Feeling meh about venues

larrygaga

We found one that we both love, perfect price, beautiful, has everything we need. However, I feel very meh about it. I feel meh about everything involving wedding, and so does FI. I was never that girl dreaming about her wedding. We have both talked about it many times, and we know we want the wedding we planned. However, we are both not super excited about every little detail. I think I'll be more excited when it comes to planning how the ceremony will go and planning out decorations. I was pretty excited to write the guest list out. 

I just worry that because I'm not overly excited about it, that it's not the right place. FI is probably not overly excited about it because he is that manly man that just doesn't really care about weddings. We both want this wedding though. I picture myself walking down the isle to him and everything, and that's what he says too. All other types of weddings we could do don't sound as good. 

We both have a lot of other things that are much more important and more exciting than weddings though. I hope this is more of a case of we just don't really care about weddings rather than we subconsciously don't like the venue we probably will get. 

atlastmrsg

Everyone has their something--picking the dress, the shoes, the jewelry, the cake...that's their favorite part.  Maybe this just isn't your favorite part.  If you're confident the venue meets your needs and your vision, that's okay!  You don't have to go crazy bride and cry while picking out every little thing.  ie: "my bridal spanx, OMG!  eeeeeeeeeeeeee....tears" = completely unnecessary.

Or maybe you're just tired.  

Just be happy you found it and it's one less thing to plan.

sarahufl

Honestly, I think TLC and all their wedding shows create this idiotic world where we are supposed to be in tears when we find our perfect wedding <insert whatever element it is here>.

I looked at 2 venues and picked the one I liked the best. In one day.

I tried on 6 dresses and picked the one I liked the best. In one day.

There were no tears. There was no big, emotional moment. I loved my wedding- every element of it and I loved getting married. But planning it was not this giant, emotional thing for me. Don't beat yourself up over it.

I was excited and emotional about my FI (now H). That is what really matters.

southernbelle0915

You aren't going to be squeee-ing about everything. If it's the right price, has what you need is beautiful and you both love it... I say book it. I almost think it's better to feel like that than to squeee and fall in love with some venue that's out of you price range, where everything is a la carte, etc.

AprilH81

Yeah, not everything about planning a wedding is fun and tear inducing.

I got frustrated several times because venues/vendors that looked perfect online were disappointing in real life.

If I loved the reception space the bathrooms were horrible, the price was right but the location was bad (and on and on).  I think we looked at 10 venues before we signed a contract.  The venue we ended up with was only affordable because I had some business connections there and they waived all the rental/cake/cutting/misc fees and only charged us for the food and beverage and service charge.  Otherwise it would have been the first venue we looked at.

emmaaa

I was the same way about the venue. We are getting married in our church but for the reception we are having it at a event cabin. My mom actually booked it before I had a chance to see it because another couple was eyeing the same date. Luckily, it is exactly what we need. However, when I went to look in person, I smiled and said I really liked it but was never overly excited about it. 

Peaseblossom55

I was certainly not "OMG tears I love this venue" It was pretty, it was in our price range and met our needs.  I fell in love with it more after our tasting though :-) and I loved how it all looked the day of and don't regret my venue for a minute.  I say go for it.

Actually H though I was settling on a venue and didn't think I would be happy with it. So we extended our venue search for another week and considered moving the date with our church, still nothing fit in quite as well, as what was our venue. 

JCbride2015

I don't think the venue is something you need to get super OTT excited about.  It doesn't really come to life the way you want it until the day of the wedding.

I feel that way about most wedding-related things.  Some of us just aren't into feeling all princessy about the wedding, and that's totally okay.

There might not be any "one" venue waiting for you.  You say you both love it!  Perfect price, beautiful, everything you need.  Sounds like a winner!

cupcait927

I'm not overly excited about my venue either. FI and I are on a budget, knew we didn't want to get married at a banquet hall (which is very popular in my area), couldn't do a backyard wedding because the thought of coordinating all of that was making my anxiety go through the roof. We always talked about a winery wedding but couldn't afford the big names in our area. So we went with this little winery that's a little out of the way but fits our needs. It's pretty and it's nice but it's not this "wow" amazing place. I'm okay with that because I know that we'll have good food, good wine, our guests will be treated well and we're not going to go bankrupt because of it.

