major leap. No offense but I just don't see speshul snowflake here, not now or in the future, at least not because of this. Now, affluence in NYC may have an effect, and it seems that she enjoys at least some level of that if her mom is able to take her to City Hall instead of working and buy a dozen roses for a stranger (roses aren't cheap, y'all). But that depends very much on how much she is given versus how much she has to work for, and it seems rather like Mom is making her work as much is reasonable for a girl her age for what she wants.

Not everyone works on weekdays.  I used to have shift job which meant my two days off were most likely on weekdays, weekends off happened less than once a month.  And a SAHM isn't automatically a sign of affluence. I currently don't work because it isn't cost effective for me to have a job and spend most if not all of that money on daycare and commuting. 

As for the roses they were bodega roses not florist roses, so they probably weren't as expensive.  

theartistformerlyknownas

No, you don't always get what you want. But sometimes you can get it, with a little determination. I love the lesson this mom taught her daughter. Nobody calls kids with lemonade stands speshul snowflakes, even when their "dream" is to make enough money to buy the newest video game system. We think it's great that they're working so hard to earn something. I'm sure that couple was absolutely touched to have this girl volunteer for them, and she got to learn not to just give up when a dream seems unrealistic. Who are we to judge what her dream was?

mysticl

lolo883 said:

No, you don't always get what you want. But sometimes you can get it, with a little determination. I love the lesson this mom taught her daughter. Nobody calls kids with lemonade stands speshul snowflakes, even when their "dream" is to make enough money to buy the newest video game system. We think it's great that they're working so hard to earn something. I'm sure that couple was absolutely touched to have this girl volunteer for them, and she got to learn not to just give up when a dream seems unrealistic. Who are we to judge what her dream was?

 Exactly, sometimes the lesson isn't accepting "no" as answer but is refusing to take "no" as an answer. 

hellosweetie1015

mysticl said:

CaitTDid23 said:

msstaticfancypants said:

It won't be cute when she grows up and wants to be a professional bridesmaid though.

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/comment/7311984#Comment_7311984

Seriously though, I think that's a major leap. No offense but I just don't see speshul snowflake here, not now or in the future, at least not because of this. Now, affluence in NYC may have an effect, and it seems that she enjoys at least some level of that if her mom is able to take her to City Hall instead of working and buy a dozen roses for a stranger (roses aren't cheap, y'all). But that depends very much on how much she is given versus how much she has to work for, and it seems rather like Mom is making her work as much is reasonable for a girl her age for what she wants.

Not everyone works on weekdays.  I used to have shift job which meant my two days off were most likely on weekdays, weekends off happened less than once a month.  And a SAHM isn't automatically a sign of affluence. I currently don't work because it isn't cost effective for me to have a job and spend most if not all of that money on daycare and commuting. 

As for the roses they were bodega roses not florist roses, so they probably weren't as expensive.  

I guess that's fair. I just guess I associate a parent that has the luxury of an off weekday with being able to afford to not work. I went to an affluent school, and the only moms that worked were either doctors or lawyers, and worked because they went to school for a long time and wanted to, not because they had to. I dunno. My misjudgment.

WinstonsGirl

I don't mind this. The kid did even learn that she can't always get what she wants in that the first couple said no. She had to try again, showing her to use some determination. And the fact that she didn't seem keen on second day shows it's not an attention thing.

sarahufl

If I was going into the courthouse and this precious girl was sitting there with flowers, I would have loved to include her in my ceremony.

Kids that age are adorable and hilarious.

emmaaa

I love this. I think it is super sweet and very adorable. I would have been the bride that couldn't say no to the cuteness.

I don't think this is a snowflake in the making moment, tbh. It actually proves the opposite: that with a little hard work and determination, some dreams and wishes are possible. 

climbingsingle

The mother easily could have taken a day off from work to do this with her daughter. And bodega flowers are cheap! 

Senecaf

I don't think it's snowflakey. Its kind of cute. I wouldn't have let my kid do it because I would feel super uncomfotable asking if my child and I could witness a strangers wedding.

sarahufl

ClimbingBrideNY said:

The mother easily could have taken a day off from work to do this with her daughter. And bodega flowers are cheap! 

I can buy a dozen roses for less than 8 bucks at 10 places near my apartment.