Yesterday one of my bridesmaids (we will call her M) called me very upset. She told me that another BM (my Fiance's sister, let's call her D) was giving her major problems. M explained they were talking about my bachelorette party and that since she is a stay at home Mom with 2 weddings coming up she's not sure if she can afford it. D basically said there is 9 months to save for it so it shouldn't be a problem. It escalated from there and they got REALLY nasty towards each other. "Sorry you're a bored stay at home Mom"
"Karma is a bitch...."
"The difference between you and your brother (the groom) is that he's a good person. Major difference"
......just SOME of the things that were said.
It escalated so much that there was nothing that could be said to resolve the issue. I asked both of them to put their differences aside for ME. They just kept going.
I begged D to send M an apology message to try and squash it. It said "M, I'm sorry it was a big miscommunication let's be adults and move on.".....to which M replied just defending and justifying herself. So the fighting carried on.
M has gone back and fourth with me about five times in 24 hours on if she can be a BM or not. She even called me saying she still wanted to be a BM and then talked herself out of it in the same conversation. She even said she's not sure if she can even be a guest because D upset her so much. She thinks that D will cause drama no matter what.
I feel as though what everyone is missing is how upset this is making ME! It's so childish and your spat with someone else is more important than putting it aside for my sake? Who's right and wrong doesn't even matter! This is literally the LAST thing I thought I would have to deal with.
I have my friend of 20 years and my future sister in law....with me stuck in the middle. I feel sick to my stomach and I don't know what to do.