Like PPs have said, not everything about wedding planning will make you squee and bring you to tears. I haven't been super pumped up about a lot of the planning, but I did have my moments. We're getting flowers from our favorite florist and I know she's going to make my bouquet look gorgeous. I ordered my hair piece the other day and I think it's going to be my favorite part of my whole look. Our invitations were so pretty. Some things will just make you more excited than others.

FutureMrsN3312

My venue was the one and only one we looked at.  (in person...I stalked this shit out of places online)

When I walked in I felt like it was the "one".  The price was right, the food was awesome and we didn't feel a need to look anywhere else.

I met with other vendors, DJs, florists, and photographers that I felt meh about so I kept looking and eventually found one and it all just kinda clicked.

Wedding planning was never this OMG I need a box of tissues kinda thing for me.  The only times I cried were went I found my dress (my mom was sobbing otherwise I would have been fine) and with the stress my MIL was giving me.  Other than that it was nada.

mysticl

We primarily picked our venue based on when it was available and what we could afford.  It wasn't my dream venue but there was nothing wrong with it, it met our needs, and our guests loved it.  

falsara

Not everybody has the need to cry about all the wedding stuff.  We chose our venue based on the fact it was cheap, it was blank slate, and we could do whatever we want.  Including outside catering and providing our own liquor.  Is it really pretty? No. But that's what décor is for.  I stalked all kinds of places online, but I just couldn't meet the minimums for a lot of the nicer places, it was too high.  I really wanted an outside reception or a place with a lot of windows.  I couldn't find one in my price range so I compromised and found some place that was low enough in price that I could spend extra money decorating it.  The only things that made me cry were the proposal and finding my dress.

theartistformerlyknownas

I felt that way about my venue. It was really important to FI to get married there though, so we didn't really consider anyplace else. I just thought "whatever, it's a big dark wood golf club, but he'll be happy." What got me was walking through there thinking "whatever, big dark wood golf club... where I'm gonna get married. He's gonna become my husband RIGHT THERE. We're gonna have our first dance RIGHT HERE. OMG this is the best place on earth because I'M GONNA GET MARRIED HERE." And then I randomly started to cry in the middle of the dining room. 

beethery

I like mine, but it needs a little TLC, so my big project is finding ways to creatively hide shit. I will probably cry about my dress, and I know I'm going to shed tears when I set all the cupcakes out at the reception and have to restrain myself from becoming a frosting-covered Gollum that won't let anyone eat a damn cupcake.

Honestly, that would happen regardless of whether I was getting married or not.

holyguacamole79

mysticl said:

We primarily picked our venue based on when it was available and what we could afford.  It wasn't my dream venue but there was nothing wrong with it, it met our needs, and our guests loved it.  

This was us, too.  The venue was close to our church, had capacity for our guests, and was within our budget.  Everyone was happy, but I'm sure David Tutera would have judged the shit out of it.

mschristie123

Honestly, it wasn't until I came on here that I realized that venues were a semi-important decision that people could stress over.

When we got engaged, we locked the venue down within a week and a half. We were getting in married in my hometown, DH was living in our home base (Chicago) and I was completing a doctoral internship in LA.Long distance relationship, and even longer distance wedding planning.

My mom went to the venue and face timed me while I was at work. It checked my boxes of being "nice looking" and at a hotel in our area, because I wanted the reception to be convenient for our hard-partying family members and friends. When I came home for Christmas later that month, I saw it in person for the first time. That was it.

raissyrais

OP I know what you mean and like PPs have said, not every single moment in your wedding planning has to be tearful, magical-unicorn-on-a-cloud moments! I think we all go through that stage of "let's just elope" because wedding panning is quite hectic at times. You found a great venue maybe you just need some time for the excitement to kick in! And even if it doesn't, the excitement of marrying your love will crush everything else! I visited five venues, almost cancelled the last one because it was so expensive, but the wedding coordinator at the hotel was so good to us that in the end it became affordable. I cannot believe it's our venue cause it's so gorgeous and would normally cost an arm and a leg.

LadyMillil

Due to budget, inability of must-have guests to travel, and logistics of planning a wedding long distance, there were 2 venues I could book for the wedding. I picked the one with availability in the month we wanted. It wasn't any of the beautiful places available near where we currently live, and it wasn't any of the wineries or historical buildings I wanted, but it was affordable, clean, had decent catering, able to accommodate the guest list, and conveniently located for the guests.

Honestly, the only things I cared about when planning my wedding were the ceremony, my dress and hosting my guests well. The only things that got me excited were buying my dress, buying wedding bands and getting the marriage license. I was meh about everything else.