My FI and I live in NYC. My family lives in Florida and his family lives in Memphis. We were originally going to get married in NYC next May. However, we just got some news about his grandmother that means that we must now have our wedding in 2014. She can't travel, which we think means that we have to have the wedding in Memphis. He's very close with her, and it's important to both of us that she be at our wedding. However, when we brought it up with my parents, they were EXTREMELY unhappy and have accused his parents of manipulating us into wanting to get married in Memphis, and have said they will not pay for a wedding in Memphis, period. They are now saying the only wedding they will support is one in Florida.
Needless to say, this is causing a lot of friction between our families. We're trying to find a compromise that would allow us to get married in Memphis where his grandmother can be there, and then potentially do a reception in Florida, but my parents are adamantly opposed to us getting married in Memphis. I'm interested to hear about other people's experiences and whether or not anyone has been in a similar situation. If so, how did you handle it? Would also love any ideas anyone has on ways we can compromise with my parents. Ugh, so much drama.