This is a bit of a reactionary rant, so I apologize.
I got engaged in February. We planned to get married October 2015 so we would have time to save up and lose weight. Now getting into the swing of wedding plans, we're doing both and doing fabulous with both.
I spoke to my Grandmother today in Ohio (we're in DC) and we talked a bit about the wedding. And she said "Well we want to be there honey but I just don't know if we can."
I thought this was in reference to funds, but we were already planning to fly my Grandparents out and put them up as our treat - we want them as happy and comfortable as possible to enjoy the day. But then she tells me no, it's just that they're getting old and they aren't even sure if they'll make it that long, much less be able to travel.
Up until the last few weeks they've both been doing so well, but I could tell from the way she was saying these things that she's pretty sure they won't be able to make it, and she's trying to prepare me for that disappointment. From the sound of it, even if we were to move the wedding up to this October, they wouldn't be comfortable flying or being driven out for it.
I'm so devastated. I'm not close with my family at all. My mother died when I was nine and I am an only child. My dad and I aren't terribly close. My Grandparents - and Grandma in particular - are the only real family that I connect with.
I'm not sure what to do, if anything. Moving the wedding up? Maybe, if we could afford it (FI's family is fairly large). But even then she may not be able to travel. And I don't know how to plan a wedding long distance in Ohio.
Any advice would be welcome. I feel like there's not much that can be done but ... I just needed to vent.
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