My maid of honor lives 4 hours from me and she's in year 3 of medical school, so she's doing clinical rotations in the hospital right now while studying for quarterly exams. Her education absolutely comes before anything else and I'd never ask her to jeopardize that or take time away from it for me.
A few months ago, she asked/ offered if I wanted a shower but she knew my previous feelings towards showers and that I did not want one. So she was happy that I still felt that way, and she offered to throw a bachelorette. I said ok, whatever you want, I'm cool with anything. We tossed around some low key ideas like a beach day or just a nice dinner out. She asked me for the other 4 girls phone numbers to invite and I gave them to her. She told me a month ago that they'd all decided August 16th works for them so I said great.
Well, last night on FB I saw a post. Someone had invited one of the 4 girls to a party August 16th and the girl responded "I may or may not have a bachelorette party that night. I'm still waiting on an email 
". So now I feel bad because I thought it was set it stone, I didn't realize the girls were all waiting on MOH's follow up. I guess I feel bad because I know how much studying and stress she's under and I don't want her to feel like she has to organize that on top of it. I'm someone who likes solid plans so I also feel bad for the other 4 girl's whose schedules are now in limbo waiting as well. I don't know if I should say anything to her, like asking if she needs help with anything or just let it be and see what happens in a week?